Korllami007:


LOL.
See how they blame the op for the ungratefulness and arrogance of her wife and turn his wife to angel and turn him to devil despite explaining in the 2nd or 3rd page that he didnt treat his wife bad and he also open joint account with his wife when everything was going well for him.

They will keep pinning the blame on the op no matter what. You will just keep hearing "do you know how men maltreat their wives when they were the breadwinner?" or they keep asking "how did you treat your wife when you were the breadwinner?", "are you sure you didn't maltreat your wife when you were the breadwinner?" etc. despite all his explanations. No matter what, to them it's never the wife's fault and the op must have done something. According to these bimbos, nagging is "the wife just trying to be heard". Nothing wey musa no go see for gate. If strungup79 wants to keep explaining himself to them, na him sabi.

1st of all how does this have 1005 likes?

simonlee:
simple trick....

use a strange number to forward a text to your phone that reads "i will give you N20million and an oil company job if you divorce your wife and marry me"...
then see if she wouldn't go back to factory settings!

2ndly, since her family is obviously not helping, I think u should invove another figure she respects to talk some sense into her. Probably your pastor or an elderly friend. It's possible she just got carried away and let everything get into her head.

Kennedyiheme:
ones of my cousins that has been there for 20 15 years says the courts still mandates he pays child support for kids that arent his... the biological father is active in the kid's lives but he still has to pay child support...these women are dangerous.. africans and americans.. women have the same nature.. americans are worse because there is law there, the law is against men in relationships

Paying child support for a child that isn't yours is a normal thing thanks to the group of emasculated simps over there that call themselves men. Women are cold-hearted, remorseless, and brutal in their scheme. Female nature is universal. It does not matter the race or religion, all women are like that.

Martinez39:
Paying child support for a child that isn't yours is a normal thing thanks to the group of emasculated simps that call themselves men. Women are cold-hearted, remorseless, and brutal in their scheme. Female nature is universal. It does not matter the race or religion, all women are like that.

i hope alot of men swallow the red pill and be part of MGTOW click... thats the feminists agenda, to emasculate men.. make them act like wimps.. its a process, they know thats the only way they can control the world... deep down they are jealous of what men have done for humanity.. men built this world without the help of women... and if the american government keeps granting all this privileges to women, they'll destroy their society because women cant handle responsibility and power.. put nuclear nuke launch codes in the hands of a woman she'll probably bomb anyone she has a problem with... thats why i like the arabs, people call them backward but they understand the womans nature well thats why they handle them well there.. sometimes civilisation is a curse

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

three questions
1, are you married?
2, can you show your husband what you
wrote here?
3, will you be happy if some1 treated your
brother in such way?

women, always speaking out of the abundance of shit in their anus if they aren't the victim and screaming their lungs out like headless chickens if it was the other way round.

Kennedyiheme:
.. thats why i like the arabs, people call them backward but they understand the womans nature well thats why they handle them well there.. sometimes civilisation is a curse

Though I'm a Christian, I agree 100% with this.
I've ruminated on this for quite some years...

richie240:

Though I'm a Christian, I agree 100% with this.
I've ruminated on this for quite some years...

its just the sad truth... when you give women alot of power, they'll cause chaos.. nature knows why it gave men the power

cerpvad:
Madam don't vex abeg. What you called backward reasoning has made many a husband to lose their value and integrity as men. When you pursue a lady and end up marrying her because of her social class and wealth, be ready to face the music whenever it starts playing.

Though l agree with you that it takes good upbringing and individual character for a woman not to lord it over her husband in marriage, but the percentage of such ladies is very low in the reality of our society today.

My candid opinion is still for guys to marry down and never marry up their social class. But for ladies, they can marry up or down.

Yes, you shouldnt pursue a lady solely because of social class and wealth. That would be stupid.

But thats different from saying that you should avoid a woman solely because of social class and wealth. Thats what you wrote before.

The bolded is true anyway, I just didnt like the way you cast all wealthy or wealthy-born women as bad in your previous post.

Yes

Jyde89:



three questions
1, are you married?
2, can you show your husband what you
wrote here?
3, will you be happy if some1 treated your
brother in such way?

women, always speaking out of the abundance of shit in their anus if they aren't the victim and screaming their lungs out like headless chickens if it was the other way round.

I am Strungup79's wife and I have watched the drama here unfold in silence. Here is a copy of a message I just sent my husband on WhatsApp. I hope it will put things in clearer light.

I'll try to keep this brief. I started this year on a sour note, crying bitterly. Because of you total strangers called me bitch and all sorts of unprintable names. Some even went as far as saying I was diabolical and ¹reversed your fortunes with juju, and you basked in it all, all because of the lies you told them. You have repeatedly told your siblings the same lies. I emasculate you. Really? I emaaculate you yet i led my colleagues, our neighbours and practically everyone I know to believe that you are the breadwinner and doing a marvellous job. I emasculate you, yet when the rent needs to be paid, I pay it into your account first just so no one will know. I earn good money but no one knows it because everything goes into running this family. I don't save a dime. I NEVER complained about you not working these past 4 or 5 years. You complained about me spending a lot of time at my mum's place. I do that so that I can avoid the endless streams of alterations with you, and for other reasons I'll spare everyone here.

Every single time you bring this up, I reassure you that all I want is the best for you. I encourage you, fast and pray for you, yet I'm a bad wife. You actually called our daughter and told her I am a bad wife. She cried her eyes out when she told me all the nasty things you told her. I have never in the 10 years we've been married said anything disparaging to her about you despite your many short comings. You put me through hell and I just take in stride.

You also told your fans I had nothing when you married me. I had a job and I wasn't doing badly. In fact I practically funded our wedding with the help of my family. I could go on forever. Or is it the fact that you used to leave the house for days on end without communication, leaving me to wonder if you met with some misfortune or something. How many times did i show up at your office haggard and scared early in the morning just to confirm you are alright? I actually wear my younger sister's hand me downs just to save enough to keep this family going.

Your siblings all believe I am a bad person thanks to the endless lies you've told them and I've borne it all. During your last visit, you complained about the fact that I always seemed unhappy and heckled and I explained to you the stress I am under. Our rent is due. Our daughter's fees of over a hundred thousand needs to be paid. Utility bills, feeding...these are some of the burdens I have to deal with. I explained how burdened I felt. I also explained that having to clean up after you constantly worsens my stress. While you were here, I battled insomnia for almost two weeks straight, without compassion or help. I could fill a page with all that is wrong with this marriage. It's never you. You are perfect and righteous and I am a wicked woman. We quarrel like every husband and wife and regardless of whether it's my fault or not, I apologise so that peace will reign. I have suffered humiliation at your hands but you go around damaging my character so people will pity you. Guess what? The truth cannot be hidden. It may take time, but it will come out. I take solace in that.

I will beat my chest and tell you that no woman on this earth will bear what I bore at your hands or care for you like I have. Since you are so unhappy, I think you should take out time and find yourself. I also need time to pray and to heal from this emotional trauma, so please let's give ourselves a year at least to decide what to do next. I wish you the best.

pocohantas:


This is why broke horsebands are useless. A jobless wife would try run the home. Nigerian JOBLESS horseband? No way. He will just sit there and be expecting maximum respect for having a prick. What exactly is OP currently contributing? Nothing. Any small thing, they will say emasculating. Oya, go out and make money na



Happy new year to you too.

By the way, we never operated a joint account. I do not have a parcel of land anywhere. All these were written to embellish the truth.

She hasn't started sleeping around
She's yet to ask you to leave her house
Brace up bros

Truthwillout:
I am Strungup79's wife and I have watched the drama here unfold in silence. Here is a copy of a message I just sent my husband on WhatsApp. I hope it will put things in clearer light.

I'll try to keep this brief. I started this year on a sour note, crying bitterly. Because of you total strangers called me bitch and all sorts of unprintable names. Some even went as far as saying I was diabolical and ¹reversed your fortunes with juju, and you basked in it all, all because of the lies you told them. You have repeatedly told your siblings the same lies. I emasculate you. Really? I emaaculate you yet i led my colleagues, our neighbours and practically everyone I know to believe that you are the breadwinner and doing a marvellous job. I emasculate you, yet when the rent needs to be paid, I pay it into your account first just so no one will know. I earn good money but no one knows it because everything goes into running this family. I don't save a dime. I NEVER complained about you not working these past 4 or 5 years. You complained about me spending a lot of time at my mum's place. I do that so that I can avoid the endless streams of alterations with you, and for other reasons I'll spare everyone here.

Every single time you bring this up, I reassure you that all I want is the best for you. I encourage you, fast and pray for you, yet I'm a bad wife. You actually called our daughter and told her I am a bad wife. She cried her eyes out when she told me all the nasty things you told her. I have never in the 10 years we've been married said anything disparaging to her about you despite your many short comings. You put me through hell and I just take in stride.

You also told your fans I had nothing when you married me. I had a job and I wasn't doing badly. In fact I practically funded our wedding with the help of my family. I could go on forever. Or is it the fact that you used to leave the house for days on end without communication, leaving me to wonder if you met with some misfortune or something. How many times did i show up at your office haggard and scared early in the morning just to confirm you are alright? I actually wear my younger sister's hand me downs just to save enough to keep this family going.

Your siblings all believe I am a bad person thanks to the endless lies you've told them and I've borne it all. During your last visit, you complained about the fact that I always seemed unhappy and heckled and I explained to you the stress I am under. Our rent is due. Our daughter's fees of over a hundred thousand needs to be paid. Utility bills, feeding...these are some of the burdens I have to deal with. I explained how burdened I felt. I also explained that having to clean up after you constantly worsens my stress. While you were here, I battled insomnia for almost two weeks straight, without compassion or help. I could fill a page with all that is wrong with this marriage. It's never you. You are perfect and righteous and I am a wicked woman. We quarrel like every husband and wife and regardless of whether it's my fault or not, I apologise so that peace will reign. I have suffered humiliation at your hands but you go around damaging my character so people will pity you. Guess what? The truth cannot be hidden. It may take time, but it will come out. I take solace in that.

I will beat my chest and tell you that no woman on this earth will bear what I bore at your hands or care for you like I have. Since you are so unhappy, I think you should take out time and find yourself. I also need time to pray and to heal from this emotional trauma, so please let's give ourselves a year at least to decide what to do next. I wish you the best.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.Madam take it easy. Everything will be alright. Please bear with Oga.

Now that you have laid bare your case, we will prevail on Oga to do the necessary as the man of the house to take things back to normal.
Almighty God shall calm the storms in your marriage.

Truthwillout:
I am Strungup79's wife and I have watched the drama here unfold in silence. Here is a copy of a message I just sent my husband on WhatsApp. I hope it will put things in clearer light.

I'll try to keep this brief. I started this year on a sour note, crying bitterly. Because of you total strangers called me bitch and all sorts of unprintable names. Some even went as far as saying I was diabolical and ¹reversed your fortunes with juju, and you basked in it all, all because of the lies you told them. You have repeatedly told your siblings the same lies. I emasculate you. Really? I emaaculate you yet i led my colleagues, our neighbours and practically everyone I know to believe that you are the breadwinner and doing a marvellous job. I emasculate you, yet when the rent needs to be paid, I pay it into your account first just so no one will know. I earn good money but no one knows it because everything goes into running this family. I don't save a dime. I NEVER complained about you not working these past 4 or 5 years. You complained about me spending a lot of time at my mum's place. I do that so that I can avoid the endless streams of alterations with you, and for other reasons I'll spare everyone here.

Every single time you bring this up, I reassure you that all I want is the best for you. I encourage you, fast and pray for you, yet I'm a bad wife. You actually called our daughter and told her I am a bad wife. She cried her eyes out when she told me all the nasty things you told her. I have never in the 10 years we've been married said anything disparaging to her about you despite your many short comings. You put me through hell and I just take in stride.

You also told your fans I had nothing when you married me. I had a job and I wasn't doing badly. In fact I practically funded our wedding with the help of my family. I could go on forever. Or is it the fact that you used to leave the house for days on end without communication, leaving me to wonder if you met with some misfortune or something. How many times did i show up at your office haggard and scared early in the morning just to confirm you are alright? I actually wear my younger sister's hand me downs just to save enough to keep this family going.

Your siblings all believe I am a bad person thanks to the endless lies you've told them and I've borne it all. During your last visit, you complained about the fact that I always seemed unhappy and heckled and I explained to you the stress I am under. Our rent is due. Our daughter's fees of over a hundred thousand needs to be paid. Utility bills, feeding...these are some of the burdens I have to deal with. I explained how burdened I felt. I also explained that having to clean up after you constantly worsens my stress. While you were here, I battled insomnia for almost two weeks straight, without compassion or help. I could fill a page with all that is wrong with this marriage. It's never you. You are perfect and righteous and I am a wicked woman. We quarrel like every husband and wife and regardless of whether it's my fault or not, I apologise so that peace will reign. I have suffered humiliation at your hands but you go around damaging my character so people will pity you. Guess what? The truth cannot be hidden. It may take time, but it will come out. I take solace in that.

I will beat my chest and tell you that no woman on this earth will bear what I bore at your hands or care for you like I have. Since you are so unhappy, I think you should take out time and find yourself. I also need time to pray and to heal from this emotional trauma, so please let's give ourselves a year at least to decide what to do next. I wish you the best.

Wow

Shit is about to get real

There’s really wisdom in hearing both sides of a dispute before passing judgment.

I think at this point, OP should not post any reply to the his wife’s response to this post. He should take the initiative as the man of the house to settle this in house. We don’t want strangers passing judgment on his wife—further exacerbating the problem.

Truthwillout:
By the way, we never operated a joint account. I do not have a parcel of land anywhere. All these were written to embellish the truth.

With this, i am forced to ask you. Are you sure this is your husband's post?

The circumstances and situation might be similar to what you are passing through but this might be a different individual.

Please check well

Cadillac15:



Wow

Shit is about to get real

As in! I always wondered whether people considered that their husband/wife may see what they wrote about them and put 2 and 2 together.

Truthwillout:
I am Strungup79's wife and I have watched the drama here unfold in silence. Here is a copy of a message I just sent my husband on WhatsApp. I hope it will put things in clearer light.

I'll try to keep this brief. I started this year on a sour note, crying bitterly. Because of you total strangers called me bitch and all sorts of unprintable names. Some even went as far as saying I was diabolical and ¹reversed your fortunes with juju, and you basked in it all, all because of the lies you told them. You have repeatedly told your siblings the same lies. I emasculate you. Really? I emaaculate you yet i led my colleagues, our neighbours and practically everyone I know to believe that you are the breadwinner and doing a marvellous job. I emasculate you, yet when the rent needs to be paid, I pay it into your account first just so no one will know. I earn good money but no one knows it because everything goes into running this family. I don't save a dime. I NEVER complained about you not working these past 4 or 5 years. You complained about me spending a lot of time at my mum's place. I do that so that I can avoid the endless streams of alterations with you, and for other reasons I'll spare everyone here.

Every single time you bring this up, I reassure you that all I want is the best for you. I encourage you, fast and pray for you, yet I'm a bad wife. You actually called our daughter and told her I am a bad wife. She cried her eyes out when she told me all the nasty things you told her. I have never in the 10 years we've been married said anything disparaging to her about you despite your many short comings. You put me through hell and I just take in stride.

You also told your fans I had nothing when you married me. I had a job and I wasn't doing badly. In fact I practically funded our wedding with the help of my family. I could go on forever. Or is it the fact that you used to leave the house for days on end without communication, leaving me to wonder if you met with some misfortune or something. How many times did i show up at your office haggard and scared early in the morning just to confirm you are alright? I actually wear my younger sister's hand me downs just to save enough to keep this family going.

Your siblings all believe I am a bad person thanks to the endless lies you've told them and I've borne it all. During your last visit, you complained about the fact that I always seemed unhappy and heckled and I explained to you the stress I am under. Our rent is due. Our daughter's fees of over a hundred thousand needs to be paid. Utility bills, feeding...these are some of the burdens I have to deal with. I explained how burdened I felt. I also explained that having to clean up after you constantly worsens my stress. While you were here, I battled insomnia for almost two weeks straight, without compassion or help. I could fill a page with all that is wrong with this marriage. It's never you. You are perfect and righteous and I am a wicked woman. We quarrel like every husband and wife and regardless of whether it's my fault or not, I apologise so that peace will reign. I have suffered humiliation at your hands but you go around damaging my character so people will pity you. Guess what? The truth cannot be hidden. It may take time, but it will come out. I take solace in that.

I will beat my chest and tell you that no woman on this earth will bear what I bore at your hands or care for you like I have. Since you are so unhappy, I think you should take out time and find yourself. I also need time to pray and to heal from this emotional trauma, so please let's give ourselves a year at least to decide what to do next. I wish you the best.

Why not open a counter-thread so DT everyone who saw/commented on his thread can equally see things from ur own side and equally comment as well.
Don't forget to tag the mods/supermods to put it on front page


Over to u, Mr. strungup79:

uninspired07:



Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.Madam take it easy. Everything will be alright. Please bear with Oga.

Now that you have laid bare your case, we will prevail on Oga to do the necessary as the man of the house to take things back to normal.
Almighty God shall calm the storms in your marriage.

Amen o

Oga OP, don’t post any further & go settle your issue with eminently qualified men of God & members of the family.

We don’t want both sides of the gender aisle tearing your marriage apart. There’s always a way to settle family feuds amicably.

Don’t even respond to your wife’s post on Nairaland. We have many crazy people here.

Americanboy35:

Very sensible comment

Very matured comment. Happy New year

Truthwillout:
I am Strungup79's wife and I have watched the drama here unfold in silence. Here is a copy of a message I just sent my husband on WhatsApp. I hope it will put things in clearer light.

I'll try to keep this brief. I started this year on a sour note, crying bitterly. Because of you total strangers called me bitch and all sorts of unprintable names. Some even went as far as saying I was diabolical and ¹reversed your fortunes with juju, and you basked in it all, all because of the lies you told them. You have repeatedly told your siblings the same lies. I emasculate you. Really? I emaaculate you yet i led my colleagues, our neighbours and practically everyone I know to believe that you are the breadwinner and doing a marvellous job. I emasculate you, yet when the rent needs to be paid, I pay it into your account first just so no one will know. I earn good money but no one knows it because everything goes into running this family. I don't save a dime. I NEVER complained about you not working these past 4 or 5 years. You complained about me spending a lot of time at my mum's place. I do that so that I can avoid the endless streams of alterations with you, and for other reasons I'll spare everyone here.

Every single time you bring this up, I reassure you that all I want is the best for you. I encourage you, fast and pray for you, yet I'm a bad wife. You actually called our daughter and told her I am a bad wife. She cried her eyes out when she told me all the nasty things you told her. I have never in the 10 years we've been married said anything disparaging to her about you despite your many short comings. You put me through hell and I just take in stride.

You also told your fans I had nothing when you married me. I had a job and I wasn't doing badly. In fact I practically funded our wedding with the help of my family. I could go on forever. Or is it the fact that you used to leave the house for days on end without communication, leaving me to wonder if you met with some misfortune or something. How many times did i show up at your office haggard and scared early in the morning just to confirm you are alright? I actually wear my younger sister's hand me downs just to save enough to keep this family going.

Your siblings all believe I am a bad person thanks to the endless lies you've told them and I've borne it all. During your last visit, you complained about the fact that I always seemed unhappy and heckled and I explained to you the stress I am under. Our rent is due. Our daughter's fees of over a hundred thousand needs to be paid. Utility bills, feeding...these are some of the burdens I have to deal with. I explained how burdened I felt. I also explained that having to clean up after you constantly worsens my stress. While you were here, I battled insomnia for almost two weeks straight, without compassion or help. I could fill a page with all that is wrong with this marriage. It's never you. You are perfect and righteous and I am a wicked woman. We quarrel like every husband and wife and regardless of whether it's my fault or not, I apologise so that peace will reign. I have suffered humiliation at your hands but you go around damaging my character so people will pity you. Guess what? The truth cannot be hidden. It may take time, but it will come out. I take solace in that.

I will beat my chest and tell you that no woman on this earth will bear what I bore at your hands or care for you like I have. Since you are so unhappy, I think you should take out time and find yourself. I also need time to pray and to heal from this emotional trauma, so please let's give ourselves a year at least to decide what to do next. I wish you the best.

Woow!! This is why you should always hear from the two parties.
Madam, open a thread and invite the mods.

Cc: pocohantas, funmisticqueen

Cadillac15:


With this, i am forced to ask you. Are you sure this is your husband's post?

The circumstances and situation might be similar to what you are passing through but this might be a different individual.

Please check well

My brother trust me. This is his post alright.

richie240:

Why not open a counter-thread so DT everyone who saw/commented on his thread can equally see things from ur own side and equally comment as well.
Don't forget to tag the mods/supermods to put it on front page

Madam wife of OP, don’t honor this post. This is the time to settle this issue at home with your husband with elders of both families.

God will restore peace in your marriage.

midnighter:


As in! I always wondered whether people considered that their husband/wife may see what they wrote about them and put 2 and 2 together.

They don't o. But it happens time and again.

Preshy561:

Woow!! This is why you should always hear from the two parties.
Madam, open a thread and invite the mods.

Cc: pocohantas, funmisticqueen

Madam wife of OP, don’t respond to this thread. The resident demons are being called to tear your marriage apart. Deal with this issue in house, please.

God will not scatter your marriage in a new year.

APOPTOSIS:
MEN should start embracing this BABYMAMA THING.
MEN who have indulged in such LIVED LONGER.

Another category of MEN who lived Longer are those who married many LADIES.

That's why Naija men need to start borrowing a leaf from Jamaican men who NEVER live with 1 woman but have various babymama's who dare not turn the kids from different mothers against one another or against the man.

The Jamaican man is a study in how the Alpha male rules his Harem even though he doesn't live with any of them and they know he has many women but they dare not cheat on him.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Wow! Would you have said the same if he was your biological brother? You're a typical example of how heartless women can be, it's written all over your face anyways

Truthwillout:


My brother trust me. This is his post alright.

If it is his post and you have a good proof, then your problems are half solved.

There is still love in the relationship and both of you are hurting because you guys dont seem to understand what is happening.

This is a case of total miscommunication and suspicions on both sides.

Madam, if you can cross this bridge successfully, and i know you can, both of you will celebrate 100yrs anniversary if there's anything like that.

I encourage you to cross that bridge. Save your home and dont allow anyone tell you otherwise.

As for op, please sheath your sword and communicate with your wife.

uninspired07:


Madam wife of OP, don’t honor this post. This is the time to settle this issue at home with your husband with elders of both families.

God will restore peace in your marriage.

Dhur!
She has already commented/responded. Whether she wants a wider coverage is what were talking here; and moreover, this is a faceless forum. No one knows either of them.....neither of the 2 has mentioned their names.

This is an issue to be settled at home.

The divergent views that will be gotten from anonymous bachelors & spinsters will likely tear their marriage apart. Both parties will do well to settle the matter through clergy & elders in their respective families.