segun18:
My brother I have carefully read your story .I am in my 40s too and life Experiences have taught me not pass judgement or give counsel based on one person's story when it comes to relationship.

Are you sure when you where doing well financially you where not like a dictator in the house?Did you ever involved in extra Maritals affairs and your wife knew but kept quiet?

Have you ever physically abused your wife?

I need details man.Well for now keep hustling and keep praying.Humble yourself for now ....

sassysure:

I hear u

Meanwhile don't involve bible here cos u guys never practice what's in the bible. U use that only when it fits your narration.

Switch07:

Really....men go through hell, I just pray 4 GOD grace sha

freshvine:



I just picture you treating a Male patient as a doctor.

You: Explain your accident to me oga.

Male Patient: I got into an argument with my wife, it degenerate to fisticuffs and she did me this.

You: Is that all cos I presume you must be guilty somehow. Did you kill her in your former life for her to revenge this magnitude?

( mix cyanide and some overdose and hands over to Male patient)

Moment later, "nurse, call the ambulance service this man had gave up the ghost, inform the family while I prepare a medical report for I doubt wife is responsible for cause of death and injury ".

uninspired07:


OMG!!! To be honest, even in my worst financial state, I cannot go for her kind because she is ugly & has an ugly attitude. A woman’s beauty is her character & feministique queen is an uncouth person so I can’t have anything to do with her kind.

I am just disappointed in her because her ugliness didn’t instill a sense of humility in her.

She’s bad news to any man whether rich or poor. She is not a biblically virtuous woman & any man that marries her will end up unfortunate & die in no time.

strungup79:


I'm already out of the house and out of town. I'm not lazy. I've put hands in odd jobs, low paying jobs and different types of business. I just need a little favour. I need the touh of God right now.

cutefy:


Your story really touched me. The truth about this life is that, we hardly can tell the true nature of any friend until challenges set in. Money do make people behave like psycohpants in which case, their loyalty remains as long as the money is there. A woman who loves a man will not do this to him. I pray that I don't marry such any of such women.

Anyways, I'm not here to judge ur wife nor say anything bad about her. But what I've got to tell u is this, focus on bouncing back. I'll suggest a biz you can do to bounce back with. You'll need to master the biz for like one month. Once you have mastered it, you can then start with at least $100 capital. If you can master this well, then your financial story will change for good. For the training process, I'll teach you for free without collecting any single dime. One love brother...

uninspired07:


Se ofe she oriburuku ni lodun tuntun?


I will curse you oooo. You’re a prominent man hating feminist so I pointed that out.


Did I insult you? I only made a statement of fact.

Kekereekun123:
ugly fat and shapeless. Only God knows which man go want am. Yet she is forming like one high class babe. Common 359k rent in lag she cant afford . See her last topic lol

bukatyne:


Try and visit your dad more if you can.

strungup79:


You're wrong. It's not my mind telling me things. I'm not dumb cos that's what your statement suggests. Before the tables turned, we used to discuss issues, then she started trying to lord it over me using disrespectful language and coded insults. At this stage I was still bringing some finance. I complained and broached the issue of her changing attitude. Guess what - she told me exactly what you're saying, that I was imagining things because of my down turn. Then it became full blown disrespect. If it was stress of being the the bread winner why sideline me and go consulting her family over what concerns us. We used to discuss everything right down to her work. I'm not dumb or stupid. She just feels she has an upper hand and is trying to show it.

eyinjuege:


You remain the fool you are. If you don't want your generations unborn to partake of this your foolishness, don't ever mention me in your stupidity again.

strungup79:


She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

strungup79:


I'm always out of town looking for one job or business. I've just been unfortunate that all my efforts have yielded little or no fruit. It's almost as if there's a curse working against me.

simonlee:
simple trick....

use a strange number to forward a text to your phone that reads "i will give you N20million and an oil company job if you divorce your wife and marry me"...
then see if she wouldn't go back to factory settings!

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

eni4real:
You are very disrespectful!!!

uninspired07:


Very bitter people. All the feminists causing wahala on romance & family section are failed women whose time have passed but they rather get more frustrated women to their side than repent. I am sure that Pocahontas girl too will be damned ugly. Those people a cancer to this country & generation. Their impact & reach is very wide & they are doing considerable damage to relationships in this country.

strungup79:


I'm already out of the house and out of town. I'm not lazy. I've put hands in odd jobs, low paying jobs and different types of business. I just need a little favour. I need the touh of God right now.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Martinez39:
Women are always the same. Here is a similar thread and the responses from ladies were the same

https://www.nairaland.com/3896004/lost-job-now-losing-dignity

poseidon12:


You are advising him not to touch his wife's money under any circumstances?? What's the point of the marriage then? Marriage is supposed to be a partnership (in this modern era). The average Nigerian man is always trying to play superman. They end up putting themselves under immense financial stress. This is a contributing factor to the easy corruptibility of the average Nigerian man. Also a part of the reason why he can hardly keep to the terms of agreement in a financial transaction.
Husband and wife should share the family's financial obligations unless the husband is extremely rich.

otipoju:
funmisticqueen

I come dey pity this Doctor Funmi. Please ignore those who say you are physically ugly, God made you beautiful.

She stirred the hornets nest today and una don bash am tire. She sef no dey hear word.

I feel like she has been bitterly dissspointed severally and her line of work also messes with their capacity to feel.

I think they have to numb their feelings to cope with the ugly side of life they see everyday. Pian, trauma, diseases and death of both old and young.

I sense her heart is really soft and her attitude is a coping mechanism to protect herself from being hurt again. She needs to forgive and release all those who hurt her and by so doing create space for someone who can feel the pulse of her soul and make it feel again. The universe will provide.

Eyah Funmi, may you one day gain an elevated perception of life. Where you are at now is not just myopic, its ugly.

People should not be mean to people irrespective of who earns more. If there is love money should be secondary. But Nigerian economy makes people behave in obnoxious ways.

Peace. I wish you well even though i really dont like your comments. They are not coming from a place of enlightenment at all.

uninspired07:


Bros, we sef Dey here ooo. We wan learn. Na new year we dey abeg.

loswhite:
can you tell me who gave this role of financially been responsible for the family A-Z? So I assume the role you put for a woman is to sit at home and take care of babies right? Before industrial age who did the farming? Was it only men that went to farm? You should speak for your self and don't come and be defining roles for us. How can you marry an educated adult and you sit alone and define role for the adult? Most men don't even know the importance of respect in relationship... Respect has nothing to do with gender. You must respect your partner in every relationship, it doesn't matter if you bread winner or not

cutefy:


No problem... u are included too.

But bear in mind that just as freely it's given to you, so you should do likewise to others...

funmisticqueen:
That makes him no better than her and proves me right. Money changes both men and women

CarlsJaz567:


I think you are a very young and inexperienced person If you read my comment well, I said my wife supported me in all ways, but when the time was getting elongated - over 2 years, she started showing signs of emotional strains. That doesn't mean she was downright disrespectful at the time. Women will surely nag when they want you to hear them out, and it seems you are stuck to your own ideas! It only signified to me that I had an urgent decision to take.

Am back to taking charge of my own home now and am not begging - so you are not making any points. I hope your marriage last long when you do eventually get married with this attitude of yours.

Thanks