OAM4J:

I kinda agree with both of you. But seriously, may be it is about time women take responsibility for each other, I mean, be each other sisters' keeper.

If all women say No to married men, then there will not be unfaithfulness in marriages. These randy men succeed because they always find willing women.

All these women sleeping with married men, do they ever think they will marry one day? and how will they feel with other women sleeping with their husbands

The OP is foolish, the wife is naive and unwise and the wife's friend is also not being fair to her friend.

^^^OMG Biko for this one, you read me very well. If I am your friend I should have your back and not your hubby or boyfreinds back. It would seem best friend and girlfriend here have got their priorities twisted. I just wish I knwe what each one of them was hoping to achieve in doing what they were doing maybe and just maybe I'd understand.


@chika98 I couldnt think of any reason why would a friend of mine agree to come and cook for my husband while I am away. Can you think of any one reason why your friend should come and cook for your husband while you are away? Please tell us this i've got to hear.

Anyway Lady be single and got no pride just the way I talk sometimes trying to put myself in one's shoes, it means nothing, you'll get used to it.

SA Lady:

^^^OMG Biko for this one, you read me very well. If I am your friend I should have your back and not your hubby or boyfreinds back. It would seem best friend and girlfriend here have got their priorities twisted. I just wish I knwe what each one of them was hoping to achieve in doing what they were doing maybe and just maybe I'd understand.


@chika98 I couldnt think of any reason why would a friend of mine agree to come and cook for my husband while I am away. Can you think of any one reason why your friend should come and cook for your husband while you are away? Please tell us this i've got to hear.

Anyway Lady be single and got no pride just the way I talk sometimes trying to put myself in one's shoes, it means nothing, you'll get used to it.

Your response has got nothing to do with your previous comment. You called your friends "boring" !
This isn't a question as to if I'd go cook for a friend of mine who is married. Absolutely has got nothing to do with it.

cantell:

Bad manners.
Do you have to insult him?
You need to change the way you comment.
Obi cannot be a boy forever.
Grow up!

Bla bla bla

chika98:

Your response has got nothing to do with your previous comment. You called your friends "boring" !
This isn't a question as to if I'd go cook for a friend of mine who is married. Absolutely has got nothing to do with it.

alright then at this point I GIVE UP.

@poster
Well what qualities do you see in her that make her wife wife or partner material.
I see:
a woman who betrays her best friend
who does not care that she may be breaking up a home
that children may suffer from the break-up
I see a woman who does not even protest that you made an advance,
does not even have a bad conscience about it.
a woman that is coveting another woman's husband.
that most have been going out of her way to lead this feeling on.

As for you, i think you are just stupidly about to break up a home you built.
Do you not realise that when a woman wants a man , she would go out of her way to show you the qualities you want to see?
Don`t you know that she would be totally different the day you opt for her.
Do you know you are betraying the trust your wife had in you?

SNAP OUT OF IT

You love her or her body? or has she given you love portion?

You maybe right since she's their certified cook.

You better check what she is putting into that pot of soup. You also need to check your wife properly
for allowing her friend to come into your home as a surrogate wife.

No matter how innocent the situation may look, I suspect something sinister. You better open your
eyes and play your role as the man of the house before you use your own hands to destroy your family.

You need to put your wife and your friend in check.

A man who can not control his emotions is not in control of himself.

@ poster
please i beg you, open your eyes and face reality. i really do believe that you have developed strong feelings for this woman but believe me when i say the grass aint always greener on the other side. not all that glitters is gold.

you have a trusting wife and two children and ur on the verge of losing all that because of this temptation. my dear, IT IS NOT WORTH IT!
what if u left ur wife and kids to be with this woman and the feelings eventually die off? ul be full of regrets.
look at it this way, when ur married, temptation comes from all over. but what makes ur a real man is finding the strenght to overcome it. you'l be proud of urself at the end of the day.

this feelings ur having are only temporary. take ur mind back to the good qualities you saw in ur wife that made u want to marry her. then ul realise that what ur feeling for her friend right now cant be compared.

where is for real to give an update on the lustful situation?

iaabc:

where is for real to give an update on the lustful situation?

Probably to busy trying to hop from one woman to the other. What most posters did not consider is if he has his game down pat, he could have the friend and not break up his marriage. Just has to be able to manage the situation.

Quote from: Divine R. on July 31, 2010, 08:38

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The problem started with the wife, she gave her single GF access to her home without limitation even to cook in her kitchen in her absent, I think the girl friend has key to her bed room, now is affecting her marriage unknown to her because she is about to loose the husband to her single girl friend if care is not taken.

Is high time married women come to understand that they should maintain a distance with their single friends, young sisters, mother after marriage because you love them don’t give anybody access to your home.

@OP what you feel for her is not love rather LUST , please RUN if you start it, no going back and it will definitely affect your marriage
This is true, u ve a point, i am very conscience of this. Ignorance is more deadly than HIV aides.
So many homes havé been broken with this kind of situation, yet married women still close their eyes and allow in thier best friend all because of trust.

Well poster, if u lové ur wife and kids, discuss this with ur wife, thé best solution is to limit her friend from seeing u without her knowing thé reason. There is always temptation when a family are living happily.
Use ur tongue to count ur teeth. U ve Heard lots of good advices from forumist i guess enough is enough for a wise.

Love cannot hurt, it only helps to repair fix and mend every broken things so i dont think you are in love and i think you are having a serious issue with your belief system because you find it hard to believe that you are not in love. Bro you are going to end up by yourself with no one to care for you if you dont turn back from the backside of a woman who has been after you from the onset

Do not start a chain reaction, the pleasure would just be like 20 minutes and the consequence might last you a life time!!!!! beware!!! Its not weird to have such feelings, talk to your wife because this signifies a lack in your marriage, she should give you more time. Her friend cooking for you signifies are lack of time for her family, that shouldn't happen. her friend must take her leave NOW!!!!

Bros na the devil dey wink at u so, he's gradually seducing you. Chairman u bera wake up before you descend into an abyss. A word is enough for the wise oh.

She (I mean your wife's friend) is also up to something, I believe she's diggin you as well, because I wonder out of curiosity, WTF is she looking for? Cooking for her friend's husband while her said friend ain't around? when you touched her buttock and pretended it was a mistake, she probably knew it wasn't a mistake. Anyway I pity your marriage because this is the time you'll start pinpointing your wife's shortcomings, hence the need to cheat on her.

with no intention to be rude,you are lusting big time,and this might break your marriage and shatter your future.steer clear and confide this with your wife please.That is a sure key to overcome it,bury your ego, and confide in her.

@OP what you are feeling is lust. Our emotions play such tricks on us that it's hard to see through the fog. Let me be very real with you, once yawa gaz, you'd forever regret what came over you. As a married man, if you want to live in a happy home and enjoy your wife and marriage, set boundaries and never breach them.
1. Never allow yourself to be alone in a car, room or even a lunch date with another woman/lady/girl that's not your wife.
2. Limit your wife's friend visits severely.
3. Invest your time in your wife. Reminesce with her about what you used to do while dating. Start doing those things. Be totally involved with your wife. Be romantic. Surprise her. Flirt with your wife. Take her out on dates. Don't just let her be tying wrapper and be pounding fufu everyday.
4. Temptation is always out there but according to the scripture: It is common, you are able, God is faithful and there's a way out. I Cor 10:13

My guy, we all face the same thing. The grass always look greener on the other side but someone has got to mow the lawn. Mow your own lawn, follow the above, divorce proof your house and chase the Jezebel away.

But where does all the love and those sweet things the man used to say go before marriage

i have a similar issue but less one sided. i have know my wifes freind for 14 years and we have always got on but 4 years ago we all had a row. we all made up next day but i realised the only thing i cared about was what she thought. we got closer as tme went on and 4 months ago shared a kiss. this has happened several times now and we have been intimate once. we both talked and agreed that we both have so much to lose and so many people could be hurt but now she fills every minute of my day and my stomach turns constantly. we txt several times a week and i know she feels the same.
but the cost is so high. how do i deal with this. both our partners are good people but i can honestly say in all my 47 years i have never felt this way about any woman. help

if dis story is true, ur wife needs an awakening slap... NEVER trust anyone with ur man, ladies... infact I don't trust anybody kpatakpata so dat I will know what and who is killing me wen d time comes. always keep those type of friends at arms lenght

hyech: i have a similar issue but less one sided. i have know my wifes freind for 14 years and we have always got on but 4 years ago we all had a row. we all made up next day but i realised the only thing i cared about was what she thought. we got closer as tme went on and 4 months ago shared a kiss. this has happened several times now and we have been intimate once. we both talked and agreed that we both have so much to lose and so many people could be hurt but now she fills every minute of my day and my stomach turns constantly. we txt several times a week and i know she feels the same.
but the cost is so high. how do i deal with this. both our partners are good people but i can honestly say in all my 47 years i have never felt this way about any woman. help

Help? I am sorry but I really don't think anyone can help you. You can help yourself by losing her number and focusing on your marriage.

Oh darling, what you feel is the SWEEEETNESSSSS OF LUST!
Once you start PHOCKING, the "love" will be put to test for sure!
Poor you!

One reason I CAN NEVER INVITE FEMALES TO MY HOME AS "FRIENDS"! Or ASSOCIATE OR FRATERNIZE WITH MY HUSBAND'S friends!!!
An ereeect PEHNIS HAS NO CONSCIENCE. . . . . And will always SPIT, before it VOMITS abi?
A jooosy pooosy too!
Love ko, LOVINDA NI!!!
Mtcheeeeeeeeew!!!!!

for real: i still cant belive how i got to this stage,well let me start from somewhere,i married my wife four years ago and we have two boys right now,one is 4 whille the other one is just a year old now,i have always looked at my wife best friend more as a sister than anything else,she was there for us when we were getting married,she really helped out a lot and she was the chief bridemaid to my wife.she is always in our house to see my wife,this whole thing started about five months ago, when my wife asked me to drop her off in ibadan one day,on the trip to ibadan we spoke a lot and i discovered she had so many qualities i like in a woman,needless to say i started developing a feeling for her.one day i came back from work to meet her in the kitchen cooking(she normally does this a lot whenever my wife is not around with the permission of my wife of course)looking at her from the back i was amazed,i had never seen her so beautfull before with such a wonderfull shape she was wearing jeans with a white top,meeen she was looking so sexy and beautfull,it was like i was seeing her for the first time in my life,honestly i tried to supress my feelings that day i couldnt even talk straight with her,before long i couldnt concentrate on my work again,i am always dreaming about her,every thought in my head is about her,i just cant get her off my mind no matter how i try,right now,my wife no longer excites me again,infact nothing else but her thoughts fill my heart everyday,one day i touched her in her buttocks but pretended it was a mistake and she didnt say anything,honestly i want to go further by telling her how i feel,please nairalanders help me out (i am new to this forum,came acrooss it recently and i love the way people are being advised here)i am going crazy for this lady because i love her very very very much now but i dont want to hurt my wife but i cant help myself,i love this lady

U need a psychiatric evaluation ASAP. Oniranu

The grass is always greener on the other side

Third leg and pusssy, okay o.

Una well done.

Spyker:
Poster, please change the subject to read: " Help! i am madly in LUST with my wife's best friend".
I don't really think you are in love, like jennykadry said, what you love is her body. You better start praying for yourself because that is the beginning of a broken home.

Thanks! Just what I was going to pass as comment. Only, "I won't waste my time reading your bullshit story of how it all began." is missing.

deor03:
This is Lust Bro.

I am sure after some rounds of se.x you'll come round

If she doesn't get pregnant, you mean. She could also enjoy the man so much that she begins to entertain the idea of marrying him! Not caring about her friend or the society.

Life

forreal1:
i still cant belive how i got to this stage,well let me start from somewhere,i married my wife four years ago and we have two boys right now,one is 4 whille the other one is just a year old now,i have always looked at my wife best friend more as a sister than anything else,she was there for us when we were getting married,she really helped out a lot and she was the chief bridemaid to my wife.she is always in our house to see my wife,this whole thing started about five months ago, when my wife asked me to drop her off in ibadan one day,on the trip to ibadan we spoke a lot and i discovered she had so many qualities i like in a woman,needless to say i started developing a feeling for her.one day i came back from work to meet her in the kitchen cooking(she normally does this a lot whenever my wife is not around with the permission of my wife of course)looking at her from the back i was amazed,i had never seen her so beautfull before with such a wonderfull shape she was wearing jeans with a white top,meeen she was looking so sexy and beautfull,it was like i was seeing her for the first time in my life,honestly i tried to supress my feelings that day i couldnt even talk straight with her,before long i couldnt concentrate on my work again,i am always dreaming about her,every thought in my head is about her,i just cant get her off my mind no matter how i try,right now,my wife no longer excites me again,infact nothing else but her thoughts fill my heart everyday,one day i touched her in her buttocks but pretended it was a mistake and she didnt say anything,honestly i want to go further by telling her how i feel,please nairalanders help me out (i am new to this forum,came acrooss it recently and i love the way people are being advised here)i am going crazy for this lady because i love her very very very much now but i dont want to hurt my wife but i cant help myself,i love this lady

An Igbo adage say's that , No matter how good , You train a Goat . Never you give him Yam to look after , For you .

forreal1:
i still cant belive how i got to this stage,well let me start from somewhere,i married my wife four years ago and we have two boys right now,one is 4 whille the other one is just a year old now,i have always looked at my wife best friend more as a sister than anything else,she was there for us when we were getting married,she really helped out a lot and she was the chief bridemaid to my wife.she is always in our house to see my wife,this whole thing started about five months ago, when my wife asked me to drop her off in ibadan one day,on the trip to ibadan we spoke a lot and i discovered she had so many qualities i like in a woman,needless to say i started developing a feeling for her.one day i came back from work to meet her in the kitchen cooking(she normally does this a lot whenever my wife is not around with the permission of my wife of course)looking at her from the back i was amazed,i had never seen her so beautfull before with such a wonderfull shape she was wearing jeans with a white top,meeen she was looking so sexy and beautfull,it was like i was seeing her for the first time in my life,honestly i tried to supress my feelings that day i couldnt even talk straight with her,before long i couldnt concentrate on my work again,i am always dreaming about her,every thought in my head is about her,i just cant get her off my mind no matter how i try,right now,my wife no longer excites me again,infact nothing else but her thoughts fill my heart everyday,one day i touched her in her buttocks but pretended it was a mistake and she didnt say anything,honestly i want to go further by telling her how i feel,please nairalanders help me out (i am new to this forum,came acrooss it recently and i love the way people are being advised here)i am going crazy for this lady because i love her very very very much now but i dont want to hurt my wife but i cant help myself,i love this lady

Before you go and do something crazy like buy her a car, it's the common lust, not love; which is a myth.

And it's normal between man and woman. If you want her so much, don't commiy adultery o. Just tell your wife to talk to her for you so she can be her sister-wife. Two wives were even the norm in our grandfathers' time. Both my great grandfathers had multiple wives. They enjoyed galore.

Ha! Kasala leleyi... Shey she has not jazzed you bayii... Women can be crazy... Or your lust want to push you to death


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