Ifyjos:
I don’t hate her but I’m trying to clarification on what she did to me because some people are blaming me for getting pregnant at a young age , and they are blaming my guy because he has nothing. But I know that God has better plans for me and him , the situations that we are passing through today , it is not permanent and one day it will become a story to motivate others. Like I said getting pregnant at a young age was wrong but She is my greatest blessings from God and I don’t regret having my child , she is the best daughter ever

Ifyjos:
God forbid ,he will never dump me because our love and bond is stronger than ever. My guy is better than most married men here . He is not rich but he put my daughter and I first in the centre of his life

Ifyjos:

I didn’t ruin my life because having a child at a young age it is not the end of world but my sister made me loose my confidence and motivation. She doesn’t pay her full school fees , she only help if my guy doesn’t have any money , it is not a new thing because they are other people who had paid school fees for strangers before , and there’s nothing wrong if my sister does the same for my child , because my child it’s like her daughter too. Someday I will pay her back by taking good care of her future children too.

You are still trying to justify your silly actions. Nobody is blaming your daughter. They are blaming you, and blaming the guy, more.....

Why should a guy who has no job, no steady income, no lifelong goals, no educational qualification, and who can barely feed himself.... be getting someone else's daughter, pregnant??!

Should that have been his priority? Or your own?

Look, don't let me deceive you....more insults will continue to come, as long as you are living at the mercy of others. And as long as you do not improve yourself, and change your haughty attitude.

So better develop a thick skin to all those insults, and learn to ignore them. Or develop a coping mechanism, so that it doesn't affect you, much.

If the guy was a decent professional that could afford to take entire care of you and the child, without any input from your family, then there would be very little insults, from anybody.

That is the truth. It is sad, that 5 years after, nothing has improved in his life or your own.

Worse still, no single member of your guy's family is even helping both of you, with anything. So how do you want your own family, to respect you or him? How?

Okay, if you say so then why NOT put HER OUT of HER misery try reconciling HER and her fiance bavk. If you ask HER for forgiveness she WOULD NOT react well knowing all what she has lost due to your act. By the way what about HER fiance? Has he moved ON?

Ifyjos:
I don’t hate her but I’m trying to clarification on what she did to me because some people are blaming me for getting pregnant at a young age , and they are blaming my guy because he has nothing. But I know that God has better plans for me and him , the situations that we are passing through today , it is not permanent and one day it will become a story to motivate others. Like I said getting pregnant at a young age was wrong but She is my greatest blessings from God and I don’t regret having my child , she is the best daughter ever

I would have doubted such story but seriously alot ,I mean alot of unimaginable things happens these days,many have experienced n even can tell but let's save that for another day.My dear ifyjos(OP),I wasnt even shocked on what you did,you know why? You just young n naive ,that's one.
(2).you weren't guided on the mistake you made 5years ago,you where scolded,insulted n even casted with words by the years,n you lost your trust n confidence in your self n in your family..n the only one person that comforted you I guess was your baby daddy.n that's why you have so much believe and trust in him.you could kill for him.. know that feeling.it would have only make enough sense if the guy was worth it.but your up shows ,he doesn't even deserve a slap from you to your sister.


MY DEAR! Your sister doesn't hate you or look you less.
Have you ever stop .,or rather take a pause and place your self in her shoes.it is not easy for her,like you said shes the bread winner of the family...n there you are a liability n painful again you arent even waking up to reality, you still stuck with that one mistake 5years ago,believing in a boy ,that placed you in a family way at a tender age...anyways dear, your sister wants the best life for you,you should be in school ,pursing your dreams ,not wallowing with some irresponsible man..YES you made that mistake ,but dear you have your life a long way to go..you are just 20 n not 50..you should have focus on making your life better for your kid,you dont have to wait for baby daddy or even your sister.....
N what where you thinking ,that your sister should open a business for you,like seriously ,youcant even handle your shits together left alone business...n let me tell you something remove that clause "US".....focus on your self..I make a bet with you today...if that guy I mean your baby daddy makes it big tomorrow,that guy wont give a Bleep about you...he just been around because you are only is option for now....


N for what you did to your sister...dear that's inhumanity
No matter what she did to you,,said to you ....you had no right to slap her ,n jeopardising all she has laboured for....its an UNFORGIVABLE ACT you did...you have ruined your own family..even if she forgive you ,she will always be scarred for life ....but you dont have a choice here ,you have to own up for what you have done...Tell the truth....Go over to her fiance, tell him everything you did..before it's too late....it will be a different one if your sister ended up dead......May God have mercy on...n may your sins never affect your kid.....
N one more thing if all this over,go close to God
Focus n work on yourself,your trust should be on God n not man....
Make yourself a better woman n mother.

Typical Nigerian. Calling God after wickedness. Do the better plans God has for you include lying on your sister and breaking her relationship.
Let me explain something to you about the way God works. He blesses the works of your hands. Which work are you doing? He is also angry with the wicked every day but ready to forgive.

Ifyjos:
I don’t hate her but I’m trying to clarification on what she did to me because some people are blaming me for getting pregnant at a young age , and they are blaming my guy because he has nothing. But I know that God has better plans for me and him , the situations that we are passing through today , it is not permanent and one day it will become a story to motivate others. Like I said getting pregnant at a young age was wrong but She is my greatest blessings from God and I don’t regret having my child , she is the best daughter ever

Ifyjos:
She doesn’t want the best for me , all she wanted is for me to become a single mom and suffer while she will be happily married

As the senior sis, did u think it was easy for her to accept that u were pregnant at a very young age.
If she want u to be alone, don't u think she would have set u up with something
Because me personally won't finance u when I know u would use it to feed a lazy guy

CeterisXVII:
You are still trying to justify your silly actions. Nobody is blaming your daughter. They are blaming you, and blaming the guy, more.....

You better stop answering her before you irritate yourself...yesterday even the small midnight snack I was taking wanted to sour in my mouth as I was reading the story...this girls character is so disgusting it put me off my food Wallahi

I swear I am so grateful for my annoying sisters who can never sink to do me like this smh

what you did was too Bad...... do you know what is feels like for a relationship and a life time marriage to be cancelled?...... The only way out of this is to confess and ask for forgiveness



I Pray your elder sister has a forgiving heart ....and to those fools who encouraged you to do this I pity their future

don't let your emotions lead You into Bad toughts

Now, do you know why your conscience pricks you every now and then and why your guy doesnt feel it.. Because it is blood and you have hurt HER and you know it, keeping silent Will NOT make it better. Now what if the guy moves ON marry another woman and your sis get to hear of it. Do you know what you've just did you've destroyed HER UNION.

Ifyjos:
I don’t hate her but I’m trying to clarification on what she did to me because some people are blaming me for getting pregnant at a young age , and they are blaming my guy because he has nothing. But I know that God has better plans for me and him , the situations that we are passing through today , it is not permanent and one day it will become a story to motivate others. Like I said getting pregnant at a young age was wrong but She is my greatest blessings from God and I don’t regret having my child , she is the best daughter ever

Ifyjos:
He can never dump me because If he wanted to leave me , he would have done it long time ago when I was still pregnant. He never denied me and my pictures is everywhere on his Facebook and WhatsApp profile and our future will be greater. Not I’m not responsible for her loosing her job , she lost her job because at the time her fiancé dumped her , she was suicidal and missed work for almost a month and lost her job.

You are responsible for making her loose her job dear.

By the way, which planet are you from cos you are so adamant and unrepentant.

Anyways, you are naive, that's why you are still bragging about this your smoker husband. By the time he is set to deal with you, ur eye go clear one time.

Ifyjos:
Please he is not useless he does take care of me and our child something that a lot of husbands cannot do for their wives.

He takes care of you? wow, why not go and live with him in his squatting apartment with your child, I can guess you love him so much, go and stay with him anywhere he is. You don't want your parents to throw you out but you have the mind to carry out evil against your sister and with who, a guy that can't even pay his bills. If I may ask what has he achieved in the past five years you are together. My dear you need help.

You are a real problem child and you will still suffer for what you did to a sister who was only trying to rescue you from the foolish road you decided to follow. You got pregnant and had a child outside wedlock, instead of comporting yourself, trying to learn a skill or trying to go back to school to better your life, you still clung to wayward baby daddy who cannot even marry you and put you in his house. You even bring him into your family home to continue your rubbish. Your sister is trying to correct you yet see how you repay her.. You are everything a parent pray against in a child. One who will not learn from mistake. Nonsense.

tosyne2much:
Bro, this story is probably a tale jawe

True sha.. Unbelievable stuff

I make people hair at home

Gloriagee:
Typical Nigerian. Calling God after wickedness. Do the better plans God has for you include lying on your sister and breaking her relationship.
Let me explain something to you about the way God works. He blesses the works of your hands. Which work are you doing? He is also angry with the wicked every day but ready to forgive.

No I don’t know because I’m not in her shoes and I don’t want to be in her shoes too , I regret my actions and I wish I didn’t do it in the first place , that’s why I came here seeking for advice because I do care and love her so much , I just want her to be happy again

cappucino925:
what you did was too Bad...... do you know what is feels like for a relationship and a life time marriage to be cancelled?...... The only way out of this is to confess and ask for forgiveness



I Pray your elder sister has a forgiving heart ....and to those fools who encouraged you to do this I pity their future

don't let your emotions lead You into Bad toughts

People Will come here seeking for advice and then they WOULD still BE arguing with you

It was my wish to go back to school but my parents didn’t send me back and what do you expect me to do? To go and do prostitution just for school? By the way who school help ? Anyway I want to learn tailoring but I don’t have the money yet but I trust my God , this new year will be great for me .

Mom007:
You are a real problem child and you will still suffer for what you did to a sister who was only trying to rescue you from the foolish road you decided to follow. You got pregnant and had a child outside wedlock, instead of comporting yourself, trying to learn a skill or trying to go back to school to better your life, you still clung to wayward baby daddy who cannot even marry you and put you in his house. You even bring him into your family home to continue your rubbish. Your sister is trying to correct you yet see how you repay her.. You are everything a parent pray against in a child. One who will not learn from mistake. Nonsense.

Which is a start. I don't look down on you for that but surely you know you can be a lot more. Do you have your SSCE? Do you want to own a salon? Can you work in an established one so you learn about their processes,
Billing etc?
What are your life goals and how are you working to achieve them? As you can see, even after your sister lost her job and fiance, still your issues remain. Work on bettering yourself and no one will care that you are a single mum

Ifyjos:

I make people hair at home

AND WANT TO DESTROY YOUR SISTER....YOU BE THE REAL ENEMY WITHIN ASWEAR... U BETTER CHANGE THAN DEY RUN YOUR MOUTH..YOU WIL;L LIVE TO REGRET YOUR ACTIONS IF YOU DONT CORRECT THEM NOW.PLEASE CORRECT THEM.GOD WILL TOUCH THEM TO FORGIVE YOU.IF HE PUTS YOU FIRST HE SHOULD STABILISE GET A JOB AND MARRY YOU AND CREATE A STABLE HOME FOR HIS DAUGHTER NOT ACTING CHILDISH AND SETTING YOU AGAINST YUR FAMILY.

Ifyjos:
God forbid ,he will never dump me because our love and bond is stronger than ever. My guy is better than most married men here . He is not rich but he put my daughter and I first in the centre of his life

Yustash001:
Hmmmm..... It's really complicated..

Compliwhat.....Op is just plain useless and heartless and stupid. You will reap the consequences of your action soon.

Wait, school fees and other bills will soon come calling. You will soon know who the enemy is, your sis or boy friend?


Silly thing, make sure you inform her about how you ruined her relationship now to see if there can be remedies.

Hain? Your sister? I wonder what you will do if were a friend. . So things like this happen? I'm �

ojun50:
what you did is very bad but if you want to make amends you should start with yr sister fiance, by opening up every tin to him and what lead to yr action..

seriously you wen too far

Damnn too far.

sholay2011:
You slapped your own sister because of your 'boyfriend/husband'?

Then, went further to scatter her relationship/marriage?

After all she did for your child (school fees when your husband can't perform his duty to provide etc.)?

Sister, you are wickedness wrapped in human form. Isaiah 48:22 is for you: "There is NO peace, says the Lord, for the wicked". You'd better repent and find a way to confess your sins because you will surely reap in multiples the seeds you've sown.

Fear human beings...! 'You were happy seeing your sister like that- lose her man, her job, depressed because she insulted "your guy".
Ode, oponu...mumu of the highest order...God will visit judgment on you and that guy that plugged straw on your brain to sip out all the grey matter.

The story even sounds too bad to be true.

A guy that'd probably abandon her later. Lol
Bad move sis
Just try out to her fiancé and confess. Explain why also.

SangoOlukosoOba:


Am actually a guy.

If it was vice versal, nothing will stop me from using that brother for money rituals.

Two wrongs can never make a right nah.

I didn’t finish secondary school and i don’t have SSCE certificate , but I want to learn tailoring so I can be a professional fashion designer , but I’m not working on it yet because I have low self esteem

Gloriagee:
Which is a start. I don't look down on you for that but surely you know you can be a lot more. Do you have your SSCE? Do you want to own a salon? Can you work in an established one so you learn about their processes,
Billing etc?
What are your life goals and how are you working to achieve them? As you can see, even after your sister lost her job and fiance, still your issues remain. Work on bettering yourself and no one will care that you are a single mum

Ifyjos:
to send the letter to her fiancé ?

Yes. Put it all in writing. Your sister's main issue is loss of her fiance. Hope you have found somewhere to live where your sister wont get to you after all is said and done.

It’s not a big deal if we cannot afford her school fees , she will stay at home until the money come but God will provide for us

Alwaysachick:



Compliwhat.....Op is just plain useless and heartless and stupid. You will reap the consequences of your action soon.

Wait, school fees and other bills will soon come calling. You will soon know who the enemy is, your sis or boy friend?


Silly thing, make sure you inform her about how you ruined her relationship now to see if there can be remedies.

Hain? Your sister? I wonder what you will do if were a friend. . So things like this happen? I'm �

Ifyjos:
No I don’t know because I’m not in her shoes and I don’t want to be in her shoes too , I regret my actions and I wish I didn’t do it in the first place , that’s why I came here seeking for advice because I do care and love her so much , I just want her to be happy again

Flimsy thing. Just get out of the site already and go do the right thing .

Ifyjos:
It’s not a big deal if we cannot afford her school fees , she will stay at home until the money come but God will provide for us

My dear go and carry sand and ensure that child is in school don't direct your wickedness to her

I don’t have anywhere to go

Malawian:

Yes. Put it all in writing. Your sister's main issue is loss of her fiance. Hope you have found somewhere to live where your sister wont get to you after all is said and done.

What does having low self esteem have to do with learning tailoring.
When you wake up in the morning,
Tell your self, I am awesome, I am blessed, I am fabulous. Time waits for no one, start the learning as early as you can.

Ifyjos:
I didn’t finish secondary school and i don’t have SSCE certificate , but I want to learn tailoring so I can be a professional fashion designer , but I’m not working on it yet because I have low self esteem

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

There are some spiritual deficiencies in your life which made you get to that extent to hurt your sister. Temperance and longsuffering are key virtue the Holy Spirit gives to people who are in correct relationship with Jesus to enable them with any situation according to the will of God.

First thing first, seek for salvation from sin and the root of bitterness entrenched within you by repenting of your sinful ways and believe in Jesus for the salvation of your soul. Thereafter, you can see your Pastor for counsel.

Do it God's way and it shall be well with you now and in eternity.

Thanks for your suggestions. God bless u

Gloriagee:
What does having low self esteem have to do with learning tailoring.
When you wake up in the morning,
Tell your self, I am awesome, I am blessed, I am fabulous. Time waits for no one, start the learning as early as you can.

Thank you so much

Oluvan:



There are some spiritual deficiencies in your life which made you get to that extent to hurt your sister. Temperance and longsuffering are key virtue the Holy Spirit gives to people who are in correct relationship with Jesus to enable them with any situation according to the will of God.

First thing first, seek for salvation from sin and the root of bitterness entrenched within you by repenting of your sinful ways and believe in Jesus for the salvation of your soul. Thereafter, you can see your Pastor for counsel.

Do it God's way and it shall be well with you now and in eternity.