You might not have intended to rape her, but it's apparent that you like her ; not necessarily sexual likeness, but maybe her being dutifully inclined, her dressing etc.
You will not die but learn from your mistakes and mind your business next time.

If you are saying the truth, it's quite sad. Sorry man.

I don't understand why people feel the need to become fast friends with others just because they are occupying the same space at the time. Heaven wouldn't fall if you had faced your business. She isn't your child that you need to nag into eating.

Next time don't touch people unless you have the green light to do so. Even if they flirt with you, be wise. If you give a lady some distance, it would be difficult for her to frame you for rape.

Carinaflo:


From the story he told, he may not be guilty of rape but he is surely guilty of sexual harrasment.
Guys do not have the right to go about placing their hands on random ladies.
The society needs to educate young guys, we should let them know that touching someone you don't know is a form of harrasment.

Madam why you carry this matter for your head like say na government work.

The OP bleeped up and we all know that but take it easy and mind your business just as you advised the OP.

Face your problem madam because you are not better of than the OP.

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

I want to believe your story but then....why will you even put your hand on a girl you just saw for the first time?....first it is disrespectful and trust a lot of stupid feminist out there will view such as sexual harrasment, please learn to keep a distance with the opposite sex bro except na your babe or wife...u fit even kiss for public...no one will care but to a total stranger to you is a no no....Meanwhile....stop begging your boss, crying made you weak and guilty, you could have stood your ground without a drop of tear.....Best of luck

bamasite2:


You get sense bro.

When I just moved into a new apartment where I was the only single guy, a maid was sent to bring food for me when our landldady was celebrating her birthday.

I wanted to collect the food from her at the door, but she got past me and went into my kitchen to drop the food and drinks. On her way back, this well endowed young lady pressed me against my wardrobe and was planting a kiss on my lips when I pushed her away.

She apologised, though she was angry with me for a long time and got jealous of the ladies that come around me, but that's her case.

I got my respect and a clean name.

Know where to shit!

Correct.

Lorenzop:


I want to believe your story but then....why will you even put your hand on a girl you just saw for the first time?....first it is disrespectful and trust a lot of stupid feminist out there will view such as sexual harrasment, please learn to keep a distance with the opposite sex bro except na your babe or wife...u fit even kiss for public...no one will care but to a total stranger to you is a no no....Meanwhile....stop begging your boss, crying made you weak and guilty, you could have stood your ground without a drop of tear.....Best of luck

tanx guy

stay blessed

You don't have to worry yourself if you didn't did it, relax your mind. God will george boat of you

One was stab to death for playfully touching a female neighbor while yours is sack. Thank your head you weren't stab.our African culture have really affected the way some guys sees the opposite sex,when next you see a lady put your hands to yourself.

virgoquin:
If you had stayed on your own and minded your business you will not be in this mess now.

It is not everyone you see that you will try to strike a conversation with. Sometimes you just have to watch some people from afar.

She wasn't interested in what you were saying but you kept forcing the conversation to take place.

But the two of you do not have any personal relationship before so what pushed you to put your hands on her shoulder, na from clap dance dey take start

My sister, I just tire for the guy, him preek just stand him dey find where to chook am, u asked someone to rest and join you to eat, she no agree... u asked again, she no agree... u still ask again, she no gree!!! And u proceeded to grab her to join u, someone u don't know, seeing for the first time, no relationship whatsoever!!!! Haba, even person when dey sell mama put no dey force people to come chop like that. See wahala... sex starved nigga, got served and he came to Naira land to cry!!! Hahahaha yeye man

U self what is your business with her ? You asked her to rest and eat she refused, you still went ahead to touch her to convince her to rest is it your rest ni?
I don't believe you never had any bad intentions towards her. Why didn't you face your work? why were you so concerned about whether she ate or not?
Na you go find trouble and you got burnt period.
Lesson: Learn to always mind your business dammit.

Dinieoj:
One was stab to death for playfully touching a female neighbor while yours is sack. Thank your head you weren't stab.our African culture have really affected the way some guys sees the opposite sex,when next you see a lady put your hands to yourself.

eheeeen no wonder, it seems like this is one of the major reasons why guys usually fight Mortal Kombat over of ladies

livebyday:


Habba bro he is obviously a liar

Nothing adds up about his story

Forget him , it's probably karma for an act he may have committed in the past and escaped

Hi bro.
In as much as I'll love to appreciate you because you supported me, let's not be harsh on him.
Its not every time that when bad things happen to people it'd karma. Most times, it'd actually to make them wiser and stronger. I'm very sure he won't make this same mistake in the future.

Thats why I said, let's leave it for God. God knows how to vindicate the innocent.
No offense meant sir.
One love

OP you are lucky this did not happen in a sharia country, must u cuddle her to come eat or rest? She has declined your offer twice, yet u insisted on persuading her, a lady u re meeting for the first time, why didnt u mind your business and carry out the instructions left by your boss, instead ur major interest is being a nice guy to ur boss maid.

In UAE where i live, ur action wont only attract immediate sack, it has a jail term and deportion with life ban. So next time mind your business because you dont know the lady past experience with men.

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

Brother, I will tell you the blunt truth. you are very stupid for touching her shoulder JUST to convince her to eat. I wasn't there, but me and you Knows that you must have talked or asked her something, or some eye movements that made her raise an alarm which according to you was false.

Also, why will you be Soo caring to this strange girl, a grown-up too whom you don't even know and before that, you must have known that the girl isn't friendly, so why going extra mile to please. my brother you get plan..you wanted to test the waters but the girl wise pass you.

midnighter:


Lol! Dont mind them dear! Next time take the temperature of the situation so that your actions wont be misunderstood. Try not to force yourself on people, not everybody responds well to touch from a stranger

I dont know what happened to the magical words "Oga no touch me abeg"

The lawyer woman is not serious at all

That's what almost everyone is saying. She overreacted, the boss did too. We knew that op went far with the placing of hand on her shoulder. But the reaction was overkill

ambassadorgozie:
i later begged my boss on whatsapp but all no avail

relax there has been a plot to sack you. U will find another job. She did not even trust u, how can u be her PA.

maasoap:


That's what almost everyone is saying. She overreacted, the boss did too. We knew that op went far with the placing of hand on her shoulder. But the reaction was overkill

Lol the person should just be very careful because the next guy who comes may actually try to sleep with her...will you keep screaming and screaming until Madam sacks all her staff apart from you? Are you the only Househelp on the planet

The boss too should be ashamed of herself, as if nobody in her family has ever touched somebodys shoulder before. If all the men in her life are rapists we dont know anything about it, rubbish

A simple warning or suspension would have sufficed instead of all this kangaroo court conviction

I really don't know why my body, spirit and soul doesn't believe this story or write up. You said u were trying to persuade her to eat and rest and she insisted she isnt, must u stand up and move closer for u to convince her the more.. Who knows whether you have been making passes earlier...Anyway, sorry bruh

nnamdiosu:


Hi bro.
In as much as I'll love to appreciate you because you supported me, let's not be harsh on him.
Its not every time that when bad things happen to people it'd karma. Most times, it'd actually to make them wiser and stronger. I'm very sure he won't make this same mistake in the future.

Thats why I said, let's leave it for God. God knows how to vindicate the innocent.
No offense meant sir.
One love

Okay bro

Have a pleasant evening

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

Dust your CV and get back to the grinding mill. Your last job with the lawyer/politician is a common one where they are always in need of employees so hopefully, you get something pretty soon.

In the future, when someone tells you no, you should respect them and move on.
In Nigeria, we are used to walking up to total strangers, tapping them (sometimes on their arm, shoulder) walking up to strangers on the street, bank, offices and whispering close to their ear all in a bid to get their attention. We do not really understand boundary with strangers and unfortunately, you have learnt the hard way.

Chin up and cheer up. Soon, you will testify and even encourage others who may have found themselves in similar position

2 Females vs 1 Male with Rape been the case? Bro, you can't escape this.
Forget and let go. But don't forget the lessons

stonecoldcafe:


Dust your CV and get back to the grinding mill. Your last job with the lawyer/politician is a common one where they are always in need of employees so hopefully, you get something pretty soon.

In the future, when someone tells you no, you should respect them and move on.
In Nigeria, we are used to walking up to total strangers, tapping them (sometimes on their arm, shoulder) walking up to strangers on the street, bank, offices and whispering close to their ear all in a bid to get their attention. We do not really understand boundary with strangers and unfortunately, you have learnt the hard way.

Chin up and cheer up. Soon, you will testify and even encourage others who may have found themselves in similar position

noted, thank you sir

koyyes:


I doubt that happened. And if it did, thank your demons the girl wasn't related to a lawyer. You would have been someone's b1tch in kirikiri prison by now for attempted rape and assault.

Try it again and see.

u can not jail a shadow.na my mate them dey there,I no fear even death.

The story doesn't add up,there is more to it...Someone is lying

ambassadorgozie:


tanx for understanding,
i will stop being nice especially to women,
dis has really taught me a great lesson

You are still deceiving yourself and sounding childish

alexmakaay:


Brother, I will tell you the blunt truth. you are very stupid for touching her shoulder JUST to convince her to eat. I wasn't there, but me and you Knows that you must have talked or asked her something, or some eye movements that made her raise an alarm which according to you was false.

Also, why will you be Soo caring to this strange girl, a grown-up too whom you don't even know and before that, you must have known that the girl isn't friendly, so why going extra mile to please. my brother you get plan.. you wanted to test the waters but the girl wise pass you.

It depends on what you meant by testing the water. To be close to her, to woo her or to rape her. The first two is not a crime, a stern warning would have done the job. The third one is a no.

Op, Why did you get close to her to convince her to take a break? Such an adult? And which part of the "NO" she said you didn't understand? The "N" or the "O"? You are lucky you only got sacked, next time learn how to mind your business and respect people's space. And don't forget to be more professional and ethical in your next job, if you manage to find another one #nonsense!

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

I smell your boss is part of this..She planned everything..I once worked with a cafe and when it's time to pay after 2 months of working without pay..My boss called us all and planned with one of us a lady who during the meeting claimed that she could not find the gold chain her aunty gave her to deliver to a customer before she came for the meeting..That was how he sacked everyone..I can never work for a one man business..I will rather setup my own biz

Bluepink:


Let's hear Abeg! Some would have Immediate slapped you for that shoulder you touched.

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VeeVeeMyLuv:
pray if u are also an extrovert not to be transfered to the North bcoz dem go dey give u general beating every day. No jokes. Is this how u will be tapping Hajiyas shoulders due to familiarity?

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Sounds funny...

I get y'all...
But the way ladies terrorize guys with allegation is not fair...

This scenario for example..

Some acquaintance must have been established.. Since they are both madam's staff..

Not some completely strange person on the street

DAVE5:



Yes, Her shoulder is her private property

Don't allow every Tom,dick and Harry touch ur girl child in every manner they chose, these days even boy child is endangered species in the hands of paedophile rapists

Yes, It cld be sexual harassment to touch someone on their shoulder especially if it's an opposite sex and they don't know you

Tapping on shoulder to get one's attention should not be a welcome idea especially when you barely know each other, in Lagos markets, people dey carry jazz touch people, be careful

If you tap me on my shoulder and I don't know you, I'd either shout at you or give you a very unpleasant response

Like I said...

It depends on the peculiarity of the situation.

This scenario for example..

Some acquaintance must have been established.. Since they are both madam's staff...
And have been working together since morning.

Not some completely strange person on the street.

If the tables are turned do you think...
He will accuse her of sexual harassment