There are so many signs in our relationship that shows ur partner doesnt truely love u,but we choose to ignore them,the truth remains,a guy that beats u up doesnt love u,a girl that complains about everytin u do,instead of apricatin effort,she say ur not doin enough,she even expects u to give u more than her dad gives her,does not love u,a guy that cheats on u does not love u...a lady that pretends to u,does not love u...a guy that asks u to comit an abortion and put ur life in danger and ur womb at risk,does not love u....

There are a lot of cases i dint mention but the is somein wroge with ur relationship and ur heart tells u ur partner doest love u,listern to ur heart n investigate more about the ish,ave rounded up signs that ur not inlove,,ile talk on wrong reasons for enterin a relationship later ..tnx,and remember.
LOVE is patient
LOVE is kind
LOVE is humble
LOVE honors others
LOVE is not easily angered
LOVE offers forgiveness
LOVE rejoices with the truth
LOVE always protects
LOVE always trusts
LOVE always hopes
LOVE always preseveres.

thank you lovean...I took time and have gone all through your discursion, I must say you are doing a great job here...I have to go straight to the point... there is this girl I love to the point of marrying her, we have dated more than a year now have introduced her to my mum and my other siblings my problem with her is that she has not bought anything for me, I do buy her gift, give her some money when she is in need....it is true she is not getting enough pay in her work place... but buying fruits when visiting will not finish her salary... this her life aspect is really disturbing me cause I don't want to marry a stingy wife...I think she does not love me because if she do I will not remind her to buy something for me just like she didn't remind me, just want to hear from you if her love to me is genuine... thanks

sydney440:
thank you lovean...I took time and have gone all through your discursion, I must say you are doing a great job here...I have to go straight to the point... there is this girl I love to the point of marrying her, we have dated more than a year now have introduced her to my mum and my other siblings my problem with her is that she has not bought anything for me, I do buy her gift, give her some money when she is in need....it is true she is not getting enough pay in her work place... but buying fruits when visiting will not finish her salary... this her life aspect is really disturbing me cause I don't want to marry a stingy wife...I think she does not love me because if she do I will not remind her to buy something for me just like she didn't remind me, just want to hear from you if her love to me is genuine... thanks

my dear this is a tough one.....tnkz alot ,it Gods grace......hmmm,how long have u guys been dating? to me,there's noting wrong in a lady buying something for her man......even if once in two months...uve proposed to her and u guys are about getting married and she has never bought u a tin before?, that's serious ooo...I don't tink that's enough reason to break up ur relationship dough....try n talk to her frnds and ask them what she says about u ,if she loves u,that's nice....but on a serious note ah don't see any reason why a lady can't spend on her man even when he spends on her.....if u don't spend on her that would be a different case.....what about on ur birthdays? dint she ever get u anything? on val,Christmas or sallah ,new year?

pls is religion a criteria for a happy marriage . CNT a Christian gal marry a Muslim guy?

cuteshantel:
pls is religion a criteria for a happy marriage . CNT a Christian gal marry a Muslim guy?

..My dear ,personaly I don't support inter religion marriage because most tyms there is always miss understanding.....and Muslims will not allow a man peace if his married to a practicing Christian.... they will find a way to corrupt the man against it.....but if both of u can agree to not let the issue of religion come between u then ur gud to go....if u can promise and fulfill no matter the odds then its kul...

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lovean:
my dear this is a tough one.....tnkz alot ,it Gods grace......hmmm,how long have u guys been dating? to me,there's noting wrong in a lady buying something for her man......even if once in two months...uve proposed to her and u guys are about getting married and she has never bought u a tin before?, that's serious ooo...I don't tink that's enough reason to break up ur relationship dough....try n talk to her frnds and ask them what she says about u ,if she loves u,that's nice....but on a serious note ah don't see any reason why a lady can't spend on her man even when he spends on her.....if u don't spend on her that would be a different case.....what about on ur birthdays? dint she ever get u anything? on val,Christmas or sallah ,new year?

my brother when I said I have not received a pin from her am indeed saying the truth... she has not given me any thing being gift or buying something when visiting I think I dislike that cos I can just pretend when an issue big as this is disturbing me, in my family we are givers...so people that does not give can't associate with us so I want to end the relationship...

sydney440:
my brother when I said I have not received a pin from her am indeed saying the truth... she has not given me any thing being gift or buying something when visiting I think I dislike that cos I can just pretend when an issue big as this is disturbing me, in my family we are givers...so people that does not give can't associate with us so I want to end the relationship...

wooooow,my bro...that's a serious issue then....honestly,when ladies are inlove ,they do a lot of tinx for their guys even unconvince themselves ....if u say she has never gotten u a present... not even for ur birthday, Christmas/ sallah ,val ....hen hen hen ...then she might not love u ...she may probably have someone else she loves and is spending on.....or maybe she has been hurt in a relationship where she did alot for the guy and he still broke her heart.....I don't want u to take decisions just lyk dat,try n investigate abit.....ask her about her past relationship, ask her if she ever have bought any present for her ex ....and if u get noting from those questions..... go ahead and ask her why she has never bought u a present before... watch her reactions as she answers the question and in all....follow ur heart.

My girl agreed to marry a guy that the dad introduced to her and made sure no other guy came close to her and it was easy doing cause she loves been indoors.. the guy travelled and he stopped communicating with my girl but he kept reaching out to her father once in awhile, so she felt the guy wasn't interested anymore and after we met, we kicked it off... everything has been amazing till the dad reminded her the boy is coming back soon and he will like to get married, she cried and met me, I comforted her and told her to do what she wants and she said it's me and I told her I will never stop loving her.. immediately she went and broke up with the guy officially.. our love kept growing strong till I travelled and we communicated every single day then I reminded her I was still coming to marry her very soon that distance didn't change my plans. I planned giving her a surprise engagement the next year and kick of our marriage plan but only for me to hear the boy is back and the dad is insisting that it must be the guy, that she gave her word and the boy's family knows already bout the marriage... my girl's mum knows me and loves me but her dad doesn't wanna know anything bout me... she's been begging for them to let her marry me but the dad kept refusing that he has already given his word to the other family, that it would be a disgrace to go against it... my girl is scared cos when her dad says no he doesn't go back, she said she's so scared of letting go the best man that she has ever met cos she knows how strong willed her dad could be and she said he's ready to refuse me if she refuse that guy... I'm scared too cos I don't wanna loose her...

Is it bad to propose to a girl a month after u met?

Goldenreflector:
My girl agreed to marry a guy that the dad introduced to her and made sure no other guy came close to her and it was easy doing cause she loves been indoors.. the guy travelled and he stopped communicating with my girl but he kept reaching out to her father once in awhile, so she felt the guy wasn't interested anymore and after we met, we kicked it off... everything has been amazing till the dad reminded her the boy is coming back soon and he will like to get married, she cried and met me, I comforted her and told her to do what she wants and she said it's me and I told her I will never stop loving her.. immediately she went and broke up with the guy officially.. our love kept growing strong till I travelled and we communicated every single day then I reminded her I was still coming to marry her very soon that distance didn't change my plans. I planned giving her a surprise engagement the next year and kick of our marriage plan but only for me to hear the boy is back and the dad is insisting that it must be the guy, that she gave her word and the boy's family knows already bout the marriage... my girl's mum knows me and loves me but her dad doesn't wanna know anything bout me... she's been begging for them to let her marry me but the dad kept refusing that he has already given his word to the other family, that it would be a disgrace to go against it... my girl is scared cos when her dad says no he doesn't go back, she said she's so scared of letting go the best man that she has ever met cos she knows how strong willed her dad could be and she said he's ready to refuse me if she refuse that guy... I'm scared too cos I don't wanna loose her...

I see u love her and u are ready to marry her...all u have to do is man up. ..if both of u are in agreement and she is already willing to take a risk for u...then u should both fight for ur love....if u are financially owkk ...u can marry her with her mums consent ...like a court wedding.. u can even organize a church wedding without her dad knowing since her mum is in support ,lolz that's hard n risky .. .let her mum give u both her blessings..


just fight for ur love...her dad is being selfish and proud.

Iamoilprince:
Is it bad to propose to a girl a month after u met?

no,its not....but make sure u have an aim...a gud aim actually before u ask any lady out...

lovean:
I see u love her and u are ready to marry her...all u have to do is man up. ..if both of u are in agreement and she is already willing to take a risk for u...then u should both fight for ur love....if u are financially owkk ...u can marry her with her mums consent ...like a court wedding.. u can even organize a church wedding without her dad knowing since her mum is in support ,lolz that's hard n risky .. .let her mum give u both her blessings..


just fight for ur love...her dad is being selfish and proud.

It's risky and I don't wanna get married without her dad's consent...

Please I need a very candid advice.
Last night my boyfriend was driving me home, so his phone rang and it was a ladies voice and she called him baby, and he said I will call you back later. So I asked him to drop me this I am feeling uncomfortable that he should pullover, he refused so I opened the door, he stopped and I came down, he follwed me I told him to go and call his baby back, he said its nothing that she just calls him baby, I told him if he follows me again I will scream and people will come out, he begged me to enter the car I refused, I called my elder brother to come pick me up because it was late, so a lady passing saw us and begged me to enter the car which I did and we didnt speak till he drooped me off, I came down. He didnt call me last night, he's yet to call this morning. I dont know what to do, Did I do anything wrong? If the relationship is over let me know so I can move on ASAP.
Waiting for advice from you all.
Thanks

ddcfft:
Please I need a very candid advice.
Last night my boyfriend was driving me home, so his phone rang and it was a ladies voice and she called him baby, and he said I will call you back later. So I asked him to drop me this I am feeling uncomfortable that he should pullover, he refused so I opened the door, he stopped and I came down, he follwed me I told him to go and call his baby back, he said its nothing that she just calls him baby, I told him if he follows me again I will scream and people will come out, he begged me to enter the car I refused, I called my elder brother to come pick me up because it was late, so a lady passing saw us and begged me to enter the car which I did and we didnt speak till he drooped me off, I came down. He didnt call me last night, he's yet to call this morning. I dont know what to do, Did I do anything wrong? If the relationship is over let me know so I can move on ASAP.
Waiting for advice from you all.
Thanks

Sorry am just getting this...u reacted without much confirmation of who the lady was...as for me,I would love to get him red handed so I can easily kill the love and be rest assured afterwards that he was truly cheating.. .. buuuuuuuut...it could actually have been his family member or something and remember he was driving ,driving and operating a set is bad....incase it was non of his family m.. .. .. I go just crase as in why one girl from nowhere go dey call my baeyboo babe


Plus u for try hear em own version of the tori..always try to talk about thing in our relationshi.... communication matters a lot....highest highest if em wan try lie..u go tell am make em call the girl for ur presence then give u the fone.

Me go just be like....gud evening, I am lovean ,Daniel is my bf..the thing is..we kinda got into a quarrel cause of our last phone call so I just want to confirm if u are truly his aunty(loooooooolz)or u fit just politely ask her who she be sha....if name bae.she must surely para.

I no I replied late ...u fit just update me on watin happen sha...

For a social media age; this should be the first relationship advice anyone can get.

Relationship Advice: First for Social Media

Hmmmm

lovean:
Gud morning all,I am lovean and am here to help u in the best way I can with all ur relationship problems,in Nigeria today ,getting into a relationship has been a must for all youths even teenagers too and while doing that we do experience troubles with our partners,well cry no more,brighten up and smile ,I am now here to help u in anyway I can....feel free to ask what ever has been and is troubling u,I will also take lectures every now and then on relationships,the ideal relationships,signs that ur in a wrong relationship, roles of men in a relationship and roles of women in a relationship.... things u must have achieved before u tink of getting into a relationship and lots more.....stay tuned ...tnx..

Are you still on this platform? I had liked to post an issue am having in my relationship here for a counsel...
Am really in need of help

Morning Lovean. I'm into long distance relationship with a lady I clearly made my intention known to her that I want d relationship to lead to marriage by God grace and all things been equal. Before a year , our lovely relationship turned to something else through sudden change in communication. She start to ignored my messages nd begins to complained of busyness in her place of work.
I have talk to her severally but no change. The latest now is if didn't call, she ll never called.
I'm tired, I'm thinking of quiting because it's draining me.

akaahs:
Morning Lovean. I'm into long distance relationship with a lady I clearly made my intention known to her that I want d relationship to lead to marriage by God grace and all things been equal. Before a year , our lovely relationship turned to something else through sudden change in communication. She start to ignored my messages nd begins to complained of busyness in her place of work.
I have talk to her severally but no change. The latest now is if didn't call, she ll never called.
I'm tired, I'm thinking of quiting because it's draining me.

Good morning to you and a happy Sunday to you,am so sorry about that deariii,you should get to meet her and have a serious talk with her,ask her if she still loves you and if she's still interested in the relationship,tell her how you feel about her actions and how they hurt you and make you feel like she doesn't want you any longer,the truth is when long distance relationship becomes like this,its possible someone else's is showing her love and care at her location and she doesn't know how to Break up with you and wants u to do the breaking up..but communication is always key,talk to her first and understand her actions and why.

I wish you all the best dearie

86Vision:


Are you still on this platform? I had liked to post an issue am having in my relationship here for a counsel...
Am really in need of help

good day,yes I am,feel free and sorry for the late reply.

[quote author=lovean post=75372915]Good morning to you and a happy Sunday to you,am so sorry about that deariii,you should get to meet her and have a serious talk with her,ask her if she still loves you and if she's still interested in the relationship,tell her how you feel about her actions and how they hurt you and make you feel like she doesn't want you any longer,the truth is when long distance relationship becomes like this,its possible someone else's is showing her love and care at her location and she doesn't know how to Break up with you and wants u to do the breaking up..but communication is always key,talk to her first and understand her actions and why.

I wish you all the best dearie[/quote
She wouldn't let me come see her and she wouldn't come see me, even this February, I intended going her place but she said no, no reason was given.

Can you share your WhatsApp number or any social media platform?.

I got issues I would love to discuss with you privately

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Too bad then,she doesn't love you...you can make the break up official and move on with your life so u won't be the side man... once she has problem with the person she is seeing now ,she go wan come back ..so just officialize the break up..you will find a better person who loves and appreciate you as well as you do them ...all the best

maxdozie:
Can you share your WhatsApp number or any social media platform?.

I got issues I would love to discuss with you privately

Good morning and a happy new month to you..you can pm me. Thanks

Smiles.

WallsBreaker1:

Relationship problems might make you feel like there is nowhere else to turn to.
Perhaps you don't feel comfortable sharing such personal information with friends and relatives, or you don't trust people with your secrets.
Human touch, love, and affection is all you need. You deserve to be in an healthy relationship where you can feel carefree and happy.
Suicide is not an option. Breaking up should be your last resort.
Ask for help from your relationship counselor now. Feeling depressed is not a way out.
Together we can make it work and bring back your peace and smile.

You could have created your own trend though, I am already counselling those who reached out to me.