Respect55:

Done that long ago

I really do admire your strong stand.

And it paid off for u. Or else she would have nailed u with someone's child.

Take care bro. I too learned to silence those that such treatment apply too.

SilentVboy:
I really do admire your strong stand.

And it paid off for u. Or else she would have nailed u with someone's child.

Take care bro. I too learned to silence those that such treatment apply too.

I just believe my Chi is still much alive. Even at that, I wasn't even going to have her body if this didn't happen. I had always taken charge of things all along.

Respect55:
Some people actually thought I was harsh with the way I ended my relationship with my ex in the past, maybe u will have to retract ur steps after reading this.

For few days now, I have been having some issues with mtly atm card pin. Whenever I want to make withdrawal, the response will be, "maximum pin trial exceeded" whereas I haven't used the card at all. I thought it was network ish so I kept my cool. Normally, I would walk into the bank to withdraw.
Fastfoward to today, I decided to meet with customer care agents inside the bank to reset my pin. I went in, laid my complaint and the lady asked me to join others siting down till it gets to my turn. A familiar voice called me name and it was her. My ex. We exchanged pleasantries like nothing happened.

I didn't notice anything till she got up to be attended to when her time came. She was pregnant. I felt drained. Someone I thought I left a virgin, pregnant? I couldn't believe my eyes.
After sorting her issue out, she came back and sat down. At the far back inside Zenith bank along Psychiatric road.(For those of you in portharcourt).
It later got to my turn after a while and my pin was reseted and everything was cool as I found out later. I wanted to leave and she followed me. When we stepped outside the bank premises, she pleaded if I would excuse her. I did.
She asked if I'm surprised with what I'm seeing, I didn't answer. I was dumbfounded.
She just told me that there was nothing to explain to me me.
She: "There is no need trying to explain anything to you. All I'm saying is that I'm sorry and you should forgive me." She gave in to tears. I managed to keep my cool. "Don't do that" I managed to say to stop her from crying. Then I asked her where she is living to which she said she is still with her parents. "What of the owner of this" I asked making reference to her pregnancy to which she said it's the same guy I saw her with .
I asked why she isn't living with him ans she replied that he absconded when they found out she was pregnant.

I comforted her and tried leaving and she help my hand. I turned and she knelt down at the full glare of passer-bys. I managed to lift her up forcefully when she refused to stand up. We went back to the bank premises, i made a 5k withdrawal with mmy ATM card and gave her to assure her that I bear no grudges and she thanked me.

I tool another route even though we were meant to take same.

I feel pains

Do you see this life? In certain areas, it is not as complicated as people think it is.

I applaud your reaction, Respect55. The girl is already down and you didn't kick her, but you also will not take her back under any circumstances.

I know it must not have been easy for you as you made it seem, but you worked through the grind. May success continue to find you till you tire. Kudos.

Keep being strong bro.

Next2Bezee:


Do you see this life? In certain areas, it is not as complicated as people think it is.

I applaud your reaction, Respect55. The girl is already down and you didn't kick her, but you also will not take her back under any circumstances.

I know it must not have been easy for you as you made it seem, but you worked through the grind. May success continue to find you till you tire. Kudos.

Thank you.
Of a truth, there haven't been any easy moment with me whenever I reflect on what could have being. More difficult is that I'm yet to come to terms as to what I did to deserve this.
Funny world we live in. How everything will seem rossy and easy and the next moment, all crashes to the gutters.
I just took a decision as a man and I allowed reason to come before emotion.
More problems for me because of how I see girls now.
It has not been easy with me all these while. Let me not lie

Respect55:
That's is it. At least I kept to my words. I assured her when we started that if they would ever be any cause for separation, that it wouldn't come from me.

You have earned my respect

Kendumazy:
Keep being strong bro.

It's well

TheExclusive:


You have earned my respect

Respect to u

Respect55:

Respect to u

Hmmm...it will end in praise eventually, hope you're fine though?

luscioustrish:


Hmmm...it will end in praise eventually, hope you're fine though?

I'm coping

Respect55:

I'm coping

it will pass bro. You are a good person no doubt.

Sleevia:
it will pass bro. You are a good person no doubt.

I appreciate. Seeing her serving back seat on sundays break me.

Respect55:

I appreciate. Seeing her serving back seat on sundays break me.

You're a perfect gentleman just like me. But, sometimes, our persona is our weakness especially when those around us are carnivores, they will always seek to break us and devour us.

It's well. Keep being you.

CsRockefeller:


You're a perfect gentleman just like me. But, sometimes, our persona is our weakness especially when those around us are carnivores, they will always seek to break us and devour us.

It's well. Keep being you.

I am best of both worlds.

I used to be extremely cool no matter how provoked but now, despite maintaining that cool headed personality, I take the fight to whomever abuse or take it for granted so much that people now say I have hot temper.

Nothing angers me more like being made a fool.

Respect55:

I appreciate. Seeing her serving back seat on sundays break me.

I know bro. You are already making me feel pity and emotional even when I know of the reverse were to be the case, she will not even feel any pity on you.

My ex NEVER said sorry until after 3 years ONLY because her bet failed. That is what girls do. The never feel pity for the damages of their wrong because their brain is their emotions.

But here you are still feeling sorry for her.

This life sha

Sleevia:
I know bro. You are already making me feel pity and emotional even when I know of the reverse were to be the case, she will not even feel any pity on you.

My ex NEVER said sorry until after 3 years ONLY because her bet failed. That is what girls do. The never feel pity for the damages of their wrong because their brain is their emotions.

But here you are still feeling sorry for her.

This life sha

It's natural to feel pity for someone in an unfortunate condition. One just have to be careful not to turn her undoings into hatred. She did wrong and landed in a poo but u just have to guard ur anger lest it turns to hatred. I feel pity for her because I never hated her.

CsRockefeller:


You're a perfect gentleman just like me. But, sometimes, our persona is our weakness especially when those around us are carnivores, they will always seek to break us and devour us.

It's well. Keep being you.

Very much. She is already down like someone earlier said. No need kicking her. It's true we have parted for ever, but her condition is really pitiable. Even her parents as Sunday school teachers in same Church must be passing through a lot.
Her condition is really pitiable.

Respect55:

It's natural to feel pity for someone in an unfortunate condition. One just have to be careful not to turn her undoings into hatred. She did wrong and landed in a poo but u just have to guard ur anger lest it turns to hatred. I feel pity for her because I never hated her.

Yeah, the ex I talked about in the post before this comment of yours resulted in me hating women for 3 years. She couldn't understand why I could not forgive her. And to make matter worse, she did her nonsense around same time I lost my mum and it was damn painful.

Sleevia:


Yeah, the ex I talked about in the post before this comment of yours resulted in me hating women for 3 years. She couldn't understand why I could not forgive her. And to make matter worse, she did her nonsense around same time I lost my mum and it was damn painful.

Sorry for the loss. My condolences.
I can attest to what u are saying. The way I look at girls now has totally changed. I just pray it doesn't turn to hatred too because such mindsets have the tendency of following one into marriage

Respect55:

I appreciate. Seeing her serving back seat on sundays break me.

Seems you guys still attend the same church. Right? Why not look for another church to attend for the main time or permanently in order to quicken your healing process. What is actually breaking you down is the sight of the pregnancy in her. Bro, you are strong though and you have been strong enough to this point but this her pregnancy stage is harder for you than the cheating stage if i must be honest with you. Please, help yourself to stop seeing her for a very long time. This will quicken your healing process.

Kendumazy:


Seems you guys still attend the same church. Right? Why not look for another church to attend for the main time or permanently in order to quicken your healing process. What is actually breaking you down is the sight of the pregnancy in her. Bro, you are strong though and you have been strong enough to this point but this her pregnancy stage is harder for you than the cheating stage if i must be honest with you. Please, help yourself to stop seeing her for a very long time. This will quicken your healing process.

I have healed.
Can't change church because of her. Actually it's no more because of me, I just pity her. She might not get back to her best to be honest with u. I'm strong

Respect55:

I have healed.
Can't change church because of her. Actually it's no more because of me, I just pity her. She might not get back to her best to be honest with u. I'm strong

Good to hear that. Stop pitying her. Program your mind to start seeing it as it's her loss rather than pitying her. All the very best!

Kendumazy:


Good to hear that. Stop pitying her. Program your mind to start seeing it as it's her loss rather than pitying her. All the very best!

This is lovely. I appreciate

Respect55:

Sorry for the loss. My condolences.
I can attest to what u are saying. The way I look at girls now has totally changed. I just pray it doesn't turn to hatred too because such mindsets have the tendency of following one into marriage

Just control it. There are still good girls out there, just rare.

Also, make sure the next girl is one with independent mindset and like to hustle like you are doing.

We often get into problems when we start dating girls who are not doing anything but hoping Alan will drop from the sky to magically take away all her problems. Those kind of girls are Always a problem as soon as you start footing bills.

Sleevia:


Just control it. There are still good girls out there, just rare.

Also, make sure the next girl is one with independent mindset and like to hustle like you are doing.

We often get into problems when we start dating girls who are not doing anything but hoping Alan will drop from the sky to magically take away all her problems. Those kind of girls are Always a problem as soon as you start footing bills.

Local man is not doing again bro.
Time for marriage o will just pick one and hope for the best.

Respect55:

Local man is not doing again bro.
Time for marriage o will just pick one and hope for the best.

Don't just pick one, pick the best. Many rubbish are out there these days. Sincerely, I like your composure. You will make a great husband and father.

Respect55:

Local man is not doing again bro.
Time for marriage o will just pick one and hope for the best.

that is risky bro. Very risky...

You can't just pick a girl and get married to her...

Even my current girlfriend, by God's grace, we are going to have a serious talk in a few months time.

CsRockefeller:


Don't just pick one, pick the best. Many rubbish are out there these days. Sincerely, I like your composure. You will make a great husband and father.

the way he handled the whole thing is what I love the most. I don't have that patience under such circumstances, except I was not too invested in the girl.

Sleevia:
that is risky bro. Very risky...

You can't just pick a girl and get married to her...

Even my current girlfriend, by God's grace, we are going to have a serious talk in a few months time.

Even if you date her for 10 years, girls always have that opportunistic mindset, they will keep displaying one attitude or the other.

Even twins quarrel, talk more of girlfriend. There will always be issues.

Sleevia:
that is risky bro. Very risky...

You can't just pick a girl and get married to her...

Even my current girlfriend, by God's grace, we are going to have a serious talk in a few months time.

I know it's risky but that's why I said I would hope for the best.
Happy to hear yours is going fine.

Hey man, how are you doing? Been a year already, I think? How is life and how is the lady?

I trust you are stronger than ever now. Thanks for sharing this amazing story.

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

she doesn't deserve you, forget about her.