There is no formula to getting married , just do tombom tombom and leave the rest to almighty.

The reason i want to get married is to be cared for when I'm old. Imagine you don't have a wife, no kids and you are 89,who would take care of u? Ur brother's children Or househelp? Plan for your future. Life isn't a bed of roses. Marriages faces difficulties. Its just how you deal with it

Oh

hooha:
Today you hear of bridal shower, lovely wedding, wedding in Dubai, men in Black, she is my queen, he is my hero, bla bla bla. Then tomorrow, you hear of divorce: she is a devil, he is a dog, he is a wife beater, she is a beast, I didn't know she was a witch, I didn't know he has STD, bla bla bla bla. That is why you really need to do a proper check before you marry. In those days where many people were good, you could easily pick a guy or a lady, and marriage will work out. But today that is filled with hypocrisy, you ought to be careful.

I will show you things that you mustn't skip before you marry your fiance or fiancee.

(1) Test of Love: Until you love and get loved, and until the love begins to flow without energy, before you can say you are good to go. If you still put pressure trying to impress your partner to love you, please pause first. Something is wrong somewhere. But when the love flows sweatlessly and selflessly, then you may proceed to marry.

(2) Test of Fidelity: Some people love, but they are promiscuous. But promiscuity is not a characteristics of true love. So if your partner is a promiscuous cheat, pause the wedding. You can take the person for spiritual rehabilitation or deliverance before you proceed with wedding.

(3) Test of Time: Everything, no matter how sweet, palatable and enticing it may look like, can only be validated with time. So no matter how you love your partner or how your partner wishes to marry you, give it the test of time. Give it time to see if whatever you feel or whatever is shown is real. As they normally say "time will tell".

(4) Test of Peace: No matter the sweetness of any relationship, if there is an internal tension of the mind, please go back to God to ask questions. Until you have true and persistent peace, don't marry that person. When the peace is sure, go and marry.

(5) Test of Availability: Whoever tells you there is time for love and time for serious business is not a good partner for you. Love has no schedule! Until you have much access to enjoying your partners availability, don't marry. When I talk about availability here, I don't mean that your partner may not be in situations were you cannot access each other, but even when such situations come, you will still see the urge to be together; not that he or she will be operating an intentional love on schedule.

(6) Test of Tolerance: Until your imperfections are swallowed and until you are able to swallow the imperfections of your partner, don't marry yet.. It is good to have a large heart, but if you find it so difficult to take some things from your partner, do not marry yet until you are able to take it. Marriage is a very long journey.

(7) Medical Test: Don't assume your partner is good and you trust yourselves. Seek necessary medical tests before marriage.

May God help you to have a successful marriage with a God-fearing person.

Wonderful

YorubaNinja:
Awon adviser.. Africans and their foolish mentality!

Na ONLY Africans dey do medical test as a condition for marriage which makes it conditional love. 'True love' loves unconditionally. I'm even surprised 9ja churches dey encourage all this medical test prior to marriage. Should I be surprised? 98% of them are fake churches anyway. That shows their level of faith. God is love and love above everything else.... Not in a place like 9ja where poverty and wealth determines everything.

In developed worlds, they love unconditionally regardless of the their partner's medical condition. Some even go ahead to marry their partners on their death beds.

you are just at right with your position but I remind you, Nigeria isn't Canada, Poland, Peuto Rico, etc .. Love is a beautiful thing but not in Nigeria where people worship money which suppose to be the other way around.

Ain’t a Christian so I didn’t bother reading . Someone should gist me what they wrote

Nice write up.


but, I still find it hilarious when we skip certain points that are very crucial in relationship.

some people always hide from talking about sexuality.

if you talk all the good and bad sides of a relationship and you leave out talkin about sexual compatibility, you appear to me as a hypocrite.


talk about sexual satisfaction; sexual compatibility.




dick size and pussy size matters a lot, too.

This is a nice one

toplinetrtrend:


Lolz. Paul was married. He even had a daughter by his wife. The eagerness for the Gospel caused him to desert all

Ah! That would be bad!

kingsleyugo41:
where is ur location, let see if we are compatible am also ready to settle down

I’m in Imo State. If you have email, we can communicate through there.

They're there to protect excessive breeze into your body

IsraelOA:
Sometimes, I wonder why hair grow on our yansh sef...

These are things and much more that you mus fix in place before, must you be told everything?

AntiChristian:
No verses at all. And Jesus and Paul didn't get married so no be compulsory to get married self!

Even Jeremiah no marry

Worth reading

Amanda4life:



1.Fertility test.

2.How many children you want to have test

3. Do you think you can deal with not having a male child test.

4.what if a baby doesn't come between us , would you go for a second wife test , or be testing yourself with other men, or Ladies test.

5. What if baby doesn't come between us, what will be our next step to have babies part from IVF.

6.Would you be okay to adopt.

7.What's your stand for adoption.

8. Your family's stand on all these alternative.


These are things I see people go through in marriages

You have valid points

nice write up

Wise words

Wise words

Vasgas:

Not at all,
Happy Sunday

You too

Thanks

Sammarshall:
Op, thanks so much. You said it well.
I’m ready for marriage but I don’t even have a boyfriend, hahaha

I have prayed to God that if is his wish that I should get married, let him send my husband before am 30yrs old.

You are not ready !!

because thingz dey happen

This is very vital information, nice one op

I have a question pls...
95% of Christian stays with fiancée some even have kids or pregnancy b4 concluding if there will b marriage. What's d position of Christianity on "getting to know each oda" thru staying together as couples to be?

Sammarshall:


I’m in Imo State. If you have email, we can communicate through there.

Am also from Imo call me with 08174187320

kingsleyugo41:
Am also from Imo call me with 08174187320

Wow! You’re very comfortable putting your personal information on a public domain.

Why does it feel strange to me?

I’m sorry am not interested in contacting you, sorry for wasting your time.

I’m sure someone else will pick your number and call you.

This is very good mostly likely complete. I just need to remind people, the op said as christians, meaning in addition to all of these, have Christ and seek his consent too. Then, you are very good to go.

Sammarshall:


Wow! You’re very comfortable putting your personal information on a public domain.

Why does it feel strange to me?

I’m sorry am not interested in contacting you, sorry for wasting your time.

I’m sure someone else will pick your number and call you.

you are not serious what is the difference between phone number and email address so someone can't use email to contact me alright? have a nice day.

kingsleyugo41:
you are not serious what is the difference between phone number and email address so someone can't use email to contact me alright? have a nice day.

Thanks

But try to research the difference between the both because it might make you smarter!

Sammarshall:


Thanks

But try to research the difference between the both because it might make you smarter!

Now listen, my email is more important to me than this number. Because I don't even use this number no body even has the number I have my main line that is why I gave it to you, but my email l don't give it out anyhow to people because l use it for my online business and my PayPal account to avoid fraud as an IT person I can tell you how easy to hack someone's account with email address.

kingsleyugo41:
Now listen, my email is more important to me than this number. Because I don't even use this number no body even has the number I have my main line that is why I gave it to you, but my email l don't give it out anyhow to people because l use it for my online business and my PayPal account to avoid fraud as an IT person I can tell you how easy to hack someone's account with email address.

You’re right!
But someone can say creating a temporary email is right too. But you have won the quarrel�