JJAbrams:
Hello Nairalanders. I am a regular here as a reader but not much as a writer. However some issues just came up and I will appreciate your advise on how to go by this towards a solution.

I am a single guy. 28 years old of age, should have married last year but relationship ended. I stay in my 3-Bedroom apartment alone. I don't have much friends and I don't enjoy the idea of people staying with me. But I broke this rule for a close cousin who is like a brother to me. For a year now he has been staying with me.

This guy is nice, no negative vices like stealing or womanizing. However I noticed he takes quite some small bottle local drinks like Orijin and some unbranded ones. I dont believe in advising a grown man so I just tell him to take it easy sometimes and joke about it. By the way, he is 24 years old. 6 months after he began staying with me, he lost his job. I thought he would go back home and be staying but he kept staying with me. So he would be at home 24/7 eat my food and not even contribute and this began getting irritating to me. But I kept cool. A month after that, one of my neighbors called me and told me, she doesn't want to report to the landlord but the weed smoking has to stop. I was surprised but she said she knows it is not me neither is she accusing but I should do something about it she has kids shes raising. Then I confronted my cousin, he denied it and when I pushed, he began getting angry and aggressive. I then took calm, I had passed my message, so even if he does it he doesn't smoke in the house ever again. Lately, I have been observing in this guy's character that he has not been serious on getting a job. His dressing is becoming haggard and he borrows from me but never pays back.

Recently I got to meet this nice chic who comes and stays the weekend. So last Saturday morning, as I went to the gym she decided to do an indoor environmental of my house. When I got back the house was squeaky clean, she cleaned all the rooms. All but some paper wraps and a transparent pack of weed on the table. She accused me of being the user when I told her it only had to be my cousin who wasnt around that day. I now went into the room I let to this guy, scanned through places he could hide more wraps so I can use as evidence so it stops it until I saw a transparent pipe with a burnt end. As in those pipes used for titration in secondary school chemistry. . I was like do they use this for weed too, then the babe immediately shouted "chai, this one na serious case oo". Na for cocaine o. She then corrected herself that its for crystal meth. She worked with NDLEA during her youth service and was enlightened on this. So that is how she sat me down and told me how addictive this stuff is.

After she enlightened me, I further investigated on this and even the side-effects now began giving a perfect explanation to the irresponsible lifestyle and the least concern for his appearance. I heard it is a critical issue and taking this substance regularly can permanently affect his brains. He should be coming back from Abraka in a week's time. This guy is family to me. We spent some childhood together and I am not ready to see him a waste. I'll love to hear what is the best approach on this putting in mind that CRYSTAL METH ABUSE IS AN ERMERGENCY. In the meanwhile I have come to terms with the reality that the money I borrowed this guy for a small business in the past is gone. Options on hand are taking this issue to the family or trying to enforce he stops by speaking with him. I just dont know. Now is about making sure his life does not go to the dogs. Thank you.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Weed is good

But crystal meth or Methamphetamine is bad

NOC1:
Lol, i love responsible people that weed.

he probably started this because of idleness, he now found love in the things he hate.

try talk to him, be patient with him and encourage him. 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says 'admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted help the weak, be patient with everyone"

JJAbrams:
Hello Nairalanders. I am a regular here as a reader but not much as a writer. However some issues just came up and I will appreciate your advise on how to go by this towards a solution.

I am a single guy. 28 years old of age, should have married last year but relationship ended. I stay in my 3-Bedroom apartment alone. I don't have much friends and I don't enjoy the idea of people staying with me. But I broke this rule for a close cousin who is like a brother to me. For a year now he has been staying with me.

This guy is nice, no negative vices like stealing or womanizing. However I noticed he takes quite some small bottle local drinks like Orijin and some unbranded ones. I dont believe in advising a grown man so I just tell him to take it easy sometimes and joke about it. By the way, he is 24 years old. 6 months after he began staying with me, he lost his job. I thought he would go back home and be staying but he kept staying with me. So he would be at home 24/7 eat my food and not even contribute and this began getting irritating to me. But I kept cool. A month after that, one of my neighbors called me and told me, she doesn't want to report to the landlord but the weed smoking has to stop. I was surprised but she said she knows it is not me neither is she accusing but I should do something about it she has kids shes raising. Then I confronted my cousin, he denied it and when I pushed, he began getting angry and aggressive. I then took calm, I had passed my message, so even if he does it he doesn't smoke in the house ever again. Lately, I have been observing in this guy's character that he has not been serious on getting a job. His dressing is becoming haggard and he borrows from me but never pays back.

Recently I got to meet this nice chic who comes and stays the weekend. So last Saturday morning, as I went to the gym she decided to do an indoor environmental of my house. When I got back the house was squeaky clean, she cleaned all the rooms. All but some paper wraps and a transparent pack of weed on the table. She accused me of being the user when I told her it only had to be my cousin who wasnt around that day. I now went into the room I let to this guy, scanned through places he could hide more wraps so I can use as evidence so it stops it until I saw a transparent pipe with a burnt end. As in those pipes used for titration in secondary school chemistry. . I was like do they use this for weed too, then the babe immediately shouted "chai, this one na serious case oo". Na for cocaine o. She then corrected herself that its for crystal meth. She worked with NDLEA during her youth service and was enlightened on this. So that is how she sat me down and told me how addictive this stuff is.

After she enlightened me, I further investigated on this and even the side-effects now began giving a perfect explanation to the irresponsible lifestyle and the least concern for his appearance. I heard it is a critical issue and taking this substance regularly can permanently affect his brains. He should be coming back from Abraka in a week's time. This guy is family to me. We spent some childhood together and I am not ready to see him a waste. I'll love to hear what is the best approach on this putting in mind that CRYSTAL METH ABUSE IS AN ERMERGENCY. In the meanwhile I have come to terms with the reality that the money I borrowed this guy for a small business in the past is gone. Options on hand are taking this issue to the family or trying to enforce he stops by speaking with him. I just dont know. Now is about making sure his life does not go to the dogs. Thank you.

CanadaOrBust:


U r not getting paid for most things u enjoy or are invested in

Lexusgs430:



You need to get a life....... Same bullshit, just a different day........

tobby20:

You are weird.. First thing u talking bout your love for people that smoke
Now u preaching
Like htf does it relate

Skodiswayze:
This is Banku �

Ogilinsaka:
I am not sure. But he's into substance abuse. He's in Lagos, Nigeria

error4040:
@JJAbrams That’s not a Meth pipe but for CK (crack cocaine). Please and please I take God beg you try and speak some sense to him if possible Help get him a job Please!. I have been there and out bro so I know what am saying because I have seen where CK sink 300k in a Day!!! Here is a summery: CK is very Addictive the funniest part is when you are Burning it you won’t feel the Cruz but the last Burning would give you Cloud feelings. then the thoughts of where to get money to buy would set in, if you don’t handle that thought in time the itching would start. the above attached images is a Pinch of CK worth N5000 and the above is just 3-4 Pipe Burning, All the Best!

Shibaraba:
Sorry about that.
Addiction is usual fuelled by depression. You cousin is probably using those drugs to "calm himself down" not knowing he is destroying his life. I've been there man, having something, living the life and suddenly everything disappears. Chose to find solace in something else. My own wasn't drugs though, but it nearly ruined me.
How I healed? Love. Refrain from giving him cash but always talk to him. Yarn generally. Call him at odd times. Help him look for a job if that's possible. He needs to get his spark and mojo back. Once he does the addiction will ultimately fizzle out.
Have patience but be firm. If he no gree hear brother send him back home. If anything happens to him you will be held responsible .

error4040:
@JJAbrams That’s not a Meth pipe but for CK (crack cocaine). Please and please I take God beg you try and speak some sense to him if possible Help get him a job Please!. I have been there and out bro so I know what am saying because I have seen where CK sink 300k in a Day!!! Here is a summery: CK is very Addictive the funniest part is when you are Burning it you won’t feel the Cruz but the last Burning would give you Cloud feelings. then the thoughts of where to get money to buy would set in, if you don’t handle that thought in time the itching would start. the above attached images is a Pinch of CK worth N5000 and the above is just 3-4 Pipe Burning, All the Best!

JJAbrams:


A psychiatric health worker confirmed the same to me. Thanks for your advice. I plan bringing his family into this or could matured man to man talk resolve this? Hoping for your response.

error4040:
Hello Good morning, sorry I did not give a reply to you previous mention. I did that for personal reasons, My advice is for you to sit him down and try speak some sense into him and get him a job(very important) so he won’t be idle. Why I suggest this method is { JK (Junkies) Pardon my Language} mostly are Suffering from depression. Your cousin is probably using it to "calm himself down" not knowing he is destroying his life. And they (JK) also Hate whenever someone act as if they are Better than them. Like involving his family would make you look like a snitch to him, Because all his thinking would be You could not speak to him first instead you contacted someone else discussing his affairs. If still after sitting him down and also help getting a job for him no Changes then kindly involve His parents. Thank You.

bolajim17:

Mr @error4040 please can I have a private chat with you.. very urgent

lugo99:
bad guy, u sabi d local botanical name,. we always say "chop banku and kuu"..

error4040:
Hello, can I have a HINT on what you need to Discuss with me ? Thank You.

bolajim17:

Ok. I saw something similar to the pictures shared with someone close to me. I need some clarifications from you just to be sure of what I saw, so that I can know the next step to take.