kunleweb:



Amebo. You be man o

budaatum:
Depends what sorts of people you are and what you talking about.

I'm not into I just wanted to hear your voice or what you up to. I'll ignore texts and grunt monosyllables on phone.

Want talk? In my face. Unless got interesting stuff to talk about.

Michellekabod2:
just wanted to get it right. I don't know what it feels like to love someone or show affection. Wanna learn how to love. I realised people show love by calling/texting. So I wanna know what's normal and not. So I don't undercall/overcall.

I am yet to be in a relationship, but I think I will be ready for a relationship end of this year/begining of next year(have a lot of issue to settle for now). And I want to learn communication so when I enter there will be no issue with it.


PS:if am to call based on my feeling then it will be once a month(under calling).

vicben27:
l've been in a long distant relationship for four years now. our intro. is this month ending our wedding is in a few months time, l and my spouse talk like 6 to 8 times a day! that has really helped us greatly this past few years. communication is vital in every relationship ,understanding is pivotal too.

Michellekabod2:
wow..congrats to you. Love is a beautiful thing.

I don't mean to probe into your personal life with my questions but wanna have an idea of what it feels like to be in a committed relationship (as I intend to go into one soon and its also long distance)
1)who initiates the call/text? You or your fiancee?
2) how often do you see physically based on the distance? (In my case we are 12-14 hours apart)...

I know every relationship is unique,but I assume you are speaking from experience and your response will give me clues on what to expect.

Romeo3:
So you don't even know anything about relationships and you'll be dishing out disastrous advice on how to treat and be with a man.

Michellekabod2:


I asked you to provide proof of where I said
Women that earn more are the head,you goofed up,refused to accept your vanquish and move on.
Rather you vanished like a puff of smoke then checked my posts to look for what to pin me down with as "proof",you find nothing and
decided to create a strawman.

Romeo3:
Wannabe antimen feminist that knows shit about anything. Let me catch you giving useless opinion on this forum again.

Michellekabod2:
am done with this conversation. Get a life. I will never quote you,kindly do likewise. Thanks

Romeo3:
I'll quote you whenever I catch you giving a stupid opinion.

Lesson one. You don't tell a man what to do.

Michellekabod2:
you are not a man,you are a pant.

So I will tell you what to do.

Michellekabod2:
you are not a man,you are a pant.

Michellekabod2:
wow..congrats to you. Love is a beautiful thing.

I don't mean to probe into your personal life with my questions but wanna have an idea of what it feels like to be in a committed relationship (as I intend to go into one soon and its also long distance)
1)who initiates the call/text? You or your fiancee?
2) how often do you see physically based on the distance? (In my case we are 12-14 hours apart)...

I know every relationship is unique,but I assume you are speaking from experience and your response will give me clues on what to expect.

vicben27:
it wasn't really easy at first, she was just 22years( 100level) and l was 28years( just rounded up my Nysc then). l meet with her parents after 6months of constant communication and commitment. the condition they gave me was that, l would let her finish school before marriage which l agreed, because I new shez my wife, it's been rough and good, we've had our ups and downs, with every misunderstanding and quarrel we had, we got a better understanding of each other. many people told me she will dump my ass after graduation( even on this forum) but God is helping Us.

to answer ur questions.

(a) at first l do more of the calling and texting(she was not the type that was into much calling and texting. but she changed as we got deeper, the calling and texting was on equal balance. we have a special sim CUG we use for that soo we can talk up to 5hours if we want too, sometimes we talk for 2hours straight( subscription is just #600 a month and you can talk all you want that has helped alot)
(b) she visits or l visit when we are both chanced, maximum length of months being apart 4months, if you are both sexual active, it's important you both see each other to Bond once in a while since you are both committed and not dating other individuals.


for a long distant relationship to succeed the followings are very important.

(1) you both have to know what you want and try to be on the same wave length.
(2) Love,understanding and commitment is vital
(3) communication is vital too at list 4 times each day, you both shear how ur day went and all
(4) always discuss about ur Future together, the things you hope to accomplish, how you picture ur family and all
(5) avoid external interference. there is no ultimate formula for a successful relationship just know what's morally right and stick to it.
(6) encourage each other at all times.
(7) keeping too many male or female Friends will make you both loss focus( too many distractions)
( avoid that so call bestie scrap it usually spoils every thing
(9) quarrel once in a while it gives you a Better understanding of Who you are hoping to spend the rest of ur life with. that should be done with wisdom Sha no fights( if you observe or see what you know is not morally right speak out soo ur partner can have a better understanding.)
(10) it's Ok to be wrong we can't be right all the time. there is no point in winning every argument.
(11) always respect ur partner, in his presence and absence, don't do things you know both of you won't condone.
(12) the truth is, love is hardwork, but when you both are committed there no mountain you can't climb.
) always commit ur ways to God and He will definitely see you through.