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Dump her and go make money.

Op, u deserve better

Is that why u are crying?




I swear u be fowl Toto...such a weakling

U see am now? when they tell u guys not to venture into a relationship while u are still struggling financially una no go hear. u ppl will be talking bullcrap of how love conquers all. Do u know what those small small money ranging from 2-5k u used to give her can do for u if saved overtime? Truth is u will struggle more if u dare venture into a relationship when u are not financially stable as a man. Too much pressure, no peace of mind, suspicion here and there. Infact if u were meant to stabilize in 2 years, it will take u additional 2-3 yrs becos of ur relationship. A lady can be 16, and broke but will still have a wonderful relationship but not so for a 30 yr old man. Get hold of ur emotions buddy. Na friends with benefits sure pass now cos body no be firewood. Friends with benefit too sweet abeg.

Na which kind yeye marriage una dey discuss when una never fit handle ordinary boyfriend/girlfriend matter?

Ogah my advice for u in order to escape un timely is to japa

You don't have to blame her......


Alot of times, we find ourselves dating someone we had high hopes of helping us and it turns out the other way.

Op, your girl needs someone with some qualities that you don't have and that alone is a burden on her.



The compatibility is not there.... Talk to her, renew your future plans and try to include her, make plans for her and she will readjust her stance on the relationship.


And stop including her friend whenever you have issues with your woman.

MonTaNa92:
I will make this a brief as possible.. I need ur honest advice pls.

I was into business when i met her some years back, i was doing fine and i needed some money to add up to take a very huge step forward in my business, i seek help from her and she refused to help me despite having the power to help.I never knew she has the money then, i just tried my luck, after about 2years, she confessed to me that, she doesn't want to help me because, i haven't gained her trust then.. I said fine, i let it go without using it against her..
My business suffered for it,and i was struggling again, doing some part-time salary work..

After some time, she told me about gaining admission into Polytechnic,with her expecting me to say i will help her blah, blah, blah, but instead i said God will see her through..
I never wanted to spend on a girls education not even when am not done with mine as well, especially for the fact that she has her two parents who are hale and hearty and my own both parents were late.. I was all alone..

Although, i used to give her money that are not much like 5k etc.. But, it's never enough, she will complain and i really hate complaining alot because am a man of few words and i got pissed off at such act.

So recently, i was in a financial mess and she has few cash with me, and i never knew she will need it anytime soon. Then suddenly, she said she will need the money the following day, It was very easy for me to get back the money but i just have to tell her this.. Babe, i have used this money o, but u never told me u will need it so soon,..
As if she has been expecting me to say this.. She flared up bigtime, i was dumbfounded, she said all sort of things to me, she was very disrespectful in her utterances, all diz she does via WhatsApp voicenotes.. I felt so bad.. I made her understand i will provide it back before the day she needed it.. Which i did..

She never wanted to believe she was wrong with her utterances, so i decided to send those voicenotes to her best friend and the girl was like.. And so what?even If i used her money, she is not supposed to react in such manner.. The girl also blamed me for using the money and i concur i was wrong, and i apologize already..

We ended the quarel and i told her i don't like d way she talks, she apologize, then another issue came up.. She was so quick to show more stupidity again with the way she talks, she keep doing this over and over again.. I don't think i can deal with this kind of attitude..

Mind u, this is a girl that has threatened to break up with me because i wasn't helping her financial issues all the time..For instance, she ask 10k, i may end up giving her 5k.. She knew i was struggling, but she never want to understand if i have all the money, i would have provided it..

We used to talk about marriage and all, but right not am not sure i can settle for this type of girl.. Not that i have another gf at the moment, but am loosing my feelings for her gradually.

Pls, ignore my grammatical blunders and all.. I need ur serious advice on this.. My love for her is dying gradually..

Some of you can ask some really funny questions oooo

You guys are not married, you've identified traits about her character you dont like.... And you are here in Nairaland asking WHAT SHOULD I DO?

you are like that brother that went to LG store to buy TV, you find out that the TV is black n white, you went outside to asked passerby If you should buy the TV..... BROS, THE THING MAKE SENSE?

As long as you guys are not married,why should you deal with her?

Ogbeni! Wake Uppp!!

I guess I will never understand why a man will be paying any money to a woman he is not married to; whether she is grateful for it or not. Bro, the courting stage is not a stage at which you should spend any money. At this stage, she should be the one trying to impress you that she is worthy of your admitting her to your home, not the other way around.

This one is a gone case. Dump her then go and sin no more; by not making any such financial dealings in your next courtship.

You are just her sugar daddy bro. She won't even think it twice to dump you when she finds someone richer.


You need no man or God's direction to know what to do. Because it is already very very visible to the blind.


Why do we have to suffer these kind of emotional trauma's for ladies that clearly do not value us.

Like people advised, focus all your energy in getting back to your feet. When I was in the university, I had most ladies do same thing over people who are already working.

By the time, I left the university, things changed so fast, I went back to them, took my three points and left. In fact, I turned them to FWB while they see me progress speedily in life and regret their decisions.

I bring beers & food for all the singles in this thread, let's relax, drink and eat while we can.

Op you said you'll be "Brief" and you call all that epistle "Brief?

Let us hear her own side of the story first. You excluded and deleted your own part.

ecstasy357:



Some of you can ask some really funny questions oooo

You guys are not married, you've identified traits about her character you dont like.... And you are here in Nairaland asking WHAT SHOULD I DO?

you are like that brother that went to LG store to buy TV, you find out that the TV is black n white, you went outside to asked passerby If you should buy the TV..... BROS, THE THING MAKE SENSE?

TVs,have no emotions. Humans do. Borrow sense.

ideabuilder:
Dump her and go make money.

You think it's easy to make money in Nigeria? Ask any struggling guys they will tell you in case I f you are swimming in money.

You're not sure you can settle for a girl you give 5k to and she's only complaining? That girl is a rear, better pamper her and appreciate her. Her type is almost instinct.

5k x 12= 60k

No wonder, you are struggling. Kontinu...with your mumuness

Digmygold:


TVs,have no emotions. Humans do. Borrow sense.

Certainly not gonno borrow from u..... peeps like will keep coming back here to ask stupid questions, WE AT THE CHURCH, SHOULD I SAY I DO?

There's only one way. Run!

If you can only make it for our covenant day of open doors at the living faith church winners chapel tomorrow Sunday at the nearest one close to u or cananland Ota if u live in lagos.. Time is 7:45 and 9:30am service. God will give u wisdom to handle relationships and every aspect of ur life u need his touch. Make it a date and return with the key to being an overcomer

Stop stressing yhurself unnecessarily...if yhu can't cope with her excessive nagging... quit nah..

Cause yhu sound fed up

ecstasy357:


Certainly not gonno borrow from u..... peeps like will keep coming back here to ask stupid questions, WE AT THE CHURCH, SHOULD I SAY I DO?

Borrowing from an imbecilic goat will do because apparently that kinda brain is betrer than being a numbskull.

You have no feelngs nor emotions doesnt mean we all have to be like you.

grossintel:
You're not sure you can settle for a girl you give 5k to and she's only complaining? That girl is a rear, better pamper her and appreciate her. Her type is almost instinct.

Is he her Dad?

Op the relationship is dead on arrival since the day she said, she had money but didn't borrow u out of trust issues.

Just breakup and move on.

Dating her no be byforce. It's not working. Both of u will keep hurting yourselves further.

So stop! And let go

FunnyDude:


Is he is Dad?

Is she his mother fo borrow him money for his biz?

Can't he walk to the bank?

Digmygold:


Borrowing from an imbecilic goat will do because apparently that kinda brain is betrer than being a numbskull.

You have no feelngs nor emotions doesnt mean we all have to be like you.

You would know which brain is better, right?! I do fancy ya experience but I dont wanna live ya kinda life.

I dont want u to be like me, that's too difficult for you. Just don't do stupid, that shit is easier.

ecstasy357:


You would know which brain is better, right?! I do fancy ya experience but I dont wanna live ya kinda life.

I dont want u to be like me, that's too difficult for you. Just don't do stupid, that shit is easier.

I know the difference because a wise man can see through a numbskull who spews trash to claim relevant. Have you found an imbecilic goat for the brain transplant yet? Once you do i will know because you will start to sound a little coherent to fellow goat brained individusls.

MonTaNa92:
I will make this a brief as possible.. I need ur honest advice pls.

I was into business when i met her some years back, i was doing fine and i needed some money to add up to take a very huge step forward in my business, i seek help from her and she refused to help me despite having the power to help.I never knew she has the money then, i just tried my luck, after about 2years, she confessed to me that, she doesn't want to help me because, i haven't gained her trust then.. I said fine, i let it go without using it against her..
My business suffered for it,and i was struggling again, doing some part-time salary work..

After some time, she told me about gaining admission into Polytechnic,with her expecting me to say i will help her blah, blah, blah, but instead i said God will see her through..
I never wanted to spend on a girls education not even when am not done with mine as well, especially for the fact that she has her two parents who are hale and hearty and my own both parents were late.. I was all alone..

Although, i used to give her money that are not much like 5k etc.. But, it's never enough, she will complain and i really hate complaining alot because am a man of few words and i got pissed off at such act.

So recently, i was in a financial mess and she has few cash with me, and i never knew she will need it anytime soon. Then suddenly, she said she will need the money the following day, It was very easy for me to get back the money but i just have to tell her this.. Babe, i have used this money o, but u never told me u will need it so soon,..
As if she has been expecting me to say this.. She flared up bigtime, i was dumbfounded, she said all sort of things to me, she was very disrespectful in her utterances, all diz she does via WhatsApp voicenotes.. I felt so bad.. I made her understand i will provide it back before the day she needed it.. Which i did..

She never wanted to believe she was wrong with her utterances, so i decided to send those voicenotes to her best friend and the girl was like.. And so what?even If i used her money, she is not supposed to react in such manner.. The girl also blamed me for using the money and i concur i was wrong, and i apologize already..

We ended the quarel and i told her i don't like d way she talks, she apologize, then another issue came up.. She was so quick to show more stupidity again with the way she talks, she keep doing this over and over again.. I don't think i can deal with this kind of attitude..

Mind u, this is a girl that has threatened to break up with me because i wasn't helping her financial issues all the time..For instance, she ask 10k, i may end up giving her 5k.. She knew i was struggling, but she never want to understand if i have all the money, i would have provided it..

We used to talk about marriage and all, but right not am not sure i can settle for this type of girl.. Not that i have another gf at the moment, but am loosing my feelings for her gradually.

Pls, ignore my grammatical blunders and all.. I need ur serious advice on this.. My love for her is dying gradually..

we shall not only ignore your grammatical blunder.. you and your story inclusive.

victorian:





Is she his mother fo borrow him money for his biz?

Can't he walk to the bank?

Mad oo