₦airaland Forum

chatinent:
Are you financially, physically and spiritually ready to hold a relationship and settle down? No. So grow up first.

XhosaNostra:
It seems you don't value yourself. I don't know whether the issue is your age or your nature, but you need to learn to treat people how they treat you & do so fast. How do you continue to care for people who don't give a rat's behind about you? It's mind boggling. If it means having no friends at all, so be it, but don't continue to go out on a limb for people who won't do the same for you. Full stop. You'll be happier with a much smaller circle of people who put an equal amount of effort anyway, trust me. If you have no such people in your life, be your own best friend. Friendships are overrated & are for people who're afraid to stand alone. I'm probably not the best person to give you advice on this because I rarely form strong attachments, so it's easier for me to stonewall people when I feel I'm being shortchanged. However, I still believe everyone should have an ounce of self-respect not to keep investing where they're not getting anything in return. Come on!

LilMissFavvy:
1. Check your appearance
2. Check your hygiene (mouth and body)
3. Check your spirituality

Tajbol4splend:
I know runs guys who have terrible mouth odour, you know what, those guys no send, them dey debedebe from time to time

XhosaNostra:
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XhosaNostra:
It seems you don't value yourself. I don't know whether the issue is your age or your nature, but you need to learn to treat people how they treat you & do so fast. How do you continue to care for people who don't give a rat's behind about you? It's mind boggling. If it means having no friends at all, so be it, but don't continue to go out on a limb for people who won't do the same for you. Full stop. You'll be happier with a much smaller circle of people who put an equal amount of effort anyway, trust me. If you have no such people in your life, be your own best friend. Friendships are overrated & are for people who're afraid to stand alone. I'm probably not the best person to give you advice on this because I rarely form strong attachments, so it's easier for me to stonewall people when I feel I'm being shortchanged. However, I still believe everyone should have an ounce of self-respect not to keep investing where they're not getting anything in return. Come on!

LilMissFavvy:
1. Check your appearance
2. Check your hygiene (mouth and body)
3. Check your spirituality

XhosaNostra:
It seems you don't value yourself. I don't know whether the issue is your age or your nature, but you need to learn to treat people how they treat you & do so fast. How do you continue to care for people who don't give a rat's behind about you? It's mind boggling. If it means having no friends at all, so be it, but don't continue to go out on a limb for people who won't do the same for you. Full stop. You'll be happier with a much smaller circle of people who put an equal amount of effort anyway, trust me. If you have no such people in your life, be your own best friend. Friendships are overrated & are for people who're afraid to stand alone. I'm probably not the best person to give you advice on this because I rarely form strong attachments, so it's easier for me to stonewall people when I feel I'm being shortchanged. However, I still believe everyone should have an ounce of self-respect not to keep investing where they're not getting anything in return. Come on!

Apeshy101:
You need to apologise to Nigerians for supporting your country men that killed many Nigerians and destroyed their source of livelihood.


Until then, your opinion doesn't matter on NAIRALAND , YOU ARE A HEARTLESS BEAST!

Cyb3rtr0n:
Good day everyone!
For the past years now, I have been feeling low and down of myself because I seem not to get if my opposite gender care about me.
Years back I have approached females I know and don't know just to be friends with them and was successful in having their number but the problem is that they never call back to ask how I was doing, whats going on, whats up or even give me a flash call...
I could remember a mate of mine in church who I once collected her number and I called most times to find out how she was doing, whats up with her, and even crack jokes which did make her laugh and whenever we meet we talk a lot but she has never called me for once, I even made schedule monthly so that I will call and maybe she will also have the heart to call back but she don't.
Sometimes I don't call her for like 3 months intentionally to see if she would call but she don't not for once, even give me a flash but I have been the one calling.
The only time she called was when there was a very bad religious crisis that happened close to where am staying and when I saw her call I was happy only to hear her ask me whats happening in the region/tell me about everytin and so, she didn't even ask if I was ok or something, I was angry and just answered her in a very fast manner and switch off the call.
Few days I felt sorry for myself and decided to still call her back just to do my usual thing since I never knew what was wrong with her or something. I stopped calling her after sending a new year text which deserve a reply but I never got one and gave her 3 miss calls which I never got a call back.
This same thing has been my experience with all opposite gender I try to get close to, I don't really go with the intension to date anybody I just want to talk but they don't just care about Me!
Even the ones I have their number with me are still doing the same thing, they don't call me for once nobody calls to ask how I am doing, Its me calling and whenever I try to stop I feel bad about myself and choose to just call back but none calls not even a flash or even reply my text...
I taught this was because I was just a home boy though, when I got admission into the University this same thing has been part of my life they don't call.

Not until one day I heard my Old aunt preached to us all by saying "Familiarity breeds contempt" and this has made me understand something but I still feel bad when I don't call to ask any how are u doing and so on. I taught it was the way I approach them and when I tried to use the bad guy style/date/relationship style... I was shock to see reactions and replies of people I call often, some said
"Am a dreamer, We will never be together"
"Dating you doesn't make sense"
"I don't answer to strangers"
and more...
To be frank I did feel bad and for this I want to listen to ur advice, should I keep on calling or just forget about caring and move on or....
Pls I need advice, I just want to talk, be friends not even date and all has been a very rough experience. Do they hate me or whats really going on. I will be 20 this year and I will need to know ur advice for me.

Yuneehk:
Don't you have self worth at all. How do you keep reaching out to people who don't want you? They probably pity you and take your calls. Stop disturbing them and stay on your own. Some friends would make you wish you didn't have any. The key to your happiness is you and not them!

You're even texting them without getting a reply. Better save up that money to buy your handouts in school and stop thinking about people who don't remember you exist till they see your calls or messages.