Hisincrease:
It's not bad if it's a voluntary act. But if he has people around, then respect demands that the man of the house enjoys such priviledges.

This gentleman here has said it all.

Oluneutral:
The kind of questions asked on this forum are quite baffling!
So, it's now a crime or taboo for an abled man to carry his plate to the kitchen after finishing his meal. Na wa o! That one too is the wife duty abi? Infact, do some men even lived before getting married sha?

Very soon now, we'll be seeing the question.... Is it right for a man to clean up himself after defecating?

SMH....

That is what Yoruba people call "àríìgbodò wi, baálé ilé su sápe"
Meaning, husbands have now turned themselves into unquestionable gods, to the extent that they now poo in the cooking pot.

chivera018:
Nobody is forcing the man to pay bride price, he can stay remain unmarried if he wants.

BTW, nothing is wrong with a man going to keep his plate in the kitchen after eating. Last time I visited my married elder brother, when he finished eating he took his plate to the kitchen and also washed it, he even helps clean the house sometimes, they are still living happily and heaven have not fall because he helped in doing housework.

Gbaski baby. Oooooooooshey.
Chai, one chilled bottle of red wine for you.

Gloriagee:
I like how it is ur preference either that the wife or maid does it in ur version of an ideal world. Isn't that what some guys marry for, to acquire lifetime maids.

Oh yes

Nothing wrong. Is he a god or what?

chivera018:
Nobody is forcing the man to pay bride price, he can stay remain unmarried if he wants.

BTW, nothing is wrong with a man going to keep his plate in the kitchen after eating. Last time I visited my married elder brother, when he finished eating he took his plate to the kitchen and also washed it, he even helps clean the house sometimes, they are still living happily and heaven have not fall because he helped in doing housework.

Now listen, marriage is built on mutual understanding, two couples living together happily and in peace have reached a certain level in which they have understood each other perfectly.

Now to your question, there's nothing wrong if a husband decides to take the plate to the kitchen but you making it look like it's a mandatory thing to do just because you visited your sister and noticed her husband do it and even washing the plate is wrong, be guided and understand that people are not thesame, I have seen husband's who even help thier wives in the kitchen and more but it doesn't mean that it's all men/husbands that can do it. Be guided and if you feel it's a must that a husband must do it just as your question sounded then you can as well remain in your parents house and decide not to get married because we are tired of hearing wife's killing thier husbands cos of little things.

Saintmary:

Gbaski baby. Oooooooooshey.
Chai, one chilled bottle of red wine for you.

Learn to reason before giving out accolades cos that's what the brain is made for. No hrt feelings

Citizenshelm:
Is it right for a husband to carry his plate to the kitchen after eating?

you people like causing problem where there's no need for it.

What's wrong with taking your plates to the kitchen after meal after being apparently served? Or even washing it sef?

Na wa o, no queshion wey dey no go see here

Gloriagee:
Thank God you've taken the time to enlighten the dumb females that its the woman's responsibility not the maid. How come it's not the man's responsibility in advanced countries? Or are they lesser versions of the Male species. The problem with you lot Is that you're entitled and sometimes inconsiderate. You have no clue how much domestic work a housewife does.

Have you ever been to Benin republic, you're here saying advance country.

For your information, in the so called advanced country which I myself have been opportuned to visit their women cook and serve their husbands.

In areas where the wife is a career woman, she hires a nanny/cook and pays her from her own purse. Cos she knows it's her responsibility.

The problem with you girls is that you're much better as girlfriends than wifes. A girlfriend would wash her guys clothes, cook for him, keep him company...etc. but the moment he upgrades her to a wife it becomes a tug of war who does what and who doesn't do what.

Do you know why many men cheat on their wives it's because their side chick knows the role the wife is supposed to play and is fully aware that she's (the wife) isn't playing it. So she capitalizes on that error, illfitrates the home and wins the husband over to her side.

So please spare me the crap of advance country bullshit. If you're not ready to be a wife to a man you married, the be prepared to share him with someone who's ready to give him what you're too arrogant to offer.

It's not by force that you get married as a woman ok? Pls save us the stress by not getting married, atleast the world will have one less thing to worry about.

uboma:



There is nothing wrong for a man to clear his own plates and even that of his wife after eating as long as it does not become a daily affair. By the way, it was the woman who spent the time to prepare the meals.

Doing this won't take away your pride.

My dear it's not about pride, women are opportunists in nature.

Some years back where I used to live, there a neighbour friend of mine weeds the compound whenever the grasses over grow and he's chanced....his house shared a fence with mine.

His wife's two younger sisters were staying with them, what brought a very serious quarrel one morning was when one of the wife's sister decided to trim the grasses. The wife bluntly told her to return back the Cutlass that it's the job of the husband. Unfortunately the man heard it and that statement made him mad. I had to calm him down when he told me about the incident.

Many women these days behave like fools, the day you engage in any domestic role is the day they'll automatically assign that role to you. So the rule of the thumb is to concentrate on your own role and she hers. Unless your wife is an angel, then you can choose to assist and be rest assured that she appreciate your efforts rather than convert it to a role for you.

My mentor always say "never do something that isn't your role at home cos the moment you do next time she will see it as a must you do it.

CrazyMan:

My dear it's not about pride, women are opportunists in nature.

Some years back where I used to live, there a neighbour friend of mine weeds the compound whenever the grasses over grow and he's chanced....his house shared a fence with mine.

His wife's two younger sisters were staying with them, what brought a very serious quarrel one morning was when one of the wife's sister decided to trim the grasses. The wife bluntly told her to return back the Cutlass that it's the job of the husband. Unfortunately the man heard it and that statement made him mad. I had to calm him down when he told me about the incident.

Many women these days behave like fools, the day you engage in any domestic role is the day they'll automatically assign that role to you. So the rule of the thumb is to concentrate on your own role and she hers. Unless your wife is an angel, then you can choose to assist and be rest assured that she appreciate your efforts rather than convert it to a role for you.

Isn't it the job of the husband before? Was he expecting a female tractor to clear his bushes? You men of indomie generation will always dish out hogwash and your self entitlements when it comes to women being the domestic slaves, but can't take it when the same favour is returned to you.

Didn't the man have the opportunistic nature when he expects the wife to go to work, cook, clean, take of the house and baby? Simple cutting of the grass, and he's vibrating.

You're right that I've never been to Benin republic but that does not detract from the fact that its really no biggie dropping your plates after eating.
Your wife is not a substitute for a maid and FYI the antidote for side chicks is raising your kids to be independent so u don't base your choice of a wife on how wifey material-ish the girl is. Las Las, as you rightly said the great girlfriends are not so great wives, maybe cos they were pretending.

CrazyMan:


Have you ever been to Benin republic, you're here saying advance country.

For your information, in the so called advanced country which I myself have been opportuned to visit their women cook and serve their husbands.

In areas where the wife is a career woman, she hires a nanny/cook and pays her from her own purse. Cos she knows it's her responsibility.

The problem with you girls is that you're much better as girlfriends than wifes. A girlfriend would wash her guys clothes, cook for him, keep him company...etc. but the moment he upgrades her to a wife it becomes a tug of war who does what and who doesn't do what.

Do you know why many men cheat on their wives it's because their side chick knows the role the wife is supposed to play and is fully aware that she's (the wife) isn't playing it. So she capitalizes on that error, illfitrates the home and wins the husband over to her side.

So please spare me the crap of advance country bullshit. If you're not ready to be a wife to a man you married, the be prepared to share him with someone who's ready to give him what you're too arrogant to offer.

Dande55:

Isn't it the job of the husband before? Was he expecting a female tractor to clear his bushes? You men of indomie generation will always dish out hogwash and your self entitlements when it comes to women being the domestic slaves, but can't take it when the same favour is returned to you.

Didn't the man have the opportunistic nature when he expects the wife to go to work, cook, clean, take of the house and baby? Simple cutting of the grass, and he's vibrating.

Am beginning to feel sorry for your future husband cos your level of reasoning is still in the bakes, Just don't turn out to be another mariam sanda

CrazyMan:

If I may ask whats your job as a wife?

Most conflicts in marriages today arise because most of you dumb females don't even know your role as a wife. You just want a husband that's all and have nothing to offer to him aside from spreading your legs for sex and popping out babies.

When a man spends 30days struggling to earn a living in order to give you a better life, you see it as his responsibility. He leaves the home very early and ensures that enough finance is made available for the home.

Then comes back exhausted and finishes his food and you expect him to clear the plates. If you can't keep him company while he eats and prefer to play the role of a restaurant waiter then you must play it to the fullest by clearing the table when he's done. That's your own responsibility.

Wives struggle these days too. She works alongside the man so don't expect her to clear ya table unless you paying the bills 100 percent.

Will you shut your dir ty mouth.
All this plenty talk because you make 80k Per month.

Dont go and improve your life and finances.
Be looking for a maid you cannot adequately care for.
I pity the woman with you because i know she will always be in complete lack.

CrazyMan:

If I may ask whats your job as a wife?

Most conflicts in marriages today arise because most of you dumb females don't even know your role as a wife. You just want a husband that's all and have nothing to offer to him aside from spreading your legs for sex and popping out babies.

When a man spends 30days struggling to earn a living in order to give you a better life, you see it as his responsibility. He leaves the home very early and ensures that enough finance is made available for the home.

Then comes back exhausted and finishes his food and you expect him to clear the plates. If you can't keep him company while he eats and prefer to play the role of a restaurant waiter then you must play it to the fullest by clearing the table when he's done. That's your own responsibility.

Balanced reasoning.

uboma:



There is nothing wrong for a man to clear his own plates and even that of his wife after eating as long as it does not become a daily affair. By the way, it was the woman who spent the time to prepare the meals.

Doing this won't take away your pride.

SweetCunt97:
Wives struggle these days too. She works alongside the man so don't expect her to clear ya table unless you paying the bills 100 percent.

Madam struggle alongside pls marriage is not by force you can decide to hoe all your life and save men the trouble pls. Am outa this thread, too many baked brains here

Snipper007:


Now listen, marriage is built on mutual understanding, two couples living together happily and in peace have reached a certain level in which they have understood each other perfectly.

Now to your question, there's nothing wrong if a husband decides to take the plate to the kitchen but you making it look like it's a mandatory thing to do just because you visited your sister and noticed her husband do it and even washing the plate is wrong, be guided and understand that people are not thesame, I have seen husband's who even help thier wives in the kitchen and more but it doesn't mean that it's all men/husbands that can do it. Be guided and if you feel it's a must that a husband must do it just as your question sounded then you can as well remain in your parents house and decide not to get married because we are tired of hearing wife's killing thier husbands cos of little things.

I will never ever marry any man who thinks carrying the plate he used in eating to the kitchen will make him less of a man. He should also wait for me to clean his butts after using the toilet.

And if I decide to stay single it doesn't necessarily mean i would be in my parents house.

chivera018:
I will never ever marry any man who thinks carrying the plate he used in eating to the kitchen will make him less of a man. And if I decide to stay single it doesn't necessarily mean i would be in my parents house.

Your choice.....

Dande55:

Isn't it the job of the husband before? Was he expecting a female tractor to clear his bushes? You men of indomie generation will always dish out hogwash and your self entitlements when it comes to women being the domestic slaves, but can't take it when the same favour is returned to you.

Didn't the man have the opportunistic nature when he expects the wife to go to work, cook, clean, take of the house and baby? Simple cutting of the grass, and he's vibrating.

Next time read and understand before hitting the reply button it won't cost you anything.

The man wasn't complaining about weeding the grasses. His annoyance was his own wife bluntly telling her sister to return back the Cutlass cos the job clearly belongs to the man.

Wisdom is what preserves a home, any woman that lacks it would end up destroying her family with her own foolishness.

Gift7428:
Will you shut your dir ty mouth.
All this plenty talk because you make 80k Per month.

Dont go and improve your life and finances.
Be looking for a maid you cannot adequately care for.
I pity the woman with you because i know she will always be in complete lack.

I don't reply frustrated empty heads who can't even maintain a monthly subscription for their device without begging for assistance from a man. That your frustrated boyfriend earns 80k shouldn't make you believe that everyone is within that league.

Get a life and stay away from my mentions.

chatinent:
Marriage should not be bound with rules. That's all I can say.

Very wise comment.

SweetCunt97:
Wives struggle these days too. She works alongside the man so don't expect her to clear ya table unless you paying the bills 100 percent.

That's why I modified my initial post. A woman is supposed to keep her husband company while eating. That way who clears up the table won't matter cos he'll happily assist you in doing so.

My husband that even cooks for everyone what is now there in washing plate. Well I guess everyone has their own individual rules in their marriage.

chatinent:
Marriage should not be bound with rules. That's all I can say.

Tell this to those girls who feel so....

What kinda very silly n frustrated topic is this one Bikonu , is it every question u people will bring on nairaland n ask. Can't ur common sense teach u certain things.
It is useless questions like this that makes both sexes bitter n start getting funny ideas, all these rubbish topics u people post here just build up unnecessary anger inside n leads to very stupid gender wars.
Don't worry someone will soon come and ask whether it's the husband or wife that should put salt n Maggi when the food is on the fire n u people will still argue over it.
RUBBISH. SPITS ON THREAD.

I think in my own opinion it has to do with who is the breadwinner.I cant be waking up by 5am, rush to work, come back by 7pm and I will still go n warm food, dish my food n wash my plates after eating when my wife is at home, except on occasions when she is pregnant, sick, tired or I have enough strength. As for me I, there are certain things I can't do. Roles should be spelt out. My wife cannot go and on gen, she can't go n fill gas, she can't pay some bills like my childrens school fees, house rent, electricity bills etc The moment a woman starts doing all these and a man starts washing plates everyday n cooking, just know there is no man in the house.

Gloriagee:
You're right that I've never been to Benin republic but that does not detract from the fact that its really no biggie dropping your plates after eating.
Your wife is not a substitute for a maid and FYI the antidote for side chicks is raising your kids to be independent so u don't base your choice of a wife on how wifey material-ish the girl. Las Las, as you rightly said the great girlfriends are not so great wives, maybe cos they were pretending.

There is more to marriage than who clears up the dishes. When you genuinely love someone all these irrelevant things would mean nothing. Cos there are more serious and pressing issues that needs attention in the home than dishes.

And yes most great girlfriends make terrible wives....and for the record, I'm not married.

CrazyMan:

If I may ask whats your job as a wife?

Most conflicts in marriages today arise because most of you dumb females don't even know your role as a wife. You just want a husband that's all and have nothing to offer to him aside from spreading your legs for sex and popping out babies.

When a man spends 30days struggling to earn a living in order to give you a better life, you see it as his responsibility. He leaves the home very early and ensures that enough finance is made available for the home.

Then comes back exhausted and finishes his food and you expect him to clear the plates. If you can't keep him company while he eats and prefer to play the role of a restaurant waiter then you must play it to the fullest by clearing the table when he's done. That's your own responsibility.

abeg hold it there women are not just for chores they are made for much more and who says only the man provide. See women do a lot or even more than what you think most men don't just admit it so that boys like you dont see them as less a man

As men of the house, you’re supposed to provide for all the family without any excuses. The needs and the wants plus extra. If your wife needs a car, u must get it. If your wife needs money for maintenance you’re supposed to give plus excesss. But most men are struggling to perform their manly duties and are even relying on their wives salary to survive. Does this mean that wives are entitled to side men? Boyfriends on the side?
The truth is that most of you place unrealistic expectations on your other half, and when things are not done your way, you complain bitterly. It’s emotional immaturity. And people like you should seriously not get married, because you’ll be highly disappointed. Nobody is going to kneel down and serve your food to you, especially when you’re not transferring millions to their account monthly. Get a grip.

CrazyMan:


Have you ever been to Benin republic, you're here saying advance country.

For your information, in the so called advanced country which I myself have been opportuned to visit their women cook and serve their husbands.

In areas where the wife is a career woman, she hires a nanny/cook and pays her from her own purse. Cos she knows it's her responsibility.

The problem with you girls is that you're much better as girlfriends than wifes. A girlfriend would wash her guys clothes, cook for him, keep him company...etc. but the moment he upgrades her to a wife it becomes a tug of war who does what and who doesn't do what.

Do you know why many men cheat on their wives it's because their side chick knows the role the wife is supposed to play and is fully aware that she's (the wife) isn't playing it. So she capitalizes on that error, illfitrates the home and wins the husband over to her side.

So please spare me the crap of advance country bullshit. If you're not ready to be a wife to a man you married, the be prepared to share him with someone who's ready to give him what you're too arrogant to offer.