etrange:
I see.

Well, a lot of women contribute to bills especially in more modern families. Some don't pay cause they can't afford it while some pay all the bills cause their loving husbands can't afford it. You may not know this cause some women find very embarrassing to acknowledge that thier men can't fend for the family. Again, there are a lot of woman who've got the money but still want the man to pay for everything. These are the more "traditional" women and regardless of what they say, such women cannot be classified as feminists in the true sense of it cause that undermines the fundamental principle of feminism.

Women woo men already. They do it in secret or implicitly cause the society has made it seem as if such act is immoral. I'm certain they'd do more if we create room for it.

It's actually the bride price part that made me comment. Must there be a pride price? Why commercialise marriage? The families of the couple could give them gift items to show support and everybody would be happy.

I know it our tradition but c'mon, this thread is about alternative tradition already.

freedomest:
Women are equal to men, but their responsibilities and duties are different from that of men. Even their emotions and how they should handle things is different from men. But feminists may want to drag some rights with men without understanding the positioning of men. Anyway, to be directly equal with men which is not possible, you can do this.

(1) Paying Bride Price: Women should start paying bride price for men

(2) Wooing men: Women should start wooing men, while men blush and feel shy when toasted.

(3) Paying bills without complain: Women should start taking men out, paying bills, dropping money for feeding, etc.

Dande55:

You think there are no women who give their man money to pay for her bride price? There's this girl that sponsored her wedding from beginning to end. The husband is just lazy and jobless. She cartered for everything!!

MhizJoyce:
The truth is that women can't do any of these 3. We are naturally stingy and we tend to care about only what we can gain in a relationship. Moreso, our pride won't let us take the risk of being rejected by men - you now see how stingy we really are?

MhizJoyce:
The truth is that women can't do any of these 3. We are naturally stingy and we tend to care about only what we can gain in a relationship. Moreso, our pride won't let us take the risk of being rejected by men - you now see how stingy we really are?

You don't expect creatures who paint their faces in the name of makeup to reason properly. We only care about attention and the number of "likes" we can garner on Instagram after posting pictures of our made-up faces

freedomest:
Women are equal to men, but their responsibilities and duties are different from that of men. Even their emotions and how they should handle things is different from men. But feminists may want to drag some rights with men without understanding the positioning of men. Anyway, to be directly equal with men which is not possible, you can do this.

(1) Paying Bride Price: Women should start paying bride price for men

(2) Wooing men: Women should start wooing men, while men blush and feel shy when toasted.

(3) Paying bills without complain: Women should start taking men out, paying bills, dropping money for feeding, etc.

Dande55:

You think there are no women who give their man money to pay for her bride price? There's this girl that sponsored her wedding from beginning to end. The husband is just lazy and jobless. She cartered for everything!!

XhosaNostra:


I don't agree with the bolded. You're absolutely spot on about the rest though. It's amusing to think most guys have these girly yearnings of wanting a woman to take care of them, financially. They're becoming fragile dandelions more & more each day

etrange:
I see.

Well, a lot of women contribute to bills especially in more modern families. Some don't pay cause they can't afford it while some pay all the bills cause their loving husbands can't afford it. You may not know this cause some women find very embarrassing to acknowledge that thier men can't fend for the family. Again, there are a lot of woman who've got the money but still want the man to pay for everything. These are the more "traditional" women and regardless of what they say, such women cannot be classified as feminists in the true sense of it cause that undermines the fundamental principle of feminism.

Women woo men already. They do it in secret or implicitly cause the society has made it seem as if such act is immoral. I'm certain they'd do more if we create room for it.

It's actually the bride price part that made me comment. Must there be a pride price? Why commercialise marriage? The families of the couple could give them gift items to show support and everybody would be happy.

I know it our tradition but c'mon, this thread is about alternative tradition already.

TonyeBarcanista:

Exactly! It is too feminine for a grown up able bodied man to be living off a woman. Women with such men don't respect them and they would gladly discard them for men that are financially capable to care for themselves and their family if they have their way.

XhosaNostra:


Amen. I'm glad this is coming from a guy because I was becoming to worry real men have gone extinct. Please don't leave us with these sissified ones with a Cinderella complex

SpartanKing:
hahahahahahaha! XhosaNostra is telling us that SA men can't hold a candle to Nigerian men! Really, Nigerian men take a very good care of their women.

XhosaNostra:


Is it a South African man that wrote he wants to be swept off his dainty, glass slipper clad feet & wooed like a fair maiden? Abeg!

SpartanKing:
Just an insinuation.

XhosaNostra:


Amen. I'm glad this is coming from a guy because I was becoming to worry real men have gone extinct. Please don't leave us with these sissified ones with a Cinderella complex

XhosaNostra:


Caution your Disney princesses men not to think out too loud

MhizJoyce:
The truth is that women can't do any of these 3. We are naturally stingy and we tend to care about only what we can gain in a relationship. Moreso, our pride won't let us take the risk of being rejected by men - you now see how stingy we really are?

You don't expect creatures who paint their faces in the name of makeup to reason properly. We only care about attention and the number of "likes" we can garner on Instagram after posting pictures of our made-up faces

SpartanKing:
Are you a poetess? Your writings are too difficult to decipher!

MissGodOwn:
Speak for yourself please, I doubt that u are even a girl.

XhosaNostra:



Look, if you still wanna hang on to your self-proclaimed title as the amorous Romeos of Africa, don't talk gay Otherwise we'll dethrone you & give the crown to people with more testosterone

I do have a flowery style of writing but I never thought it was difficult to understand. That's a 1st.

MhizJoyce:

I'm not a girl, girl. I'm a WOMAN

SpartanKing:
Yes, difficult to understand; one would have to read between the lines!

XhosaNostra:



Look, if you still wanna hang on to your self-proclaimed title as the amorous Romeos of Africa, don't talk gay Otherwise we'll dethrone you & give the crown to people with more testosterone

I do have a flowery style of writing but I never thought it was difficult to understand. That's a 1st.

XhosaNostra:


Hmmmm...

SpartanKing:
Yes, difficult to understand; one would have to read between the lines! Edited: "Self-proclaimed" Amorous Romeos of Africa? Not self-proclaimed: we had it bestowed on us.