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You need to sit down and educate your wife!

u never see anything!!!

koife:
Hello fam, I'm not used to writing about my personal life. I try as much as I can to keep it off social media. On this very instance I'm tired and I desperately need honest advise, I'm also ready for insult.
I met my wife and we got married less than two years after our meeting.
I must say my wife is a quiet and slow person by nature and very churchy. I won't forget to add that since I met her I've had many blessings come my way. We are blessed with a 6 month old daughter.

My main issue with my wife is that she sees home upkeep as my total responsibility, yes, I do it but she hardly contribute anything and any time I'm coonstrained fin. She would say all manner of things. My wife isn't that a smart person, she would wait for you to give her direction in the simplest of things and shys away from taking charge and ownership.

I got a 6 digit job few days after introducing as her my fiancee to my parent and I'm often at sea for three more than 6 months. I've observed my wife isn't prudent with money no matter how much passes through her hands. At some point I'll get her attention how much she has spent without knowing and then she would go " wow, I didn't know it was that much" after doing some addition.
She works with insurance firm and her pay is within 60k (Max)/monthly...with that, she still get home support from me and my sister who is in USA. Recently I gave her her usual home support money and my sis did too....her allowance and commission came too. My wife had over 95k total in less than two weeks.

I was surprised barely a week and, I asked my wife support fix the car I left with her at home with just 5k since and i was yet to be paid salary. Note, I bought this car to ease her movement at her instance oo, she suggested the car is idle and we should get someone do bolt( taxify) just to get us additional cash.I got the driver do agreement with my lawyer via my coy and travelled shortly, the car alternator shut down and wouldn't charge, it was at that instance I asked her help out and she said she had no money on her and that she was barely surviving. I was shocked and Drew her attention to how much had gone through her hands in less than two weeks. Don't get me wrong, it might not be much to some peoples financial cash flow but we are Young family and less than two years in marriage. My wife believes once money comes, it's time to solve all her outstanding problem and ive told her she needs to prioritize.

Recently when I got to nja I left 600k in her account and told her we shouldn't touch it in case of family emergency but I noticed each time we have little need at home she would pressure me go get the cash. Some how we kept touching the money till it got to 300k and I travelled again.
I've tried my best to groom her and get her financial planning life better but she would not accept she has issue. I'm considering getting her family and mine involved but I dear it would out her in bad light before my family ( trying to protect her), I I decided to bring it here since it's faceless forum for candid advise

Need I also add that I can say one thing give times to my wife and she still gets it mixed up. I've asked her to read book and expand her intellectual capacity. It was just two weeks ago I forced her go defend her post graduate project after many years of abandonement....we quarreled. I later helped her arrange the work and pacify her supervisor allows her defend without paying school fees before I left.
Pls is my wife just dull or does it have to d with her character with life and money? Pls advise me coz I'm getting sick, really sick already. I'm typing this onboard on my way to Japan. I can't even concentrate

Be thankful. Abi you want the kind of smart wife that will be keeping you on your toes? This kind of wife is ideal for a peaceful home.

Bro, I was once in your shoe. Believe me, I couldn't save or do anything tangible. Eventually was able to buy another car due to my financial discipline.

My own case: we'd stock up the kitchen with foodstuffs every month, go to Mile 12. Then buy groceries and baby needs at supermarket. Give her allowance. After 1 or 2 weeks, she'd start asking for money to buy protein. I ate barely once a day... .

These are the things you need to do:
1. Carry out a test that you've emergency that requires money. Sweep the 300k balance to your custody. Then consistently complain you're broke for like 2 months and beg her if she'd support the family with her 60k salary. Her true colour would come out.
2. Ask her to estimate how much she requires for foodstuffs, baby stuffs and other groceries, give her the money and ensure she buys them. Then reduce her monthly allowance. You can give her 40k. Tell your sis to stop sending her allowance in the meantime. Remember she spends her salary alone.
3. She needs to progress her career. You both can find a better job for her or another income stream for the family. Insurance workers don't stay too late at work. She can be doing other stuffs to make money. If she's not making enough money, she'd not learn how to manage it.
4. Investigate how she spent the usual allowance given to her. I don't believe she was being lavish. She might be stingy (when that test is carried out, you'd know). It'd be she's saving, giving money to her parents, paying a fuckboy, or peer pressure.
5. Never report her to any family members. Never! Take charge of your home.
6. Her being dull to you means she's not financially intelligent. You need to help her by carrying out step 3 above.

To all men, never ever marry liabilities. They come in different forms. I'm not an advocate of couple sharing financial responsibilities 50:50 but there are so many other ways women can support. But unfortunately, most Nigerian women see marriage as business venture, where they make money from.

koife:
Hello fam, I'm not used to writing about my personal life. I try as much as I can to keep it off social media. On this very instance I'm tired and I desperately need honest advise, I'm also ready for insult.
I met my wife and we got married less than two years after our meeting.
I must say my wife is a quiet and slow person by nature and very churchy. I won't forget to add that since I met her I've had many blessings come my way. We are blessed with a 6 month old daughter.

My main issue with my wife is that she sees home upkeep as my total responsibility, yes, I do it but she hardly contribute anything and any time I'm coonstrained fin. She would say all manner of things. My wife isn't that a smart person, she would wait for you to give her direction in the simplest of things and shys away from taking charge and ownership.

I got a 6 digit job few days after introducing as her my fiancee to my parent and I'm often at sea for three more than 6 months. I've observed my wife isn't prudent with money no matter how much passes through her hands. At some point I'll get her attention how much she has spent without knowing and then she would go " wow, I didn't know it was that much" after doing some addition.
She works with insurance firm and her pay is within 60k (Max)/monthly...with that, she still get home support from me and my sister who is in USA. Recently I gave her her usual home support money and my sis did too....her allowance and commission came too. My wife had over 95k total in less than two weeks.

I was surprised barely a week and, I asked my wife support fix the car I left with her at home with just 5k since and i was yet to be paid salary. Note, I bought this car to ease her movement at her instance oo, she suggested the car is idle and we should get someone do bolt( taxify) just to get us additional cash.I got the driver do agreement with my lawyer via my coy and travelled shortly, the car alternator shut down and wouldn't charge, it was at that instance I asked her help out and she said she had no money on her and that she was barely surviving. I was shocked and Drew her attention to how much had gone through her hands in less than two weeks. Don't get me wrong, it might not be much to some peoples financial cash flow but we are Young family and less than two years in marriage. My wife believes once money comes, it's time to solve all her outstanding problem and ive told her she needs to prioritize.

Recently when I got to nja I left 600k in her account and told her we shouldn't touch it in case of family emergency but I noticed each time we have little need at home she would pressure me go get the cash. Some how we kept touching the money till it got to 300k and I travelled again.
I've tried my best to groom her and get her financial planning life better but she would not accept she has issue. I'm considering getting her family and mine involved but I dear it would out her in bad light before my family ( trying to protect her), I I decided to bring it here since it's faceless forum for candid advise

Need I also add that I can say one thing give times to my wife and she still gets it mixed up. I've asked her to read book and expand her intellectual capacity. It was just two weeks ago I forced her go defend her post graduate project after many years of abandonement....we quarreled. I later helped her arrange the work and pacify her supervisor allows her defend without paying school fees before I left.
Pls is my wife just dull or does it have to d with her character with life and money? Pls advise me coz I'm getting sick, really sick already. I'm typing this onboard on my way to Japan. I can't even concentrate

What attracted her to you? I don't want to assume but your answer will help me gauge your mental capacity in relationships.

In financial department, you are doing well but you failed to pair yourself with someone who is in that same department.

Intellectually, you are miles ahead of her and again, you failed to pair up with someone of same strength.

This is what you get when you deliberately choose to let only a looks to attract you. Now you will be ridden with burden of doing all the works for years.

I personally do not like stress and I can't allow a woman feed like a parasite under my roof.

My current girlfriend is very hard working and she hardly wants to get you to do her things for her. She prefers to handle it herself.

Getting married to a lady just for birthing is wrong. Life is hard and you need to someone that can match the burdens of life.

I am afraid to tell you that you would have to bear this for the rest of your life and nothing will change except you use "iron hand" to demand for a change.

Your wife is among those that feels a man will carry her burden and all she has to do is give birth. This is the situation of 90% of Nigerian girls, sadly and I had done well to avoid them like plaques

Calapar:
Bro, I was once in your shoe. Believe me, I couldn't save or do anything tangible. Eventually was able to buy another car due to my financial discipline.

My own case: we'd stock up the kitchen with foodstuffs every month, go to Mile 12. Then buy groceries and baby needs at supermarket. Give her allowance. After 1 or 2 weeks, she'd start asking for money to buy protein. I ate barely once a day... .

These are the things you need to do:
1. Carry out a test that you've emergency that requires money. Sweep the 300k balance to your custody. Then consistently complain you're broke for like 2 months and beg her if she'd support the family with her 60k salary. Her true colour would come out.
2. Ask her to estimate how much she requires for foodstuffs, baby stuffs and other groceries, give her the money and ensure she buys them. Then reduce her monthly allowance. You can give her 40k. Tell your sis to stop sending her allowance in the meantime. Remember she spends her salary alone.
3. She needs to progress her career. You both can find a better job for her or another income stream for the family. Insurance workers don't stay too late at work. She can be doing other stuffs to make money. If she's not making enough money, she'd not learn how to manage it.
4. Investigate how she spent the usual allowance given to her. I don't believe she was being lavish. She might be stingy (when that test is carried out, you'd know). It'd be she's saving, giving money to her parents, paying a fuckboy, or peer pressure.
5. Never report her to any family members. Never! Take charge of your home.
6. Her being dull to you means she's not financially intelligent. You need to help her by carrying out step 3 above.

To all men, never ever marry liabilities. They come in different forms. I'm not an advocate of couple sharing financial responsibilities 50:50 but there are so many other ways women can support. But unfortunately, most Nigerian women see marriage as business venture, where they make money from.

I like your advice to men. Sadly, once dem see fine girl dem go just lose senses.

Most of these girls spend most of the youthful days flexing and enjoying and men will be stupid to still marry them at the end.

Sorry, ur advice will not work on a woman like that. She can't give what she does not have...

wow!!!! like this guy stole my story ... well, welcome to my wonderful world and the only remedy av embraced presently is my lil gal and my cross for existence.... look to your cross for we all have one burden or d other ....just look for another way to make yourself happy

DNSPro:
I like your advice to men. Sadly, once dem see fine girl dem go just lose senses.

Most of these girls spend most of the youthful days flexing and enjoying and men will be stupid to still marry them at the end.

Sorry, ur advice will not work on a woman like that. She can't give what she does not have...

Yeah unfortunately that's the reality. With s3x and beautiful body, you lose your senses. But I wonder why most Nigerian women don't bother to empower themselves.

I'm in tears

Calapar:
Yeah unfortunately that's the reality. With s3x and beautiful body, you lose your senses. But I wonder why most Nigerian women don't bother to empower themselves.

I have been with some other girls before my current and they are all wondering why I never take them serious...

I am not stupid but I won't mention it to you that you are not levelled up to what I want in terms of personal development.

Unfortunately for them, I don't bond with a woman via sex and if only bring that to the table it won't go beyond that.

I am very good at it and except I never had sex with the said girl, I can always get her even after break up. That is the how magnetic I can be. But I don't go about forking girls anyhow plus girls I have been with are not up to 10, of which I ended things with about 5 of them without sex.

I also do not buy the idea of house wife. This is further re-enforced as I grew older to understand realities of life...

Imagine being away and you need your wife to help handle some business deals in your absence... A clueless woman can't handle that.

koife:
Hello fam, I'm not used to writing about my personal life. I try as much as I can to keep it off social media. On this very instance I'm tired and I desperately need honest advise, I'm also ready for insult.
I met my wife and we got married less than two years after our meeting.
I must say my wife is a quiet and slow person by nature and very churchy. I won't forget to add that since I met her I've had many blessings come my way. We are blessed with a 6 month old daughter.

My main issue with my wife is that she sees home upkeep as my total responsibility, yes, I do it but she hardly contribute anything and any time I'm coonstrained fin. She would say all manner of things. My wife isn't that a smart person, she would wait for you to give her direction in the simplest of things and shys away from taking charge and ownership.

I got a 6 digit job few days after introducing as her my fiancee to my parent and I'm often at sea for three more than 6 months. I've observed my wife isn't prudent with money no matter how much passes through her hands. At some point I'll get her attention how much she has spent without knowing and then she would go " wow, I didn't know it was that much" after doing some addition.
She works with insurance firm and her pay is within 60k (Max)/monthly...with that, she still get home support from me and my sister who is in USA. Recently I gave her her usual home support money and my sis did too....her allowance and commission came too. My wife had over 95k total in less than two weeks.

I was surprised barely a week and, I asked my wife support fix the car I left with her at home with just 5k since and i was yet to be paid salary. Note, I bought this car to ease her movement at her instance oo, she suggested the car is idle and we should get someone do bolt( taxify) just to get us additional cash.I got the driver do agreement with my lawyer via my coy and travelled shortly, the car alternator shut down and wouldn't charge, it was at that instance I asked her help out and she said she had no money on her and that she was barely surviving. I was shocked and Drew her attention to how much had gone through her hands in less than two weeks. Don't get me wrong, it might not be much to some peoples financial cash flow but we are Young family and less than two years in marriage. My wife believes once money comes, it's time to solve all her outstanding problem and ive told her she needs to prioritize.

Recently when I got to nja I left 600k in her account and told her we shouldn't touch it in case of family emergency but I noticed each time we have little need at home she would pressure me go get the cash. Some how we kept touching the money till it got to 300k and I travelled again.
I've tried my best to groom her and get her financial planning life better but she would not accept she has issue. I'm considering getting her family and mine involved but I dear it would out her in bad light before my family ( trying to protect her), I I decided to bring it here since it's faceless forum for candid advise

Need I also add that I can say one thing give times to my wife and she still gets it mixed up. I've asked her to read book and expand her intellectual capacity. It was just two weeks ago I forced her go defend her post graduate project after many years of abandonement....we quarreled. I later helped her arrange the work and pacify her supervisor allows her defend without paying school fees before I left.
Pls is my wife just dull or does it have to d with her character with life and money? Pls advise me coz I'm getting sick, really sick already. I'm typing this onboard on my way to Japan. I can't even concentrate

It's either your wife has another secret account she is making fix deposit into in case you go broke so that she will dump you or she is having a sugar boy she spends on.
Let her give account of her expenses.

LadySarah:
There's nothing we can do except for her to work on herself.
Most times the men complain abt women and finances until they stay around and discover how this money goes.

She can have a book where every expense is put down and then when you are back both of you can go through it and see where to work on.

It is not enough to judge her until you are in her shoes. Home support money takes care of a lot of things and if not careful, the woman will be tagged"wasteful".

For the mean time, save alone.

Still talk with her. Nobody is perfect, no one.

see ur excuse?

This one don marry typical nairaland babe.

Either of two things:

1. She is truly dumb and a spendthrift

2. She is secretly investing the money and one day she’ll tell you about the house she just completed in the next street.

koife:
Hello fam, I'm not used to writing about my personal life. I try as much as I can to keep it off social media. On this very instance I'm tired and I desperately need honest advise, I'm also ready for insult.
I met my wife and we got married less than two years after our meeting.
I must say my wife is a quiet and slow person by nature and very churchy. I won't forget to add that since I met her I've had many blessings come my way. We are blessed with a 6 month old daughter.

My main issue with my wife is that she sees home upkeep as my total responsibility, yes, I do it but she hardly contribute anything and any time I'm coonstrained fin. She would say all manner of things. My wife isn't that a smart person, she would wait for you to give her direction in the simplest of things and shys away from taking charge and ownership.

I got a 6 digit job few days after introducing as her my fiancee to my parent and I'm often at sea for three more than 6 months. I've observed my wife isn't prudent with money no matter how much passes through her hands. At some point I'll get her attention how much she has spent without knowing and then she would go " wow, I didn't know it was that much" after doing some addition.
She works with insurance firm and her pay is within 60k (Max)/monthly...with that, she still get home support from me and my sister who is in USA. Recently I gave her her usual home support money and my sis did too....her allowance and commission came too. My wife had over 95k total in less than two weeks.

I was surprised barely a week and, I asked my wife support fix the car I left with her at home with just 5k since and i was yet to be paid salary. Note, I bought this car to ease her movement at her instance oo, she suggested the car is idle and we should get someone do bolt( taxify) just to get us additional cash.I got the driver do agreement with my lawyer via my coy and travelled shortly, the car alternator shut down and wouldn't charge, it was at that instance I asked her help out and she said she had no money on her and that she was barely surviving. I was shocked and Drew her attention to how much had gone through her hands in less than two weeks. Don't get me wrong, it might not be much to some peoples financial cash flow but we are Young family and less than two years in marriage. My wife believes once money comes, it's time to solve all her outstanding problem and ive told her she needs to prioritize.

Recently when I got to nja I left 600k in her account and told her we shouldn't touch it in case of family emergency but I noticed each time we have little need at home she would pressure me go get the cash. Some how we kept touching the money till it got to 300k and I travelled again.
I've tried my best to groom her and get her financial planning life better but she would not accept she has issue. I'm considering getting her family and mine involved but I dear it would out her in bad light before my family ( trying to protect her), I I decided to bring it here since it's faceless forum for candid advise

Need I also add that I can say one thing give times to my wife and she still gets it mixed up. I've asked her to read book and expand her intellectual capacity. It was just two weeks ago I forced her go defend her post graduate project after many years of abandonement....we quarreled. I later helped her arrange the work and pacify her supervisor allows her defend without paying school fees before I left.
Pls is my wife just dull or does it have to d with her character with life and money? Pls advise me coz I'm getting sick, really sick already. I'm typing this onboard on my way to Japan. I can't even concentrate

Get yourself a Japanese wife n bring her back.. Your wife will return to factory reset.. Or tell her as u r returning back.. U r coming with Lee sing konami

TradeCorner:
I don't recall cursing the males in yours. Nor cursing you in anyway. Anyway,its now the norm that females this generation abuse men at the slightest opportunity. Whatelse madam,i suffer low sperm count or weak erection or you will like to brokeshame me at this point. What more curses. The females in my lineage. For a comment made without you in mind. Continue

Perhaps, you should learn to not make blanket statements that are provocative. Or be tough enough to take whatever comes from doing so. You can only control what you put out there... You cannot control how people react to it.

AfroKnight:
This one don marry typical nairaland babe.

Either of two things:

1. She is truly dumb and a spendthrift

2. She is secretly investing the money and one day she’ll tell you about the house she just completed in the next street.

Honestly, I'm confused

cucumbae:
It's either your wife has another secret account she is making fix deposit into in case you go broke so that she will dump you or she is having a sugar boy she spends on.
Let her give account of her expenses.

Hmmm!!

Bugatie:
I'm not always comfortable seeing adults bring up family issues to Nairaland faceless forum where mostly kids and teenagers who know nothing about relationships and family dish out their uninformed advise thereby making the situation worse.

What happened to having a good talk with her and letting her know how much the family is losing as a result of her poor money management.
Sit down with her and draw the family budget, that is expected income, expenses and savings each month/year or quarter, make her responsible for the budget and always monitor performance on a timely basis.
Encourage her where she's able to cut expense and correct her mildly if need be. Continue to jointly want to improve in your finances and watch how good she will turn.
Like you noted, she has been a blessing to you and I'm sure she wants to continue to be a source of blessing to your family.

Wishing you the best in your marriage.

well spoken,thank God unfaithfulness is not yet included in the problems, because the op is hardly around,i think it's hereditary for some people to spend money without realizing what they are doing,I am one of them no matter how hard I try I always spend money I intend to safe,I thought making more money will solve the problem but I was wrong,there's a secret knowledge about money that makes some people to make money and stay rich through there lifetime, while many will be struggling with the cycle of rich to poor.

AfroKnight:
This one don marry typical nairaland babe.

Either of two things:

1. She is truly dumb and a spendthrift

2. She is secretly investing the money and one day she’ll tell you about the house she just completed in the next street.

In my opinion, there is a possibility that she is saving her money.

All her salary is being saved why she cater for the family needs from the little the husband gives her (hence the complain of not being enough).

As for project and investing, might not likely be possible. Also, some of the money might be going into her immediate family members for solving family issues (That is, to her dad, mum or younger siblings)

At b4 you married her you saw all these , according to you she has been a blessing to you, oga the matter b say some believe that oga money na our own, while madam money na her own, enjoy the spending, all the same try and make her see reasons the should support u,

koife:
Hello fam, I'm not used to writing about my personal life. I try as much as I can to keep it off social media. On this very instance I'm tired and I desperately need honest advise, I'm also ready for insult.

My advice. To to your bank and setup a weekly stipend system. So a fixed sum will be sent to her weekly automatically.

Figure out what she spends money on. That is my real worry.

For large purchases, and reccurent purchases like food stuff, go work out something with the nearby shops, market, malls you get the idea.

For the taxify thing and subsequent businesses, you would have to look hard for someone, or a company that will manage them on your behalf for a fee.

koife:
Hello fam, I'm not used to writing about my personal life. I try as much as I can to keep it off social media. On this very instance I'm tired and I desperately need honest advise, I'm also ready for insult.
I met my wife and we got married less than two years after our meeting.
I must say my wife is a quiet and slow person by nature and very churchy. I won't forget to add that since I met her I've had many blessings come my way. We are blessed with a 6 month old daughter.

My main issue with my wife is that she sees home upkeep as my total responsibility, yes, I do it but she hardly contribute anything and any time I'm coonstrained fin. She would say all manner of things. My wife isn't that a smart person, she would wait for you to give her direction in the simplest of things and shys away from taking charge and ownership.

I got a 6 digit job few days after introducing as her my fiancee to my parent and I'm often at sea for three more than 6 months. I've observed my wife isn't prudent with money no matter how much passes through her hands. At some point I'll get her attention how much she has spent without knowing and then she would go " wow, I didn't know it was that much" after doing some addition.
She works with insurance firm and her pay is within 60k (Max)/monthly...with that, she still get home support from me and my sister who is in USA. Recently I gave her her usual home support money and my sis did too....her allowance and commission came too. My wife had over 95k total in less than two weeks.

I was surprised barely a week and, I asked my wife support fix the car I left with her at home with just 5k since and i was yet to be paid salary. Note, I bought this car to ease her movement at her instance oo, she suggested the car is idle and we should get someone do bolt( taxify) just to get us additional cash.I got the driver do agreement with my lawyer via my coy and travelled shortly, the car alternator shut down and wouldn't charge, it was at that instance I asked her help out and she said she had no money on her and that she was barely surviving. I was shocked and Drew her attention to how much had gone through her hands in less than two weeks. Don't get me wrong, it might not be much to some peoples financial cash flow but we are Young family and less than two years in marriage. My wife believes once money comes, it's time to solve all her outstanding problem and ive told her she needs to prioritize.

Recently when I got to nja I left 600k in her account and told her we shouldn't touch it in case of family emergency but I noticed each time we have little need at home she would pressure me go get the cash. Some how we kept touching the money till it got to 300k and I travelled again.
I've tried my best to groom her and get her financial planning life better but she would not accept she has issue. I'm considering getting her family and mine involved but I dear it would out her in bad light before my family ( trying to protect her), I I decided to bring it here since it's faceless forum for candid advise

Need I also add that I can say one thing give times to my wife and she still gets it mixed up. I've asked her to read book and expand her intellectual capacity. It was just two weeks ago I forced her go defend her post graduate project after many years of abandonement....we quarreled. I later helped her arrange the work and pacify her supervisor allows her defend without paying school fees before I left.
Pls is my wife just dull or does it have to d with her character with life and money? Pls advise me coz I'm getting sick, really sick already. I'm typing this onboard on my way to Japan. I can't even concentrate

You married her because of her Vagina, ...maybe because she gives you mind blowing Sex,

I can bet your wife also has a big Yansh that's why you were blinded and so Daft that you didn't see that your wife wasn't intellectually sound,

Are you even sure your wife works in that place that You said she works or are you trying to cover up for her?

koife:
On the contrary, she is not a slay queen. She only lacks basic money mgt skill and a bit not smart

When next in Nigeria, open a joint account with two signatories, you and her. All your investment funds and lump sums should be put into the joint account. But still find her own personal account with the amount you feel is appropriate. This way, she can't go and withdraw from it alone without your signature.



Sour that negative name calling, please stop it. Our spouses have a Lil bit of excesses and deficiencies so do we, we can manage them and also we can appreciate them for who they're, this way, they'll be a better spouse to their dear lovely husband.

TradeCorner:
This is juicy


Its the same with all women. Thry like being spent on. Don't take it too serious its their way of telling a man they love them, by making men soend unceasingly. Listen, two weeks is too far. Don't tell her you're irritated. Try it again infact just two days from giving her 500,000Naira, she'll still say no money. Focus on the benefits, don't get irritated

God bless your union

U av made no sensible comment at all..

Read again and edit ur post... No atom of sense at all unless u r a lady

But if u a man, no sense at all in ur comment.


My apologies sir

koife:
I'm in tears

Bros, u shud be like me. Be financial disciplined

Sit her down, tell her if she want to suffer, this time act like a real man, threaten to divorce her if she doesn't change her attitude.. Mind, u, u don't mean the divorce oo, just to see her reaction.. Tell her u serious abt it, if one on one talk doesn't talk, involve ur parents, firstly her parents then if ddt doesn't work, invite ur parents.



Bros, I am saying this coz anytin may happen, u need to make a move now b4 it's too late


Pls pls Pls, if u r planning to give her money soon to which she might waste, abeg send me 10%...

Mymynd4u:
U av made no sensible comment at all..

Read again and edit ur post... No atom of sense at all unless u r a lady

But if u a man, no sense at all in ur comment.


My apologies sir

Perhaps it's becuase it's above your mental acuity. For starters, go and elarn what " pun " or " sacrcasm " means. And please keep off my mentions

koife:
Honestly, I'm confused

Pls try investigate her bank records.. Find a means, just find a mean to know how she is spending...

U stay abroad 3 to 6 months, hmmmm

Pls bro, it will be a pain if sumtin happens n u go broke

TradeCorner:
Perhaps it's becuase it's above your mental acuity. For starters, go and elarn what " pun " or " sacrcasm " means. And please keep off my mentions

Don't be stupid sir.. He doesn't need pun or sarcasm at this moment.. Be serious at times

Your marriage is still young. What I will advice you is this. Always have a project that need to be spend money on like buying land and start building your house, tell her to contribute to the project. so anytime she ask for extra money apart from upkeeping remind her of the project you're doing. If you don't do that,I don't know how you're going to stop her from not spending money anyhow.

I'm once in your shoe bro.