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CsRockefeller:
You people are wicked. How can someone who just want a man to be happy with be reaching out of her league?

Chisos!! What type of world are we in? Is being a single mum a punishment or a disease?

Let me talk any further. You guys here make me weak everytime.

Mariangeles:
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OK. It depends on the spiritual realm you're referring to.

divaluvmiz:
I can't believe I've spent 10 good years of my life without achieving any meaningful thing.
I was young, with great potentials and vision. I graduated early. Everybody wants me, but I don't know how it turn out like this.
I'm 32 already.
I graduated 10 years ago yet, I don't have a good job, I don't have a good marriage.
I felt this is not my life. Is like there's a switch somewhere.
Years ago, my late dad told me to send him my personal earned money so he can use it to buy goat and make some sacrifice to nulify some things on my behalf, otherwise, I would not be able to get a job with my certificate and I can't get married. then I was pregnant and wanted to get married to my child's father who was my friend. but I told my father that i can not do that. Because I'm a child of God and i don't believe in all that. (My dad was not a Christian. He was diabolic) Shortly, he died.

To my greatest surprised, my friend whom we were so much in love, who begged me with everything to keep our first child and not to have an abortion, the same guy who took me to his family and decleared we're having a baby and we wants to get married, left after 7 months into my pregnancy without any reason.

This is 7years already and nothing exciting has happened to me.
The only thing I heard from him, is messages of appology, no fianancia support. Nothing.
Till date, I don't have a meaningful job, I've watched good friends who loved me still walk away to marry some other people.
The last was my best friend who just got married. He told me few days to his wedding how much he loved me.
(What surprised me was: why didn't he tell me all along?) He's been so good to me. Every member of my family know him and they loved him. Nothing he can't do for me.
I had to block him on my phone so he can concentrate on his new life Instead calling me always.
He's not the first person who truly loved me, but can't marry me. I'm always meeting good people, who can walk a mile for me, but they can't marry me for no reason and they can't let me go.
The one I love to be with, always walk away. The one I have no connection, no interest in, are the one around me.

I just woke up and realized that I've really wasted time without achieving anything.

Could it be there are powers beyond God?

Are they prayers God don't answer until we appeal traditional gods?
Are they sin beyound God's forgiveness?
I was innocent and in love, had pre-marital sex and had a baby outside weddlock. Is this beyond God's forgiveness no matter how I tried?
I have been praying and asking God to fix my life even if there's a family course that I knew nothing about. Yet, nothing positive have changed. is there something I'm not doing well?




I feel depressed.
I don't even know how to help myself

Bluehill1051:
Trash talk!

travelland:
Go for deliverance

divaluvmiz:
Where?

Amanee:
You have still not taken responsibility for your life and your life decisions, it's a shame...


You're 32, wallowing in self-pity and still blaming forces for the negative choices you made

Sorry to say, you're not ready for success yet.

Xavfra:
Op.....


Good morning........

I understand what you feel even though not up to 5%....

But you gotta love yourself......

Accept yourself........


You see apart from other points you raised here....

One of your major challenges is comparison.....

One sad important good thing about life is that life is fairly unequal........

Everyone has their different roads on which they run life.....

You trying to compare yourself to someone else will distort your everything.....

Also you trying to run the way someone whose road is slippery runs means that you wouldn't get to your desire....





Life is a separate business we all are fully separate and different from other people....

Don't expect life to throw you what it throws at Mr A.........



You not getting a good job for you and your child in this situation is terrible in the current situation of Nigeria....but that doesn't mean that you should compare or begin to lose yourself......

Life is like boat in the ocean.....
You must brace yourself in order for you not to fallout.....



Also remove your mind from any thing like diabolic related not because they don't exists but because you yourself have nothing to do with it........it's a hard situation but brace your mind and pull it together, settle your mind, infact take your time and take up your destiny, your life.....hold it cause it's yours and no one else.....

Redesign your life not look like your neighbors on but how it should be.....

The moment you try to copy someone else you begin to limit your abilities....

Recreate your life and take charge
......

The marriage aspect........hmmmmmmmmmmm
It appears to be terrible because of what the society tends to believe.......

Ask yourself if the society fed you or bathed or cooked for you or gave you job......


Your life goal shouldn't be to please anyone or the society.....

But rather you should please yourself and achieve your desires......


You are you and no one else ......





The employment situation is really terrible....

But you shouldn't try to kill yourself because you can't get the kind of job you want......

Have you tried exploring other areas you must not work for others ......


In the current situation of this world, your degrees or certificates cannot provide what you want.....

Rather to survive in today's world you gotta use your brain so much..... utilize it......


Think outside the box.......

Try different things.....

Search things people can do on Google.....

It is hard in this life but the truth is that there is money......

We just gotta look beyond where we are ....

Stop comparison.........
Don't feel low....
There has never being a day age or degree has being a determinant of who will succeed or not....


What determines it isn't just hard work but smart work......

We humans create smart phones.....we too must be smart like them.....we must work smart like them....

Try your hand in many things....


You said your child is about 7 years ..... don't underestimate the power of your child.....as you begin to think outside the box carry your child along.....your child could work along with you .....



In this world your certificate is worthless......

Your certificate is only a credential in getting you to be able to work for someone else but it doesn't guarantee your success......





Just pull yourself together......
Recreate yourself.....
If you're an insider then you gotta open up yourself wisely to people and new ideas ....

For you to put your problems here.....I means you are ready to change and take the big leap today.....



To your marriage life ..
..
I don't see marriage as a thing for everyone
......

And that's why I tell you not to base your life in way to please the society......

Marriage is also no determinant of success or a peaceful life....




You are a woman ...

You are greater than you know.....

You don't have to let others exploit your potentials.....
Exploit your potentials to your benefit..
......

Keep our head up......
Create a good network of friends.....
Turn your friends to your customers, turn your customers to your friends......


Good luck
....
I would have said more but I think the little I've written here should at least compensate you to about 2 percent....


But don't forget God.....

If you believe him then stick to him...
If you believe in African traditional religion then stick to it....or if you're a Muslim stick to it except it contradicts your personal views .......

I wish you the best of luck....

Cheer up....
Live happily.....

No more comparisons.....

Lalissa:
Damn, you are intelligent.

Xavfra:
Op.....


Good morning........

I understand what you feel even though not up to 5%....

But you gotta love yourself......

Accept yourself........


You see apart from other points you raised here....

One of your major challenges is comparison.....

One sad important good thing about life is that life is fairly unequal........

Everyone has their different roads on which they run life.....

You trying to compare yourself to someone else will distort your everything.....

Also you trying to run the way someone whose road is slippery runs means that you wouldn't get to your desire....





Life is a separate business we all are fully separate and different from other people....

Don't expect life to throw you what it throws at Mr A.........



You not getting a good job for you and your child in this situation is terrible in the current situation of Nigeria....but that doesn't mean that you should compare or begin to lose yourself......

Life is like boat in the ocean.....
You must brace yourself in order for you not to fallout.....



Also remove your mind from any thing like diabolic related not because they don't exists but because you yourself have nothing to do with it........it's a hard situation but brace your mind and pull it together, settle your mind, infact take your time and take up your destiny, your life.....hold it cause it's yours and no one else.....

Redesign your life not look like your neighbors on but how it should be.....

The moment you try to copy someone else you begin to limit your abilities....

Recreate your life and take charge
......

The marriage aspect........hmmmmmmmmmmm
It appears to be terrible because of what the society tends to believe.......

Ask yourself if the society fed you or bathed or cooked for you or gave you job......


Your life goal shouldn't be to please anyone or the society.....

But rather you should please yourself and achieve your desires......


You are you and no one else ......





The employment situation is really terrible....

But you shouldn't try to kill yourself because you can't get the kind of job you want......

Have you tried exploring other areas you must not work for others ......


In the current situation of this world, your degrees or certificates cannot provide what you want.....

Rather to survive in today's world you gotta use your brain so much..... utilize it......


Think outside the box.......

Try different things.....

Search things people can do on Google.....

It is hard in this life but the truth is that there is money......

We just gotta look beyond where we are ....

Stop comparison.........
Don't feel low....
There has never being a day age or degree has being a determinant of who will succeed or not....


What determines it isn't just hard work but smart work......

We humans create smart phones.....we too must be smart like them.....we must work smart like them....

Try your hand in many things....


You said your child is about 7 years ..... don't underestimate the power of your child.....as you begin to think outside the box carry your child along.....your child could work along with you .....



In this world your certificate is worthless......

Your certificate is only a credential in getting you to be able to work for someone else but it doesn't guarantee your success......





Just pull yourself together......
Recreate yourself.....
If you're an insider then you gotta open up yourself wisely to people and new ideas ....

For you to put your problems here.....I means you are ready to change and take the big leap today.....



To your marriage life ..
..
I don't see marriage as a thing for everyone
......

And that's why I tell you not to base your life in way to please the society......

Marriage is also no determinant of success or a peaceful life....




You are a woman ...

You are greater than you know.....

You don't have to let others exploit your potentials.....
Exploit your potentials to your benefit..
......

Keep our head up......
Create a good network of friends.....
Turn your friends to your customers, turn your customers to your friends......


Good luck
....
I would have said more but I think the little I've written here should at least compensate you to about 2 percent....


But don't forget God.....

If you believe him then stick to him...
If you believe in African traditional religion then stick to it....or if you're a Muslim stick to it except it contradicts your personal views .......

I wish you the best of luck....

Cheer up....
Live happily.....

No more comparisons.....

Meeyankee:
Nice one my brother

GboyegaD:
First, you need to get yourself out of the thoughts of what your dad told you because the mind is a very powerful tool and just as the Bible says that "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he".

You are the one you need to set yourself free and please, love yourself. Except you love yourself, no one will love you because what you project of yourself is what people get to see.

Most importantly, stop comparing yourself to others. Engage in things you love and watch your life blossom again. Above all, you need contentment, knowing it can only get better.

divaluvmiz:
I can't believe I've spent 10 good years of my life without achieving any meaningful thing.
I was young, with great potentials and vision. I graduated early. Everybody wants me, but I don't know how it turn out like this.
I'm 32 already.
I graduated 10 years ago yet, I don't have a good job, I don't have a good marriage.
I felt this is not my life. Is like there's a switch somewhere.
Years ago, my late dad told me to send him my personal earned money so he can use it to buy goat and make some sacrifice to nulify some things on my behalf, otherwise, I would not be able to get a job with my certificate and I can't get married. then I was pregnant and wanted to get married to my child's father who was my friend. but I told my father that i can not do that. Because I'm a child of God and i don't believe in all that. (My dad was not a Christian. He was diabolic) Shortly, he died.

To my greatest surprised, my friend whom we were so much in love, who begged me with everything to keep our first child and not to have an abortion, the same guy who took me to his family and decleared we're having a baby and we wants to get married, left after 7 months into my pregnancy without any reason.

This is 7years already and nothing exciting has happened to me.
The only thing I heard from him, is messages of appology, no fianancia support. Nothing.
Till date, I don't have a meaningful job, I've watched good friends who loved me still walk away to marry some other people.
The last was my best friend who just got married. He told me few days to his wedding how much he loved me.
(What surprised me was: why didn't he tell me all along?) He's been so good to me. Every member of my family know him and they loved him. Nothing he can't do for me.
I had to block him on my phone so he can concentrate on his new life Instead calling me always.
He's not the first person who truly loved me, but can't marry me. I'm always meeting good people, who can walk a mile for me, but they can't marry me for no reason and they can't let me go.
The one I love to be with, always walk away. The one I have no connection, no interest in, are the one around me.

I just woke up and realized that I've really wasted time without achieving anything.

Could it be there are powers beyond God?

Are they prayers God don't answer until we appeal traditional gods?
Are they sin beyound God's forgiveness?
I was innocent and in love, had pre-marital sex and had a baby outside weddlock. Is this beyond God's forgiveness no matter how I tried?
I have been praying and asking God to fix my life even if there's a family course that I knew nothing about. Yet, nothing positive have changed. is there something I'm not doing well?




I feel depressed.
I don't even know how to help myself

divaluvmiz:
I can't believe I've spent 10 good years of my life without achieving any meaningful thing.
I was young, with great potentials and vision. I graduated early. Everybody wants me, but I don't know how it turn out like this.
I'm 32 already.
I graduated 10 years ago yet, I don't have a good job, I don't have a good marriage.
I felt this is not my life. Is like there's a switch somewhere.
Years ago, my late dad told me to send him my personal earned money so he can use it to buy goat and make some sacrifice to nulify some things on my behalf, otherwise, I would not be able to get a job with my certificate and I can't get married. then I was pregnant and wanted to get married to my child's father who was my friend. but I told my father that i can not do that. Because I'm a child of God and i don't believe in all that. (My dad was not a Christian. He was diabolic) Shortly, he died.

To my greatest surprised, my friend whom we were so much in love, who begged me with everything to keep our first child and not to have an abortion, the same guy who took me to his family and decleared we're having a baby and we wants to get married, left after 7 months into my pregnancy without any reason.

This is 7years already and nothing exciting has happened to me.
The only thing I heard from him, is messages of appology, no fianancia support. Nothing.
Till date, I don't have a meaningful job, I've watched good friends who loved me still walk away to marry some other people.
The last was my best friend who just got married. He told me few days to his wedding how much he loved me.
(What surprised me was: why didn't he tell me all along?) He's been so good to me. Every member of my family know him and they loved him. Nothing he can't do for me.
I had to block him on my phone so he can concentrate on his new life Instead calling me always.
He's not the first person who truly loved me, but can't marry me. I'm always meeting good people, who can walk a mile for me, but they can't marry me for no reason and they can't let me go.
The one I love to be with, always walk away. The one I have no connection, no interest in, are the one around me.

I just woke up and realized that I've really wasted time without achieving anything.

Could it be there are powers beyond God?

Are they prayers God don't answer until we appeal traditional gods?
Are they sin beyound God's forgiveness?
I was innocent and in love, had pre-marital sex and had a baby outside weddlock. Is this beyond God's forgiveness no matter how I tried?
I have been praying and asking God to fix my life even if there's a family course that I knew nothing about. Yet, nothing positive have changed. is there something I'm not doing well?




I feel depressed.
I don't even know how to help myself

MrToothBrush:
I think you already have a clue to what your problem is. It's never too late.

Struggle to get money and buy the goat. Look for people to help you cook and and go and give it to beggars.

M00N:
TBH,we men find it hard to marry a woman with another man's child. We think of a lot of things like why didn't the father of her child marry her, what kind of life style led her to this and lot more questions like that. The truth is that having a child out of wedlock will reduce the number of suitors and those who even marry her will not want the child around him cause he see the child as extra baggage or only if he has a baggage of his own. It not easy to see a man who will love a woman and her child with another man. So I will suggest you pray to God to help you raise your child while you hope for a man that will love you and your child. Being a single mother always reduce a woman's chances of getting the man she wants because of the child, so unlike a single lady you don't get a lot of choice. Sorry if i sound
harsh

bukatyne:
It is her want to want:

Does she deserve the men she wants?

It is the men to decide.

And hanging around men who claim to like/love you and marry someone else is seriously time wasting.

Of course, the truth can sound wicked sometimes.

Let her in addition to prayers review the men she is rejecting.

easyconnect:
Deserve as how? Like the men are too good for her or what do you mean?

easyconnect:
Some of you claiming we can't marry single mother are not even capable of loving yourself not to talk of loving a single lady. I blame the @op who brought her personal life here in the first place.
You don't need to be sorry. You are harsh already

CsRockefeller:
You people are wicked. How can someone who just want a man to be happy with be reaching out of her league?

Chisos!! What type of world are we in? Is being a single mum a punishment or a disease?

Let me talk any further. You guys here make me weak every time.

easyconnect:
Deserve as how? Like the men are too good for her or what do you mean?

UjuJoan2:
You just have to face facts, being a single mother/father comes with a lot of consequences. Most people would not want to get involved with them.

I remember meeting an OAP when I was single, he was a local celebrity and was all over me. I was even catching feelings and falling for his moves already. He would play me love songs in his morning shows and do 'shout out' to me all day. It was wonderful . . . until I found out he had an 8-YO daughter.

You see I didn't see myself becoming a mother to an 8YO that wasn't mine. I just couldn't.

You can't judge people for the choices they make and the actions they take. That's why when you make a decision, you need to be ready to face the consequences.