1) If your mother really suffered from domestic violence you would be more sympathetic•

2) You can't insist she knew his violent nature before she married him because you don't know the type of relationship they had.

3) You've already judged OP by saying he ate the man's money and his sister married the man because of his wealth.

4) You want to hear the man's side of the story right? I am sure when your father abuses your mother he puts the blame on her right? Don't you know abusers are liars?

DenreleDave:


No u don't no where I am coming from



I insist, she saw this b4 marriage and she was okay with it...


2ndly, let the op tell us what happened.

3rdly, never judge till u hear the other side



I am ashamed to say this... Spongeisback..... My mum suffers physical abuse too and I felt like killing my dad sumtyms AL bcoxx my mum felt he wasn't responsible enough for us...

But let the OP tell us in full what happened. What if the lady in question is not thinking of divorce but the op is doing this with our her consent


One reason why I still have some resentment against my dad till date even though we are cool.

I know some men are evil and I can't justify their evilness..


But the thing is, let the OP state what happened

DenreleDave:


I don't know if it's for money or not but mum stayed bcox of us and my dad no get money sef... Yes bcox of us.. Many are facing it too

Some men are been punished by their wives too but they stayed Cox of their kids..


Just dt ladies are quick to complain but men rather r keep to themselves

Therein you have your answer. Many women stay for their kids. Who will pay school fees, feeding, clothing? Such worries keep them rooted

DenreleDave:


Thank you.. SweetCunt97 spongeisback Skmoda360


Learn from the 2nd to the last paragraph.


What if the sister is the problem but u guys are shouting divorce divorce.. What if?

If his sister is the problem, he would come here seeking for help. Na simple psychology naw

incogni2o:


I uderstanad your perspective.

You know Beauty and the Beast

Exactly..... Some people love to thrive in domestic abuse, fueled relationships.........

Skmoda360:

well I won't expect you to believe though......your point might be genuine and no woman can stay for long in an abusive relationship if she is financially independent expect she is dumb and foolish in this present generation.

Thank u bro... Spongeisback shud learn now.


1. We haven't heard what happening really but I can't deny that some men are evil likewise women


2. She doesn't Wana leave maybe she is dependent.. If she leaves, to where?

OP is jisy being

Skmoda360:

well I won't expect you to believe though......your point might be genuine and no woman can stay for long in an abusive relationship if she is financially independent expect she is dumb and foolish in this present generation.

Thank u bro... Spongeisback shud learn now.


1. We haven't heard what happening really but I can't deny that some men are evil likewise women


2. She doesn't Wana leave maybe she is dependent.. If she leaves, to where?

OP is just being hasty and unreasonable

SweetCunt97:
You talk about divorce but most of these ladies have been brainwashed to think divorce is evil. Families ain't helping matters either, you'd hear them say nonsense about shame in d society... If we can fvck all that shii, no one will swallow bulshiit in marriage. And people marrying should do well to have something doing so you can walk out that door when love and respect is no longer served.

Hmmm

SweetCunt97:
If his sister is the problem, he would come here seeking for help. Na simple psychology naw

Dts why I said we shud know the full story.. He is just a 3rd party... Anybody cud av Come here to seek for validations


What if the sister is the problem but the op refuses to acknowledge her as the problem.


Its a simple reverse psychology na

Yes his sister is the problem like your mother was also the problem but instead of taking the ostrich position your mother took she wants to leave, isn't it a good thing?

Who doesn't want to get rid of their problem?
Oh and the fact that your mother endured being beaten because of money doesn't mean everyone should.

DenreleDave:


Thank you.. SweetCunt97 spongeisback Skmoda360


Learn from the 2nd to the last paragraph.


What if the sister is the problem but u guys are shouting divorce divorce.. What if?

SweetCunt97:
Therein you have your answer. Many women stay for their kids. Who will pay school fees, feeding, clothing? Such worries keep them rooted

Exactly.. Reason why my mum stayed... Thank God it paid off.. I was able to further education to poly n University all bcox of my mum perseverance....


If she had left, I wud be a lout or sumtin else now


Thank God they don't live together.. Dad stays in ogun, mum and we stays in Lagos

spongeisback:
Yes his sister is the problem like your mother was also the problem but instead of taking the ostrich position your mother took she wants to leave, isn't it a good thing?

Who doesn't want to get rid of their problem?

Ur mother no get sense... If she get, u suppose get my point... Let the op sis take her decision..

Its not left for the op to post sumtin abt her sister without her consent...

Did you seek your mother's consent before telling the world she was a golddigger that got beaten because she couldn't respect her husband?

We need to hear your father's side of the story.


You write really poorly for someone that claims to have had University education.

DenreleDave:



Ur mother no get sense... If she get, u suppose get my point... Let the op sis take her decision..

Its not left for the op to post sumtin abt her sister without her consent...

This was how I removed my younger sister from a beast. I asked her if she was convinced she is no longer interested and she said yes., We located the nearest local government and went straight to there human Rights section. She made the complains and told them she was no longer interested in the relationship. He was invited and saying he is still very much interested, they were asked to go and come back three weeks later, my brother I jejely packed her belongings to my house and she was staying with me. We went back after three weeks and relationship was dissolved.
Note: she had two kids for the man ,no marriage registry. ...

spongeisback:
Did i seek my mother's consent before telling the world she was a golddigger that got beaten because she couldn't respect ur father ?

We need to hear your father's side of the story.


You write really poorly for someone that claims to have had University education.

Cox u r an idiot, it's normal u talk like one.. I live with them and even though mum too gat her fault but does not warrant beating.

When your mother finally finish her university education, quote mi. But until then, don't quote mi again

johnnobles:
This was how I removed my younger sister from a beast. I asked her if she was convinced she is no longer interested and she said yes., We located the nearest local government and went straight to there human Rights section. She made the complains and told them she was no longer interested in the relationship. He was invited and saying he is still very much interested, they were asked to go and come back three weeks later, my brother I jejely packed her belongings to my house and she was staying with me. We went back after three weeks and relationship was dissolved.
Note: she had two kids for the man ,no marriage registry. ...

Gud. She wanted it. U asked her if she wanted it and she said yes...

Unlike op, let the sister tell him first that she wants it

I am quoting you because my mom is a multiple degree holder.





So your mother dated your father and saw his violent nature and still entered the marriage because of money

Your mother's people Sat by and watch their daughter being brutalized because they ate your father's money and so they couldn't say shît.

With everything you've said here whatever she did warranted beating, let's hear from your father's side because we can't judge.

DenreleDave:


Cox u r an idiot, it's normal u talk like one.. I live with them and even though mum too gat her fault but does not warrant beating.

When your mother finally finish her university education, quote mi. But until then, don't quote mi again

spongeisback:
Yeah I will do that after i tell me why my gold digging mother married my father a violent beast because of money.

Pinshure or I dnt bliv it... Oya post na. Shebi ur mum na multiple damn fo*!


Ellalaaaa oju kan. E pain am


Odun Odun ofe ke

Pls show ur mother n tell her to send me her certificate via email

Dear women if there's any reason you need so as not to stay in a violent marriage use this guy as a case study.

Your kids will grow up this bitter and stupid


Oh by our comments am sure it easy to know who e dey pain.

DenreleDave:



Pinshure or I dnt bliv it... Oya post na. Shebi ur mum na multiple damn fo*!


Ellalaaaa oju kan. E pain am


Odun Odun ofe ke

Pls show ur mother n tell her to send me her certificate via email

spongeisback:
Dear women if there's any reason you need so as not to stay in a violent marriage use this guy as a case study.

Your kids will grow up this bitter and stupid


Oh by our comments am sure it easy to know who e dey pain.

Bitter ko, bitter lemon ni.. Tell. Ur mum to mail me with her certificate jare


No Gender sef... U be man abi woman

I will mail you my mother's certificates if you tell me why your mother married a man for money when she knew he was a beast.


Oh and kids gets their intelligence from their moms and since you can't even have a conversation without insults it's easy to see she isn't really a smart person, so I guess I know why she did it.

DenreleDave:



Bitter ko, bitter lemon ni.. Tell. Ur mum to mail me with her certificate jare


No Gender sef... U be man abi woman

spongeisback:
I will mail you my mother's certificates if you tell me why your mother married a man for money when she knew he was a beast.


Oh and kids gets their intelligence from their moms and since you can't even have a conversation without insults it's easy to see she isn't really a smart person, so I guess I know why she did it.

Ur mum pinshure first or notin..

E pain am

BluntTheApostle:


Alright, no problem.

Let me take you through the divorce process.

First, your sister (not you) must want the divorce.

Second, her marriage must be registered by a Marriage Registry.

Third, she must have reasonable reasons for wanting a divorce.

Fourth, she must have a list of what she hopes to get out of the divorce (custody of children, especially).

Fifth, she would need the services of a lawyer.

The processes are as follows:

She (and her lawyer) files a petition for divorce in a High Court. The High Court sends the content of the petition to her husband, who is given some time to respond, mostly 30 days (mostly just in writing, as far as Nigeria is concerned).

If her husband does not respond after 30 days, the court will not grant her a divorce, and she would need to file another petition requesting for a divorce by default (that is, a divorce based on the content of her own petition without needing the response of her husband).

In Nigeria, the easiest way to get a divorce is for the non-filing partner to respond to divorce papers.

So, as you can see, it is not an easy process.

Thank you Sir

healthserve:




You don't need her to file for divorce before you save her life. Find a cheap mini flat far from him and when he's away, move her things. Divorce can come in later but first secure her safety

Working on that already

Lexusgs430:



Does your sister want to leave this beast?......

Or she remains happily married to this beast?...

She really wants to leave. She is even ready to commit suicide

DenreleDave:


Exactly, the sister follow money marry man and now she I suffering... The useless brother that has eaten from the money too now Wana run away... Op, u can't eat ur cake and have it...

No!
My sister is well to do and i am richer than the husband generation combined!

I worth more than he can EVER EARN IN HIS ENTIRE LIFE

MarianaTrench:


She wants to what?

Leave him or remain married to him?

You need to be specific please?

Leave! I cried yesterday

BestAccessories:


I really don't think so.

If it's true, she wouldn't still be living under the same roof with him.

Who is paying the bills? I guess him

What is your sister doing for a living?

Can she truly live independently without any form of help from him?

I probably guess answer to this question is NO which makes her to still be living under the same roof with him.

Well... i won’t wanna give details

But my Sis is financially okay

Born2conquer:
Thank you Sir

You are most welcome.

RisenPhoenix:


Who told you there was battery? Don't make hasty assumptions.

@op. There's no way to divorce in one morning. And stop overhyping their differences. Just advice her to involve some cooler headed party from the elders in the family to mediate. If there is any form of assault, tell your parents to get her to come and stay with them for a while. If she's taking that option, she should be cautious where she stays during this period; otherwise the husband can claim in court that she abandoned him to live with another man.

You think we’ve not done this? Who loves divorce??

If it’s possible... i would have done it

DenreleDave:


U dey craze, shebi when e dey sweet, u and ur sister plus family dey enjoy but wen things change now, una won run.


Wooo all of una die there.. Una go face am together with ur sister facing the greater part

Like i said.

I am richer than the husband, his family and your own Afamily inclusive