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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Nobody: 8:46am On Mar 23, 2020
VirginSearcher:

My brother some people get wahala
I just tire
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:53am On Mar 23, 2020
crackkhaus:

Here's a random idea, since you're hell bent on this.

How about you engage her, but allow her finish her education, which should be no more than 4years, then you marry her afterwards.

Remember, you must also not have sex with her until you marry her officially.

The shit test here is to see if she'll be able to keep her virginity for the next four years, and at the same time must have been through with school and still be interested in you.

You'll be staking your financial investment on her during that period.
Nice, but I feel allowing her finish school will be a long wait on me, time flying! besides I'm moving out so I intend to finish off everything and have her join me after few months then she starts school once she arrived.. by then she will be with me.. how's that?
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 9:27am On Mar 23, 2020
VirginSearcher:

Nice, but I feel allowing her finish school will be a long wait on me, time flying! besides I'm moving out so I intend to finish off everything and have her join me after few months then she starts school once she arrived.. by then she will be with me.. how's that?
Carry on...
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Jman06(m): 9:46am On Mar 23, 2020
Op, go ahead and marry the girl. Don't mind those talking about age gap here. The age difference is not a problem in your case. If the girl is 18yo and you're 36, in the next 30years, you'll be 68 and she'll be 48. Even some 70yo men still chase girls in their 20s and carry them as sugar daddies. Who has time for 48yo women Even ladies in their mid to late 30s are not finding it easy getting men let alone 48yo woman.

However, after marrying her, make sure you finish birthing your kids before enrolling her into school.

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 9:55am On Mar 23, 2020
Jman06:
Op, go ahead and marry the girl. Don't mind those talking about age gap here. The age difference is not a problem in your case. If the girl is 18yo and you're 36, in the next 30years, you'll be 68 and she'll be 48. Even some 70yo men still chase girls in their 20s and carry them as sugar daddies. Who has time for 48yo women Even ladies in their mid to late 30s are not finding it easy getting men let alone 48yo woman.

However, after marrying her, make sure you finish birthing your kids before enrolling her into school.
Okay, I'm not even up to 36 bro

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Nobody: 10:02am On Mar 23, 2020
sisisioge:
And she's a virgin! What a priced possession!


I congratulate you in advance! Quickly do the needful!

You recognise that being a virgin is part of being a prized possession?

How come you always advocate for testing before marriage then?

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by ikh777: 3:27pm On Mar 23, 2020
VirginSearcher:

No, I'm thinking of moving her to where I'm going, u forgot that as I advance she also will

14YEARS GAP..... you will AGE and she will only be just be older... AGE DOES NOT SHOW ON WOMEN QUICKLY. U forget. anyway, you can cope with that
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Winneygirl(f): 4:39pm On Mar 23, 2020
You want to mold her to your ideal person?
Good luck.
I don't even believe she is up to 18.
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by cococandy(f): 5:05pm On Mar 23, 2020
grin grin

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by bukatyne(f): 5:36pm On Mar 23, 2020
Jman06:
Op, go ahead and marry the girl. Don't mind those talking about age gap here. The age difference is not a problem in your case. If the girl is 18yo and you're 36, in the next 30years, you'll be 68 and she'll be 48. Even some 70yo men still chase girls in their 20s and carry them as sugar daddies. Who has time for 48yo women Even ladies in their mid to late 30s are not finding it easy getting men let alone 48yo woman.

However, after marrying her, make sure you finish birthing your kids before enrolling her into school.

What 48yr old woman in her right senses wants to be stuck with a 68yr old husband?

Not sugar dad she will sleep with and move on.

Husband?!

Whatever.

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Jman06(m): 6:26pm On Mar 23, 2020
bukatyne:


What 48yr old woman in her right senses wants to be stuck with a 68yr old husband?

Not sugar dad she will sleep with and move on.

Husband?!

Whatever.
Even 20yo girls date and marry men of that age, let alone 48yo!

Regina Daniels is a good example of such marriages that happened recently. Of course, we heard about hers because she's a celebrity. Many of such unions take place in Nigeria every day!

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 3:41am On Mar 24, 2020
ikh777:


14YEARS GAP..... you will AGE and she will only be just be older... AGE DOES NOT SHOW ON WOMEN QUICKLY. U forget. anyway, you can cope with that
Can you clarify what u mean pls?
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 3:42am On Mar 24, 2020
Winneygirl:
You want to mold her to your ideal person?
Good luck.
I don't even believe she is up to 18.
Thanks, and she is! anything below that doesn't add up
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 3:42am On Mar 24, 2020
bukatyne:


What 48yr old woman in her right senses wants to be stuck with a 68yr old husband?

Not sugar dad she will sleep with and move on.

Husband?!

Whatever.
What exactly are u saying? undecided

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Ishilove: 6:28am On Mar 24, 2020
The decision lies with you. We will not be there when you're enjoying the benefits or reaping the consequences.

In all your speculations and questions, not once did you include the 'God factor'. Whoever you decide to marry, whether it is this 18 year old virgin or the next 30 year old virgin, make sure when the storm rages and the ship sways, when you cry out to God his response isn't "I sent you to Nineveh but you went to Tarshish".

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by anonimi: 6:50am On Mar 24, 2020
Ishilove:
The decision lies with you. We will not be there when you're enjoying the benefits or reaping the consequences.

In all your speculations and questions, not once did you include the 'God factor'. Whoever you decide to marry, whether it is this 18 year old virgin or the next 30 year old virgin, make sure when the storm rages and the ship sways, when you cry out to God his response isn't "I sent you to Nineveh but you went to Tarshish".

cheesy grin

Awon iran Jonah.

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Ishilove: 8:49am On Mar 24, 2020
anonimi:


cheesy grin

Awon iran Jonah.
cheesy

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by CsRockefeller(m): 9:42am On Mar 24, 2020
I wanted to try this. Saw a lady in my hometown during Xmas, people said she was too small and I ain't financially buoyant to sponsor her.

The truth is that girl is still a teen. There are still many out there in the mid and late twenties who are still virgins.

But again, a virgin might not make the best of wife. As you go along the marriage you would need deeper things to keep it going.
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 2:22pm On Mar 24, 2020
Ishilove:
The decision lies with you. We will not be there when you're enjoying the benefits or reaping the consequences.

In all your speculations and questions, not once did you include the 'God factor'. Whoever you decide to marry, whether it is this 18 year old virgin or the next 30 year old virgin, make sure when the storm rages and the ship sways, when you cry out to God his response isn't "I sent you to Nineveh but you went to Tarshish".
So what are you trying to say, can u be more open pls?
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 2:25pm On Mar 24, 2020
CsRockefeller:
I wanted to try this. Saw a lady in my hometown during Xmas, people said she was too small and I ain't financially buoyant to sponsor her.

The truth is that girl is still a teen. There are still many out there in the mid and late twenties who are still virgins.

But again, a virgin might not make the best of wife. As you go along the marriage you would need deeper things to keep it going.
18yrs still a teen? You know quite well they are very difficult to find.. u don't have the whole century to keep looking for that besides I'm willing to help her become the best wife
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by ahnie: 2:55pm On Mar 24, 2020
VirginSearcher:
o
My brother some people get wahala
In case you changed your mind....I'm a virgin mum of two vibrant kids.

Bia crackhaus don come spoil markiit for me o.

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 5:12pm On Mar 24, 2020
ahnie:

In case you changed your mind....I'm a virgin mum of two vibrant kids.

Bia crackhaus don come spoil markiit for me o.
cheesycheesy
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by jekks(m): 12:12am On Mar 25, 2020
Me not looking for a virgin, me just looking for a good lady that will take care of me and my unborn children... nothing more
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by loshybab(m): 9:29pm On Mar 25, 2020
jekks:
Me not looking for a virgin, me just looking for a good lady that will take care of me and my unborn children... nothing more
I wish you the bonus of being a virgin,in addition to the above cool

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by GboyegaD(m): 12:19am On Mar 26, 2020
crackkhaus:



The only alternative condition which should make you go ahead, is whether you'll be able to keep a close eye on her and monitor her effectively..
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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by GboyegaD(m): 12:20am On Mar 26, 2020
VirginSearcher:
Hi Everyone,

Hope you doing great?

If y'all remember I opened a thread recently asking for a virgin girl to marry... had few contacts with one seemingly serious but it seems am going ahead with the decision of marrying the 18 yrs old virgin girl. Note: There are girls/friends asking me to come and marry them but the problem is that they are not virgins as they told me. And with the level of promiscuity in Nigeria and being scared of what many girls do in their relationship life I'm not comfortable moving towards that direction as I believe I may never love a non-virgin girl. So, I have decided to marry the girl and train her character wise and also in school to study a professional course I want after paying her bride price (have a reason for this). She wrote Jamb this year but I'm not interested in her enrolling into Nig school as I have better plans for her before guys that specialize in devouring Jambites notice her.
Please guys is a marriage of 14yrs age difference bad? angry That's my only concern but I love her and she is so innocent, beautiful and well shaped with a matured body.. Please advice am I making the right decision? angry

Thanks VirginSearcher!

To start with, your status where you are going to is very important to bring her so that she doesn't become Lord of the rings. Regarding if you should marry her, the ball is in your court. Just make sure she ticks all your boxes as there is more to being a wife than being a virgin.

N.B: People dey reach abroad tear eyes ooo so if you no sure of yourself or her behavior, be careful.
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by worworbabe: 10:21am On Mar 26, 2020
From your post, you have plans of controlling her. That's not healthy for any relationship. Marry her if you can see her as a partner or mate.


If you keep on with this controlling attitude, she will leave you.

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Mizwisdom(f): 11:13am On Mar 26, 2020
You and graduatereseacher seem alike and this thread is something I will expect him to write too sad
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Petyprincess(f): 11:37am On Mar 26, 2020
Mizwisdom:
You and graduatereseacher seem alike and this thread is something I will expect him to write too sad
Lol guaduatereseearcher grin grin When i saw this thread i remember greatreasher grin
I hope it won't end in tears, all these older men looking for gullible nd naive girls to ground down! I really feel sorry for the poor girl cry Im pretty sure if the girl was comfortable nd her parent is financial buoyant she wouldn't think of an older man!

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Petyprincess(f): 11:40am On Mar 26, 2020
Jman06:
Op, go ahead and marry the girl. Don't mind those talking about age gap here. The age difference is not a problem in your case. If the girl is 18yo and you're 36, in the next 30years, you'll be 68 and she'll be 48. Even some 70yo men still chase girls in their 20s and carry them as sugar daddies. Who has time for 48yo women Even ladies in their mid to late 30s are not finding it easy getting men let alone 48yo woman.

However, after marrying her, make sure you finish birthing your kids before enrolling her into school.
Brother you are very wicked nd heartless!! If she was your sister would you allow a older man turning her to a baby factory b4 enrolling into university? I wonder how y'all dish advice without thinking!!

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 3:43pm On Mar 26, 2020
funshint:
If only virginity was enough to have a happy marriage... Your choice, goodluck.




u dey mind d guy!

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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by frozen70(f): 11:50pm On Mar 26, 2020
VirginSearcher:
Hi Everyone,

Hope you doing great?

If y'all remember I opened a thread recently asking for a virgin girl to marry... had few contacts with one seemingly serious but it seems am going ahead with the decision of marrying the 18 yrs old virgin girl. Note: There are girls/friends asking me to come and marry them but the problem is that they are not virgins as they told me. And with the level of promiscuity in Nigeria and being scared of what many girls do in their relationship life I'm not comfortable moving towards that direction as I believe I may never love a non-virgin girl. So, I have decided to marry the girl and train her character wise and also in school to study a professional course I want after paying her bride price (have a reason for this). She wrote Jamb this year but I'm not interested in her enrolling into Nig school as I have better plans for her before guys that specialize in devouring Jambites notice her.
Please guys is a marriage of 14yrs age difference bad? angry That's my only concern but I love her and she is so innocent, beautiful and well shaped with a matured body.. Please advice am I making the right decision? angry

Thanks VirginSearcher!

Having read your first and second thread, I think you have an issue it could be attitude issue or believe issue

My own ys, if you like marry with 25yrs difference, just don't treat her bad or manipulate her or use her innocence

Every woman is an actor no matter the age and she is wiser than the serpent

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