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Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by naijaboylive(m): 9:19am On Mar 27, 2020 |
crackkhaus: I've been following your comments on this issue. I strongly believe your advice is among the best OP should adhere to. |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 9:47am On Mar 27, 2020 |
Petyprincess:Calm down with your bad belle, there won't be any tears but joy. Your comment shows u don't understand what is old and mutual consent. The girl accepted, no persuasion of whatsoever so what is your problem? Even if the parents were to be rich the girl has a decision to make too. So feel sorry for yourself if you don't know it's better to settle down early once the signs are good. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 9:49am On Mar 27, 2020 |
frozen70:I would like you to explain the attitude or believe issue in your own perspective |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 9:53am On Mar 27, 2020 |
worworbabe:You don't know me, so believe I have no such plans of controlling her. Why would I do that? a happy home is topmost priority. |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 9:53am On Mar 27, 2020 |
GboyegaD:Cool |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by oyoolima: 10:24am On Mar 27, 2020 |
She is just 18,she probably has not come into herself ,her personality is still emerging.Even neurodevelopmentally,her brain has not matured. By the time she is 25,she may realise she would never have chosen to be with someone like you.What then happens if she hits this sort of crisis? The age difference is too wide for her current age ,if she was 27 and you 41,it's the same age gap but with her being more mature. There must be older virgins out there,closer to your own age who will be willing to sacrifice their hymen to receive your love. It is likely her family is poor and using you as a poverty alleviation project. It is not very common in 2020 for well to do parents to give away their teenage child unless you are in the north. If she's moving to a developed country,it's only a matter of time before she begins to ask herself questions. I think teenagers should be left alone to enjoy that phase of their lives. The probability that this will end in tears further down the line is high but you never know..you may be the exception. Good luck 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 11:35am On Mar 27, 2020 |
oyoolima: |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 11:45am On Mar 27, 2020 |
naijaboylive:Oh thank you. Hopefully, he takes a thing or two from it. |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by UjuJoan2: 11:49am On Mar 27, 2020 |
VirginSearcher: My only concern here is that an 18-year-old is even considering marrying a man 14 years older than her. She hasn't experienced life, she hasn't even sown her wild oats yet, but now she feels she needs to get married to get out of poverty. And you, who should know better because of your age, are dangling better life and education at her just to satisfy a fetish you have to marry a virgin. Does she even love you? Is she going to flinch every time she has to consummate this marriage? Does she feel like she is making a huge sacrifice to better her family's economic status? How will she deal with the resentment that will (definitely) come later? I really feel sad that women still find themselves in these postions, and men still take advantage of them. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by UjuJoan2: 11:51am On Mar 27, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Yes oh, I read your very interesting comment. A 30-year old virgin offering herself to you just like that? Was she tired of waiting till marriage? Or has she never been tempted before she met you? Biko that your babe was not a virgin! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 11:54am On Mar 27, 2020 |
UjuJoan2:Really? You don't mean it. Tell me something... |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by UjuJoan2: 11:57am On Mar 27, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Well, it is possible . . . I mean ANYTHING is possible. But kudos to you for your restraint. I knew all these your gra gra here is only a facade. You are one of the good ones! |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by UjuJoan2: 12:04pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
VirginSearcher: Is that not a very valid question? I have friends who desperately wanted to marry virgins. They were virgins themselves and got married to their first real girlfriends. While we were clubbing and dating they were raising children. One got married at 22, the other was 23. I recently met someone who is 35 now and has a 10-year-old daughter. He probably got married at 24 and the wife was about the same age. It made more sense. They had strong beliefs and lived their lives by them. They didn't dangle money to those girls. They didn't entice them with foreign education. They married young and grew together. Not you, that have wasted your youth sampling different girls. Now you want an innocent girl to dump on. Disgusting! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 12:05pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
UjuJoan2:I'm a good man..always have, always will be. What you see as gra gra is just me being a realist, and most of them don't like this. They don't like it because the internet which was supposed to provide a utopian fantasyland for idealism, a breakaway from the craziness and coldness of the world they know...they came here and still ended up seeing my types giving them reminders which jolt them back to reality. The lord's work has never and will never be liked or tolerated by the majority. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by UjuJoan2: 12:07pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
crackkhaus: The lord's work eh? More grease to your elbow oh! |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 12:09pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
UjuJoan2:Lol... |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by eyinjuege: 1:13pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
AllforJesus7: Ever heard of sarcasm |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by eyinjuege: 1:25pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: The real question should be why parents- fathers and mothers allow their girls to be sold to the highest bidder. Why are there so many runs girls about when their parents are still alive? Where are the fathers of such girls? Where are their mothers? Even the ones not doing runs are sold by the same parents. Her father hasn't sent her to school yet (he probably never will, and wants to marry her off quickly). Perhaps if she was already in university or has a skill set, she should consider marriage. You see undergraduates doing prostitution about, all in the name of trying to sponsor themselves in school. Such a disgusting society 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Nobody: 2:15pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 3:29pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
UjuJoan2:You don't even know me and here you are ranting.. I'm sure something is really paining you, if you gave out your virginity carelessly and still single please don't come here and show your frustration, that is what I want.. and its only advice I asked. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by UjuJoan2: 3:53pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
VirginSearcher: Yes, of course, that's what is paining me. I'm single and searching, unfortunately, I've since long lost my virginity and cannot be a bride to you. Now see all the things I'm missing. . . . Mtcheew! Yeye dey smell! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by UjuJoan2: 3:55pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
eyinjuege: It is quite disgusting, I tell you . . . Parents just bring kids into this world without any plan whatsoever how to cater to them. Such a shame! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by CsRockefeller(m): 6:04pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: You know nothing about life, what's the first law of nature? |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by farady(m): 8:12pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
Pray for God to direct you. That you marry a virgin is no guarantee she will make a good wife, a good mother and a home builder. You sef, are you a virgin? If you have defiled yourself, what makes you think you will reap an unadulterated vine. That is why you must ask God to direct you. He is author of that oldest institution and He sure knows the best for you. Cheers. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:47am On Mar 28, 2020 |
you are 32 hoping to marry a 18yr old and think it would work?! you guys are from different worlds, probably have different aim in life... and as much as many women today are ready to sell themselves in order to become housewives at any cost, you have to look further into this matter than just virginity. if you and the babe have NOTHING in common, then best let her go! |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Tomjazzy2: 3:10am On Mar 28, 2020 |
Gentlemen and ladies, gently sit back and watch as the story unfolds. Another "greatresearcher" is here |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 3:35am On Mar 28, 2020 |
farady:I always put it in prayer, may He lead me right |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 3:36am On Mar 28, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:Okay |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Ishilove: 4:48am On Mar 28, 2020 |
CsRockefeller:That one no dey always work inside human intimate relationships. If we both have similar interests, passions and worldview, then we have a greater chance of being attracted to each other than vice versa. |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Sotland: 6:57am On Mar 28, 2020 |
Since when has virgin become a criteria if good marriage home? Who you have destined to marry may not even be a virgin. Virgin as a wife shouldn't be the point. But a woman with good manners. Virginity ends in one night but good manners last for eternity�. Let me ask you, would you prefer to marry a virgin that could lead to your early grave |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by GreatResearcher: 7:27am On Mar 28, 2020 |
VirginSearcher:How many times will you ask this age gap question? whatever rocks your boat |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by GreatResearcher: 7:29am On Mar 28, 2020 |
Tomjazzy2:Might work out well for him. |
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