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Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 4:45am On Mar 23, 2020 |
Hi Everyone, Hope you doing great? If y'all remember I opened a thread recently asking for a virgin girl to marry... had few contacts with one seemingly serious but it seems am going ahead with the decision of marrying the 18 yrs old virgin girl. Note: There are girls/friends asking me to come and marry them but the problem is that they are not virgins as they told me. And with the level of promiscuity in Nigeria and being scared of what many girls do in their relationship life I'm not comfortable moving towards that direction as I believe I may never love a non-virgin girl. So, I have decided to marry the girl and train her character wise and also in school to study a professional course I want after paying her bride price (have a reason for this). She wrote Jamb this year but I'm not interested in her enrolling into Nig school as I have better plans for her before guys that specialize in devouring Jambites notice her. Please guys is a marriage of 14yrs age difference bad? That's my only concern but I love her and she is so innocent, beautiful and well shaped with a matured body.. Please advice am I making the right decision? Thanks VirginSearcher! |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by pfadom: 4:58am On Mar 23, 2020 |
O boy! Are you a virgin yourself? Please park well. Stop this strategy of reaping from where you did not sow. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by ikh777: 5:03am On Mar 23, 2020 |
VirginSearcher: 14years? Oga ooo anyway, we do not have a say in this matter, different cultures and religious beliefs shape nigeria, it is up to your people and her people. JUST DONT DISVIRGIN HER O UNTIL MARRIAGE.... because if you do then you will be the biggest hypocrite ever. Also, who told you that there are no NAIJA BOYS in the abroad that you are sending her to. Shey u know she will admire boys within her age range and by the time you are old she will still be young enough to marry someone else. BE WISE o 8 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by funshint(m): 5:07am On Mar 23, 2020 |
If only virginity was enough to have a happy marriage... Your choice, goodluck. 16 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Nobody: 5:10am On Mar 23, 2020 |
If I talk, I will be banned. You have a virgin and you thinking about marriage. Let me keep quiet. |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Nobody: 5:32am On Mar 23, 2020 |
14yrs gap? Ahhh, you wan marry your daughter ni? 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by shortgun(m): 6:19am On Mar 23, 2020 |
If you are not ready yet to settle down with her don't pay d dowry yet. Avoid this girl that is still in school...Girls change immediately they taste freedom in the school environment.....na her course mates go bust her turn her to bore hole b4 she graduate. Until u r ready to live with her don't marry her yet. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by namiji2598: 6:40am On Mar 23, 2020 |
I must admit sir, I am happy for u for meeting up the requirements, but please and please don't send that girl to study abroad, you will regret it later, don't send her to any far away school, get her admitted to a university or college within your state. It will save you the time to create another thread of how she cheated and betrayed you Even if its a poly or FCE, or university just make sure it's in your state, if she mistakenly taste your diick while she study's far away, she will cheat, but if she taste ur seex and she study's very close, she can be staying at home and be going for lectures and can always visit for weekend One thing with sez is that the moment you taste it,she must always thirst for iy 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by punisha: 6:50am On Mar 23, 2020 |
This guy I dey laugh u walahi. Ur case is currently being reviewed by your village people. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 7:03am On Mar 23, 2020 |
pfadom:How does this relate to the topic? |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 7:05am On Mar 23, 2020 |
ikh777:No, I'm thinking of moving her to where I'm going, u forgot that as I advance she also will |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 7:08am On Mar 23, 2020 |
shortgun:Okay, I'm ready to live with her and she will be going where I'm going too |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 7:11am On Mar 23, 2020 |
namiji2598:No, she will be studying in the same place where I am... but I understood u |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by donbachi(m): 7:19am On Mar 23, 2020 |
Op what if d girl na "moneysearcher" as u na "virginsearcher" and she come discover sey u no get d kind money wey she dey find. |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 7:32am On Mar 23, 2020 |
The only issue I have here is the part about you sponsoring her education... and to make it worse, you're even considering a school in another country. I'm sorry to say this, but she hasn't proven that she is capable of self-control and discipline yet. Going through fire is the surest test for gold. While getting married to a virgin is something to be proud of, it has to be with one who has been through some experiences and still kept herself. If she has gone through a university, is at least 25, is already doing something to earn a living, but remained a virgin through all of it, then she is worthy. For now, any investment you make on this 18year old will be like sowing in the wind - it's either you will reap whirlwinds or do your reaping under a thick cloud. None of those are good, even though the latter seems like a win. My advise to you is this... As much as you think they will be hard to find, I suggest you look for women who are over a certain age but still virgins...this is what I personally rate as good character and good discipline. And yes, there are ladies like that. I couldn't believe my luck when I befriended a 30year old virgin a few years back - beautiful working class chic, it was unbelievable. We ended up just as friends though because I could not bring myself to ravaging her even though she had offered herself up to me on a platter. Be wise bro. An 18yo is too young, too unstable, and too unpredictable to be the virgin you think you need. 15 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by sisisioge: 7:47am On Mar 23, 2020 |
Wow! You are a very lucky man! The age difference is nothing! Grap that girl quickly before someone else does. How many husbands get to choose the courses their wives study, send them to abroad school and generally raise them? And she's a virgin! What a priced possession! I congratulate you in advance! Quickly do the needful! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 7:52am On Mar 23, 2020 |
crackkhaus:What kind of scary advice is this? bros no vex wetin be your final submission pls |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 7:56am On Mar 23, 2020 |
VirginSearcher:
The only alternative condition which should make you go ahead, is whether you'll be able to keep a close eye on her and monitor her effectively.. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:01am On Mar 23, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Okay, I intend to marry her then move her to come join me months later if I cross, how's that? 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 8:10am On Mar 23, 2020 |
VirginSearcher:Do what you want bro. I have done well to talk about the pros and cons of your decision. The buck stops with you at the end of the day. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:14am On Mar 23, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Bros, your advice is wise/true but at the same time very scary |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Mstick: 8:24am On Mar 23, 2020 |
It will end in tears. So after you take her virginity what next?! 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by proclinician: 8:26am On Mar 23, 2020 |
14 years is too much and a jambite has not received the dose of attention that will put her will power and resolve into a test to which the priceless will say no and stand down but the wh0re, your guess is as good as mine. There's no guarantee this jambite will not lose it after her first year in any unit. She is immature and unexposed. If you search deeper in some churches or mission owned nursings of nursing you will. As for this one i do not support. |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 8:31am On Mar 23, 2020 |
VirginSearcher:Nothing scary about it, unles your intention is to rush into a marriage with this girl. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Nobody: 8:35am On Mar 23, 2020 |
There's no 'bad' age difference. It is a faux construct of society based on the hollywood, nollywood and bollywood narrative that marriage should come after a whirlwind romantic love affair; which of course can only be engaged in by immature youth; hence the picture of young man and young girl in 'love' being 'compatible' for each other. But you have to be strong and responsible from the beginning. Please don't let anyone discourage you. After 3 children, both of you will start to look like agemates. Women always age faster. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:36am On Mar 23, 2020 |
Mstick:I reject it, u cannot be positive for once 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:37am On Mar 23, 2020 |
crackkhaus:No, not now at least before the year runs out from ember month period |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by Nobody: 8:40am On Mar 23, 2020 |
pfadom:Why are you so pain? Leave the guy alone Everyman with his choice . |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:40am On Mar 23, 2020 |
proclinician:Its not easy to find bro, but as per your submission I hope to put plans in place that will take care of that |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by crackkhaus: 8:43am On Mar 23, 2020 |
VirginSearcher:Here's a random idea, since you're hell bent on this. How about you engage her, but allow her finish her education, which should be no more than 4years, then you marry her afterwards. Remember, you must also not have sex with her until you marry her officially. The shit test here is to see if she'll be able to keep her virginity for the next four years, and at the same time must have been through with school and still be interested in you. You'll be staking your financial investment on her during that period. 6 Likes |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:45am On Mar 23, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix:Okay, I got you bro |
Re: Please Help Advice Me In This Would-be Marriage Decision by VirginSearcher(m): 8:45am On Mar 23, 2020 |
Meeyankee:My brother some people get wahala |
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