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chival:
The solution is simple. Break up with the lady in question. She neither loves you nor sees a future with you. When you mentioned plans to initiate marriage proceedings to her and she stalled, you should have read the writing on the wall. You were simply a buffer to be used until someone 'better' happens along. I suspect the change in attitude which you noticed sometime ago happened about the same time she lost interest in you.

Move on, with no hard feelings. I know it'll be hard because you sound like you really love this lady, but everyone deserves to be respected and loved in return. You'll find a girl who treasures you in future, and you may actually end up thanking God you broke up with this particular girl.

I don't like it when people toy with other people's emotions and string them along for selfish reasons. Your so-called girlfriend is heartless and I pity the man who will end up marrying her.

Excuzeme:
Sharp-sharp you wan collect the twenty dough in this Coro-period!
No Dulling jare!
Op, there is someone ehre who appreciates you twenty bail, at least you will know you did good charity during this period.
Stop wasting good money on that No-do-good girl of yours.

BTW : you get four kids, really?

tomju:
I will start by disagreeing with you about relationship being like a card game! It is better the shit happens now than later when he is really deep into it, like in marriage.
Why would I date a girl who always rejects her calls when we are together? 1st wrong signal.
Why would I date a girl who turns off her data when we are together? Another wrong signal.
When she always locks her phone, then definitely she is hiding something. Listen, if you cannot pick your girl friends phone and answer her calls, then she is cheating period.
Firstly, a serious relationship her parents should know you or atleast the mom should know there is someone. Except maybe you are dating an underage girl. This takes me to another issue. Relationship should be for adults! Not kids. Adult decisions, adult consequences.
Okay, i give ya'all an assignment. Propose to your girl or boy a game. Phone swap. We switch our phones for a day or two. You pick all my calls, I pick all yours. We read each others text messages. Anyone that has something to hide CAN NEVER agree to this proposal. NEVER.
Several years ago, I was in a very serious relationship. I would never suspect my girl was cheating, because she didn't need to. She had everything she wanted. I mean everything. Story for another day.
Now, I went to Abuja to visit her serving then NYSC. In the night she removed network from Her Blackberry phone before going to bed, you know like airplane mode, you can just click and mobile network is disconnected. As she slept off, I inserted network again, about 12am calls and text messages came in. Several like 7 in total.
Some girls were calling her to come out....and another text threatening her to leave her husband alone? blah blah blah. She work up in the morning looking confused. I said you had several text messages! Reavealing ones at that. She was shocked. Did you read any, I said yes. tThe one that said you should stay away from Mr Nnaji! Mrs Nnaji sent it. She broke down and cried..started apologising and all, but boy! my mind was made up. Long story short, I left.
A week after I left her for good, a lot unfolded. Love is blind init? Anyway, the thing is: be yourself. Don't "play" your relationship as "a game"! It should not be. Its either he/she is worth it or they are not. Imagine if I had married the slut that time? So I will be battling depression et al, or running upandan for paternity tests!
Love your girl/guy for real but be open minded to expect any eventuality. This is the part I had to agree with you on loving with your head, and not with your heart. A good woman is a good woman. Play a game or don't play a game. Some women have values. Norms they can die for.
If a woman or man, is cheating behind your back, and you are not...its just a matter of time, they'll be exposed. You are better off loosing a cheating girlfriend than a cheating wife.
I believe some good girls are still out there. Pray you meet one. Remember the good ones may not come in the right shape! or skin colour...you know what I mean. I wish all faithful men/women the faithful partners of their dreams or atleast be honest about who they are seeing. So you can choose which way to go. Staysafe bro. It will be okay.

Mummyfour:
four lovely kids ooo

pansophist:


You wan beg money, you come use style style advice am abi ?

primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

lefulefu:
the girl no even respect am
iyam surprised he still refer to such a girl as his girlfriend when she deny am

luminouz:
Yeah bro

Kobicove:
If you have not committed yourself to a lady it's unfair for you to prevent her from meeting other guys!

argent412:
Some girls are mean sha . Just try and meet her one on one and ask her if she still interested with the relationship and if she says yes, then you can show her ur evidence.


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lefulefu:
are u saying op is a loser ? someone was saying op should go and beg the girl

primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

lefulefu:
what a sensible guy would do is break up with such a girl and re evaluate himself.check where u failing in life cos for ur own girlfriend to deny u publicly that means u must be a loser.break up with her and focus on how to upgrade urself .

Djamel:
This might be too long...but eventually its worth reading..........Man i honestly feel your pain....been there....came out of mine just few months ago....i think its a trend mostly to young girls of this present generation.......i had this pretty girl i dated....we've been together for almost 3 years.....we started dating after i gained admission into the university......so mostly we get to communicate on phone.....when i have long semester break we spend time together......i'm the quiet type i hardly mk trouble nor encourage trouble......my 300 lvl, i came back for my long semester break.....we met, after much catching up since we mostly talk on phone we started "you know"....... i noticed that my babe kitten has gotten wider than usual.....guy man was like "ah ah jisos.....babe whats up.....i didnt leave things dz way?"......she started running circles on me......i know her body like mine.....since i wasnt seeing nor having sex with anyone all the time i was in skool....so any changes ill know......i was still persistent........next she started crying.....explaining her life cheating story to me......i was quite....bitterly hurt,dunno what to do.....but i still love her......eventually i forgave her and allowed it slide....but d trust reduced from 100% to 30%......she eventually gained admission into my own skool......i didnt want it to be that way....but then again i was like....skool changes people.....you get to know their true self....my plans was to graduate....get my shit together quickly and marry her...so prolly its best shes there....i stayed back after my i.t....had to get enough money to change my apartment to a better and nicer one....so she wont feel uncomfortable when ever she visits....i dodged two months out of four months to get the money....went back to skool....on my way i called her "babe i'll be in skool soon...i'm on my way".....her reply was like she didnt want me there.....but she tried covering it by sounding too happy....no wahala.....arrived in skool couldnt see her that night had to reschedule the next day......we met....talked....my gut told me something was wrong somewhere......i shut d guy up.....we started getting intimate then i noticed.....dunno if its just me....i just noticed something isnt right.....didnt say anything so as not to start something i'm not too sure of......we kept going, the trust isnt there no more.........one day something crazy happened...i was with her one time gisting at my place....a call came she picked it up i couldnt get what the guy was saying but he sounded angry......after d call she started panicking....picked her things and left....while she was on that call i could hear d guy say leave that place and come here or its over......guy man don suffer i swear......she didnt tell me....but i knew why she left.....after 2hrs or so i called her and told her what i suspected....she was like yes baby....hes a cultist that have been trying to mk me date him....had to leave to avoid him coming here to mk trouble.....omo i smile....shake my head......now the love is dying by the day.......the story still long but due to time and how my finger hurts typing this....ill summarize from this point.....she got infected.....told me the disease....gave me the abbrevation of the disease....i have forgotten.....two days after the whole thing....i googled up the disease only to see its a sexually transmitted disease u get.....was like ah ah.....checked if theres other ways of contracting it.....still gotten from having sex with multiple partners......the phone switching too was happening all this while..anytime she comes, her phone is always off.....but shes always quick to tell me to gv her my phone....i know its to check for anything suspicious....but im clean man.....i gv it to her anytime she asks....i know youll might want to ask why i lingered for too long.....man i was smashing the idiot pussy for free....had to keep letting em cums out man......after graduation thats last year....i knew its a new phase in my life....wouldnt want that deceite....lies....bad energy......i smashed the pussy for the 1000th times......knew i was tired of it.....mapped out a plans to break up with the idiot.....like they say the friends you keep shows who you her......i was in lagos.....she came back too....we talked....we smashed then she told me...."ill tell my mum about us to make it open........was like ur mum....sure why not.......oh! Na me you wan cage .....amadioha fire you there.....she went back to skool.....i called my friend in skool.....told him whats up.....the kind of girl i think she is.....my friend who live and abide by bro code said he'll get things from her.....gave him her contact...department and church where she worships in skool......every details that will mk things easier for him.....i gave him two weeks......then he called me and said...."guy that ur babe no see you as him guy oo....she said you are his street guy".....that shes seeing one emmanuel guy in civil engineering theyve been dating since last year........would have said my friend was lying but its the same emmanuel that called her the time she left....and i didnt tell him anything bout that story nor his name....so she spilled the info to him.....i made up my mind that i'm done with her......but it was hard letting go.....i still lingered...then i went on facebook collected her friends number and called her friend with a different line....told her friend that i like her friend(thats my ex).....that one was like "eh she has a boyfriend ooo but she can go out with you if you can spend"......then i asked whos her boyfriend sef...is he dangote jokingly....that one laffed and asked my ex....your admirer dy ask if emmanuel na dangote oo.....i just let out a dissapointing smile.....its confirmed its emmanuel......i told her friend give ur friend d phone....that one collected it....was forming sweet and expensive.....called her both names....she was like " whos this?".....then she knew who she was talking to....i ws like so this is how you are.....betray and deny me to whoever that wants to know bout your relationship status....y then keep me around then....as backup if others fails.....she was like im not cheating yada yada yada......i told her.....my work with you is done!!!....few months later she texted....i miss you i am not cheating bla bla bla if you dont reply ill understand.....i saw d msg....i deleted d msg and her number.....


So bro all im saying his....if your gut tells you shes cheating she 100% man......its obvious you are her last resort incase things at the top gets bad....nobody wants to be that.....smash her heart and move on like nothing happened........or keep smashing her pussy till its worn out....but its best you move on........trust me youll be ok!

primesoccer:
I will definitely meet her with the evidence. But I still want to continue chatting with her to get more info from her before I make the move.

Mummyfour:
it's not begging,it's payment for services rendered whether accepted or not . I no dey beg,but it may sound like beg.

Eagleboney:
Your relationship is the best I have ever seen,

keep being softer to her,

primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

Djamel:
This might be too long...but eventually its worth reading..........Man i honestly feel your pain....been there....came out of mine just few months ago....i think its a trend mostly to young girls of this present generation.......i had this pretty girl i dated....we've been together for almost 3 years.....we started dating after i gained admission into the university......so mostly we get to communicate on phone.....when i have long semester break we spend time together......i'm the quiet type i hardly mk trouble nor encourage trouble......my 300 lvl, i came back for my long semester break.....we met, after much catching up since we mostly talk on phone we started "you know"....... i noticed that my babe kitten has gotten wider than usual.....guy man was like "ah ah jisos.....babe whats up.....i didnt leave things dz way?"......she started running circles on me......i know her body like mine.....since i wasnt seeing nor having sex with anyone all the time i was in skool....so any changes ill know......i was still persistent........next she started crying.....explaining her life cheating story to me......i was quite....bitterly hurt,dunno what to do.....but i still love her......eventually i forgave her and allowed it slide....but d trust reduced from 100% to 30%......she eventually gained admission into my own skool......i didnt want it to be that way....but then again i was like....skool changes people.....you get to know their true self....my plans was to graduate....get my shit together quickly and marry her...so prolly its best shes there....i stayed back after my i.t....had to get enough money to change my apartment to a better and nicer one....so she wont feel uncomfortable when ever she visits....i dodged two months out of four months to get the money....went back to skool....on my way i called her "babe i'll be in skool soon...i'm on my way".....her reply was like she didnt want me there.....but she tried covering it by sounding too happy....no wahala.....arrived in skool couldnt see her that night had to reschedule the next day......we met....talked....my gut told me something was wrong somewhere......i shut d guy up.....we started getting intimate then i noticed.....dunno if its just me....i just noticed something isnt right.....didnt say anything so as not to start something i'm not too sure of......we kept going, the trust isnt there no more.........one day something crazy happened...i was with her one time gisting at my place....a call came she picked it up i couldnt get what the guy was saying but he sounded angry......after d call she started panicking....picked her things and left....while she was on that call i could hear d guy say leave that place and come here or its over......guy man don suffer i swear......she didnt tell me....but i knew why she left.....after 2hrs or so i called her and told her what i suspected....she was like yes baby....hes a cultist that have been trying to mk me date him....had to leave to avoid him coming here to mk trouble.....omo i smile....shake my head......now the love is dying by the day.......the story still long but due to time and how my finger hurts typing this....ill summarize from this point.....she got infected.....told me the disease....gave me the abbrevation of the disease....i have forgotten.....two days after the whole thing....i googled up the disease only to see its a sexually transmitted disease u get.....was like ah ah.....checked if theres other ways of contracting it.....still gotten from having sex with multiple partners......the phone switching too was happening all this while..anytime she comes, her phone is always off.....but shes always quick to tell me to gv her my phone....i know its to check for anything suspicious....but im clean man.....i gv it to her anytime she asks....i know youll might want to ask why i lingered for too long.....man i was smashing the idiot pussy for free....had to keep letting em cums out man......after graduation thats last year....i knew its a new phase in my life....wouldnt want that deceite....lies....bad energy......i smashed the pussy for the 1000th times......knew i was tired of it.....mapped out a plans to break up with the idiot.....like they say the friends you keep shows who you her......i was in lagos.....she came back too....we talked....we smashed then she told me...."ill tell my mum about us to make it open........was like ur mum....sure why not.......oh! Na me you wan cage .....amadioha fire you there.....she went back to skool.....i called my friend in skool.....told him whats up.....the kind of girl i think she is.....my friend who live and abide by bro code said he'll get things from her.....gave him her contact...department and church where she worships in skool......every details that will mk things easier for him.....i gave him two weeks......then he called me and said...."guy that ur babe no see you as him guy oo....she said you are his street guy".....that shes seeing one emmanuel guy in civil engineering theyve been dating since last year........would have said my friend was lying but its the same emmanuel that called her the time she left....and i didnt tell him anything bout that story nor his name....so she spilled the info to him.....i made up my mind that i'm done with her......but it was hard letting go.....i still lingered...then i went on facebook collected her friends number and called her friend with a different line....told her friend that i like her friend(thats my ex).....that one was like "eh she has a boyfriend ooo but she can go out with you if you can spend"......then i asked whos her boyfriend sef...is he dangote jokingly....that one laffed and asked my ex....your admirer dy ask if emmanuel na dangote oo.....i just let out a dissapointing smile.....its confirmed its emmanuel......i told her friend give ur friend d phone....that one collected it....was forming sweet and expensive.....called her both names....she was like " whos this?".....then she knew who she was talking to....i ws like so this is how you are.....betray and deny me to whoever that wants to know bout your relationship status....y then keep me around then....as backup if others fails.....she was like im not cheating yada yada yada......i told her.....my work with you is done!!!....few months later she texted....i miss you i am not cheating bla bla bla if you dont reply ill understand.....i saw d msg....i deleted d msg and her number.....


So bro all im saying his....if your gut tells you shes cheating she 100% man......its obvious you are her last resort incase things at the top gets bad....nobody wants to be that.....smash her heart and move on like nothing happened........or keep smashing her pussy till its worn out....but its best you move on........trust me youll be ok!