adexpa:
It is like some people here dont understand your fear.

Your are not asking for a party or show off, but a legal backing .........A process that will show certification...........Traditional wedding will not offer any certificate.

I dont think any reasonable man should have problem with court wedding because it does not require any serious financial implication.
Maybe you need to find a way of telling him properly by letting him know that you are not after party or show off.......Dont miss them together, suggest traditional and court to him and forget bringing up church option (he is your man,3yrs friendship no be beans, he should be able to see things from your angle too and stop been selfish). Maybe the way you are approaching the matter is tending or showing evidences of show off cus we all know how women does things, you all want show off, but if genuinely you are not addressing it in a show off way, i dont think a reasonable man should be threatening you on that.

Still talk to him n let him see your side of the matter and yourself to hear his side well. We cant advice you to dash journey of 3yrs away just like that.

Your comment is what I was about to type. Traditional marriage doesn't give one a wedding certificate, I guess that's her fear.

Court wedding isn't expensive to do, with 20k or less it's done. I was in that same shoes too last year, my EX told me he would only be doing traditional he doesn't like court wedding. While ME I want court wedding and traditional, he insisted that he isn't doing court wedding.

Well, I had to let go of the relationship.

missyojo:


Your comment is what I was about to type. Traditional marriage doesn't give one a wedding certificate, I guess that's her fear.

Court wedding isn't expensive to do, with 20k or less it's done. I was in that same shoes too last year, my EX told me he would only be doing traditional he doesn't like court wedding. While ME I want court wedding and traditional, he insisted that he isn't doing court wedding.

Well, I had to let go of the relationship.

You mean the guy let you go because you want court wedding as a support to traditional.

To me, there is a hiding agenda from any guy who rejected court wedding because the reason can't be there is no money(court wedding do not cost anything serious)

It is well. God will help us all

adexpa:


You mean the guy let you go because you want court wedding as a support to traditional.

To me, there is a hiding agenda from any guy who rejected court wedding because the reason can't be there is no money(court wedding do not cost anything serious)

It is well. God will help us all

Yeah. Amen

Onego:
thank you, not that am asking for a party,I can do indoor wedding, I just want a proof that am married

Court wedding don't need any party indoor outdoor or inroom. All you do is go to the registrar sign n that is all.

I can only do court wedding with a lady who was with me when I was broke...aside that, God forbid!!!

No one should suggest what hold a union n parties should detect what work for them. Many men will walk if a lady insist on court n stays adamant on it but woman understands how to get what they want from their men once their fear is allayed.

adexpa:


You mean the guy let you go because you want court wedding as a support to traditional.

To me, there is a hiding agenda from any guy who rejected court wedding because the reason can't be there is no money(court wedding do not cost anything serious)

It is well. God will help us all

Onego:
Good day every one, I have been dating this guy for more than 3years,we have been through a lot but glory to God we have overcome.He really wants us to get married this year,but there is an issue which we have been battling which is he wants to do only traditional wedding, but I as a person I give him option which is traditional, court or church wedding, but he said no he is only going to do traditional because of fund.Right now he is treating to walk away if I don't agree. Am confuse what should I do? Thanks

If you compromise now, you will compromise for the rest of your life. A man that loves you will consider your feelings and what you want to do. You might not have all 3 but he will meet you half way because he loves you. Sis don’t ignore red flags. He sounds controlling too. Come update the post in 2 years

pentsystems:
It is simple .. just tell your parent any of them you are close about it and let them add at as part of the conditions he must abide to before they can give you out to him in marriage .. then you should desist from forcing him about it or talking about it .. Even when he speaks about just assure your guy you are in support of traditional marriage only but your dad is a stubborn stone to break and plead with your guy persuade him with your love that he is your all and all .. He will accept out of love for you but they way you are going about it arguing with him about it .. Will make him feel you have something ulterior you are planning to achieve .. Just let it be your parent forcing him about it you can even display a charade in front of him and your parent telling them they have to accept what your man can offer which is the traditional marriage but your parent won’t accept and will persuade that no one marries in your family like that he have to accept to having the traditional , court and church marriage . But note ..if he does not accept because of the finances involved in the church marriage process then your parent should compel him to do the traditional and court .. Just make sure you are in support of your man on these topic why your parent do the job of forcing him into the 3 process .. Plan it with your parent they know what to do when it comes to that let it be your parent presenting it to him and not you anymore ..

You will never ever have to persuade another human being to do anything. Someone who cherishes you will do without persuasion. I don’t think anyone in their right mind will want their partner to say “you made me do it.!”

bogdaddy:
Court wedding only favor the women, as new law states. Your man knows about that so he won’t want to lose his house in the future just Incase I’d break up/ divorce. Smart man

Why would a man whose about to be married already be thinking of divorce?

Marriage is by understanding. He wants traditional, she wants court. They should do the both so peace will reign.

HeavenlyCherub:



You will never ever have to persuade another human being to do anything. Someone who cherishes you will do without persuasion. I don’t think anyone in their right mind will want their partner to say “you made me do it.!”

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My sister that does not mean he does not cherish his woman but according to the post he was advice by an old man he respect a lot and I can tell he must have also come across someone with the experience so you have to respect his thought also and find a way around it without sounding as if you are forcing him into it .. Forcing him or trying to emotional blackmail him will only increase his fears and scare him off that is why I think the trick style I listed will work ..

Erediauwa:
Traditional marriage is more than enough proof...

If you wanna travel abroad, which document you wan present for there as per couple? Abi trad pictures is enough?

SweetCunt97:
If you wanna travel abroad, which document you wan present for there as per couple? Abi trad pictures is enough?

You've a point though, but for now, they're not planning to travel out and if you read my first comment carefully, you'll get my message.

Erediauwa:
You've a point though, but for now, they're not planning to travel out and if you read my first comment carefully, you'll get my message.

You don't know what tomorrow holds.

SweetCunt97:
You don't know what tomorrow holds.

Eché dì mmé.... Tomorrow will surely take care of itself.

Onego:
that is what I told him,he was just giving me excuses about what some old men told him about the danger of court wedding

court wedding is very important if your marrying outside your state. Even in your state, it's for your own benefit.

adexpa:


You mean the guy let you go because you want court wedding as a support to traditional.

To me, there is a hiding agenda from any guy who rejected court wedding because the reason can't be there is no money(court wedding do not cost anything serious)

It is well. God will help us all

Are you sure?

No one can tell tomorrow

ariefadenco:
Hmmm....let me wait for the elders to talk first

The elders have spoken na?
Are you still quiet?

Thanks all I really appreciate

Dat man has a tendency of taking another wife. Traditional wedding is d only union that gives him freedom to behave anyhow
Be careful

nwaimoroseyaho:
Dat man has a tendency of taking another wife. Traditional wedding is d only union that gives him freedom to behave anyhow
Be careful

I disagree on that