₦airaland Forum

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

go and see a sex therapist and or a doctor

Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

I salute you! You are a pro when it comes to women's matter!

it's psychological but I bet u..... the comments were right, she's normal but that b/hv is practically abnormal.

it's psychological and stop taking to drugs or attempting drug.

hypnosis using auto suggestion can correct the irrational fear. see a psychologist

Best solution is enter from behind, you will not need lubricant.

YOU ARE VERY STUPID.

BRING HER TO ME LET ME HANG HER ON MY CEILING AND FVCK HER TSETSEFLY STYLE THEN SHOOT MY HOT CUM IN HER MOUTH.

So funny, let me teach you somtin, later you credit my account with 10k after successful match. Beneath the critoris, there is a pleasure hole there, ensure to wet the hole either by using lubricant or romance her very well. Better still u can give her angelic kiss with ur two hand working on the breast . bet me if there is a hole there it will open by force. I can also help you bcs I have first class in that. I can disvirgin 10 a day.

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.
Thanks..

Sorry for your challenge regarding your inability to have sex with your wife.
The major thing you both carelessly did not take into consideration is romance.
Now that you have recognized the exact place you should insert your penxx the next thing that follows is hot romance.

With romance, I mean extreme pre-intimacy her vagina will be wet enough for sex.
Her vagina will invite you for penetration and you guys will enjoy each other's body.

Lubricant can never do what vagina fluid can do.

Bro, I also experienced what your wife is experiencing but I overcame my own fear after like a month. Seriously I know what you guys are passing through because I have been there. But to be frank with you, sedative is not a good idea, you need to sit her down, tell her it's will be painful at first but she have to bear the pain. Nobody talked to me, I talked to myself because I realized my husband was suffering because of me. It wasn't easy because when I later made up my mind I had ties that lasted for weeks, I had to be doing seatbath and doctor also told us we had to continue because if it heals, we will go through the process again. Please be gentle with her, and keep trying, follow Donald instructions, it will really help. Sending you cheer

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

It's just unfortunate she is ur wife. Supposed she is ur girlfriend I would recommend someone here to help you open the road because it is very possible u are going the wrong direction.

Sexyliciousbri:
Vaginismus is a condition involving a muscle spasm in the pelvic floor muscles. It can make it painful, difficult, or impossible to have sexual intercourse.

Period, that’s the problem.

A popular former Miss Nigeria Nike has same problem & resulted in failed marriage despite seeking solution far & wide. It’s a queer & rear condition.

She later adopted a set of twins & she lives happily now. I wish this couple well, trying to sleep with such a lady is like using a knife on her

Oga, this one no be ordinary. Make you go ori oke to pray.

Some years back, na so a woman was called out and she was told that her not been able to meet with her newly wedded husband is because someone on her wedding day 'touched' her with a charm.

[quote author=deavicky post=88097000]It's just unfortunate she is ur wife. Supposed she is ur girlfriend I would recommend someone here to help you open the road because it is very possible u are going the wrong direction. [/quote

No road there trust me. Vaginismus is a rare condition. I met a lady like that yrs ago. You will end up driving her away the more you try, so so painful to her that she screams as if a knife is about to penetrate her

Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

I hereby crown you nairaland number one sexologist. Respect sir

HomorBj:
It’s too long brother,u could have just hurt the nail on the head,MouthAction

He wanted to give him a perfect picture. Some guys don't know how, when and where to do this things.

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

If She has a Vagina.sure She can be broken with minimum pain. Do lots of indoor exercise prior to action. Play Children plays in d house around. I did use KY Jelly in my time for my Virgin wife,because of d initial Fear after seeing a Doctor in her Company at d BMH PH. Pls get this done without much force. She is supposed to be open to an extent if She had been engaged in Sporting activities b4 now,except Her Skin is tougher because of her age. Don't be afraid too but be tender and caring, Love this Lady. Goodluck and happy Parenting.

Say the truth, are you impotent?

Both of you should seek a marriage counselor.

favoredchild:
Bro, I also experienced what your wife is experiencing but I overcame my own fear after like a month. Seriously I know what you guys are passing through because I have been there. But to be frank with you, sedative is not a good idea, you need to sit her down, tell her it's will be painful at first but she have to bear the pain. Nobody talked to me, I talked to myself because I realized my husband was suffering because of me. It wasn't easy because when I later made up my mind I had ties that lasted for weeks, I had to be doing seatbath and doctor also told us we had to continue because if it heals, we will go through the process again. Please be gentle with her, and keep trying, follow Donald instructions, it will really help. Sending you cheer

Thanks for sharing your experience. So much appreciate.

Personally what’s the use of being in a union where you can keep your hands off each other.

Humans need touch and anything that denies you of that won’t let you grow and develop.

Blessedone26:
Thanks that you noticed that sir. If I did, some people who attended our wedding will know, I already even see known faces here on the thread. Not quite happy it's on FP cos she's definitely going to see it...

Sorry about your trouble. I see why you made it so. Don't worry, solution will find you guys soon. In the mean time, why not seek the services/advice of a seasoned gynecologist?

Blessedone26:
Thanks that you noticed that sir. If I did, some people who attended our wedding will know, I already even see known faces here on the thread. Not quite happy it's on FP cos she's definitely going to see it...

Sorry about your trouble. I see why you made it so. Be calm and patient, solution will find you guys soon. In the mean time, why not seek the services/advice of a seasoned gynecologist?

pentsystems:
I have been in your shoes before with an older virgin .. The more older a woman gets the more painful it will for her .. I believe your dick is too big or you have a curve dick that is another complication itself .. all you need to do
Step 1 : fun play with her by kissing and sucking her boobs . Kiss and lick all the sensible part in her body

Step 2 : start by trying to insert a pencil or a finger inside her private part first you have to assure her first that all the pain only happens in a a second that once your finger is in that all pains will be gone you may need to hook her down while trying to insert your finger inside her no matter what don’t pity her and make sure you are fast enough to be successful in your first attempt of doing that never allow her tell you that your finger is so painful that she prefers your dick just tell her there is no logic there that since your finger cannot enter how possible will it be for something as hard and big as your dick to enter when your finger cannot enter .. when successful with that .. you try to stroke the part with your finger gently till she is very relaxed while you are stroking with her private part with a finger

Step 3 : when you notice she is well relaxed introduce a second finger inside her private part without telling her about it you will need to hook her down and make sure she does not overpower you into removing your fingers from inside her private part just shook it in and hook her even if she is crying don’t remove your finger you will feel that you tearing something while inserting your second finger just continue till the second finger is fully inside her then keep it inside her because if you remove it you have to start again from step 1 another day then start stroking deep with the 2 finger till she is comfortable with it .. you may need to introduce a third finger if you have a bigger or a curve dick .. after that remove your fingers make sure you don’t let her rest ..

Step 4 : Try using lubricant i recommend olive oil and not Vaseline on your dick then try inserting it into her private part I pray it goes in but if it does not tell her to come up and try inserting it herself definitely it will go in if you have done your finger job well .. Then you stroke her with your dick slowly and gently till you cum ..

Note : make sure you don’t put on ac and even if are using fan make sure you switch it to lowest .. because breeze dry some pussy faster making it more painful for her .. You can also give her alcohol maybe Best Cream drink or night train it will help her a lot to beat the fear..

Hope small boys no Dey here no be me teach una bad thing ooo

Respect !!

fof1:
If She has a Vagina.sure She can be broken with minimum pain. Do lots of indoor exercise prior to action. Play Children plays in d house around. I did use KY Jelly in my time for my Virgin wife,because of d initial Fear after seeing a Doctor in her Company at d BMH PH. Pls get this done without much force. She is supposed to be open to an extent if She had been engaged in Sporting activities b4 now,except Her Skin is tougher because of her age. Don't be afraid too but be tender and caring, Love this Lady. Goodluck and happy Parenting.

Thanks boss...

Hhenryy:
Went through the whole comments on the front page, unfortunately nobody told you the truth.

Let me tell you the truth... Your wife has been Genitally mutilated (circumcised). You can ask her and she will confirm it.

Circumcision is an irreversible process so you have to deal with it. Fortunately it seems you don't have a high libido so you should be able to cope.

What has circumcision got to do with this? Who wasn't circumcised?

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

I stopped reading foolish bullshit story at the bold above that is not acceptable in lies.

WALAHI TA LAI This is a make up bull shit story.

Even a brainless lizard will find its way down the honey pot without missing the way. there are some thing that is almost automatic instincts in animal nature as a machine. some actions are preloaded in animals memory and its passed on through generations without errors.
examples of such actions is eating/sucking breast , no body give any form of training to a new born baby to learn how to suck breast the animal instincts just kicks in as encoded in its brain for generations to simply suck to have the food coming.
and another obvious example is sex and that its encoded in our brains you can never get it wrong only if you can prove to me you are not a form of an advanced animal.

Scientist have done so many experiment on this and they have never been wrong about sex. they breads many animals of opposite sex in isolation from day one of their birth to full maturity, brought opposite sex together and guess what, they started having sex almost immediately and babies are rolling out accordingly based their gestation period of each kind of animals in Isolation. Human has also been tested without exceptions.

SEX in nature is a natural instincts preloaded in all animals, Human inclusive. You dont learn it anywhere, you can only get better in giving it. The basic penetration is preloaded like a Dialer logo on your phones be it andriod or iphone, it will always come with them because the basic function of a phone is to make calls.

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

Look for a good doctor who should easily put you guys through. I will recommend an elderly female doctor.

This is why l always advocate for test before marriage. Now you have invested in a lifetime investment without testing the water.

As long as it's for better or worst, let test the water to avoid I wished I have known.

Op you married a virtuous woman. Her mom told her sex is painful and she believed. Our modern day girls would prefer to have a first hand experience.

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

Bullshit, Sex is a preloaded natural instinct, you can only get better like this man in picture below, dont tell me nonsense

But were u able to see the pilot hole clearly ? If yes then u may need to patiently go gradual while drilling the hole.
Please ensure u use correct fluid on ur drill bit so u will not perforate the well bore ok?

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..