Casemiro:





It is either childbirth made her treat you so... or,




or someone else is shining that place for her...


Just pray it's childbirth and she isn't seeing someone else secretly

Haba... She might have after birth syndrome.. Past - Natal ... She CS.. At least let her rest for a while..

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

You and your big ego. Don't let it ruin your young marriage.

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

Your wife gave birth 3 months ago, and you already had sex 2x, and you're complaining for more sex. Are you a he-goat, don't you have work, why not use that energy to look for multiple streams of income to benefit your family. Why and how could you be this selfish, are you an animal.

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

It's the childbirth. Please be patient with her. Women often don't feel too romantic after childbirth.

Please, don't trouble the woman after what she has just done for you, i.e., bringing your child into the world. That is not an easy task at all.

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

You need to sit her down and ask her what actually the problem is

She could be having some emotional disturbances affecting her

She may not be enjoying sex with you

She may not be the sex type or the type that see sex for only procreation

Only her knows her reasons

But you have to find out what actually is the cause of the problem with her tgat made her to act that way

If she says nothing, then let her know that you need it and if you are not getting it, what dies she wants you to do about it

Because, I don't know how you are going to cope with this attitude of hers

If she is still difficult about it, relax and give her time

I hope you do help her out with the baby because nursing a baby and putting the home front in order are one of the challenges new mum goes through

Help her out at home, make it a priority to get back home in time to be with the baby and bond with tgat child so tgat she can still perform her domestic work and still have the strength to attend to you at night

Help in the house chores too it's not meant for her alone

Women always know their onions and have ways of making things works for themselves

I wouldn't have much to say as your wife may also have her own good stories to tell about it.

abike12:
You are an evil man and I'm very sure you're unattractive. Do you know that a c section is a major surgery? You're coming to report a new mother to a forum full of strangers because of three months of no sex after a c section. You're a vile and disgusting excuse for a human being and I hope she leaves you and finds a better husband.

See this one ohh.With what you wrote I can see that you are very wicked and stupid.Look at what you are praying for.Your prayer will return back to you a hundred fold .Ode!

God bless u

[b][/b][b][/b]Bro, just contribute your own part of the money and delete her number from your phoneBro, just contribute your own part of the money and delete her number from your phoneBro, just contribute your own part of the money and delete her number from your phone

Bro, just contribute your own part of the money and delete her number from your phone

Do you have an idea what it means to deliver through CS? It has a mental, physical and psychological effect on women if it's the first time, except there's more to it.

I nor send anyone.That's why my two women do me for that matter.

Ningen:
Give her space.
She's probably insecure about her body.




Says someone who begged to put the tip

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Hahahaha

Recently I was thinking in my personal time that If I had a chance to interview anyone for marketing or managerial post, I would ask a question;

"If your wife denies you access to have sex with her, what will you do?"
If the answer to that question is " I will force her or I will leave her alone", the person should say a bye to the job.

My opinion is that, if you can't talk your wife to sex with you then you're a highly insensitive person and a poor communicator.

If you can't beg your wife, shey na my wife you come beg?
Whatever you like call it (begging, persuasion, anything), it doesn't make you a weaken.

Someone is shining her.. she won't give you sex almost for ever because she is scared of childbirth wherein you can cum inside anyhow u like and getting her pregnant again but the shinee will not have anything to do with making babies with her but just keep shining and if it even happens along the line that she takes in for the shineman she will always get rid of it with no cause for alarm.
I am a young man in my late 20s and I'm talking from an experience with one so called(sugar mom)

QuickStandard:
That's what lockdown can cause.
Take and just bear till after isolation

On a more serious note, if your wife gave birth through CS, then I think you should understand her situation.

Having sex after just 3 months after going through the knife is no small feat.

Just be patient with her.

Are u married?

scrolldown88:
Women!
I would have said talk to her, but since this has been going on for months I'm going to go ahead and assume you've already done that.

So ignore her for now.
If my calculations are right, she should come crawling back when she notice that you've ignored her.

Let me tell y'all a secret. It doesn't matter if you are married to her or not, when they want, women will always use sex as a bargaining chip. This is highly manipulative to say the least and it works everytime. Call it Powe play, call it whatever. She is using sex to manipulate you. Now she already has you begging.

My advice: don't beg her anymore. Give her the space she seem to crave so much. Ignore her even. That's the only way to swing the balance.

But let's pray she's not seeing someone else, because if she is, then there's little chance that whatever you do will change anything.

Then again I'm not married, so, what do I know?

Shior. This is why one should be careful what advice they accept on this forum. Shior

It all depends on the following factors..
*Since when was she aware she will be going under the knife for delivery?
*Fear of the unknown since its her first child
*considering the time you need to meet with her too. ( may be up to 4-6 months) depending on the nature of the cs and her body too.
*She may also be afraid of what might happen to her after
*How you've been supportive to her during and after the delivery.

All you may need do is to find out when its good and normal for her to have sex with you.
Also both of you need to sit and iron things out.

Note: she may also stop any form of play with you for now so it won't lead to what (sex) she isn't ready to have for now.

0806 472 9707 WhatsApp for relationship issues. talk to a qualified counselor a sex therapist and a relationship expert Mr. T

I think your more worried about her attitude to you as you mentioned dumping the baby on you.Now my advice is this the best you can do isn’t to talk as that will be seen as complaining not every woman handles a complain by a man rightly. Continue to play your husband role and keep an eye on your wife not suspecting but watch her from afar. Stop the intimate advances and let her be for the next 6-8months to heal and lose the memories of going under the knife. When this scare in town is down hire a nanny or get a relative to come assist her now and let her get sufficient rest and you too as though some people think it’s only the women who go through CS the stress undergone by a husband of a woman undergoing CS is not funny providing care isn’t something some men are prepared for them suddenly your overseeing mother and child. Forget about the 3months before the delivery. Give her 8months from delivery and don’t give an opportunity where she sees you as weak. Get a hand to assist her as I mentioned before and let her have time for herself and maybe you both might have time alittle more to yourself but if that will be too hard to come by I suggest you chill out and go about your normal business and see how it goes after the wait.
Some things aren’t meant to be discussed in marriage understanding isn’t discussing everything, some you just pretend and move on for the time being.

How is your performance sexually? I hope do you care about her feelings? I know do you make her cum too or is it just plug hammer and discharge? Some women that don't know how to communicate with their spouse about sexual performance just find it easy to quit the boring sex totally... Take her out spoil her like a little girl buy her gifts and then initiate sex... Before you plug tell her you want her to come first and ask her what to do... she already knows what to do to cum because she prolly masturbates

Your wife is wicked, for this lockdown

A man's testosterone level is between 280 to 1,100 ng per dl whereas a woman's between 15 to 70 ng/dl. Biologically men are already at a disadvantage with raging sexual hormones

Ordinarily one would expect a woman to build her marriage and her home. There is a saying that if there was no crack in the wall, the lizard wont have entered the house. Should anything go wrong, she would accuse this unfortunate man of being this and that, evil and inconsiderate bla bla bla

A normal woman wont refuse sex to her husband without a just explanation. At 7 months she medically would require regular intercourse in preparation to delivery. She had a completely different attitude to her husband simply because she didnt feel up to it. There was no consideration to his needs, rather her needs trumped everything.

After her CS delivery, she is claiming not ready even when after 4 weeks her body is fully ready for it. But cos she wasnt up to it, his needs don't matter. It is only when her majesty feels up to it that anything should happen

Marriage is about sacrifices. Whatever you do for others only when it is convenient for you should elicit reciprocal treatment in return. That a wife would act this way and expect no consequences is telling

The point here is this. For men, treat everyone, including your partners fairly. But return the favour when people treat you unfairly. That way they would learn that life is give and take. People should learn that if they cant make sacrifices to please you, likewise they cannot expect sacrifices from you. If you show wind, by all account, you must reap the whirlwind

In conclusion, your wife is inconsiderate. Self serving and immature. She is out to subdue you and direct the course the marriage would head. It is up to you to allow her or take back control as the head of the union. No woman that respects her man and his feelings, would do this. Forget the people telling you to allow her. She has post partum syndrome etc. They won't do this in their own marriages but would advise you to stand on one leg in yours

If she doesn't want to keep her marriage together, maybe she shouldn't expect much from it anyway

Sorry for the long post

Anyone who thinks he is marrying for sex is ........

Angelinastto:
Later they'll complain of loosing their marriages to side chicks.... Wives need to watch it abeg!
Poster please try talking to her or her mom about it to fulfil all righteousness.

Are you a side chic?

Ningen:
Give her space.
She's probably insecure about her body.




Says someone who begged to put the tip

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Buhahaha, Hian, Una go kill person with laugh for Nairaland.com @Op, give your wife some time to heal properly Na, haba sex is not food

Oluneutral:
How come nobody is seeing.........
1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child.

2. She delivered through CS.

3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant.



Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end.

Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife.

She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her.

I pray for wisdom for you.

What did she do when the first bolded happened. What explanation did she give the husband? Or did she assume she owed him no explanation cos if she explained why she wouldnt continue he wouldn't be here complaining

The second bolded. Let's even not start on this as millions of women go through this daily and none acts this way. You that wrote this wont act this way to your husband so why would you justify this. Has she even bothered to explain her reasons to him so that he can at least reason with her.

Finally, why do we expect consideration for an inconsiderate person. Who should empathize with whom here. If she doesnt want to have sex with her husband by all account it is her body and she can do whatever she wants with it. She too should not expect sacrifices from the husband when he refuses things to her. She can emphasize with him too when that happens

In marriage if you sow wind, you must reap the whirlwind

What is the essense of peace without justice?

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

Make sure you placed her on contraceptive cos is good to give an interval of 3 years before she get pregnant again.
The memory of what she has passed through (CS) can weaken her sexual urge, just give her time she will revive.

Bro,
Welcome to reality. It is now the real marriage begins. What u did b4 the baby arrived was Honey Moon. Now the work load of yr wife has increased, she shares her time & attention btw you and the baby?

Have u ever wondered Y men have side chicks? Most men did not set out to marry only to turn round and keep side chick to support their marriage but the reality of the situation pushed them. Sincerely speaking, monogamy is a scam, it puts the man at a disadvantage.

Most women go through alot during childbirth and the experience alters their sex drive. The CS, the baby and the workload that comes with the baby will take yr wife sometime to get used to. In my humble opinion, u are not even supposed to make love to her during the 1st 3 months after delivery unless she makes the move. She needs to heal. I know u were not told this during marriage lessons ha ha ha.

U must support yr wife at this period, stop being selfish because she is going through alot. U may not have a nanny for now so u need to help with chores, if u don't have washing machine, buy one. Buy freezer, micro wave etc . All these items will help free up time for U and her.if not she wil be busy trying to cope with her new realities.

Oluneutral:
How come nobody is seeing.........
1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child.

2. She delivered through CS.

3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant.



Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end.

Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife.

She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her.

I pray for wisdom for you.

Thank you jare. the cs thing is the cruise of the matter. maybe trauma from the experience. he should spare her some time to get over the traumatic experience.

Remember she gave birth through CS with al the cuts she feels insecure about her body, eye where know she's still the sexiest woman you know, pamper her and give her time, you won't die

This is a psychological matter, You need to find a window to her head so you can know how she really feels. Sometimes after child birth, women do not feel good about their bodies anymore, You as the husband need to help her pass this stage