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ildivino0z:
... but for the future of your kids, deal with them and have great talks with them regularly..

Real men don't talk too much. Take action. Even I dey USA where they arrest men for not paying monthly upkeep. If my wife and kids misbehave, I'll leave the country. Disrespect me while chopping my money? E no possible.

Dande55:
Lol. You cheated on your wife with 3 different ladies, only God knows how long each cheating lasted. The time you were meant to be close to your children, you relegated all those duties to your wife. Now, she has 100% of their audience. And you think, Those times she cried and wept in front of those kids, that they aren't aware what's going on? You think they weren't building up grudges against You? Lool
This is the wicked mistake some of you men make, leaving your wives to train the kids alone and then, when they must have grown, you think you will just manipulate them and just have your way with them that easy?
And upon that, you had a child outside with another woman. Most of these men telling you to do this or that wouldn't have taking it lightly if this story was from the opposite gender cheating and having kids outside their home.


You've not seen anything, you will see worse when the children might have grown. You will shed blood, you will have a share of the tears you caused that poor innocent woman. Her anger on you reçently is caused by accumulated grudges she had for you all these years of your cheating and maltreating.

For you to make it work, you have to prove yourself to your wife and kids. Let them sincerely see you've changed. Cos, running out of your home gave them the impression that you must have gone to see your girlfriends as usual, reason they ignored you.
Work on your family cos you've failed your wife and kids.


Btw, women, have your own money, the op is still respecting the wife cos he knows that she's capable of fending for her kids and still living her life uniterupted if anything goes South.

so on point,i love this.

Bola146:
Why not be honest for once Mr counselor, kindly advise them

Advise him.at this point blame is no longer necessary.

Seriously, l don't know wat u have done to offend her and also who has been paying the bills, but one thing a man/woman should never do is to treat Ur children to disobey ur spouse. She will think she's getting back at you, but she's destroying the children's future like a cancer. I can't stand such spouse, but l suggest you begin to talk sense to Ur kids not cos of u but cos of the damage done already to their mentality. Just like why some men avoid marrying kids from single mum. Mentality/ side effects comes to play, tho not all kids from single mum, there are always exceptional cases.

bhest:
This is my worst fear about ending up with a girl from poor background. They are basically good at this!!!

Wrong! It's girls from rich backgrounds that are experts at this. They're hardly impressed with your money and will never hesitate to let you know how well they will cope without you. Can you see how he went away for 3 whole days and she didn't even flinch? It's because she has financial security and couldn't care less what happened to him. The situation would not have this bad if the lady was poor or financial dependent on him. He'll probably still be cheating on her and she will be begging him on top (but probably cheating on the sides to calm her nerves)

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

3 simple steps...
1. Move out
2. File for divorce
3. Remarry


You will miss your kids no doubt but it's better to miss them while alive than to miss them because you are in a grave with a metal object in your heart which the doctors couldn't remove.

When they grow one or two of them will contact and connect with you; if not all sef. And she might even die before then. Wicked people dying is their hubby.

Forget about her changing bro...if she changes shes only pretending so she can stab you smack in the middle of your heart.

Bola146:
The foundation is faulty..15 years? How come sudden change? its means and shows that you are not that friendly to your children from onset, yes! I know kids of nowadays, you can play with their intellect, even if are taking them out, bringing only happy hour for them, they will never behave like that. Only God knows maybe your wife is too depressed, she is lonely and frustrated. Your family lacks good and friendly communication from the beginning.

It takes the grace of God to amend things back to normal. Keep begging her and the children, its not a easy as that also be praying for them.

u think u dey make sense, continue begging, for what, common ignore those children and focus ur resources on the ones that love u, las las they will come back to appreciate u.

coretechng1:
He can plead till tomorrow nothing would change.The woman doesn't know the implication of what she is doing on her children. Most Women only listen to their pastors,he should get her pastor to speak to her on the implication of what she is doing on her children as it is she doesn't know and wont stop.

I reason with you. He should try his luck with their pastor then.

Im not trying to be judgmental here but im thinking youre the cause of your wifes attitude cos from your story, I could deduce you were not usually the "stay at home" type.but for the lockdown you would have prolly gone out and abandoned your family. Imagine still going away for three days amidst the lockdown. And their reaction when you got back shows its not the first time you're abandoning them which could be The probable cause of your wife's attitude towards you. And another reason she's not willing to make up with you as she feels as soon as the lockdown is relaxed, you'll be back to your old ways. You've really hurt that woman.

The only thing you can do now is try being a loving father first to your children and stop being bossy cos you'll only stir up the beast their mother created in them. Then be prayerful and repent from womanising. Loosen up a bit with the older children by being friendly again. When they are more relaxed with you again, it'll be easy to win your wife back.

I have experienced something similar but not from a wife. But I know exactly how you feel. Don't trouble yourself about the kids. They have their own brains and should be able to think for themselves. Either they come around or they don't, all you can do is be a dad to the extent they will let you be. As for your wife, I'm afraid for you. I'm not exaggerating when I say your life is in danger. Shocking things happen these days.

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

hermesprogidy:
You are fucking weak. Is your wife the breadwinner? Even if she is, it's no excuse to be a domestic rag. 6-year-old kids disobeying you, what will they do when they are 16? You need to act like a crazy person. Beat the shit out of those kids, and leave the house. Go make your own money and do not return until she begs.
Why are my even typing this? I don't believe the story.

Read what he said,he cheated n had a 6 year old son outside

ImaIma1:
Obviously, you didn't spend time with your kids and let them get to know you also. How come your wife has the upper hand with them?

If you had invested your time with your children for the past 15years, their mother would not be able to fill their heads with nonsense because they know you for themselves.

But since you are a stranger to them, they will believe what the person they are familiar with tells them.

Men will leave all the parenting to their wives and later cry fowl and say their wives are poisoning the kids against them. Where were you when they were growing up?

Women will always have upper hand on children when it comes to parenting. Wake up jare if u are sleeping while typing this

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

stop begging, for what, common ignore those children and focus ur resources on the ones that love u, las las they will come back to appreciate,except you have not been responsible to those children from time, then u can continue begging

Oga I really feel what you are going through.
No 1. Take a break from her food
2. Relocate for some months
3. Ask your children if any one of them will like to go with you.
4. Try and get good sex outside.
5. If after like 5 months she didnt come begging with the children just move on with your life because let me tell you if you die as result of this pressure from your marriage na Sara death oooo because plenty men go spit on your grave.

tommy589:
Buy back your children. Take them to eateries and malls, give them the pass to buy whatever they want when there and never discuss or indicate you want them as your allies by doing this.

Spend time with them,buy games and most other personal stuffs your children need instead of giving her money to shop for them.

It won't be long before she knows who is in charge

Lol, children grow past a stage where material gifts are the only thing that matters to them, his wife also has money so all this one is just unnecessary, he needs to reconcile with his wife because she is the only one that can make the children love him again, how do you think taking them to eatery is supposed to solve him cheating on her three times and getting one of them pregnant?

You've received some sound advises. Good luck.

Call ur kids when ur wife is not around and talk to them. Try and make them talk,from what u hear from them,u will know what to tell them. Assure them of ur love for them and make them promise u to change.

U need to talk to them privately.

bhest:
This is my worst fear about ending up with a girl from poor background. They are basically good at this!!!

Did you skip past the part where he cheated three times and got one of them pregnant?

I sympathize with you my brother, you're loosing your family and you must be bold and courage to restore it back.
First, you and your family needs Christ.

Secondly, you are not close to your family from the onset. Or you don't pay bills as you ought to be. When a man is manly, it will be difficult for mother to destroy you before them.

Solutions:
1. Connect yourself to God. You are the head of the home and you must be the pastor of the house.
2. Learn to communicate with your children one after the other.
3. Call your family and apologize to all of them if you did something wrong.
4. Constantly communicating with your children, don't ever talk down on your wife. Gradually prayerfully they will change.
5. Don't use force on them, pray to God and communicate with them sincerely, things will change.

Hello, I feel your pain. I signed into naira land because I read your post. I am in my 40's and I experienced this in my family.
If you love God and your children, Please try to make your marriage work by being the fool. My mother instigated us against my Dad and I almost hated him but thank God I became born again and realized it was wrong. Ofcourse I paid a big price for that, my Mum hated me and succeeded in making all my sibli gs hate my father and me because I refused hating my father. Do not think they will change when they grow, It's a seed that is been planted and nurtured. My Dad and Mum died within the last 4 years. My siblings hated him till death and didn't contribute to his funeral. Till date they don't talk to me. I only tried to summarize it.
Please try to make it work because women are that powerful. This has already continued in our own generation.

tommy589:
I was having this line of thought when I was single. And was with the same idea when I got married to the first and eventually became a polygamist.

Except you are harsh or mean,don't think been a millionaire is the way out to manage polygamy. It is the most uncomfortable situation I later found myself.

If you are not comfortable with a woman divorce her and get another. If it takes you ten women to find your choice,so be it.

There are still good women out there. I am married to only one now and she is my world

Baba till evening you go know. Women are not to be trusted to that level. It's when you started having grandchildren n she visits anyone of them during those periods. You'll be the only one at home.
Mind you it's what most women believe that they should turn their children against their father. Boss mi! I'll advise marrying a second wife o. Torr

Ha. This kind wife him dey talk, the moment him travel na so wife go replace am sharp sharp and the children go already dey call the new man 'daddy.' This advice no be better one o

Ladylite:
Travel unannounced, for months.

Change your number.

Work, do odd jobs if you must but come back only when she is broken and begging and crying and desperate.... Ensure she begs on phone and each of the children beg and apologize. Do not return unless you are far richer, looking better.


Then travel again just before they get used to you.


She will learn what I have learned, that your potential is unlimited and she is not responsible enough to hold you down. So it will make her humble.

HazardMan:
Do it the gentleman way. Stop talking to your wife and the 3 disrespectful brats. Don't eat anything from her, just act like they don't exist. Don't keep money for food so they will know the impact you are having on them as a father. Go out, buy food for yourself and the two little kids always.
Do this for just 1week and she will be the next person to come on nairaland with topics like "HOW TO GET BACK MY MAN". "HOW TO ASK YOUR MAN FOR FORGIVENESS". "HOW DO I APOLOGIZE TO MY MAN, E.T.C".

Help me put (and if she tells those two not eat what u bought for them, he should beat the wife mercilessly) to ur post. I hate nonsense

Seek a professional counsellor.
May God help you.

Bola146:
The foundation is faulty..15 years? How come sudden change? its means and shows that you are not that friendly to your children from onset, yes! I know kids of nowadays, you can play with their intellect, even if are taking them out, bringing only happy hour for them, they will never behave like that. Only God knows maybe your wife is too depressed, she is lonely and frustrated. Your family lacks good and friendly communication from the beginning.

It takes the grace of God to amend things back to normal. Keep begging her and the children, its not a easy as that also be praying for them.

Shut up if you can't type with brain because your a woman?.

[quote author=Titi03 post=88639049]The marriage is already over Mr Paul. You're just refusing to read the handwriting on the wall.

There's nothing as viscous as a bitter/vindictive woman and no amount of begging will change her. It's only God that can fix her wicked, unforgiving heart.

Feel free to continue staying there until she stabs you one day like Maryam Sanda.
Really loved your submission on this issue, you made sense to me

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

You have to read the riot act to her and the kids. They either shape up or they leave your house. It is as simple as that. There can never be two captains in a boat.

I don't know why some people bring forth their problem on nairaland for a solution that will later turn sore for them after reading several comments of gullible people on earth.

Even some unmarried people will shook mouth for your matter.

Everyone in life having something he or she is battling. It's normal.

After reading a comment where someone saying the root of the problem is because the man in question is not the breadwinner of the family. Let me burst the person's brain. Have seen a millionaire that his wife turn all his children against him even to the extent of praying that the man should die on time. As God want it, the woman is dead now and the Man is still life, healthy.

Someone that is not feeling your pain will even try to make your problem deteriorate.

Brother, no one can feel your pain except someone who have passed through your problem or passing through same problem.

My Advice:
You need to be Prayerful
Explain this to your Pastor or Imam
Involve your in-laws
Don't try to beat your wife whatsoever
Have time to take your children out and talk to them especially the eldest.
Take charge of your house
And many more

Ironic:
D'fvq did I just read? Like, you'll send your kids on an errand, your wife will stop them and you won't do anything?

Like, you don't flog your kids?
You fvckin claiming Western pattern of raising kids by being a simp to them all to be tagged a modern dad?
You gotta be a typical African dad asap!

Bruv, the first thing you need to do now is to make them to be scared of you. Very necessary at this point.

Next time you send any of them message and he/she refuses because of your wife, flog the hell out of that one, if your wife tries to misbehave, flog her too with well-deserved uppercut and smackdown. If possible, stop eating her food because she's capable of doing something unexpected with what you eat.

They'll become scared of your recent behavior and adjust. Strict dads keep the best, calm and organized home.

What next? Your wife will try to manipulate them by using your new attitude towards them. Keep being strict towards them and still do your fatherly works towards them.

Trust me, you need to go very hard right now since your soft ways ain't working.

Mothers manipulations towards their kids against their dad can only function when they are tender, when they grow, they MUST know the truth and the mum will be at the loosing end.

If you don't have the mind to do what I've advised--Divorce your wife. You can't keep housing a demon who's quick to use your kids against you because she's closer to them.

I can’t believe I read more than 3 paragraphs of the rubbish you wrote and still didn’t find any single thing that makes sense in it... Jesus Chris what kind of a human are you!!! You want him to be like a beast because you want his kids to respect him and fear him, wow. You’re not even half the man that this man is! He’s a real man that needs help, I totally agree with the first commenter, seek immediate intervention of family from both sides , if none is available seek the priest clergy or any highly reputable person you know. Now back to you this shallow commenter! I hope you’re not married cause with their your mentality your wife and kids will not even love you. ...

EkoErrands:
3 simple steps...
1. Move out
2. File for divorce
3. Remarry


You will miss your kids no doubt but it's better to miss them while alive than to miss them because you are in a grave with a metal object in your heart which the doctors couldn't remove.

When they grow one or two of them will contact and connect with you; if not all sef. And she might even die before then. Wicked people dying is their hubby.

Forget about her changing bro...if she changes shes only pretending so she can stab you smack in the middle of your heart.

People always talk of remarrying as if it's that easy.what if he marries someone worse than that?what guarantee do men or women have that the next spouse wouldn't be worse or a karma.70percent of remarrying doesnt end well too.

She most likely hasn't forgiven you. Even if she did, the wound will reopen each time you have 'misunderstanding' later.

Paul8000:
Yes I have hurt my wife a lot in the past ... I have cheated on her so many times with 3 different women.... I impregnated one of them ... my son is 6 years old... I sincerely apologised to her and promised that I will never cheats on her again... she has forgiven me ... that was 6 years ago and I haven’t cheated don her since. All these misunderstandings we are having has nothing to do with me cheating.... my main problem is the way she has turned the kids against me ... anytime we are having some issues ... she keep malice with me and will tell the kids to do the same thing... and when things get back to normal again... she will tell them to start talking with me...

Bola146:
The foundation is faulty..15 years? How come sudden change? its means and shows that you are not that friendly to your children from onset, yes! I know kids of nowadays, you can play with their intellect, even if are taking them out, bringing only happy hour for them, they will never behave like that. Only God knows maybe your wife is too depressed, she is lonely and frustrated. Your family lacks good and friendly communication from the beginning.

It takes the grace of God to amend things back to normal. Keep begging her and the children, its not a easy as that also be praying for them.

Why should he keep begging her?.... that's absurd, never.... didn't you read where he said he knelt down to beg her which I even find disgusting and despicable. The love isn't there anymore

The solution is for the man to become strict while doing the right thing or to seek a divorce