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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Thefxchanger: 9:22pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Dande55: You're obviously a woman... I know women handwriting... That asides... Youre right but too harsh on OP. Youre even blaming OP for what he hasnt done and not sure he will do. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by pansophist(m): 9:23pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
DexterousOne: I suspect that the poster is not living up to his fatherly duty. No wife will disrespect a man in such a way if he is of value. Surprisingly (well not surprising), he didn't mention anything about that at all. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Lordbukas: 9:28pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Oga you are not incharge of your home and it's you God will hold responsible for any decay in the attitude of those kids. How can you allow your wife to hijack your home. There must be something she is having against you that has weakened you from being in charge. Why not talk to some you trust who can mediate between the two of you preferably a family member who both of you respect. The issue is not about her but the innocent kids she is destroying. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by sonrue: 9:28pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Lemme be sincere with you, not all ladies forgives fully, you had tormented her with ur previous affairs and she dislikes you even if you had ask for forgiveness. What u needed to do is to always include in your prayers that " garment of love from God and family should be restored back to you " . that been said. Put the active work by first gaining back the love of your kids. Start by being nice, pray for them, take them out, buy gifts, seat them down one by one and let them see that you are changing. Know d reason they are angry with you. D faster u gain your kids , d easier it get for u to get ur wife, for ur wife, just be nice, don't mind her reply, let d kids feel your action towards a better family. My man, there is nothing good in having a split family. It affects everyone. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by petitejolie(f): 9:30pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Hmmmn...I'm sure if ur wife was dependent on you, u would have been treating her like trash. It as if u both really loved each other and the hurt broke her down. That woman hasn't really forgiven you. And this lockdown is a time to show u pepper since there is no place to go. Well u have to manage yourself |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Cblessing(m): 9:30pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Hello Paul, Hope you get to read this. I made same mistake; I impregnated my long time girlfriend who now has a 5-year-old daughter for me. No woman, I repeat, no woman will ever truly forgive any man such infraction. My advice: Take off your mind from your wife and children for the meantime. If possible, get a new apartment for yourself. Give adequate, quality attention to your son (from your mistress) for now. He, and at least, one of your 5 children will be your succor tomorrow, worse case scenario. Women detest competition and they do not wish their men to have ALTERNATIVES; that drives them crazy. You will become happier and alive instead of drowning emotionally like you are doing at the moment. If your mistress is still single, get closer to her and you'll be happy you did. Do not make the mistake of marrying her hurriedly though. Just keep her as a mistress. If she is married, just bond with your son like never before. Your wife will likely come around and behave much better to you. The 3 older children will do same. If the above does not happen, get someone else pregnant, leave the other kids for your wife and move on with your life knowing that you, at least, have 2 children who will love, respect, and adore you and check on you when you become old. This is Africa. Men can marry more than 1 wife. No woman should hold you to ransom for any reason; not when you work hard and make good money to take care of your family. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Parisian: 9:30pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Actually, he not only cheated but has a 6yr old child outside wedlock. BlackPantherCri: |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Oktane: 9:31pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: The problem is not that you cheated. The underlying problem is that from the very beginning you didn't define who was in charge. Yes, you can live your wife very much and demonstrate this in different ways but trust me you must ALWAYS ensure that you hold the reins and firmly so thus communication authority in many areas. You must be the boss and more importantly, you must be seen as the boss. As it were I can only tell you that too much damage has been done already and there may never be any solution outside a separation. You can gloss over it as much as you like but if both of you are to remain alive, healthy and happy you have to separate. And by the way, you are a high risk target now. The best advice given here is the one that suggests that you should take off for a while. You must do this before we hear stories that touch. You don't know which Jezebel is advising her. And always remember the time tested and trusted mantra " hell hath no fury like a woman scorned'. Pls note that she will NEVER completely forgive you. The die is cast. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 9:32pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ardenikeh: Let me quickly ask. If she has forgiven why is she continuing to manipulate the children against their father. Do you know the implication of that. I am just asking to know. Because as a man, as cheating hurts a woman so disrespect hurts a man. And in this case even manipulating the children to disrespect her husband, the father, who is already apologetic. What the man did was very very bad. She hurt the woman deeply. But having apologized massively should he continue to be treated as a rag by wife and children. Until when I am just asking please because I want to know what a woman forgiveness means? . |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Oktane: 9:33pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Cblessing: No truer words could be typed. This man is the boss and will outlive his wife with an attitude like this. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 9:34pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Oktane: THE TRUTH IS BITTER. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by chaloskyx: 9:34pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
have a general talk with your kids apologise if you have done any wrong also apologise to your wife. divorce her but still perform your fatherly duties simple life is to short for all this. if your wife and your kids intend to make you miserable its your duty to make yourself happy there was life before them and certainly after. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Parisian: 9:35pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Lol. Do you know something else Polygamous men face, dejection from their kids, not being shown love etc I also thank God this is the 21st century and African women now have sense. Whether or not he impregnates 100 women , he remains on the losing side as the children will always prefer their mothers. Cblessing: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Parisian: 9:38pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
So by your analogy your wife has a right to be unfaithful to you since you have fathered 5 children? Timileyin1234: |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Liftedhands(f): 9:38pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ironic:First of all what makes you think the scenario painted is that of an African man? |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by shilz(f): 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ironic:it will make things worst,that's like adding salt to injury.just keep being you,provide for them,sit them down,assure them your love for them and prove it.any punishment,at this point will increase disrespect from them and hatred too instead always advice them,even if they disobey or ignore now, truth is the words will remain in their hearts.it is your chance to make them see the good in you use it to your advantage.if u decide to divorce her, don't stop loving your children.they will realize their mistake someday. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Jim99: 9:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
[quote author=BlackManta post=88669319][/quote] Yeah she can have the kids if she wants but it won't end well especially when she teaches the kids how to hate, disrespect their father. He can always start afresh, right his wrongs with the right woman. Have his ideal type of kids and live a happy and fulfilled life. There's always a second chance as long as there's life. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by allfriends(m): 9:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Bros divorce that woman n seek a woman that will respect u ... Pls don't come here and tell story that touches o ... That woman won't change , n she s just getting started . |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 9:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
PURITYAUTOZ: Thank you. Most men think that money will make a difference for a wife who is inherently disrespectful. A bad woman is a bad woman. But it is very bad for man to cheat on his wife. I am yet to see a woman that will tolerate that cheerfully. But pretense of forgiveness is worse. And manipulating the children against their own father is equally evil enough. . |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by idahme(m): 9:48pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Very pathetic story, difficult situation I must say. You must thread with caution if you want to earn your family's respect back especially that of your children. For me I see them as one of the best gateways to your reunion with your wife who is no longer loyal to you at present. Device a subtle way to win the heart of your kids, speak to their minds individually and tell them how well you love them and their mum, make sure you do this in love, let it be a discussion rather than a one way traffic, ask them what they think you ain't doing well, hear from them and win their hearts. If you can break this communication barriers , then use them as a tool to get to their's mother mind. Also try as much as possible to show love to your wife irrespective of her nasty behaviour, buy her gifts, make sure you try doing it in presence of those kids for it to visualise in their memory that you don't only talk the talk but you do the do. With your tone, divorce is not what you are contemplating irrespective of you almost reaching your limits, will advice you extend that limit further and explore all possible options available. You can also explore the option of talking with your wife's mentor, someone she cherish in this life, someone that she can't say no to. That person might be a relative, a friend, a clergy etc I wish your heart desires regarding these issues come to past sooner than later, God bless you going forward...... |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by THONYWHYTE001: 9:51pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Do your duty as the man of the house, don't force her to contribute any thing. Stop cheating on her and take your children out to have fun during weekends. That's the little I can say for now since your issue have been well addressed. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Sundaycomputer: 9:52pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
My brother am a married man also , please act like a man , ur children will be happy, Be a man. U married her right.
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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by oodua1stson: 9:55pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:this is why our forefathers had plenty wives. Some women nowadays are just plain oloriburuku. Get another wife. Have another child and they will make you happy. I learnt life lessons from the story of 50 cent's life |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by tunize(m): 9:56pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
This is serious..! But still on still shall ur wife went too far by deliberately allowing ur kids to disrespect u now e nor make sense. She should do the disrespecting to u herself not her involving the children she nor act mature there. Oga u self u too do shall cheated to the point of even having a baby " u win trophy for the matter" e nor make sense now, i'm not judging u wat she is feeling now is "accumulated anger" she don play ur record dey para.! Sir what you have to do now is to continue begging, then involve family for the mattr, be calm, and if she gets u angry u can walk out for some minutes or hours self nor sleep outside then come huz back "PRAY TO GOD" 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by hope4nigeria(m): 10:01pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
BlackManta:my friend what is your problem? That's my opinion, for whatever reason, his children must never disrespect him or you are praying for generational course? What men that married 3wifes, first wife and her children should therefore kill him? Haven't you also read the parts where he went on his knees and apologize to the wife? Now making mistakes in life is now a death sentence? Or Whoever marry you married to sadist? 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by MhizJoyce(f): 10:04pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Bola146:Opolo |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ibinaboonline: 10:11pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Okay na. No be naija we dey? Timileyin1234: |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Timileyin1234(m): 10:16pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Parisian:After she don born my own pikin finish. she can remarry |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 10:16pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
The OP came here to seek for advice and possible solution; all I read are mainly blame blame blame. The OP has admitted he has done wrong and he is remorseful and looking for a way forward not additional blame. Many seem to paint a picture of finality. Is there a man-made problem that has no solution? Adultery is a very very heinous sin against God and wife. But should the adulterer die even while remorseful? Should his life completely end because of that wrong? It takes everything for a man to kneel down for his wife to plead for forgiveness and the OP said he has done that. Some are still asking that he has not told all the story. Which story could be worse than saying you have cheated on your wife? What else could be worse than that? From the children's name the OP family believe in the Bible. There is no reason for any man to cheat on his wife. But do you know that some women use sex as a weapon to foist their will on the family in order to wrest headship from the man? Remember this woman does not so much rely on OP financially since she has a well paying job too. Is adultery an unforgivable sin? And if you divorce because of that, what guarantee do you have that your next husband will remain ever faithful to you? When there is a problem, a wise person first of all examines his or herself. Divorce is not the answer. But OP right now is living in the midst of enemies created by himself. That woman can conveniently take care of those three children without the OP. Any attempt for the OP to try to win their hearts through taking them out bla bla will be matched by that woman. The woman is self sufficient. My prayer is that OP should not be poisoned one day. Living with a bitter woman and embittered children who have clearly taken sides is not an experience even meant for the devil - it is unbearable. If I wear OP, I will move out and separate and beg God to help me be chaste. I will use the opportunity to sort out myself and get closer to God. What will be will be. If God forgives OP and the woman does not, it will still be difficult. While some persons are soft and can be forgiving some are eternally unforgiving. Marriage is a union of two good forgivers. Where that is not the case it is difficult, very. Sadly, the woman is employing the weapon of manipulation to have the children openly disrespect their father. Meanwhile the Bible says children should HONOUR, not just respect HONOUR their father. DO TWO WRONGS MAKE A RIGHT . If you do not have a manipulative spirit as a woman and evil advisers you will not suddenly learn that for one offence. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Investnow2017: 10:21pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
THONYWHYTE001: Take the children out? The older ones may decline, only the innocent young ones will hop into the car. The older ones are exclusively on the side of their mother. . |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Parisian: 10:27pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
And you think your children will regard you or still be "yours"? Lmao.... Timileyin1234: |
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