ddippset:
lol

What if she gave one of your siblings 2 million and told them not to tell anyone?

Hahaha. Possible. As long as no one is telling no one, all is fine.

Thank God I am the only children of my parents. No rivals.



Dominique I'm out of nairaland prison o.

When we were growing, each of us thought we were our dad's favorite cos of the attention he gives everyone of us not until he died and his friends were telling us how the fourth born was his fav, guys you won't believe this was the person we thought our dad does not like at all. Any extra work we are to do after our individual cores is always on her...still wondering why he is always doing that.,..is it because he doesn't want us to know she was his fav?? Any way dad Continue to rest in the bosom of the Lord..

My mother had two sons- me and my elder brother. She loved my elder brother more even when I was always the one helping her. E pain me sha

Ginaz:
My dad loves me more than my sister and he makes it very obvious that I will then try to make up for my sister by showing her extra love, care and attention I could give so she doesn’t feel depressed. I would buy her stuffs and give her some of my clothes and tell her dad loves her in his own little way.

It wasn’t easy for me as everyone could sense it and even if little kiddo did something that offends me greatly I won’t do anything so that my dad won’t use the opportunity to further escalate the matter .

Being the favorite isn’t easy. So much envy and jealousy thrown at you for being liked through no fault of yours.

Is your dad still alive ?

It is natural, I have a brother and four sisters. I am the last child... seriously it hasn't been easy at all because my parents loves and cherish my brother too much. We the girls are denied some things because of him, he does practically nothing at home. He finished school and my dad wanted to send him abroad immediately but he didn't agree so my mother's business was handed to him.
My sisters and I was never allowed to study the course of our choice because my dad doesn't want us to go far, my brother is the only one that studied what he wants and my dad pushed him with his money. We are well to do and comfortable but my dad said we girls are not meant to partake in his wealth because it is all for my brother.
Sincerely I hate my parents for making me and my sisters lives miserable, making their hatred for us so obvious. We are not even allowed to make or have friends, I appreciate the fact that they at least feed us but it's not enough. My dad said he will disown me because of my jupeb school fees is much, so I do some jobs around school to support myself because I stopped calling him for money a long time ago.. sometimes I wish I was born a boy.....

It indicates weakness on the part of the parent. The human nature generally appreciates beauty, success, brilliance. The line should be drawn in parenthood. The good /bad/weakness/strength etc, that each child possess should be embraced by parents and not a criteria for choice of favourites.
Any parent that has favourites is laying a foundation for a divided family.

Lols, as far as I know, humans are built to love one child than the others.... As far as personality is different, let me tell u the truth my mom loves me than others, while my dad loves my immediate lil sis Than others, but the truth is we are all satisfied with the fact that they loves all of us, the care and love is enough for others that it does not make other feel jealous or anything, we love our parents too

This is very bad. It nearly tore my family apart. It feels bad when you discover that you are loved less.

sassysure:
Very bad.
It has destroyed relationships.
Bred hardened children.
Has killed so many siblings.

Wish parents can see what this is causing.

lmao

Its happen to me now. I love my first daughter too much before given birth to my second daughter but now I love my second daughter more. I always hid under the baby of the house. And I'm now thinking of guy that married two wife's. How can he manage it ,without show favoritism?

vickydankal:
Life events, child character etc could make a parent love a child more than another, but maturity demands you love them equally and give them equal right that they won’t notice who is more loved.

Else you will create a problem for yourself and the children in the future: my daddy didn’t show me love because I am a female. Abandoned us at the hospital, never allowed me in his car, didn’t pay my school fees etc until he died I can’t tell if I ever had a father .

I'm so sorry to hear this.Some fathers are horrible and irresponsible.God is ur father my darling.Its well with you..

Biblical Joseph comes to mind.
Jacob loved and wanted to marry only Rachael if not for the cunning of his father-in-law who chipped Leah in during the servitude for a bride price.
Then Rachael give birth to Joseph and even died when Benjamin the only maternal sibling was being put to birth.

These two reasons made Joseph and his brother Benjamin their father's favorite.


Moral of this story is that the circumstances surrounding the birth of a child determines to some extent the value to either or both of the parents.

sherylbakky:
The truth is, as long as our personalities differ as humans....Parent/parents will always love one child more than other/others.

What is not good is making it obvious to the extent that everyone including the sibling/siblings notice.

It's better to keep it to themselves and care equally for all the children.

It is not good to love a child more than the others at all.
Not to talk of loving a child more than the others and keeping it a secret.

There is no way you can cover love or hatred.

Somehow, it would be known to others and they would start to jealous the loved one and could harm him/her.

The only time when you are justified for loving a child than the others is when those others are wayward and are soiling your name. And even at that, a good parent because of parental love, will continue to pray for the wayward to change.

There are things that are beyond our control and I think showing love is one of it. No matter how harder u are trying not to make it obvious, it is not going to work.

The only thing I can say about this is that personality is a factor that contribute majorly to one child being loved and preferred over another.

As a beneficiary of the highest love ratio from my own parents, I am always not comfortable with it. I just have to accept that it is not something I can change.

I suffered that year no be small. Our last born until this little devil came, was the only girl. I must not touch her, the beating was too much. Although, I was raised by fear even before the arrival of those bitches. Man, I suffered for man hand no be small. Although my mom was caring in a very negative way, even till tomorrow, every of their decision has always been to shatter my dream.
I think they always do this in "love". My life was a mess and always been a mess... I don't have the mental capacity to show acknowledge rotten everything has been here.

You wouldn't like to experience this, so you shouldn't let your children pass through hell.

I believe parent that do this, are mostly out of sheered ignorance.


Nb: I still love my family, we are all happy!! But then, not everyone could be me. Some son would have done something terrible considering I was raised in the ghetto. There are some ghetto shit in there sha

My mum loves my junior bro than me forgetting am the first child i have been trying to please her as well and thank GOD am not that jealous type

Blaqbeckham23:
Thats true sha.

my brother I wish I can patronise you,but 1k no easy to drop this during this economy ginger your swagger period,just look at what 1k can buy

Anumpama:
Dear nairalanders
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This question have been bothering me for long
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Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

this is a true life story,what if I tell you people that this is what bend my life journey, my parent love my junior sister than me,it get to stage that,I can't cope with anything again,I start failing in the academic part of my life, things get worse I have to run away from home,if not for the spirit of God that is inside my mind,I once have a bad thought of sending her overboard, as in kill her, cos she is the one disturbing my life,but thank God we are all an adult now.......sorry for the bad grammar

Masterpiece676:
I suffered that year no be small. Our last born until this little devil came, was the only girl. I must not touch her, the beating was too much. Although, I was raised by fear even before the arrival of those bitches. Man, I suffered for man hand no be small. Although my mom was caring in a very negative way, even till tomorrow, every of their decision has always been to shatter my dream.
I think they always do this in "love". My life was a mess and always been a mess... I don't have the mental capacity to show acknowledge rotten everything has been here.

You wouldn't like to experience this, so you shouldn't let your children pass through hell.

I believe parent that do this, are mostly out of sheered ignorance.


Nb: I still love my family, we are all happy!! But then, not everyone could be me. Some son would have done something terrible considering I was raised in the ghetto. There are some ghetto shit in there sha

we have same story to tell,

BestOsai:


I'm so sorry to hear this.Some fathers are horrible and irresponsible.God is ur father my darling.Its well with you..

Wow, thanks this helps are lot.

scaramucci:
Some children are just more impressive than others. I think the right word is "impress". Some parents are more impressed with some of their children. Mr Father, God bless his soul, loved me me so much because he was impressed by my academic performance and street wiseness. I was always coming first in class.

Lol. I am the best in academics and family innovations but my parent loves some over me. This life sef

vickydankal:
Life events, child character etc could make a parent love a child more than another, but maturity demands you love them equally and give them equal right that they won’t notice who is more loved.

Else you will create a problem for yourself and the children in the future: my daddy didn’t show me love because I am a female. Abandoned us at the hospital, never allowed me in his car, didn’t pay my school fees etc until he died I can’t tell if I ever had a father .

wow so sorry about that

It's natural, just don't show it by your action or words

The fact remains that i did everything for my mum yo make her happy but she loves my younger brother than i am... This started right from childhood even everyone knows. She loves my brother and his fiancee that lives with her to a fault but my younger brother isn't in Nigeria.

Since i wasn't loved or given the kinda respect and attention i deserved, i move away from home and travelled 9 hours away from them to start a new life.. She do calls but i mostly doesn't pick my mum's phone cos there is no connectivity among us and no love. Even me and my younger brother ain't close and we are just two from my mum and me being the eldest..

I don't think i can ever like my mum for the part she played in favourism..

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sherylbakky:
The truth is, as long as our personalities differ as humans....Parent/parents will always love one child more than other/others.

What is not good is making it obvious to the extent that everyone including the sibling/siblings notice.

It's better to keep it to themselves and care equally for all the children.

[b][/b]NO. Is very dangerous, and the aftermath of it is bad.
Please, if you have found wanting of these act, quickly desist from it.