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Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Biglittlelois(f): 9:49pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
Rozz: He is a narcissist, an entitled manipulative narcissist at that. 13 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by drmikeadams(m): 9:50pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
Biglittlelois: my sister. Na OP get em prrick ,,he can use it whenever,wherever and however he feels like using it D , 1 Like |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 9:52pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
Biglittlelois:I just pity the innocent woman and the emotional trauma he's putting her through,a chronic narcissist he is. 7 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Takotsubo: 9:56pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
This is a fake story to wind people up Obviously trolling. 1 Like |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by piroux(f): 9:57pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
IdiAminDada: OP, you're being ridiculous. Can you just take your time to see how wrong your actions are? Never before have I seen a thread on nairaland where everyone is unanimously agreed on a stance. You're not right! You are wrong!! Very wrong!! And everyone is telling you!! Your wife might not be perfect but you're a burden to her. If you aren't careful, you'd be one of those fathers whose children don't talk to him in old age because he spent their early years in bars and having political arguments that had no bearing on his financial responsibilities. Your family deserves more from you. 16 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by BetWinners(m): 10:15pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
IdiAminDada:If you are not happy with the situation,then take steps to change it.You are clearly a capable man.You are experiencing a torturous & apprehensive existence.How long can it go on?CHANGE! |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by djon78(m): 10:28pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
IdiAminDada: Oga you are just filled with excuses, honestly. You are jobless Hang around unserious friends that adds no value to your life Cheats, womanize And you still complain about your wife The woman dey try In fact that woman truly loves you She has taken a lot of bull crap from you True she may have her own issues But you must change Cut off those unserious friends Cut off all those attention to irrelevant women Be serious about job or business You first be the change Then she will follow You are with a woman that truly loves you You think all those babes you flirt and galivant around with will tolerate half of what that woman tolerates Dude they won't try that Please change your ways You don't even have problems You are the problem 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 10:29pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
piroux: I am not understanding you o, seriously. I cheated, 1 year ago. Did I cheat yesterday? No. Will I cheat tomorrow? No. What have I done wrong now? What have you said that i can say, "you are right"? Am i in the bar right now? No. Will I be in the bar till 12pm midnight tonight? No. When last did i reach that time at the bar? Can't even remember but I think it was around February last year. Is it my habit of being at the bar till midnight? No. So if I want to at a random day, i cannot because I am married or what? Do people who stay at the bar till 4am get arrested for staying at the bar? The wrong I did was 1year ago, make I kee myself for my past? The chat my wife saw yesterday was last year, with a married woman I saw last in 2010. Why is my wife insulting me? Hey, my dear, typing this reply stopped me from reading the novel, I was reading. Oops, i just called you a pet name, therefore, i have cheated on my wife, abi?. I am confused o, please make me understand what wrong I did. The last year cheat, chat or the fact that I have female contacts in my phone? Or you want me to stop doing what i did last year common, there are reasonable people here o. How am I wrong? What does my family deserve from me? Kee myself or stay at home? Make them kukuma chain me to the bed now so they can be happy, abi. 2 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Femsyn(m): 10:37pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
I've said it several times on this platform. Too many half baked men are being bred these days, and to think hes 39 is more appalling. If we make findings, we would realise your parents indulged you, growing up. Imagine the reasons he listed for marrying a wife! How old are you again? 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 10:40pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
Femsyn: Since the reasons are wrong, make i kukuma divorce na? Abi no be so you wan suggest? Did you expect me to say I married her because I love her? Or because she had big breast or big nyash? Or you want me to open another thread to write reasons why I married my wife. Did you bother to ask yourself what is the context of the post? If i went into that detail with every part of the thread, how many pages do you think the story will be? Make I kukuma go write book to make you happy. |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by shadeag(f): 10:50pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
i think nigerians hate the truth and love lies,this is why they say they would turn dollar to 1naira and we all believed atleast some of us,OP is saying the truth and everyone is trying to tear his head off..look all MEN cheat.its in the male DNA,just pray to have a man that would think of your safety while cheating(condoms) and a man that would do it in secret and not rub it in your face.all i can say is stop flirting and if you must be smart about it.i have a man but i do not check is phones and he does not check mine.i will not fight a woman because of a man.dont try and change a man did it once and it ended badly and remember jayz cheated on bee and iceberg slim cheated on the actress and even we heard the rumor about apostle suleiman 3 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 10:57pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
djon78: The last money i made in 7 figures, one of those "unserious" people gave me the job. The bread my children will eat tomorrow morning, another one of those "unserious" people bought it and brought it home for me. He bought the fuel in my car a week ago and paid my TV subscription. I should cut off from all of them, right? What should I changed now, I should change the fact that I cheated last year? 2 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by sisisioge: 10:59pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
I read somewhere that intelligent women find it really hard to find a suitable husband to marry. Once he doesn't measure up they walk...its that simple. Why would you marry a woman without good mental coordinate and expect so much from her? Please! You probably thought she would be easy to control since she doesn't know how to think correctly... It is well fa. Just be patient with her. By the way, I only read the first paragraph of the story o. 1 Like |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by bukatyne(f): 11:22pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
Was going to waste my time till I saw new moniker. Cheats, comes home late, flirts, complains about not eating his favorite meal always, can't leverage on his friends to get a job and thinks his wife is the problem? Maybe she is truly the problem..... Still keeping up with you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Ochiban: 11:23pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
IdiAminDada: Thank God. The most sensible thing you have said today. Abeg hurry up and divorce her so that a good man can quickly find such an industrious and loyal woman. Please stop wasting her time and potential 7 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 11:25pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
Ochiban: I will be delighted. One mans food is another mans poison. |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 11:26pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
bukatyne: You didn't read the very first sentence. |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by djon78(m): 11:34pm On Apr 23, 2020 |
M IdiAminDada: Bro look at it this way. Use wisdom to solve this The most important priority is your home They may be helping you Just be wise about it. Cut off those irrelevant chats with women Even interaction and all those flirting with them It draws suspicion See the solution is out there Your madam loves you honestly The change in your relationship with your wife Lies in your hands Of course She do have her own problem But the change starts from you Do your own part where you are wrong And you will be surprised she will change Like hanging out late Try and stop it Even if you must hang out with your friends Don't stay till late It's true no job is frustrating But be the change In fact let me tell you These issues in your home Is the reason of your joblessness It breeds very bad omen In addition to an unhappy wife Very very very bad omen That your woman is happy with you Will bring you good fortunes One of my acquaintances Was like that Hanging around guys that drink and womanize and he was married Jobless but gets small runs Once he makes small change Boozing and other stuff with those his crew The wife working good job told hin One-day that God was making her the bread winner of the family because of his irresponsibilury The guy saw it was true And decided to change and become responsibile Peace came back to his home And his finances like magic turned around He and wife are best friends now And he cut of the irrelevant friends See bro these things acts like magic Honestly that woman loves you If not she will just live you to your ways Just find a way to change And you will be surprised how your home will turn 10 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Chiebunigom1(f): 12:08am On Apr 24, 2020 |
baldman:Thanks for this!! 1 Like |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Chiebunigom1(f): 12:30am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Let's assume that you're no longer doing what you used to do in the past(while married),as per clubbing, keeping late nights, cheating, etc. But are you aware that built up resentment in your wife has damaged her emotionally? Going by your initial posts and responses so far, I believe you still see yourself as a victim, when it is the other way round. Since you won't divorce your wife and free her from the emotional drains, you need to start amending your ways by *stopping the emotional and physical cheating "getting a job no matter how small the salary is, and keep yourself busy "cutting down relationships with those friends who offer you women and pay for hotel rooms *try to earn back your wife's trusts by your actions and inactions. " set your path with God right and be both spiritual and physical head of your family. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by layzie: 12:56am On Apr 24, 2020 |
@ op. U seem to have only bad things to say about your wife. Your emotion is blinding you from seeing any good in her so try this- Take a deep breathe, and list out the good things u saw in your wife before u married her. Focus your mind on only those things and cloud out all these your complaints. You need to drop a lot of the bitterness towards your wife for the good of your family. Cos truth be told, most of ur complaints are normal things which somehow u don't see as normal anymore. Eg, she asks u what she will wear, what she will cook. What's really wrong with these that u have to be so bitter about it She complains cos she thinks u re cheating, who wouldn't?? and u go about leaving clues in your phone and calling other babes pet names. Do u even call her a pet name? She allows children play with things then beat them when they spoil them, brother, a lot of wives are like that. that's y u re there to help discipline the children and stop them from playing with such things. Family is both of u and the children and each parent has a role to play in guiding the kids. U re unemployed for two years but most nights u re out drinking and u want her to welcome u with open arms? Now also put urself in ur wife's shoes, how would u really feel. She is the bread winner now and still has time to even ask u what she will cook and your response is bitterness all the way. Pls while u re at the exercise in my first paragraph, also list out all the bad things in you. Go and apologise sincerely to her now for all those while appreciating her for the good in her. This action if done well will turn the tide and your family will be better off. Sincerity in u will also involve change of attitude. 5 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Ishilove: 1:17am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Jesus... |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Richy4(m): 1:20am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Though I don't like the idea of someone quoting me and the ID says nobody. it makes me look stupid trying to quote back. However I believe it's u OP.. So why not maintain the new Identity that you have created for this thread? I wanted to reply / ask you some questions but I can't because it says nobody.. 1 Like |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Keji1012(m): 2:57am On Apr 24, 2020 |
I am seeing u as a lazy man 6 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 3:18am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Ochiban:Obviously a troll. But we just need to keep on replying to silly stories like this, innit? Nairaland is filled with kids posing as adults. 3 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 3:20am On Apr 24, 2020 |
OP your wife is a strong woman cause you can nag for Africa. It is obvious you married your wife for logical reasons, from the little I read. You better man up. 4 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by zainyrazzy(f): 4:55am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Op And you gladly justify all you did. You wife is really trying. Honestly which responsible man comes back home at 1am and expect a welcome hug from his wife, tell your story to a baby. Be reasonable how will you say all the girls you were hanging out with are just friends, I believe if you have the money you would definitely lodge a girl in the hotel and have sex with her, How won't your wife nag when it's so glaring that no woman on earth can please you . Oga you are the problem in this marriage, I wish your wife can share a little from what she goes through with you. Then my friend this, my friend that all this friends taking you to the bar don't dey know you are jobless, how many of them has offered you a job, you don't have friends, they are your enemies, Been jobless for 2years yet non of them can offer you a job or get started again, all they do is buy you drinks from one bar to another Grown up
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Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Kenturkey048(m): 6:05am On Apr 24, 2020 |
djon78:why is it that no one is paying attention to the insensitivity of the wife....? Living with an insensitive person Is worst than living in hell...I have a first hand experience of what the op is saying because sometimes I just feel like parking my bags and going to a place where I can have peace of mind..... 1 Like |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Maydayy(m): 6:33am On Apr 24, 2020 |
for real Sir?? U want us to bash your wife after this your post? From the look of things you don't seem like a responsible husband. You chat with other girls and call them 'sweetie' and even telling them u miss them. That is callous and unthoughtful of you. Imagine if she were the one doing all you posted here, how would you feel? Didn't you notice all the bad traits before you married her? I guess that is where you complement her too. You have a wife that truly loves you. change your ways and fix your marriage sir. 4 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nobody: 7:59am On Apr 24, 2020 |
How can i unread this, this man nah complete idiot, alot of men is praying for such a blessing ur tagging useless, do you know what it means for a woman to be a bread winner for 2 fucking years, coming bck from work tired and u stress her emotionally by hanging out late and trying to justify your irresponsibility shit. I wish your wife reads this and my little advice to her is give you space, just flirt her own flirt nah u go still rush back here to post shit. Good women endure alot truely, she has all evidence to show ure cheating except your delusional mind trying to play yourself you never penetrate anyone. I can bet, you have gone far beyond kissing, if the tables are to turn now they will blame the woman and drag her around. All reasonable guys here should tell OP the hard truth, he is clearly an idiot to me. Shit!! your more intrested on your stupid social life than hustling for your kids nonsense. 8 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by kodix(m): 8:04am On Apr 24, 2020 |
My dear you're very irresponsible and you're justifying it to suit you with excuses, you as a married man Wit four children still do what teenagers and single guys and babes do,how will you stay out uptill 12am as a married fellow with children and you expect your wife to be happy what are you teaching your children and what are you looking for outside, you're also a very big cheat is it only when you have sex with another girl that you know you cheated no that's abig lie,another girl is boldly calling you pet love names and you're justifying it why? And still have romantic chat with your ex! flirt with so many girl if you wife state doing all of the above what will you term it,in fact you're heartless to be claiming right, you go out and come back anyhow you want,are even OK! Stay away from these friends that deceives you and focus on the well being of your family,don't be self-centered too don't mock your wife because she is trying to carry u alone as the head by asking you what to cook,what to wear and to purchase is BC she regard you bcs some women will do what ever they want without putting you in consideration, so appreciate your wife, train your children stop wanting to see what your wife will do,correct if you're the one that see them doing wrong eg pressing your wife phone from there your wife will learn,pick up the dirty clothes when they lither around and put them where it suppose to be you wife will learn too,a leader live by example and not with critics. Atmost learn how to be a father not as a juvenile and look for work to do even thou menial and keep your self very busy. 5 Likes |
Re: My Story; A Troubled Married Man by Nicklaus619(m): 8:05am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Baba you are your problem You gave her reason to have trust issues with you, yes I am currently dating a girl that does not make decision of her own, and the reason why she seek my opinion all time is because she trust my sense of judgement, tell me how your relationship was during your early days of your marriage??. I believe she did not just wake up one morning and started disrespecting you and accusing you of having multiple affairs, sorry to say bro, but you act like a big baby, ones you are married you become dedicated to your wife and kids, give them 100% priority, why the hell will you still be clubbing and keeping late night when his have responsibilities waiting for you at home?? Baba you are deng lucky you married a good woman, a typical Nigerian woman will probably cheat on you multiple time as revenge too. Bottom line, baba all this thing is your fault, there is nothing pillow talk couldn't fix but you prefer to galivant with girls and flirt around, just imaging your chat, with your ex you posted here if you are in your shoes, and you saw such chat on her phone would you not react as she has done?? Dude better go and fix your family and stop throwing blames. 6 Likes |
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