₦airaland Forum

Few weeks ago I made a terrible mistake of making a post asking for long distance relationship (e-relationship I called it) with any interested Nairaland babes. Quite a number of ladies reached out and got in touch.

I must confess that all of them seemed to be pleasant individuals.

However, within a few days all of them have started asking me for money, from 20k to 800k (some undisclosed amount). And while I politely declined that that's an inappropriate behaviour towards someone you're just meeting, a significant number of them abused me for turning them down. They somehow have this mindset that I have some sort of responsibility towards them even though we have only just met online.

This forum is really a jungle of indecent manners, a platform some girls have decided to use to monetize the faintest semblance of friendship with the opposite sex. It is not a man's job to fund your luxurious or penurious life, much less a man you have just met and in whose life you have no stake. I know how to take responsibility for people in my life, including girlfriends: and it is sad that many girls here have misinterpreted this sense of duty to mean an express right to a man's pocket regardless of the absence of a relationship with such a man... It is inappropriate.

Build relationship and trust first before making financial requests of any kind. It is your father, mother and brother's responsibility to fund your life as a girl. You can claim right with these your family members, but never with a man you have no relationship with. It will go a long way for ladies to do away with your nauseating sense of entitlement. Exchange of things, including affection and ideas, should be mutual...

I am not going to call anyone out.

I am no longer interested in any e-relationship with any Nairaland babe. Kindly ignore my former post attached below.

Cheers.

pmoye:
I am sure it sounds funny, but why not?

By the realities of our time many of us end up traveling and living far away from where potential mates are located. I am personally and increasingly thinking about the possibility of contracting an e-relationship with any interested female. Any babe who is interested, or is curious enough should send me a pm.

e relationship is e business

I'm so sorry about that
I don't know why some girls like embarrassing themselves
Any little hi like this, they bill the guy

Don't use that to judge all girls

illicit:
e relationship is e business

Lol
The ones with 'e' nko, dem go still change am to business

Op u must do

I completely agree with your accurate assessment.

illicit:
e relationship is e business

Thanks a lot bestabigaelever.

At what point exactly do you think a man should reach a conclusion about such things? After two ladies, 3, 4, 5, ... 10??

I do not judge all girls; all I am doing is to reach a conclusion about Nairaland girls. From my experience I believe this conclusion is accurate for me. Perhaps some men have had more favorable outcome with Nairaland babes, I am happy for them and my experience doesn't necessarily invalidate theirs.

So, no I am not judging all girls. But as for me, evil shall not arise a second time.

bestabigaelever:
I'm so sorry about that
I don't know why some girls like embarrassing themselves
Any little hi like this, they bill the guy

Don't use that to judge all girls

pmoye:
Thanks a lot bestabigaelever.

At what point exactly do you think a man should reach a conclusion about such things? After two ladies, 3, 4, 5, ... 10??

I do not judge all girls; all I am doing is to reach a conclusion about Nairaland girls. From my experience I believe this conclusion is accurate for me. Perhaps some men have had more favorable outcome with Nairaland babes, I am happy for them and my experience doesn't necessarily invalidate theirs.

So, no I am not judging all girls. But as for me, evil shall not arise a second time.

Hmmmm, It is well

Guys also chatted you up... You just don't know

Perhaps. But only one person.

I explicitly requested for video chat, only one of them declined. She however sent a VN though, but I never stopped suspecting a foul play.

faithugo64:
Guys also chatted you up... You just don't know

LOLs.

One quoted me last time and asked me whether I have any money with me, I told I'm a beggar just to see her response, surprisingly she called me a 'boy' for letting her down...

Modified
No Pms. I'm seriously broke too.