Roseey0:
You will get over it.
Good girls are hard to find o.
Forget the past and hold on to a good girl.
If another man grab her now,you will look for another you wont find

Hisincrease:

What is the right thing to do?
This should be your question.

When you get it right, only the right man will fall in.

Jasonjay101:
Please I'm new here on this platform and I just want some advice to clear my mind.

Let me just go straight to the point. My girl that we've been dating for a year plus now just told me a week ago that she lived a couple's life with her ex back in school right from when she entered 300l (4yrs course) and the guy 400l (5yrs course) and I've not been able to get over it.

It happened a week ago, we were together and she saw a post of her ex engagement to his current girlfriend and she started feeling bad, so I asked her what happened and a little bit angry with her thinking maybe she was not over her ex yet. She told me she has gotten over him but she just remembered her past so I try to console her to let go and if there's something she hasn't told me yet about her past that is still eating her up she can tell me because before now we've talked about a lot of things about our past and we've try to forgive each other and let the past be in the past.

She had told me it was this only guy she had dated and it was the same guy that disvirgined her. I was not bothered about that because I was not a virgin either. She told me she has moved on even before I came and she stayed for close to a year to heal up and all through this time I was asking her out but she never said yes and never told me she was going through heart break.

Now, it's a year and few months into our relationship, she's been a very good girl, supportive and hard working. And now she just told me this, coupled with some lies she has used to cover it up in some of our previous conversations about her school life.

I'm not perfect either and I've had my past which I have told her. I never lived a couples life back in school and it was only a girl I've also had anything sexual relationship to do with.

Why am emotionally down now is because I know what it is like to live a couples life in school. I never lived as one but I know of people that lived as such in school and I know what happens.

Now I don't know if I can forget about this and we move on. I love this girl so much and she has shown to also love me as much and I've tried to forget about what happened but most times when I see her now I tend to always remember and it eats me up.

Do you guys think I can forget about this?

ITbomb:

crazygod:
Some folks are not just mature enough to be dating. What exactly do you want to forgive her for?

Kdon2:


Its like you are too young to marry yet

M00N:


Honestly, I would feel cheated if I had to pay(bride price) for something someone else got for free.

SeverusSnape:
I'd feel the same if i were you.

Couple's life in school eh... chai!, Let me not talk because you'd feel discouraged about her. If your heart is no more there, Let go.

Deepthoughts:
A beg wetin de happen for the couples life?

mamatwiny:
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For where? Sometimes I ask myself how I decended so low and why I hung on for so long.It was likely a bet and he won, not because he put in effort but cos I felt it was time and he has been on friendzone for years.

That Okafor's can only work for 2 ppl that love each other but distance or family could not allow them be together, or the girls family coerced her to marry against her will.

If something happens to him and I am the only person to make him live, just be sure he is dead already. It is a mutual feeling oo. He will do exactly same .

lilyheaven:

Uncle, you said the right issue earlier, her anger is because her ex is getting married before her, not really because of dick.
This current bobo is not even sure if he wants to settle with her.
She is depressed.

Kingarthur21:
a lot of people never forget their first love,a lot of girls never forget the guy that disvirgined them. In this case her ex was both. The truth is ,the purest love a girl has for a guy is when they are young. As she grows older,she will swallow the female redpill and not date for love but who loves her and is capable of taking care of her.

She is not the first or last that feel something for an ex. Its normal, most people end up with others and not the love of their life but live perfectly fine. How many married couples do you think married the love of their life?

As for the couple living,you use the word "forgive" as though she cheated on you. The thing is she didn't. Make research ,find out if she has a high body count from sleeping with various men or he was her only sexual partner all those years.
If he was the first and only one she has been with then it doesn't necessarily makes her morally bankrupt.
Whenever someone confides in you of a terrible past, don't show shock or disappointment else they will not tell you more.

When you explain to girls that chastity is not what a guy plays with when searching for a wife they will be arguing and online motivational speakers will be advising them that they are free to have sexual prowess as a man forgetting how guys sees things is different from how ladies see things. They will be shouting "patriarchy" when you advice them.
At the end it is them that will feel used and cheated in the end if after several sex he marries another person. How many guys will feel bad or exploited after couple living only for the relationship not to work?

Let this be a lesson for all!


Check out the comments of most girls on this post, accusing him of judging her. Being skeptical about someone past and worrying if it may affect your relationship is not judging. The way most women are conscious of men financial capacity(which I support) and if he can take care of a family is the same way men are conscious of the sexuality of ladies when choosing a spouse.
They can only rant online but will they force us to marry?

humblemikel:


My Brother,
these days one can't really tell right from wrong anymore.
Everything seems right in our eyes
Only when I opened my manufacturer's manual I realize how foolish I have been doing the right thing the wrong way.
Hope you don't get confused there.

Jasonjay101:
Please I'm new here on this platform and I just want some advice to clear my mind.

Let me just go straight to the point. My girl that we've been dating for a year plus now just told me a week ago that she lived a couple's life with her ex back in school right from when she entered 300l (4yrs course) and the guy 400l (5yrs course) and I've not been able to get over it

It happened a week ago, we were together and she saw a post of her ex engagement to his current girlfriend and she started feeling bad, so I asked her what happened and a little bit angry with her thinking maybe she was not over her ex yet. She told me she has gotten over him but she just remembered her past so I try to console her to let go and if there's something she hasn't told me yet about her past that is still eating her up she can tell me because before now we've talked about a lot of things about our past and we've try to forgive each other and let the past be in the past.

She had told me it was this only guy she had dated and it was the same guy that disvirgined her. I was not bothered about that because I was not a virgin either. She told me she has moved on even before I came and she stayed for close to a year to heal up and all through this time I was asking her out but she never said yes and never told me she was going through heart break.

Now, it's a year and few months into our relationship, she's been a very good girl, supportive and hard working. And now she just told me this, coupled with some lies she has used to cover it up in some of our previous conversations about her school life.

I'm not perfect either and I've had my past which I have told her. I never lived a couples life back in school and it was only a girl I've also had anything sexual relationship to do with.

Why am emotionally down now is because I know what it is like to live a couples life in school. I never lived as one but I know of people that lived as such in school and I know what happens.

Now I don't know if I can forget about this and we move on. I love this girl so much and she has shown to also love me as much and I've tried to forget about what happened but most times when I see her now I tend to always remember and it eats me up.

Do you guys think I can forget about this?

djon78:



One was calling the op a caveman. That there is nothing wrong with cohabitation.
I just smh.
They have thrown morality to the dogs and this same people want faithfulness when they get married.

How can you give what you don't have.
How can one sow thorns and expect to reap flowers? It's not possible.

Moral decadence has swept across our clime. People live anyhow and will want to still eat there cake and have it.
And there is no iota of remorse.
Perverted generation.

prince088:

Las las....u go marry man like u. Iranu

mamatwiny:
.
For where? Sometimes I ask myself how I decended so low and why I hung on for so long.It was likely a bet and he won, not because he put in effort but cos I felt it was time and he has been on friendzone for years.

That Okafor's can only work for 2 ppl that love each other but distance or family could not allow them be together, or the girls family coerced her to marry against her will.

If something happens to him and I am the only person to make him live, just be sure he is dead already. It is a mutual feeling oo. He will do exactly same .

Kingarthur21:
a lot of people never forget their first love,a lot of girls never forget the guy that disvirgined them. In this case her ex was both. The truth is ,the purest love a girl has for a guy is when they are young. As she grows older,she will swallow the female redpill and not date for love but who loves her and is capable of taking care of her.

She is not the first or last that feel something for an ex. Its normal, most people end up with others and not the love of their life but live perfectly fine. How many married couples do you think married the love of their life?

As for the couple living,you use the word "forgive" as though she cheated on you. The thing is she didn't. Make research ,find out if she has a high body count from sleeping with various men or he was her only sexual partner all those years.
If he was the first and only one she has been with then it doesn't necessarily makes her morally bankrupt.
Whenever someone confides in you of a terrible past, don't show shock or disappointment else they will not tell you more.

When you explain to girls that chastity is not what a guy plays with when searching for a wife they will be arguing and online motivational speakers will be advising them that they are free to have sexual prowess as a man forgetting how guys sees things is different from how ladies see things. They will be shouting "patriarchy" when you advice them.
At the end it is them that will feel used and cheated in the end if after several sex he marries another person. How many guys will feel bad or exploited after couple living only for the relationship not to work?

Let this be a lesson for all!


Check out the comments of most girls on this post, accusing him of judging her. Being skeptical about someone past and worrying if it may affect your relationship is not judging. The way most women are conscious of men financial capacity(which I support) and if he can take care of a family is the same way men are conscious of the sexuality of ladies when choosing a spouse.
They can only rant online but will they force us to marry?

vincentjk:
Sometimes when I look at these girls on campus and seeing how they freely live with guys it baffles me and I wonder if they weren't given good home training back home

My friend lives with one at school. She does all the cooking and washing and every night correct knacking is sure for him, person pikin o imagine a small girl that her poor parent sent to school

Op let me ask you, do you think if this guy comes back to her and due to the feelings they once had for one another invites her to his place, don't you think something go sup? Especially if he's cute and has sweet mouth lol

jubrilELsudan:





SAME WORDS YOUR WIFE SAYS TO ME AFTER I HANG HER ON MY CEILING AND FVCK HER TSETSEFLY STYLE IN HER EVERY HOLE THEN SHOOT MY HOT CUM IN HER MOUTH.