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When a relationship has gone to phase of attachment just don't try to intrude. Why do you think husband and wife would fight and destroy all their properties and in a month's time they are back together like nothing happened?
Your first mistake was asking a lady out when she is in a relationship. You automatically became an option.

Secondly, she cried to you when she was vulnerable and gbam, u think it was destiny "she was made for you" indian film.
"Don't ever ask a girl out when she is vulnerable" you're laying your foundation on the wrong soil, unless you just wan chop clean mouth.

From here, she is not yours anymore. She is loyal to her boyfriend who just returned with a simple message of "i miss u baby". Just play along until u get someone else.

safarigirl:
I only followed the cue of the guy who claimed I don't know men

Modified: The post started with "Most men", you skipped it and jumped to paragraph two.

The idea is to read a post in it's entirety, not select the one you would rather see and ignore the rest. I made no generalisations, I started with " Most men...." and you should have read the second paragraph with the same thing.

In truth, I didn,t read the whole thing and even preceding paragraphs

But, if by chance or situation or what have you, one comes across most men who are not capable of loving doesn't make them part of most men who are capable of loving who one might have not met....

mimimile93:
Loan money and buy yourself a G5 airplane. That way, she won't go back excpt the ex buys yatch. If he buys yatch. Buy airbus A308. Always be ontop

That's future impossible tense

Manpoly:
U can't even give d nigga word of encouragement.... Must u b direct.. .lol...must u brake his heart...

Am just looking at for my fellow bro

That’s just the truth

Macsjebs:
In truth, I didn,t read the whole thing and even preceding paragraphs

But, if by chance or situation or what have you, one comes across most men who are not capable of loving doesn't make them part of most men who are capable of loving who one might have not met....

You can take this up with the men who claimed men are incapable of loving.

I merely agreed with their postulations.

felt sorry for her because she narrated how she was "dis-virgin" by the guy..... deflowered!

Negroes just love using the word 'loyal'. A quality they mostly don't possess.

Didn't even bother reading the post.

Ex this, Ex that
What's happening these days
It seems people don't really breakup anymore.


...babes still visiting their ex to get knacked
...guys still calling on their ex for knacking

Crazy generation



PS: OP, just so you know...
That guy will definitely knack your girl
.....it's only a matter of "TIME"

And unfortunately, you can't stop it.
Just as you can't hold her nor stop her.

Alaye mi, don't meddle love and affection with your career and life. Just do like a pussy cat and watch what plays out, while you focus more on how to accelerate your career in the right altitude to Garner financial freedom that will liberate you from women's Witchcraft. Do this and see women flock around for just a night escape in their lifetime... As for me, I am ruling my Life like a KING�

my brother I will advise u go and Bleep ur last Bleep and bid her goodbye...she gone...its better to trust snake that it won't bite u...than to trust girls wit money and besides why is the girl still communicating wit the ex??

OP let me tell you a secret. First I will ask you to read the words of the great master tai2

https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman/

Like the master, these women don show me pepper, but let me give you the advantage of wisdom earned by experience.

When it comes to women 1+1 is never equals to 2.

Never deal with a woman based on how you feel. Women are funny people, the more you have to show you love them, the likelier they are to disappoint you. I've dated ugly women, beautiful women, they are all the same. If you treat a woman who is used to bleeped up guys, extremely well, they will Bleep you up. A lot of guys think women are like investments, the more you invest, the better the return. Its a big lie.

Women work based on how they. They can feel one way one minute and another way tomorrow. The more you try to convince them of your love, the greater your downfall. Sure, they might yield when you assault them with emotion, but remain rest assured your downfall is 5 minutes away.

You see this babe you are tripping for, professing your love, close marking her, is only buying you 15 minutes extra time. You will still lose the match. She might yield initally but later she will still Bleep up. No matter how much you love her, no need to struggle.

You know what women like, uncertainty and strong-willed men. If you tell her you love her and leave her alone when she starts to misbehave with this guy (oh yes she will, if he's persistent), she will come back, if not in three months, in one year or two years. If you continue pursuing her, when she starts to misbehave, the farther she will run from you. I be lover boy, I don do this thing tire.

My advice to you is to enjoy yourself, remove your mind and prepare for the worst. When it happens, don't budge, don't beg , don't explain don't ask why. I can guarantee you, the back will find her way back, if not in three months, one year or two years. By then you no go send sef. Don't work based on your emotions, they will cheat you and you will feel worse than a rag. Leave love, focus on your hustle, chop other babes, keep it moving.

The good thing is she hasn't bleeped up yet. In the mean time, chop her well, knack like the knacking will end tomorrow. Knack the thing like say tomorrow no dey, forget love. When she bleeps up. Go silent. Even if it kills you, no cough, find another knack, read your books, keep yourself busy. You will retain your dignity and she will come running back. Why do you think the ex who left her still has a hold on her life? He moved on easily without remorse, they hate that shit, they will come running everytime back over that nonsense.

Your lover boy mind will say i'm wrong, you will remember sweet words, memories etc, be tempted to write long love letters. baba, they will be reading your letter and screwing the other guy five ways from Sunday. The best thing is to enjoy what you have left and lock up when its done, no cry, no beg, no write long love letter no ask how are you, they will turn up when the guy don run them down, and they will fear and respect you more for locking up at that time.

I hope you really hear this, I learnt the very very hard way. Women are like breeze, they blow in any direction, enjoy the moment, don't let it direct your life. Can you chase breeze and catch it? please learn from elders and don't destroy your life, when you see success women will be chasing you and you will be running, I know it feels like nothing else can replace her, or make you feel like she does, forget those sentiments. Better be known as heartless than as a mugu. You will feel sad but you will hold your dignity and your pride, don't rubbish yourself and end up hating yourself or doubting your manhood.

Another mumu post about smelly towtow

Samrocker:
I met her in my 100L days... But she said she got a boyfriend in Lag. But she made it known to me how really bad her boyfriend is treating her.
She is very loyal type of girl that she told me she can't cheat on her boyfriend despite all my trial and effort to win her heart to me!

Fast forward to 100L second semester, she called me on phone and asked if I was around that she has something to tell me. She came to me sobbing really bad and crying. She explained to me her boyfriend called her on phone and asked for a breakup.

I felt sorry for her because she narrated how she was dis-virgin by the guy.

So she slept over that night ... And eventually we started dating......

It's been over a year we have been dating now... She is so sweet and loyal ...

Not until she called me last month, her ex came with his new car to see her at home.

I was very surprised about this... But she said nothing attached, he just came to apologise...

But after few days... Her ex began to chat her up on insta... And promising her heaven and Earth that she should give her another chance....

She screenshoted everything to me herself.....


Plz I deeply need advice... What should I do to keep this girl from going back to her ex... Cuz her ex is financially okay than me....�...


Am afraid... Plz what should I do guys?

She showed you the shots herself.
She’s as honest as Bleep mahn.
You’re lucky

Bro my advice, will be the worst... Just forget love for once, bleep and hope for the worst not the best, she is not yours dont be an opportunist.... You laid the foundation wrongly... I will categorically tell you, this season of yours Will end in pains for you, I don't know of other seasons to come.... Bt right now she is gone, as far as she showed you their chats, women and the way they love to build fake trust...

NOTHING!ALL NOW DEPENDS ON THE LADY!THE EX HAS A LOT OF ADVANTAGES OVER YOU!!

Samrocker:
I met her in my 100L days... But she said she got a boyfriend in Lag. But she made it known to me how really bad her boyfriend is treating her.
She is very loyal type of girl that she told me she can't cheat on her boyfriend despite all my trial and effort to win her heart to me!

Fast forward to 100L second semester, she called me on phone and asked if I was around that she has something to tell me. She came to me sobbing really bad and crying. She explained to me her boyfriend called her on phone and asked for a breakup.

I felt sorry for her because she narrated how she was dis-virgin by the guy.

So she slept over that night ... And eventually we started dating......

It's been over a year we have been dating now... She is so sweet and loyal ...

Not until she called me last month, her ex came with his new car to see her at home.

I was very surprised about this... But she said nothing attached, he just came to apologise...

But after few days... Her ex began to chat her up on insta... And promising her heaven and Earth that she should give her another chance....

She screenshoted everything to me herself.....


Plz I deeply need advice... What should I do to keep this girl from going back to her ex... Cuz her ex is financially okay than me....�...


Am afraid... Plz what should I do guys?

If you have money, I will suggest you assasinate the Ex.

My personal opinion.

Can’t you see you have been played? You were only a rebound boyfriend who filled in when she was down! Niggah, a loyal chick wouldn’t entertain her so called ex not to talk of sendin screen shot...Damn man! Since when Nigerian men turn sisi’s? Too much Hollywood? Or just plain dumbshiit ??

NYCnextStop:
Really there’s nothing you can do. Just reassure her your love and live your life

Now is the time to be the best version of you. Don’t put out needy vibes or in competition with the ex. Don’t also ever let her notice you feel threatened by her ex wealth

Trust me there’s a possibility of her going back to him but he will still treat her bad. If that happens be strong, move on and do not take her back when she returns

There’s so much to live for than trying to jealously guard a lady

Breakup with her now so that you don't have your sanity smashed to a thousand pieces... Stop calling, receiving calls.... Or ask about shit... If she is yours.. She won't find peace... And come back to you no matter what it takes..

mofedamijo:
Be original, be who you're, money shouldn't be a factor if she really loves you. I am speaking from experience, I have dated alot out of naija, and i can tell you, if a woman really likes you, she just gonna stick like glue, just be original, if she gon leave you, please let her go, God just saved you from a bullet...........the only true lover is the one who stays when you gat nothing, i mean nothing. Go and read the story of Coscharis C.E.O and his wife. The wife married him against her families wishes because Maduka gat nothing, while she had rich suitors, she stuck with a poor man, even though her family was doing fine, today, those rich suitors cant stand Dr. Maduka. 2face Idibia had nothing, his now wife used to give him money for studio sections back in the day in festac town, today he is doing aiit.

My point in all is, pray to find a woman who loves you when you gat nothing, however, have a goal, have a dream, be working on it, be praying for your dreams, put your all into it, that way, you both can have a good life after the rough ride.

Shalom.

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Everything is stacked against you now bruh..

1. He was Prolly her first love.

2.He had se.x with her first.

3.He maltreated her for a while and she held on to him, despite u hovering over her practically begging her to dump him.

4.Las las The Ex did the dumping.

5.She was so pained she cried and mourned the lost relationship.And decided to use u to rebound.

6 Her Ex is back.

7.He has a Car.

8.He has way more money than you.

9.He already knows what he wants in life and he's getting it already while u still collecting "mummy thank you".

10.She's showing you their chat history (Only legends will understand this one )

If you were not in school, I would have adviced you impregnate her but now you just have to watch how things unfold but be ready for the worse

Bro, sincerely.... There's nothing you can do. Just continue doing your part the best way possible. If God says she'll be yours, it will be. But there's an 80% chances the ex is going to fuckkkk your babe again and again. If you try to block that, you will lose her faster.

It's a very sad situation.

TruthSpeaker:
You’ve lost the battle already, so start scouting for another babe. Your inferiority complex due to financial limitation means you are being realistic.
A woman will obviously be more comfortable with a guy with a new car, not one that uses Keke frequently.
This should be a wake up call for you that it is time to hustle to make it big time.
Meanwhile in the interim, keep trying to cut your share from that pussy.

Bad guy

AbdulahiHudsy:
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Haaaaaaaa

lefulefu:
the ex has bought a car
didnt u read that?

You are making me choke on my dinner bro All your comments coupled with your moniker are so funny

SwagPower:
Everything is stacked against you now bruh..

1. He was Prolly her first love.

2.He had se.x with her first.

3.He maltreated her for a while and she held on to him, despite u hovering over her practically begging her to dump him.

4.Las las The Ex did the dumping.

5.She was so pained she cried and mourned the lost relationship.And decided to use u to rebound.

6 Her Ex is back.

7.He has a Car.

8.He has way more money than you.

9.He already knows what he wants in life and he's getting it already while u still collecting "mummy thank you".

10.She's showing you their chat history (Only legends will understand this one )

Showing you chat history na to put you for blind spot oooo.... I'm a legend.

Baba just forget about the Girl. She is gone. If you don't listen to us, you will be hurting yourself. The best way to let her chase you is to ignore her. But no put your mind o. The Guy go f*ck am again. I can bet my money . Once in your shoe bro. Sorry about that. But Guy , forget this shit. Na Man you be . Just go make money.

Okafors law coupled with cash money. O boy it’s a lost cause. Just forget her and face your books.

Focus on your studies

saracen:
OP let me tell you a secret. First I will ask you to read the words of the great master tai2

https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman/

Like the master, these women don show me pepper, but let me give you the advantage of wisdom earned by experience.

When it comes to women 1+1 is never equals to 2.

Never deal with a woman based on how you feel. Women are funny people, the more you have to show you love them, the likelier they are to disappoint you. I've dated ugly women, beautiful women, they are all the same. If you treat a woman who is used to bleeped up guys, extremely well, they will Bleep you up. A lot of guys think women are like investments, the more you invest, the better the return. Its a big lie.

Women work based on how they. They can feel one way one minute and another way tomorrow. The more you try to convince them of your love, the greater your downfall. Sure, they might yield when you assault them with emotion, but remain rest assured your downfall is 5 minutes away.

You see this babe you are tripping for, professing your love, close marking her, is only buying you 15 minutes extra time. You will still lose the match. She might yield initally but later she will still Bleep up. No matter how much you love her, no need to struggle.

You know what women like, uncertainty and strong-willed men. If you tell her you love her and leave her alone when she starts to misbehave with this guy (oh yes she will, if he's persistent), she will come back, if not in three months, in one year or two years. If you continue pursuing her, when she starts to misbehave, the farther she will run from you. I be lover boy, I don do this thing tire.

My advice to you is to enjoy yourself, remove your mind and prepare for the worst. When it happens, don't budge, don't beg , don't explain don't ask why. I can guarantee you, the back will find her way back, if not in three months, one year or two years. By then you no go send sef. Don't work based on your emotions, they will cheat you and you will feel worse than a rag. Leave love, focus on your hustle, chop other babes, keep it moving.

The good thing is she hasn't bleeped up yet. In the mean time, chop her well, knack like the knacking will end tomorrow. Knack the thing like say tomorrow no dey, forget love. When she bleeps up. Go silent. Even if it kills you, no cough, find another knack, read your books, keep yourself busy. You will retain your dignity and she will come running back. Why do you think the ex who left her still has a hold on her life? He moved on easily without remorse, they hate that shit, they will come running everytime back over that nonsense.

Your lover boy mind will say i'm wrong, you will remember sweet words, memories etc, be tempted to write long love letters. baba, they will be reading your letter and screwing the other guy five ways from Sunday. The best thing is to enjoy what you have left and lock up when its done, no cry, no beg, no write long love letter no ask how are you, they will turn up when the guy don run them down, and they will fear and respect you more for locking up at that time.

I hope you really hear this, I learnt the very very hard way. Women are like breeze, they blow in any direction, enjoy the moment, don't let it direct your life. Can you chase breeze and catch it? please learn from elders and don't destroy your life, when you see success women will be chasing you and you will be running, I know it feels like nothing else can replace her, or make you feel like she does, forget those sentiments. Better be known as heartless than as a mugu. You will feel sad but you will hold your dignity and your pride, don't rubbish yourself and end up hating yourself or doubting your manhood.

this whole epistle for this trivial matter? If them say make you analyze the merits and demerits of Buhari economic policy you no go write reach this one o.