Hopefully, this thread will be educative.
Let me go first.

Always go for what you truly want no matter what. Your parents' advice may not always be ideal in all situations. Sometimes you get to achieve greater results following your own advice and passion.

Cc: lalasticlala, Seun, mynd44

Avoid Nigerian girls!

That's all I'd say if I could speak to my younger self.

Take islamiyya seriously, because the most beautiful thing is to become a Hafiz!

Don't smoke

Don't be too ambitious! your country will fail you even though you've got dreams. I know you wanted to become a doctor,get married at 25, become a millionaire before you turn 30...But look at you now,you aint a doc,unmarried, &at 30 the account is RED.

You always struggle to remember 90% of what you read/study, don't you know that with a good memory ll help you easily recollect what worked for you in time past, avoid repeating the mistakes, remember the formula that works for a particular situation. A good memory is important in building a solid future.

Don't be too quick to believe people. Don't be too emotional.

Davash222:
Avoid Nigerian girls!

That's all I'd say if I could speak to my younger self.

Lol. Wrong advice.

Then which girls would you advice yourself to go for?

Never you campaign for Buhari again

TonyeBarcanista:
Never you campaign for Buhari again

hahahaha!!!!!!

Dont be a fraudster and a pedophile like

Put God first in all you do.
Waste no time in achieving what is best for you because time waits for no one and leave the rest for God.
Be at peace with yourself and lmpact in the lives of others whenever it is in your capacity to do so.

Dont settle for just any course at the university.
Be patient no matter how long it takes

TonyeBarcanista:
Never you campaign for Buhari again

Hahahahahahahaha

We are supposed to line you guys up and give you 12 strokes of the cane or one big portion of grass to clear.

missdivineprove:
Lol. Wrong advice.

Then which girls would you advice yourself to go for?

Foreign girls

don't act on impulse

Be bold enough to go against the tide, to avoid going through a "second missionary journey" to achieve your dream profession.

Not everyone who is around you will be as straight up with you as you are with them.

There will be people that will use your loyalty & protective nature against you,even the people you care about.

You can lead from behind.

Your energy and drive might intimidate others; but dont ever forget that these are your biggest strengths.

Being chaotic is not necessarily a bad trait.

Dont feel guilty about getting over things & people quickly .

Being rebellious doesn't make you smart or a special breed.

bukatyne:



Hahahahahahahaha

We are supposed to line you guys up and give you 12 strokes of the cane or one big portion of grass to clear.

Bukky abeg o

Davash222:

Foreign girls

Not late

Lionessza6:
Not everyone who is around you will be as straight up with you as you are with them.

There will be people that will use your loyalty & protective nature against you,even the people you care about.

1. You can lead from behind.

Your energy and drive might intimidate others; but dont ever forget that these are your biggest strengths.

Being chaotic is not necessarily a bad trait.

Dont feel guilty about getting over things & people quickly .

2.Being rebellious doesn't make you smart or a special breed.

1 & 2 fantastic!

You know, after studying the Bible more, is realized that most of the people we pray to be like were never the ones on 'top' e.g. Joesph, David before he became King, Daniel, Esther (not such a fan sha ), Joshua & Caleb, Samuel, Nehemiah, Ezra, etc. etc.

TonyeBarcanista:

Bukky abeg o

I will thinks about it.

No one is above making a mistake, give yourself a chill pill when you make one. Learn.

Learn to code and give it all your might. Don't study marine engineering go for computer science instead. Code and code like a beast.

Always believe in yourself

BLUELemon:
Dont be a fraudster and a pedophile like

kaycee125

Stay away from cultism they have nothing good to offer only pains and destruction.

You failed me!!!

Live your life to the fullest... Never settle for less.

Be bold!

I'm shy, reserved and introverted and my parents contributed primarily in this predicament all in the name of training me in a "godly" way.

This is my major issue. I've been trying to change tho.

Dont play virtual
Dont go to university rather learn some computer skills and handwork

I ran from this when I saw it?
Maybe I would say something to many- years- younger -than -now -me, who had become an adult though? This is because I would change nothing about my childhood (well maybe I would attend a different primary school than I did? In retrospect oo because I loved the school then. My parents indulged me too much that I made them put me in a school that wasn’t in their plan. They downgraded ).

Back to the OP, I would tell her to not shrink and withdraw from my dad when I realised he had become too sick to get well. The irony is that he is the person I loved (still do) the most, the best and the truest in the whole world. I was his briefcase, lol, took me everywhere. He knew just about everything and was totally quiet and cool about it. Not so bubbly but rich like old, beautiful brandy. Funny/with a sense of humour that can reach Madagascar. He would visit me in secondary school and I would want to burst into a million pieces, with pride. Everybody (village and city) wanted his attention one way or the other. To us he was well, The Sun, the Star and Everything. Shaped my mind, disciplined us too, and was relentless about this. Every night, circling around him and he feeding us “life” was always the high points of our days, with my mother smiling like a cat/laughing giddily in one corner as if she created him
When he became chronically sick, (in a household that at that point just barely kept its self on the middle class roster- (his illness caused the contracts to stop coming etc) I was filled with something bad (a mix of .shame that we didn’t have enough money anymore to save him- and we had grown up upper-middle class or just below it, .resentment at him for being sick and helpless and taking up scarce resources -the helplessness I could not bear to watch happen at all, .some loss of confidence at our financial state, .self-pity which was definitely totally selfish of me). When he died the first fleeting thing I felt (outside initial grief and crying) was relief (that he didn’t have to suffer anymore but also, because I didn’t have to feel that bad thing (?shame and helplessness mostly I guess) anymore). Then the grief engulfed me by the third day. Another irony- I was paid my first 3 month accumulated salary at the end of the month he was buried/one month after his death. That would have helped a lot with his management, and subsequently I would have been giving him pocket money sha, to supplement my mother’s salary.

So I would tell that me to crawl into bed with my dad and read him all the books he couldn’t read again (reading was his passion)...tell him stories about my graduation...hug him many times every day...and be sure he knows exactly how much he meant(means) to me. (like he knew I did before he got sick). Wondering if he knew the negative feelings I had towards his end on earth tears me apart sha. I know he would have forgiven me since if he did...and was most probably was even too sick to notice, but forgiving myself took a looong time. Sometimes (rarely through) I would be caught up in a feeling of intensely missing him...but I don’t ever want to lose that even if it can make me sad. But it is good sad sha. But I never bought anything for my dad with my money. Bummer.
Gosh I am a daddy’s “girl” shaa. If there was ever a positive spin to the Elektra Complex then I would be its poster child.
Quick confession: I think I look for my father’s qualities in men. Maybe that’s why...
This was a very hard thing to post. I am sure I didn’t even put my thoughts down well.
(Shakes it off)