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Kape:
How do I even start narrating this my ordeal?
What would you do if you find this on your wife's phone from another guy "i wish you would spend the rest of your life with me", i love you and i will do anything to be with you" and she replied with "i love you more".
This is a girl you married a virgin, young and innocent no ex drama, intelligent and beautiful.

So this is a girl i had always thought i was being unfair to her and always feel i don't deserve her because I've not been entirely faithful, as a man with some change, ladies will always come for you and somehow you can't reject all plus my job does not permit me to be home always. I trust her to a fault and she's an angel in my sight and can do no wrong due to the way i met her and how she carries herself, also a good wife and mother to my kids.

Firstly, you married a non virtuous woman.

Secondly, you aren't faithful yourself so both of you deserve each other

Thirdly, she is not cheating because you weren't there for her, it is because she isn't a woman of virtue, neither is she a godly woman.

My problem now is, the guy is younger than me, he could be the same age with my wife or a little younger,has some money(all these oil guys) and they are somehow too attached emotionally which makes me feel theirs is beyond the sex.

Lol Baba you sure say you no use money snatch her boyfriend from her that year? Anyway, the fact that she is unfaithful like you simply means your marriage is not just godless but lacks every atom of godliness.

I always thought as a sharp guy, i have everything under control but i must confess, I'm running mad and don't even know how to handle this like this girl has been playing me all these while or what?

Baba you are pseudo-Sharp guy. You are a weak man with bad character but made yourself believe you are sharp simply because you are a flirt. Yimu

A part of me is asking me to forgive her and assume i wasn't there enough for her emotionally, a part is feeling like i deserve the payback but honestly the African man in me is feeling it's total bullshit for her to cheat on me and in turn act like she's the best thing ever, call me hypocrite, it is what it is, a woman is meant to be forever faithful moreover she is not even aware of anything i did.

Lol You are already blaming yourself for the infidelity of your wife and you call yourself a "Sharp guy"

Sir, there is nothing to forgive in this matter. She cheated because she wanted to not because you were unavailable for her. Though are a cheat, but your wife cheated because she is a cheat like you. Neither of you deserve each other.

BTW What's makes you think she doesn't know that you cheat?

Kape:
I am kind of afraid to confront her even with all the evidences with me, i fear she may just say it to my face and just end it all.

Then keep it to yourself

IT IS LIKE ALL THIS STORY IS FAKE,, I MEAN WHAT THE Bleep DO YOU TAKE US FOR?

crackkhaus:
*Long hissssss*


Details like:

- I married her as a virgin
- I've not been entirely faithful
- I thought I was a sharp guy who had everything under control
- The African man in me believes she should never cheat on me
- Women are meant to be faithful forever

All of the above are fully intended to drive home a point and steer the conversation in an obvious direction.
This OP is 100% a female.

thank you for this.... I know that tooo

I'm happy for both of you. Enjoy your fantasy world with your fantasy wife and her equally fantasy boyfriend. I bet you live next to Bill Gates and Elon Musk in lala land.

...

Chai... This will be on front page soon.

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Fake story everywhere.

Kape:
moreover she is not even aware of anything i did.

This what we would consider first and see if she truly does not know you cheated then... I don't know what to say, you know the situation best. Let your head guide your heart.

So even in this modern times, people like the OP still believe that a man can cheat, while his wife remains faithful? Oga, you are deceiving yourself, if you are wise, forgive your wife and save your marriage. Mind you, even If you divorce your wife, she can still live a fulfilled happy life without you. She has gotten children, what else can you give to her? Absolutely nothing. You married a virgin, yet cannot respect her and be faithful, allow your wife to have a taste of a better man .

Kape:
I am kind of afraid to confront her even with all the evidences with me, i fear she may just say it to my face and just end it all.

What was the circumstance like before you married her?
Was she in love with you?

"We will fry beans "

fieryy:
You weren't entirely faithful to her and she was not entirely faithful to you. You both deserve each other. I mean your reason for your unfaithfulness was 'as a man, ladies will always pursue', well the other guy is a man too, isn't he?
And your wife is the lady pursuing him. Why are you whining? I don't understand

Abi.

fieryy:
You weren't entirely faithful to her and she was not entirely faithful to you. You both deserve each other. I mean your reason for your unfaithfulness was 'as a man, ladies will always pursue', well the other guy is a man too, isn't he?
And your wife is the lady pursuing him. Why are you whining? I don't understand

two wrongs don't make a right

danduchi:
two wrongs don't make a right

So does one wrong and one right too

Vyolet:
I may believe this story because I've witness something of such so it is not out of place.

Mr Op, i know your pain is the fact that the guy is spending more money, younger and somehow gets your wife to be emotionally attached.
I am also glad you said the truth about your own self and how you have been unfaithful to her.
If you have not confronted her, do so now, let her explain herself, confess your own too and forgive each other. If you feel the African man in you cannot forgive her, kuku give her divorce and let her go be with the oyel guy she loves.
If you want to forgive her, take time to find out what went wrong, could it be the distance, lack of emotion or she already knows you have not been faithful to her after preserving her virginity for you.
Talk to her and not us.

Pls you guys should stop encouraging a man to disobey Jesus by telling him to forgive a cheating wife. OP if you forgive her, you're ruined for life and be sure your unclothedness has been spread outside and adulterous spirit is the most dangerous as nothing can stop it in a woman that decides to do it...Jesus knows better here

Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Any guy can deflower a lady... Deflowering her doesn't mean she would spend her life with you forever... If a lady is not disciplined/determined, she would wanna explore... She might be bored, that's why she fell for the other Guy's trips/drips


Op I think it is high time you confronted her... So you can stop wallowing in sympathy....

Kape:
How do I even start narrating this my ordeal?
What would you do if you find this on your wife's phone from another guy "i wish you would spend the rest of your life with me", i love you and i will do anything to be with you" and she replied with "i love you more".
This is a girl you married a virgin, young and innocent no ex drama, intelligent and beautiful.

So this is a girl i had always thought i was being unfair to her and always feel i don't deserve her because I've not been entirely faithful, as a man with some change, ladies will always come for you and somehow you can't reject all plus my job does not permit me to be home always. I trust her to a fault and she's an angel in my sight and can do no wrong due to the way i met her and how she carries herself, also a good wife and mother to my kids.

My problem now is, the guy is younger than me, he could be the same age with my wife or a little younger,has some money(all these oil guys) and they are somehow too attached emotionally which makes me feel theirs is beyond the sex.

I always thought as a sharp guy, i have everything under control but i must confess, I'm running mad and don't even know how to handle this like this girl has been playing me all these while or what?

A part of me is asking me to forgive her and assume i wasn't there enough for her emotionally, a part is feeling like i deserve the payback but honestly the African man in me is feeling it's total bullshit for her to cheat on me and in turn act like she's the best thing ever, call me hypocrite, it is what it is, a woman is meant to be forever faithful moreover she is not even aware of anything i did.

Is this seasonal or in parts like Avenger?

Kape:
I am kind of afraid to confront her even with all the evidences with me, i fear she may just say it to my face and just end it all.

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fela say trouble sleep inyanga go wake am up, i know your pain man, it is even more painful because as you said you married her a virgin. but you must know that all women are the same; no one good inside. its all a question of time, the moment they know the value of their Toto, e don finish.
as for your wife, you will do yourself a world of good if you stopped referring to her as your wife, once mad man enter market nothing wen anybody fit do again. kick her out of your house and focus on your children. if you decide to forgive it will be the biggest mistake of your life because she will still do it again and again even with different men. welcome to the divorcee club

fieryy:
So does one wrong and one right too

with this mentality, trust me you won't last long in marriage. When your husband cheats, sleep around as well

danduchi:
with this mentality, trust me you won't last long in marriage. When your husband cheats, sleep around as well

Ok

Why are people handling the man's neglect and cheating lightly? Neglect is emotional abuse. A virgin is tender and new with blossoming emotions. You don't play with her. You give her every bit of your love and attention and god damn it, every bit of your devotion!

Next time you get a virgin, know it this way. You must worship those fragile emotions of hers. Else she will fall. Your wife fell, i wonder what stopped you from loving her how she needed to be loved. Its your fault that she cheated. I'm sorry but that's my honest opinion. And you ought to apologize and seduce and caress that woman back home. And love her like never before. Then, her spirit will be calm. Then, she will never leave your side again.

My advice is have a deep discussion with her,dont show her the evidence first.

Start by telling her the first day you met her,how you felt and also remind her your wedding day especially if there were events that made you both to laugh and happy refresh her memory this will have effect on her.

Thank her for preserving her virginity for you.
If you still love her start telling her you really never wished a better wife then ask her to be open to you as you are to her telling her that you yourself have hurt her behind her and acknowledge the fact you have not really been there to her.You notice she will become uneasy depending on her character she may break down or tear drops may fall.

After apologising ask her to be honest with you and tell you how she still feels about you and the marriage.Accept your faults remember if you are able to break her down,i beat my chest she will never see that guy again.

Remember the above is if you still love her,if you apply wisdom and pray you may not need to present the evidence for her to own up.

I truly want your marriage to work out and i pray you come to us with joy and laughter

Kape:
I am kind of afraid to confront her even with all the evidences with me, i fear she may just say it to my face and just end it all.

Wawu...but you confessed to being unfaithful too. She probably found out your escapades and followed suit. Biko why are you crying foul now? Please let's be fair o

purples25:
Why are people handling the man's neglect and cheating lightly? Neglect is emotional abuse. A virgin is tender and new with blossoming emotions. You don't play with her. You give her every bit of your love and attention and god damn it, every bit of your devotion!

Next time you get a virgin, know it this way. You must worship those fragile emotions of hers. Else she will fall. Your wife fell, i wonder what stopped you from loving her how she needed to be loved. Its your fault that she cheated. I'm sorry but that's my honest opinion. And you ought to apologize and seduce and caress that woman back home. And love her like never before. Then, her spirit will be calm. Then, she will never leave your side again.

You said it!
Virgins are not for every man.

Mariangeles:
You said it!
Virgins are not for every man.

Exactly sis.

Contrived; so many fictional pointers!

veave:
I'm happy for both of you. Enjoy your fantasy world with your fantasy wife and her equally fantasy boyfriend. I bet you live next to Bill Gates and Elon Musk in lala land.

nothing person no go see.
I had a really good laugh.

TheeDetective:
@Op, just listen to your self . Does this story you just narrated sounds sensible and real to you? What is happening with nairaland and all these nanasense and ridiculous fictitious stories that has now become the in-thing on NL
I don't get.

PS: YOUR LAST PARAGRAPH IN THIS NOLLYWOOD SCRIPT IS HYPOCRITICAL AND ABSOLUTE TRASH. THE HUSBAND IS FREE TO CHEAT BUT THE WIFE IS MEANT TO REMAIN FAITHFUL; I WONDER WHO GAVE YOU THAT SILLY NANSENSICAL IDEA. A HUSBAND AND WIFE SHOULD KEEP THEIR VOWS AND REMAIN FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH; EOD.

I don't understand how someone will post a personal issue here and someone will start insinuating it was made up. Funny enough, they are always d first to comment. U people think everyone is as jobless as u? Same thing happened d last time I posted a personal story.

It is not that hard to tell when a story looks, sounds and smells FAKE. Of recent, NL has become the place to post FAKE STORIES and these fake stories are now increasing at a high rate.

Some SPECIFIC SENTENCES included in this @OP story points to it as being an OBVIOUSLY FAKE STORY

Don’t make an assumption that everyone who comments on NL either as a first to comment or subsequently is/are jobless.

bell1255:
I don't understand how someone will post a personal issue here and someone will start insinuating it was made up. Funny enough, they are always d first to comment. U people think everyone is as jobless as u? Same thing happened d last time I posted a personal story.

Kape:
How do I even start narrating this my ordeal?
What would you do if you find this on your wife's phone from another guy "i wish you would spend the rest of your life with me", i love you and i will do anything to be with you" and she replied with "i love you more".
This is a girl you married a virgin, young and innocent no ex drama, intelligent and beautiful.

So this is a girl i had always thought i was being unfair to her and always feel i don't deserve her because I've not been entirely faithful, as a man with some change, ladies will always come for you and somehow you can't reject all plus my job does not permit me to be home always. I trust her to a fault and she's an angel in my sight and can do no wrong due to the way i met her and how she carries herself, also a good wife and mother to my kids.

My problem now is, the guy is younger than me, he could be the same age with my wife or a little younger,has some money(all these oil guys) and they are somehow too attached emotionally which makes me feel theirs is beyond the sex.

I always thought as a sharp guy, i have everything under control but i must confess, I'm running mad and don't even know how to handle this like this girl has been playing me all these while or what?

A part of me is asking me to forgive her and assume i wasn't there enough for her emotionally, a part is feeling like i deserve the payback but honestly the African man in me is feeling it's total bullshit for her to cheat on me and in turn act like she's the best thing ever, call me hypocrite, it is what it is, a woman is meant to be forever faithful moreover she is not even aware of anything i did.

What goes around comes around

You have been cheating on her and she is now cheating on you

If it hurts you then stop cheating on her, seat her down and find out what made her to start cheating

Work on her complains

Besides, what makes you think she doesn't know that you are cheating on her

Well the Job of a man is to make sure she doesn't need another man

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