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Kobojunkie:
Think babymamas. Rather than have them overseas and pay them what is due them, some of these so called men marry and leave their babymama back in Nigeria where they know the woman is less likely to riseup against him or run off with his kids

getting married to Nigerian women or hving nigerian baby mamas still better ,, i am an Igbo girl , all my uncles over seas are married to nigerian women hand picked by the family . They hv kids , some even older than myself and are still married . You just hv to learn how to respect ur woman, nigerian or not , their wives r all nurses , while my uncles r either pharmacist or doctors . Some of the girls were even already nurses in Nigeria

[quote author=rationalhuman post=89330330]No Gujarat is not North India, (In fact i went there for my last semester project, while i was studying in India), Gujarat is West as i stated,
They Dont talk like North ether.

Your last sentence was correct though.

Sources: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gujarat

Regionally, it falls under North. India like Korea & the Americas, is divided into north & south.

abbey621:
Your plan is also a great one, I guess because I make significantly more than my wife, I'm content with her having access to some accounts, I also have access to hers. Remember the key is to let her feel as if she's in charge, we never argue about food, money or other petty stuffs because anytime an argument comes up, I'll remind her that she's in charge and automatically I win the argument

you're smart.

josh2297:
These talks here in mine opinion does not have a solid legal standing...firat and foremost There are no laws in the USA or in africa(Nigeria) dat sets different standard for men and women anybody can b a victim of any law whether man or woman anywhere let me highlight these few points
1. In d event of a divorce in d USA d spouse who recieves d highest income gets to pay alimony...things tend to get complicated wen children(if still very tender) gets involved then the partner who gets d custody of d children is entitled to a child support which is very fair considering d fact dat a single parent will definitely have to work less hours
2.. Any laws dat are seen to b tilted towards in d USA are in marriage amd unmarried man is free to live his life anyhow he wants and treat women anyhow he wants...u are not being forced to get married to any woman overhere so u can as well get a babymama from diffrent women(dere are free and plenty of sweet punanis here)
3... If u as a man must get married then insist on protecting ur livelihood savings and investment by insisting on aigning a pre-nuptial agreement
4...most of these liberal laws in d states and some other places are just to target the institutuion of marriage and create societal problems...they encourage children to b very stubborn...they tell u dat u dont have to condone anyrin even an agrument in marriage they offer u divorce at ur fingertips and d gullible ones fall into...why not ask y d top people in hierachy most times are always married while those at d lowest cadre of d society are busy divorcing demselves at slight provocation
5....Lastly these shld not b seen as a gender tin...this is clearly agendas...take 4 instance...if u want to b crucified villified and ridiculed as an american(whether man or woman)...then try having a serious legal issue qith a homosexual by dat time u will seriously feel dat u are really a second class citizen.... Real Women in sports today are complaining dat transgender females are beating dem to their games which is unfair they are been told by this same law to go to hell....or d issue of Joe biden which is still an ongoing one....d law, liberals,even so called rights group will work very hard to silence dat lady...so d liberals laws here a actually pointing to sometin that is not very clear yet...but d fact is very soon hetrosexual male and female will b victims of their own circumstance.....I dont blive people change,i blive they get to show their real charcacters wen they get d opportunity

Nice read

jaxxy:
[b]The day I decide to live in America I must be ready to buy 2 Lamborghinis in the next few months to a year or I'm out. I won't stay in America and not live the American dream to the Max legally I will rather manage naija were taxes are reasonable. There is nothing spectacular in America if I'm not driving a Lambo there[\b]. Totally My opinion. Lol

As for the ladies thing, I don't see it as a problem as i do stuffs myself, i respect everyone not just ladies aslong as u respect urself. Bt i think its ridiculous and rude and highly ignorant for a lady to take advantage of a system used to protect women which by the way i like to destroy her home and disregard her husband, even white Americans don't do that to their partners bt some Nigerian ladies tasting liberty or full rights and probably wealth for the 1st time loose their sense of good judgement and home training. Sm are not even pressured by their husbands they just snap or switch over nothing. Anyways this is nothing new or surprising cos I can differentiate a broke gal from a real humble one.

I have galfrnds living over there who remain great ladies. Most where never the hungry types even here in naija. It's mostly hungry gals that loose their senses or think men have oppressed them.

lol not a bad thought O...wetin dey there sef...

dangoteinlaw:
and my friend here calls me a nazi whenever i show support for trump. ObooMer is clown trump would never be. Women hates alpha males, they hate men that can't be ordered around and above all they hate thinkers. I like trump in so many ways and if that guy has his way he would reduce women's right somehow.

I swear you got it right.
They will find a way to bring u down if you're an alpha male type,just look at what happned to whinestein,am not saying he is innocent,but for petes sake are the women so innocent too?
They enjoyed the whole mutual stuff,den wana anchor on there crazy outrageous rights to humiliate the guy.

XhosaNostra:
None.

I don't know how to explain the mouth thing, but the only way I can describe it is it looks gluey. I've noticed it in every single one of them, male & female. Maybe it is dry mouth, IDK.

They don't even have lips, so what would you even be kissing?

White bodies are unattractive to me for any sexual interaction.

- No lips
- No hips
- Longback (i.e no ass)
- No melanin...pale, tasteless white flesh with no flavor.

One4me:
Dont even think about Baby Mama, she can still use the Child to get a hold on you!
Just pay for surrogacy, have your own children with your own sperm bit no woman attachment and then keep fucking them bitches as just bitches.
Marriage is all about Children and sex, and you can have both without the attachment to any particular woman, Wife or Baby Mama inclusive.
Its a man's world now.

it goes both ways

2buffagain:
They don't even have lips, so what would you even be kissing?

White bodies are unattractive to me for any sexual interaction.

- No lips
- No hips
- Longback (i.e no ass)
- No melanin...pale, tasteless white flesh with no flavor.

They usually have very shapely legs though Each person's taste is different. I fux with white men's bodies, especially the bulky rugby type

Hmmm i would love to learn though sounds like incantations,imagine using that language for bedroom voice

so before I used to think south Africa was all Zulu and "mzansi" and those people in "Gods must be crazy" I think khoisans or san is the appropriate term can't remember(heard bushmen is offensive)

Yeah Nigeria is very diverse,just that Yoruba and igbos are much with hausa/Fulani being the largest and the first two spend all the time on the internet doing ethnic quarrels and others ethnic issues,well we are found in Edo state,we are related to the benins kind of how scotish is related to english we both and others make up the edo people which makes up the tribes that encompassed the former benin kingdom,we are very friendly and hospitable,and travel a lot,we have a lot of our people in the west especially europe and some in SA too

Sorry to ask ohh is it true that Xhosa women love money?

XhosaNostra:
Many people even here like how we speak but allegedly, the language itself is difficult to learn.

No, I'm not. So what can you tell me about Esan people? Don't believe I ever met any. Over here it's mostly Igbos & to a lesser extent, Yorubas. I never knew about other Nigerian ethnic groups until I joined NL. Still learning

Liliantalks:
getting married to Nigerian women or hving nigerian baby mamas still better ,, i am an Igbo girl , all my uncles over seas are married to nigerian women hand picked by the family . They hv kids , some even older than myself and are still married . You just hv to learn how to respect ur woman, nigerian or not , their wives r all nurses , while my uncles r either pharmacist or doctors . Some of the girls were even already nurses in Nigeria

You speak as one who has not been condemned to such a fate. No married woman turned babymama believes it a thing of joy to be one.
The cultural issues, as far as gender is concerned, are real and women of Ibo heritage are not spared this fate.

RamessesIV:
Hmmm i would love to learn though sounds like incantations,imagine using that language for bedroom voice

so before I used to think south Africa was all Zulu and "mzansi" and those people in "Gods must be crazy" I think khoisans or san is the appropriate term can't remember(heard bushmen is offensive)

Yeah Nigeria is very diverse,just that Yoruba and igbos are much with hausa/Fulani being the largest and the first two spend all the time on the internet doing ethnic quarrels and others ethnic issues,well we are found in Edo state,we are related to the benins kind of how scotish is related to english we both and others make up the edo people which makes up the tribes that encompassed the former benin kingdom,we are very friendly and hospitable,and travel a lot,we have a lot of our people in the west especially europe and some in SA too

Sorry to ask ohh is it true that Xhosa women love money?

I think I've heard of Edo before, the wizardry HQ of Nigeria, isn't it? Good to know. They sound like great people.

Of course we love money, who doesn't? Xhosa women are just more upfront & unpretentious about it. Poverty is a disease.

Kobojunkie:
You speak as one who has not been condemned to such a fate. No married woman turned babymama believes it a thing of joy to be one.
The cultural issues, as far as gender is concerned, are real and women of Ibo heritage are not spared this fate.

I don’t understand you .

Lol they have even imported white cheer leaders for their cricket games,forget if we compare with other countries we blacks are the least when it comes to sucking up to white people,we just love to rant about white people cause of the racial issues and our history with them

XhosaNostra:
What? That is a lie! Indians worship white people. They even feature blondes in their movies & music videos. I'm also acquainted with way too many Indians in real life, to know how they suck up to white people & hold them in very, very high-esteem.

RamessesIV:
Lol they have even imported white cheer leaders for their cricket games,forget if we compare with other countries we blacks are the least when it comes to sucking up to white people,we just love to rant about white people cause of the racial issues and our history with them

That doesn't surprise me at all that they did that. They love everything to do with fair skin. You'll be hearing someone talking about how "fair & like a white man/woman" someone is. They even bleach. There's an Indian salon right around the corner from where I live. Outside there's a board offering "skin whitening facials". LOL!

EgunMogaji2:
I've advised this before, I got some folks triggered. I expect the same now too.

The first advice first is not to get married. There's no benefit to getting married in this day and age. Getting children out of wedlock is no longer a taboo. You can get a "Domestic Coordinator" to do most of the functions that a "Wife" will do. One of the "Side Chicks" can take care of the other room. Build your life and business/career. Travel the world, learn new cultures. Don't turn yourself into an educator/financier of someones Daughter.

Second advice is NOT to take a Nigerian girl from here to the USA. Best advice is to provide for her here. This is what got the Nazi Feministas triggered last time.

As for me I'm running away from this thread because they'll come for their father as usual, awon omo alaileko gbogbo

when u get to old age u would wish u made a better decision

xcabczyxabczzzz:
That wasn't the case, from previous knowledge I thought he never got divorce. My bad.

He has been divorced twice..

Lol I hate that stereotype,we don't have witches is just ignorance,which I Hope one day education will eradicate

Hmm,hmm so that means I need to have lots of cash when i come to SA then

so how's the xenophobia issue in south africa

XhosaNostra:
I think I've heard of Edo before, the wizardry HQ of Nigeria, isn't it? Good to know. They sound like great people.

Of course we love money, who doesn't? Xhosa women are just more upfront & unpretentious about it. Poverty is a disease.

humilitypays:
Op, in as much as you made some valid points, I am sorry to say you are assuming a lot of things based on your personal experience and also making up things by exaggeration.


America is not as bad as you paint it for guys when it comes to dating women or getting married to American based Nigerian women or exported ones.

8 of my childhood friends who stay in my own house whenever they return back to Nigeria before traveling to their villages or destination in Nigeria are all living happily in the US with their wives whom they married from Nigeria; mostly their old girlfriends and some ladies they married after they relocated and none have any issue. In fact their wives still respect them and accord them the respect they deserve.

One is a nurse, his wife still serve him food even when they return too and she too is working as an insurance broker.


Another is a force guy and married to a nurse and she respect him just like a Nigerian wife in Nigeria respect her husband.

Then if I come to my family side, all the ones married and living in the US for years with their wives have no issue.


This thing is about the lady you married.


Even in Nigeria some ladies disrespect their husbands, we read hundreds of such stories here on Nairaland....so its not just about America that the ladies you are making reference with changed, they are bad ladies with bad upbringing and didn't cherish the men they married that much, maybe they married them for some hidden selfish reasons best known to the ladies alone.


America or UK or Canada does not change Nigerian ladies, bad Nigerian ladies who live pretentious life in Nigeria due to poverty, etc make it seem so when they leave Nigeria.


One of my friends I am talking about, the wife he married from Nigeria and took to the US don't wear trouser till date because she was a staunch Deeper Life girl born and raised by a strict parents and she is still a dedicated born again Christian over there no change.


The last time they came back, I was just smiling because of her, if you see her, a practicing medical doctor in the US, she looks like mgbeke that has no kobo but you need to see her achievements and investments and still she respects her hubby even in the US and they are living a wonderful life.



Please stop corrupting already corrupted Nigerian ladies and making them feel they can treat guys anyhow abroad, this your thread is a negative influence, it is nonsense.


And for guys taking care of their home, doing dishes, cooking etc, of course modern Nigerian guys in Nigeria do that.


I do my laundry, I cook my meals, sometimes I wash my cars myself when free and have the strength, I clean my house....only foolish guys today will marry and over labor their wife while watching football and allow your wife to overwork herself in the name of forming big boy.


My elder brother that works with a top IOC babysit his own kids....the last time his wife gave birth he is the one that babysit the baby, changes his diapers, wear him his rompers and more. He also helps his wife in several other ways like doing laundry all thanks to washing machines today. So stop painting Nigerian men in Nigeria as lazy men or archaic or as men that maltreat their wives its a lie because many men in Nigeria treat their wives like queens to the envy of their friends and relatives, it depends on the man you married and also on the lady you married. Not when you marry mami iwota Lady pretending to be human and she starts to misbehave you blame it on America or exposure to western life.


Yes some Nigerian ladies change on tasting western life and culture but it still boils down to the lady, marry a virtuous woman and you won't worry even if you take her to Queens palace.


All you wrote is your own individual experience and circle of friends don't generalise it okay

My brother God will bless you.
These are the points i raised too initially that nigerian men and ladies in nigeria are not as bad as he painted it. To even make it worse, a lot of guys reading the thread are even supporting him and clicking likes.
I work and earn decent salary but when you see me at home, you will think am jobless.
I cook sometimes for my wife and son, i do go to market regularly, wash toilets, plates or our clothes in washing machine and spread them.
The way he portrayed us, like backward, archaic and uncivilized people and we need to drop our native way of thinking when coming to US.
A lot of people around me / my circle of friends treats their wives well likewise my extended family and in-laws.
I don't know where he got his mentality from and he also thinks people at home are Failures for not been in abroad.
I believe he is one of those who after graduating looked for job until he became frustrated and by chance, God answered his prayer after so many fasting, praying, night vigils and going to prayer mountains.
Most people around me travel out and come back easily to nigeria and not thinking of running out as Economic Refugees a Leech or Parasites to other country's economy, a burden.
I can travel in and out of the country for vacation or education without problem. I don't need a visa agent to help me or pad some documents for me.
I will save 2/3 months salary into my account, apply and go for interview on my own and they will give me.
Our wives are not slaves, they are happy with us. They have their freedom and respects and never regret marrying us.

Chuky7:
[b]These ones come to Nigeria and flex and live big. They party and sleep with all the girls and promise them marriage. On social media they ask girls for nudes and these gullible girls send them tons of nude pics.[\b]

This is interesting...IJGB

even some married women sometimes fall for their scams and send them nudes

larryking540:
Depending on who you go marry ,

I just tell guys camp woman for hux make she born ,if it will take u 8 years before una do marriage ,do am like dat ,women way stay with guy even for am before they con finally go church go do marriage,I noticed say na them they humble pass .........yes they have invested their time ,along with years of courtship with the guy ,even when the guy day mess up ,day go talk am out and many go even day beg u like say na them wrong the guy

foolishness is what I call that , plain foolish stupidity

XhosaNostra:
Many people even here like how we speak but allegedly, the language itself is difficult to learn.

No, I'm not. So what can you tell me about Esan people? Don't believe I ever met any. Over here it's mostly Igbos & to a lesser extent, Yorubas. I never knew about other Nigerian ethnic groups until I joined NL. Still learning

we are from the south south region of nigeria..we are a minority tribe.u wouldnt be able to meet any esan guy in SA cos for one thing majority of the nigerians in SA are mostly igbos and yorubas and the any esan group there will be very very minute.

cococandy:
I don’t live in everyone’s homes so I don’t know what their experiences are for them to be saying such.
So I can’t say if it’s true or not.
For me in my house, it’s not true.

There’s a considerable amount of misinformation on this thread though. Makes me wonder

If women in USA are as powerful as folks on this forum project them to be,the US would’ve had atleast 2 or 3 female presidents.
Unless they’re saying the women are powerful only at the homefront or family level. Such power is technically useless.

Women are always complaining about maltreatment in USA yet nairalanders(some have probably never been to USA before) want us to believe everything is rosy for the female folks in USA.

Cc
Pansophist
Pdudd
Lefulefu
LordKO
Ednut1
Emmaodet
2buffagain

Lol i was surprised by the amount of dark skinned people in india i heard they are alot in south india,i even heard they have a class system

I have talked about these before preference for light skin is very old and found in many cultures is not just limited to black people is just that we are entirely black and face racism for it so sensationalize it,in north africa here women lighten their skin and striaghten their hair,in east and south east asia they have a thing for light skin just see the promo photos for japanese and korean women same doll eyes fair pink skin

XhosaNostra:
That doesn't surprise me at all that they did that. They love everything to do with fair skin. You'll be hearing someone talking about how "fair & like a white man/woman" someone is. They even bleach. There's an Indian salon right around the corner from where I live. Outside there's a board offering "skin whitening facials". LOL!

XhosaNostra:
They usually have very shapely legs though Each person's taste is different. I fux with white men's bodies, especially the bulky rugby type

You're talking about the men.
I don't look at men.

The women look like kpansh.

RamessesIV:
Lol I hate that stereotype,we don't have witches is just ignorance,which I Hope one day education will eradicate

Hmm,hmm so that means I need to have lots of cash when i come to SA then

so how's the xenophobia issue in south africa

So it's not true? Here I was hoping you'd perform a few magic tricks for me I get it though lol. Nothing more annoying than being looked at suspiciously because you belong to a certain tribe or place. Being Xhosa, other women automatically think I'm a man stealer & guys think, sex kitten Rawr! Very amusing stereotypes are sometimes hey.

Money is very important in life, no point pretending it isn't. Plus I'm too old to be running around with someone without two pennies to rub together, to spark up the embers of love

There's none at the moment because everyone is trying to survive, to live another day. Much bigger fish to fry, so to speak.

lefulefu:
we are from the south south region of nigeria..we are a minority tribe.u wouldnt be able to meet any esan guy in SA cos for one thing majority of the nigerians in SA are mostly igbos and yorubas and the any esan group there will be very very minute.

I see. For some reason I thought you were Yoruba

Liliantalks:
I don’t understand you .

Getting married to Nigerian women or having Nigerian baby mamas is NOT BETTER. Many of the women(either through marriage or not ) forced into babymama situations are not happy about it, and this applies to even the Nigerian ones.

RamessesIV:
Lol i was surprised by the amount of dark skinned people in india i heard they are alot in south india,i even heard they have a class system

I have talked about these before preference for light skin is very old and found in many cultures is not just limited to black people is just that we are entirely black and face racism for it so sensationalize it,in north africa here women lighten their skin and striaghten their hair,in east and south east asia they have a thing for light skin just see the promo photos for japanese and korean women same doll eyes fair pink skin

True.

Plead:
If women in USA are as powerful as folks on this forum project them to be,the US would’ve had atleast 2 or 3 female presidents.
Unless they’re saying the women are powerful only at the homefront or family level. Such power is technically useless.

Women are always complaining about maltreatment in USA yet nairalanders(some have probably never been to USA before) want us to believe everything is rosy for the female folks in USA.

Cc
Pansophist
Pdudd
Lefulefu
LordKO
Pocohantas

Even if women were God, they will still complain that men have more power and opportunity over them

The only trick i know how to perform are those in the bedroom,Nigerians are very divided people and they tend to be very tribalistic,I don't just like the ever ending tribalism and tribalist rhetoric

"Sex kitten" yeah that's the stereotype I dig,and I have also heard that man snatcher stuff too,seem you guys don't have a good reputation in SA

So that means you don't believe in love except it comes with finances

Yeah that's true just wish south Africa can be get better,I wonder what happened to it when i was little south africa was always on dstv the buildings,tourist centers now I hear the country is going in slow decline.

XhosaNostra:
So it's not true? Here I was hoping you'd perform a few magic tricks for me I get it though lol. Nothing more annoying than being looked at suspiciously because you belong to a certain tribe or place. Being Xhosa, other women automatically think I'm a man stealer & guys think, sex kitten Rawr! Very amusing stereotypes are sometimes hey.

Money is very important in life, no point pretending it isn't. Plus I'm too old to be running around with someone without two pennies to rub together, to spark up the embers of love

There's none at the moment because everyone is trying to survive, to live another day. Much bigger fish to fry, so to speak.