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I love this lady so much, she really helped me when I lost my job. But what I noticed was that she use to call another guy and get money from him. The guy is in ilorin and we are both here in Ibadan, she always said that she is not too happy everytime and have tried all I could to make her happy even now that I get a new job.
When I see anything good for her I will buy and give to her just to make her feel special but she remain the same even if we want to have sometime I will like focusing her.
For the past few days now we are not talking and I feel I should let be, thinking if she love me she will come back.
Please what should I do.

Take my word: not because sb seemingly was alive when you had no job means they are the right person.

Sometimes, it is not a premise to be assured she is the right one for you. Not every shoe will fit.

She likes you but her pain is she will be leaving you because you can't make good husband to her.

so she was using another dude's money to help you?! and you A) had no problem with it then and B) think this is a good woman?!

Let understand you properly. When you were jobless she helped. As in how.

She has a guy out station, she obtains from albeit to support you.

She has a sad deposition that you have tried to rectify but have been unsuccessful.

The communication between the both of you have broken down.

And finally, you want to take a decision.



My brother, just because she was there for you doesn't automatically make her the right one for you. There are certain quirks in human nature that makes people act in an unpredictable way. Maybe she was in this state of mind. Besides I question your sanity and soundness of mind that you can allow your adjudged lady friend rob Peter to pay you and it sits comfortably with you. There is something very wrong with this set up. It's actually a love triangle you have found yourself. There is no way this is going to end in your favor.



My advice for you: go and buy sense. Then take a walk. Leaving toxic people and toxic relationships are the best tonic for peace of mind. Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself.

It is not your duty to make one happy when one has chosen to be moody. And you don't need an entitled woman in your life.

Thank you all.

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AND YOU'LL NEVER MAKE HER HAPPY. THIS PERSON WANTS TO LEAVE. MAKE IT EASY FOR HER, ELSE, YOU'LL JUST KEEP WASTING TIME AND PUNISHING YOURSELF AND SHE'LL STILL LEAVE IN THE END.
THIS THING IS NEVER EASY. BUT WE NOGO USE OUR HANDS KILL OURSELVES.

Well said, let her go

Going by your post, I think she loved you at the start of the relationship. Things headed south when you lost your job and couldn't "take care of her".
Truth is, she left the relationship a long time ago. Did the other guy just give her money?
You are dating yourself, bruv.