Confusedwomsn:


I don't feel bad , if I offended him I won't feel bad but I did nothing to him.
Do you think I'm mad to wake up and insult s man I married and decided to spend forever with.
Have y your head been banged on the wall, have you been beaten till you've been hospitalized.
You can advice all you want but don't judge me.

Don't make mockery of someone's situation because yours is better.

Joker.

Continue insulting him nigbaye.

If he is beating you - leave!

freecocoahubby:


Who you be?

NEWSFLASH: you are not God. So shove your "forgiveness" where the sun doesn't shine!

I am not God but I am s child of God, irrespective of my errors and mistakes in life, I am still his child.
I am his child and his seed, he has not forsaken me and cśn never.
His word stands and I only believe in God's report.

Confusedwomsn:


I am not God but I am s child of God, irrespective of my errors and mistakes in life, I am still his child.
I am his child and his seed, he has not forsaken me and cśn never.
His word stands and I only believe in God's report.

We are all God's children ma

All of us!

Ybaby:


Biko!!!! please!!!

I've read your contributions on this thread.. and my dear you get sense no be small.
So, I'll leave her for now. But I swear, if that confused biitch quotes me again, il drag this thread into oblivion

Confusedwomsn:


I don't feel bad , if I offended him I won't feel bad but I did nothing to him.
Do you think I'm mad to wake up and insult s man I married and decided to spend forever with.
Have y your head been banged on the wall, have you been beaten till you've been hospitalized.
You can advice all you want but don't judge me.

Don't make mockery of someone's situation because yours is better.

Woman, I think I've given u enough advise to think about ur life to see how u can pull through this difficult time. Pick the advise u can and stop responding with curses. It's wrong. Ur health first.

Ybaby:


We are all God's children ma

All of us!

Leave am, she's the only child of God here

"Child of God" that abuses her husband mentally and emotionally.

"Child of God" that opened her stinking putrid punni for a friend to dump his spermato... in fact, don't let me talk

freecocoahubby:


I've read your contributions on this thread.. and my dear you get sense no be small.
So, I'll leave her for now. But I swear, if that confused biitch quotes me again, il drag this thread into oblivion

Thanks so much.

She is in real pain and genuinely wants to save her marriage I believe. She just needs to calm down and learn and she will

Right now, she is still hurting. In a few months time she is coming with testimonial.

Ybaby:


Thanks so much.

She is in real pain and genuinely wants to save her marriage I believe. She just needs to calm down and learn and she will

Right now, she is still hurting. In a few months time she is coming with testimonial.

I doubt this.

OP is rotten to the core and can NEVER have a happy ending with this disgusting attitude of hers.

Abfinest007:
want my son to grow from s broken
home, I don't want my kids to have different
fathers, this was the same mistake my niece made she doesn't want a broken home until her husband nearly killed her

Am glad you had your child with a successful pregnancy

As a woman and his wife, do you need his permission to ahbe another child

Just know that you will be the one to take care of thise children

You have to be intelligent about it and take in without his knowledge

After that put a stop for the time being and face your health and children

Stop engaging in arguments with him, avoid it the way you can avoid danger

For the financial stuff, do the ones you can do and forget about the rest, their is no report ard for score card

Start saving if you ha e not been saving, reduce hustling because of your life and health

If you can handle a family without his contribution pls do

Take care of yourself

andyanders:


I understand how u feel. Just allow her be, I beg u. This is public forum. We all can't be the same.

No problem bro. Thanks.

andyanders:


Woman, I think I've given u enough advise to think about ur life to see how u can pull through this difficult time. Pick the advise u can and stop responding with curses. It's wrong. Ur health first.

Thank you, I was just hurt.
I know I have to work on me and s lot of people have mentioned where I erred.

All these while I never saw me getting pregnant for someone I loved and was in s relationship with as me trying to trap him with pregnancy but when I see s lot of opinions about it, I then realized thats what I portrayed.
I've learnt s lot and I've made it clear he can leave if he wants too because I won't Leave become divorce is against my faith in Christ.
I will work on avoiding him as much as possible so I'm not provoked to anger and frustrstion.

I will definitely try to be better.

J111333:
Dude is obviously too young or not yet ready to get married but you coerced him with pregnancy, still your abusive and nagging mouth won't let him round off his adolescent life in peace by not letting him drink small stout and keep cup.

Well, all you can do is to wait for him to grow up or you take a hike.

How old is old enough bros

freecocoahubby:


I doubt this.

OP is rotten to the core and can NEVER have a happy ending with this disgusting attitude of hers.

Trust me she will change! She too is not enjoying herself so she will have to change

Ybaby:


Thanks so much.

She is in real pain and genuinely wants to save her marriage I believe. She just needs to calm down and learn and she will

Right now, she is still hurting. In a few months time she is coming with testimonial.

you have done noble with ur input. I feel her pain and wish she overcome this. My advise for her is to stop laying curses on this public forum 2 any person as she shouldn't expect every person to support her view. Let her pick the advise that can help her heal or take a walk. Marriage is not a do and die issue.

frozen70:


Am glad you had your child with a successful pregnancy

As a woman and his wife, do you need his permission to ahbe another child

Just know that you will be the one to take care of thise children

You have to be intelligent about it and take in without his knowledge

After that put a stop for the time being and face your health and children

Stop engaging in arguments with him, avoid it the way you can avoid danger

For the financial stuff, do the ones you can do and forget about the rest, their is no report ard for score card

Start saving if you ha e not been saving, reduce hustling because of your life and health

If you can handle a family without his contribution pls do

Take care of yourself

Thank you so much, I will definitely try my best.
I appreciate all you've said.

Confusedwomsn:


Thank you, I was just hurt.
I know I have to work on me and s lot of people have mentioned where I erred.

All these while I never saw me getting pregnant for someone I loved and was in s relationship with as me trying to trap him with pregnancy but when I see s lot of opinions about it, I then realized thats what I portrayed.
I've learnt s lot and I've made it clear he can leave if he wants too because I won't Leave become divorce is against my faith in Christ.
I will work on avoiding him as much as possible so I'm not provoked to anger and frustrstion.

I will definitely try to be better.

but insulting your husband is in line with your so called faith in Christ?

andyanders:
you have done noble with ur input. I feel her pain and wish she overcome this. My advise for her is to stop laying curses on this public forum 2 any person as shouldn't espect every person to support her view. Let her pick the advire that can help her heal or take a walk. Marriage is not a do and die issue.

I read your responses and very noble too. I pray she has happier times in marriage or not. Just happier moments. Thanks

Confusedwomsn:


Thank you, I was just hurt.
I know I have to work on me and s lot of people have mentioned where I erred.

All these while I never saw me getting pregnant for someone I loved and was in s relationship with as me trying to trap him with pregnancy but when I see s lot of opinions about it, I then realized thats what I portrayed.
I've learnt s lot and I've made it clear he can leave if he wants too because I won't Leave become divorce is against my faith in Christ.
I will work on avoiding him as much as possible so I'm not provoked to anger and frustrstion.

I will definitely try to be better.

I wish u the best herein. As u have stated that divorce is against ur faith. Note, cat and rat cannot co-habit in life. You can have misunderstanding, but when domestic abuse is involved, only the living can live to tell his/her story.

Confusedwomsn:


Thank you so much, I will definitely try my best.
I appreciate all you've said.

Thanks too, God will give you the wisdom to carry on

freecocoahubby:


Facts.

Theres something clearly repulsive about OP and that's why a man who was once her "friend" suddenly doesn't give 2 fvcks about her existence.

Yea, being manipulative can be repulsive once you have observed it in another person.

I too can't stand people who are manipulative but the difference between I and this guy, is I'm completely immune to it - he should never have married her in the first place.

I find it difficult writing about my personal life on public platforms

Confusedwomsn:


Thank you so much, I will definitely try my best.
I appreciate all you've said.

Hello

crackkhaus:

Yea, being manipulative can be repulsive once you have observed it in another person.

I too can't stand people who are manipulative but the difference between I and this guy, is I'm completely immune to it - he should never have married her in the first place.

Please I really need to understand how I manipulated him.
Because I really want to.
I was single and he was single then we became friends.
We then started dating and we both decided to live together and there were plans of marriage to hold next year.
Then I fell ill and he was fully aware of my illness and surgery.
Then I relayed what the doctor said and my fears and worries.
Then I got pregnant and he asked for an abortion.
I initially sgreed but later changed my mind when we got the hospital.
I told him I understand if you don't want to marry me but I will keep my child even if you deny me.
I had s very good job, so I was not bothered about finances.
Do you know I ran away three days to my wedding because I felt he did not love me but he said he did but it was because of financial troubles and not because I manipulated him.
Is it because I refused an abortion that you say I manipulated him. Did I put a gun to his head or was he threatened to marry me.

Even if I manipulating him to marry me, am I still manipulating him to still marry me. What is stoppeing him from walking out.
Everything he is doing to me is destroying me but making me stronger.
While you believe he is neglect is destroying me, I'm getting stronger.

Im building myself and future. I have the love of my child and family and I'll make do with that.
Note.. I was 23years and he was 30years.

Nooil:


Hello

Hi

Confusedwomsn:


Thank you, I know my faults and I've been working on it for one year, it's not easy sometimes I just burst out from frustration.
Trust me, I'm trying but it's not easy, I'll try harder.
Sometimes I feel like I'm the man and woman, my dear it's not been easy...

Stop being the woman and man. Your behavior is as a result of the buildup of testosterone in you. This buildup is as a result of the manly activities you've taken up.

Stop being the man in the relationship. Retain your feminine qualities and do what you've been assigned by God- the helper. HBP can come as a result of all the stress you're over burdening yourself with. Be a woman and let your husband be the man.

Confusedwomsn:
Thank you all. I'm reading and I totally appreciate.
I know I have to learn how to be humble but trust me it's easy to lie and say I can or I will but. It's not.
Wwe had no settee when we got married and I was like let's work on this it will be nice, he said okay but no real plans to do, I had to save and get it.

The same with the generator, our television, our sir conditioner, our fans, even stabilizer, even extensions. Our gas cylinder was stolen but I had to replace it,
I do sell these with joy because I want to make my home comfortable but when I see men struggle to put their home together I feel jealous, my mom said I should stop buying properties but I can't, how will I see something that is good for my home and not do it.
I've calmly asked him why he does not think about providing these things for us. Even when these things get bad, he will ignore not until I quarrels and shout or report to people before he will grudgingly do it.

I'll try to be humble but trust me it's not easy, I told him just play your role small and I will worship you because with all I'm going true it's difficult because I'll just pretend and be cursing you in my mind.
When I hustle and save to get these things, I'm never appreciated. I'm not boasting but I just felt like explaining how I truly feel...

Madam, It is unfortunate that two people who are suppose to be with other people, ended up together. You did wrong by not knowing your husband very well before saying I do to him. Now you are in a tight place.

Anyway from your story above, it shows that your husband only does not loves you but does not seem to care about the welfare of his home. A man's duty is to support his family and ensure he is in charge of the affairs of his home, while his wife support him financially and emotionally. At the end of the day both parties tries to cover each other's inadequacies.This is how marraige with love is suppose to be.

Society should stop this nonsense of only blaming women in cases like this . It take two to tangle and to make a marriage work, it also involve both parties. Nobody is a robot for Christ sake. She is a human being and not a steel that does not have emotions nor feel pains and frustration
.
All these Nairalanders suggesting how she should be humble, submissive, act sexy, cook super meal bla bla! bla! they do not know that a cheating & an irresponsible man will remain so even if she should climbed the highest mountain for them, they will always remain the same. The respond you have received from these advisers is the very reason why some men continue to misbehave becos they know that society will continue to absorb them of their nasty actions and put the blame on the women.

Madam, your husband has falling out of love( that is if he even loved you at any point in time) .When a man love a woman, she does not have to beg for sex nor will she find wanting in taking care of his family. You and your sons happiness is suppose to be his pride and joy.

Both of you should patch your marriage by having a serious talk and going for counselling. You are both wrong and should take responsible for the failing marriage.Both parties should put effort to please each other.Nobody is a robot to be at the receiving end of cruelty and expect to give back love and affection.

Confusedwomsn:


I don't feel bad , if I offended him I won't feel bad but I did nothing to him.
Do you think I'm mad to wake up and insult s man I married and decided to spend forever with.
Have y your head been banged on the wall, have you been beaten till you've been hospitalized.
You can advice all you want but don't judge me.

Don't make mockery of someone's situation because yours is better.

Banged your head against the wall... Jeez, I'm having goose pimples right now! I really don't know how to advise you, because I'm against divorce.

Was he violent when you were dating him?

Confusedwomsn:


Please I really need to understand how I manipulated him.
Because I really want to.
I was single and he was single then we became friends.
We then started dating and we both decided to live together and there were plans of marriage to hold next year.
Then I fell ill and he was fully aware of my illness and surgery.
Then I relayed what the doctor said and my fears and worries.
Then I got pregnant and he asked for an abortion.
I initially sgreed but later changed my mind when we got the hospital.
I told him I understand if you don't want to marry me but I will keep my child even if you deny me.
I had s very good job, so I was not bothered about finances.
Do you know I ran away three days to my wedding because I felt he did not love me but he said he did but it was because of financial troubles and not because I manipulated him.
Is it because I refused an abortion that you say I manipulated him. Did I put a gun to his head or was he threatened to marry me.

Even if I manipulating him to marry me, am I still manipulating him to still marry me. What is stoppeing him from walking out.
Everything he is doing to me is destroying me but making me stronger.
While you believe he is neglect is destroying me, I'm getting stronger.

Im building myself and future. I have the love of my child and family and I'll make do with that.
Note.. I was 23years and he was 30years.

Walk away if you're tired... WALK AWAY!
You say you make enough money and that you look really good and can get any man you want. He has even told you to go have sex with anyone you want to if that's what you need. So why exactly are you waiting for him to make the first move?

If you were willing to keep the pregnancy back then and raise the child as a single mother without getting married to him, then you should also be able to do it now - walk away, go raise the child alone.

Remember, your comments on the first two pages and your first post are still on this thread, I read all of it.
What you're doing now by tweaking & re-engineering the story so you can 100% look like the victim, is working ONLY inside your head - this is why I still maintain that you're a manipulative woman, but you don't realize it because it has become second-nature to you.

I'm not the only one here who has called you out on this manipulative behaviour around your husband, other people did same right from the first page.
So perhaps you think everyone with this opinion is stvpid and we don't know what we've been reading from you.

crackkhaus:

Walk away if you're tired... WALK AWAY!
You say you make enough money and that you look really good and can get any man you want. He has even told you to go have sex with any man if that's what you want.

If you were really willing to keep the pregnancy back then and raise the child as a single mother without getting married to him, then you should also be able to do it now - walk away, go raise the child alone.

Remember, your comments on the first two pages and your first post are still on this thread, I read all of it.
What you're doing now by tweaking & re-engineering the story so you 100% look like a victim without a doubt, is working only inside your head - this is why I am sure you're a manipulative woman, but you don't even realize it because it has become second-nature to you.

I'm not the only one here who has called you out on this manipulative behaviour around your husband, other people did same right from the first page.
So perhaps you think everyone with that opinion is stvpid and don't know what they've been reading from you.

Yeah.. Thank you
I'm in my house I paid rent for, so where do you want me to go to, I wish I can give you his number so you can tell him I'm manipulative and he should leave and maybe I'll be at peace.

I created this thread not just to criticize my husband but to see where and what I did wrong, so I can fix my home.

If I cared this just so you all can abuse him how does it create Peace in my home.

I stayed clearly his bad traits and mine and his good yes traits and mine.

No constructive criticism except to blame.

Explain in clear terms how I manipulated s 3oyesrs old man, so I'll learn. I'm no victim, I have my faults too.

Nooil:


Banged your head against the wall... Jeez, I'm having goose pimples right now! I really don't know how to advise you, because I for one I'm against divorce.

Was he violent when you were dating him?

No, he was very good and loving. He was my best friend and lover

Confusedwomsn:


No, he was very good and loving. He was my best friend and lover

So what do you think changed?

Confusedwomsn:


No, he was very good and loving. He was my best friend and lover

Madam stop responding now, can't you see you are attracting too many wrong people and you will only end up hurt? The thread has served its purpose, take a bow and continue with what you have gotten offline.