This thread reeks of a lot insecure and lazy guys looking for an independent lady to rub off.

Cocao:
There is a misconception sha. The fact that a girl can hold her own and not need your help does not mean that she won't appreciate it when you offer it. Make that offer often enough because you care for her not because she needs it. You will be more appreciated then.

nice submission

rapid101:
well
as for me my sef and I
I'm dating one now and I'll marry her cus she is everything I dream in a woman, apart from she's rich, her character is 1001% pure. very respectful, dedicated, not materialistic, a goal getter, beautiful. in fact she's everything u ll dream of in a woman. tank God she came my way.
ok bye

Haha.. Come back here you can't tell us bye just like that!!!

How can only you carry all the good qualities in just one lady..


Bring your babe here jor. We must do balloting

Hahaha

goldbim:
Hmmmmmmm sincerely,Dating a big girl is not the issue but with time won’t the guy feel inferior as time goes by?my little experience makes me feel like most guys feel less of a man when the lady is trying to call the shots herself without waiting for any man..
At a point ,the guys start feeling like you are hard to please whereas you are just trying to live your life to suit yourself ..All in all,the key word is humility and it takes the grace of God!!

Any guy who feels the way you have described it here lacks substance in the first place. No man who know his worth and can call the shot in his circle will be concerned about a woman's money.

bassette:
someone that had no naira o according to him. Who goes into a bus to flash dolls when it isn't like he just arrived Nigeria after a very long time away. Abeg u try jare

all lies

Dreyton36:
I've dated up to 4 different very rich and influential girls
And I'll kindly share just one of their stories, I mean the first of them

It was 2013 mehn life no be moi moi ooo
I lived in Lagos , Maryland to be precise so I got a job at a catering company then at ikoyi
But not like other catering jobs oo , this one is special into big boys way
We only serve the NNPC_NAPIMS workers
Men go garage up with full swag to go serve rice
But it was fun cuz I had my cool Calabar friend with me
I finally had a friend who happened to be an auditor there (female)
Name withheld , she's absolutely gorgeous but a lil older than me i guess
She rides a range Rover , the company has a car park called Park view, for those who knows bayo kuku area in ikoyi you'll know there , big men area

One day I went to serve as usual , I was cashless , after closing hours I almost lost it cuz I had no penny to go home , mehn I trek from ikoyi reach Maryland life tire me
The next day again I went to work after borrowing money from my own younger brother
And after serving , I was just thinking of how to go home , but I no too dear because that day was Friday and we don't work during weekends
As i went to pack up the used plates, this damsel asked me to pass her bag to her, she gave me some $ upto 15 pieces
I mean dollars not naira ooo , 100 dollars each
Mehn my prick sef stand
I was dumbfounded , to say thank you sef tire me
Anyway I left , but I thanked her Sha , but I didn't even know the actual figure of the cash but I know say na load
Trust poor man na , I arrange the dollars inside my wallet and went to a nearby bar to get some cold Heineken and catfish peppersoup
After that I headed to obalende park , as usual the conductors don know me as a wahala boy who no they always get money complete
I stepped into the bus and put on my headphones in it's loudest volume , as usual the conductor started shouting (owo da)
Because I see fine girls inside bus I start to speak phonetics and brought out some dollars that i dont have change , conductor shock
To cut it short I went home
And I made my biggest mistake
Drop ur comments if I should continue cuz this is the funniest partt

Continuation from where I stopped , and for the haters , everything i typed here in the truth and nothing but the truth
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PART2
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AS I got home , I had so many thoughts in my head , I didn't really get home i just hanged around a closed shop near my house and bought a pack of white London from an aboki closeby , just they reason the whole money scene which she gave me
I no go lie aside from the money she gave me, the babe has a golden heart , sometimes we'll serve food to others and we'll eat the rest because we know she won't complain even if she doesn't get nothing that's how sweet she is , but because I broke like faded jeans , I no get any liver to approach her
And yeah I had her number , know how I got it ?
No be me collect her myself oo , she asked for mine so that she can always call my phone and explain to me what kind of food I'll serve her once we arrive,
The building is about 12 floor , for anyone who knows bayo kuku , to Gerald road in ikoyi you should know how tall the NNPC_NAPIMS building is

So as I was smoking my white London , suddenly I dropped a year, know why?
A neuropsychology is serving food to young girls who are in the oil firm, I go even turk in and wear tie join am
So my mind say make I call this babe , after all the next day na weekend
I dialled the number at first , I quickly cut am again , I dey imagine wetin I go tell her sef but I was already in love Sha
Mehn if u smoke correct new pack of white London so that much mentor moral must come
I call her again , she picked at once
I'll use different names here sorry (privacy)

Her: hello dave
Me: good evening Nelly
Her: you must've gone home , and hey you didn't serve my own apple today as usual she was just kidding cuz i ways est the apples im suppose to give her
Me: yeah as usual ____at this point I didn't know how to continue again I swear
Her: alright have a blessed day dear , or you wanna tell me something?
Me: nooooo I just wanted to thank you for today
Her: c'mon that's nothing just few $notes
Me: thank a lot
She called it bye

Alaye I just they vex for myself , my intention was to try to ask her out on a date small dollars don enter my brain , dollar they shark for pocket pass beer o

As I got into my room , I wasn't still satisfied about how I couldn't tell her my intention
I sent her a text message instead ,
It goes this way "hey Nelly , i was wondering if you'll like to have a rendezvous tomorrow"

Within 7mins she replied
Hers". Good idea , I'm really stressed out tho but I'll call you in the morning, goodnight

I no bother reply goodnight back again make e no be like say I too they forward

My guy that evening I run go boutique go arrange my normal round neck thick black polo , black they shine like Nigerian politician heart and confirm Vietnam jeab, if you know you know
I already get shoes yakpa cuz na shoes they chop my salary
That night I no fit sleep , i just they pray make day break , I just spend my time they watch YouTube videos of akpan and oduma

Day break, I surprised my street

Part 3 ,,,,
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Comment below if I should continue on how it went
Honestly there's no single lie here

safarigirl:


Thanks for this

Being a big girl doesn't mean you want to go it alone all the time, but a lot of Nigerian men don't know that. They just count their blessings because nobody is asking them for money for airtime and hair, in the long run, na the big girl go lose, cuz she doesn't ask for stuff and the man doesn't have sense to contribute without being asked. Same problem guys have.

So correct. Everybody wants to be pampered. So to every girl that "have got it" just sit tight, sip ya wine and buy plenty shoes, clothes and whatever you want please. There are men that will understand you. He will come and you'll realize that you have been wasting your time with every other person. Until then, don't even think of settling. It is not worth it.

SUGARCyprian247:


Haha.. Come back here you can't tell us bye just like that!!!

How can only you carry all the good qualities in just one lady..


Bring your babe here jor. We must do balloting

Hahaha

bros no vex I de frotect my fropaty

Lovelyn451:
Heheheeey...but I thought that's what you Efulefus like..shebi u want a woman to pay the bills like oyibo pipo? What are u complaining for again? Just donate ur sperm to her, stay at home and do the chores while she make the money, but don't u ever open ur efulefu mouth to ask her for respect or talk abt submission when responsible men are talking...tchew

Are you saying paying a woman's bill is also enough license to disrespect her? What exactly are you smoking dear?

lukui:
One of my uncles dated one like that. I was still in pry sch then but could still remember. She was very classy, rich and egoistic. Nevertheless we all still loved her. My uncle broke her heart and didn't later marry her. And we abused and rebuked him for doing that. But she too was later happily married. Up till now we are still good friends with her.

Many women don't even date for sex, d!ck or fxxking sake, they just want the guys attention. My uncle is the type, all sorts of women flock around him. Up till now in my street, if I am passing ma y of them, though they have now married with kids, they will still be asking "how is brother so so so" I will reply them and be wondering, so you still miss this man?

Hahahaha Burst my head !!! Hahaha

This one na Manna from Heaven.

lazy/poverty men THINKING.

Hisduchess:


The truth is this,most guy especially Igbo men starts feeling inferior when when their women don't ask for anything from them, infact they term it that you ain't gonna be a submissive wife simply because you ain't the beggy beggy type being that it is now a norm for a guy to give his woman money while the lady offers sex in return,thereby making anything outside this kinda arrangement a taboo.Yea a man should always be allowed to be a man as African setting made it to be, but that should be more in the marriage setting not a boyfriend and girlfriend matter,where a lot of people now see as poverty alleviation thing.so I think that your EX falls in these category of women who are independent and loves helping the needy and her kind still dey but they'll always want a guy who is confident and hardworking so as to match her dreams too.

Most especially igbo men ke, how did you come about this statistics ? I have lived outside Nigeria for a good while now and I see many igbo guys blend nicely with independent ladies with very good careers. I hate when people pull stats outta their imaginations, I think it's irresponsible.

This is normal in abroad..is this your definition of big girl?

rapid101:
well
as for me my sef and I
I'm dating one now and I'll marry her cus she is everything I dream in a woman, apart from she's rich, her character is 1001% pure. very respectful, dedicated, not materialistic, a goal getter, beautiful. in fact she's everything u ll dream of in a woman. tank God she came my way.
ok bye

everywhere good for you.

Please connect me to your rich friend now if she's Godly. I really need a job.

fineboynl:
If you have dated a big girl before you will easily relate with this. Big girls is my term of the opposite of a big boy and not oloshos or Gold-diggers.

Here are my experience. I have dated a girl that has so many girls she called her children. she help them alot, like securing a job from her contact and as well as writing the application letters herself for them and arranging the cv.

She called me always and never flashed and it's calls that runs into hours per day. I will even get tired and tried cutting the calls to discharge her.

I and some of my friend dated girls of this trait. It's not that they have so much money but they have a niche for themselves. They do anty to your younger ones or girls around by taking them out or buying them stuff. Your family developed a feeling that this girl doesn't want anything from you.

They will never allow you spend any money on them, they come to your house with cab. They will never follow you to a gathering where your friends spend money only on drinks and foods. And if it happens by accident they will pass the money to you to at least pay some of the bills.
She doesn't like going out while others pay for her drinks.

They never collect transport or any money from you.

I can relate. My ex is a typical example. I so much stay far away from broke girls... Yuck!

Dreyton36:

Continuation from where I stopped , and for the haters , everything i typed here in the truth and nothing but the truth
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PART2
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please mention me when you post part 3. I don tire to dey refresh this page

These types of girls are rare o aswear. However, once once I'll love to spend on her too, I'll get tired if she doesn't allow me spend .

Mention if you're a big girl and will like to have a serious dating!

rapid101:
well
as for me my sef and I
I'm dating one now and I'll marry her cus she is everything I dream in a woman, apart from she's rich, her character is 1001% pure. very respectful, dedicated, not materialistic, a goal getter, beautiful. in fact she's everything u ll dream of in a woman. tank God she came my way.
ok bye

it's very hard to see such ladies with these traits you just mentioned because the kind of evil spirit that posses some of these rich ladies ehh is quite alarming, just pray all these traits won't vanish suddenly...
Ladies dey get brain touch oo

I wish this kind of luck comes my way though..

lifenajeje:


He was given dollars

He works in ikoyi area..

There are lots of bars around ..

They would accept dollars from him..

But he didn't add that in his script.

I had one then, I couldn't take it no more but I couldn't end the relationship either since she was the financier.

Thank God she caught me cheating, she had to let me go.

fineboynl:
If you have dated a big girl before you will easily relate with this. Big girls is my term of the opposite of a big boy and not oloshos or Gold-diggers.

Here are my experience. I have dated a girl that has so many girls she called her children. she help them alot, like securing a job from her contact and as well as writing the application letters herself for them and arranging the cv.

She called me always and never flashed and it's calls that runs into hours per day. I will even get tired and tried cutting the calls to discharge her.

I and some of my friend dated girls of this trait. It's not that they have so much money but they have a niche for themselves. They do anty to your younger ones or girls around by taking them out or buying them stuff. Your family developed a feeling that this girl doesn't want anything from you.

They will never allow you spend any money on them, they come to your house with cab. They will never follow you to a gathering where your friends spend money only on drinks and foods. And if it happens by accident they will pass the money to you to at least pay some of the bills.
She doesn't like going out while others pay for her drinks.

They never collect transport or any money from you.

She comes to your house with cab and she is a big girl... What if she drives Venza? You go faint?

Big girls dont cry, big girls dont get pregnant anyhow. They always know how 2 take care of themselves

fatdick:
please mention me when you post part 3. I don tire to dey refresh this page

I just did , check under my first post

TheEffective:


A shameful post. Demeaning to hard working men

So some of you are normal. Ope o!

My neighbour goes to work - her husband goes to the gym.

When you are projecting this kind of rubbish I need a big girl into your future.... do not feel like less a man when they call landlord meeting and omit you.

eedimo:
I had one then, I couldn't take it no more but I couldn't end the relationship either since she was the financier.

Thank God she caught me cheating, she had to let me go.

tuboi:




If you’ve always been on the spending end, won’t you like to experience been spent on? even if it’s just one time

I understand but this is quite different from 'wishing to date a big girl solely to be spent on'

That's gold digging.

Finding a girl you fancy based on your defined characteristics should be priority.

Spending on you (if she chooses to) should be an extra...

Most males fancy the Africaness in women but they don't know that, that 'Africaness' involves been dependent entirely on their man.

Y'all don't even know what feminism is obviously. I read the whole posts up there and guess what?

You all described a typical feminist.

BTW a feminist is not a man hater. She is exactly what you described. So in case you have been confused about the concept of feminism, start reading from page one of this thread. Twil give you a clue.

I am not a feminist. Just an objective human.

Chatflick:

I can relate. My ex is a typical example. I so much stay far away from broke girls... Yuck!

broke girls suck

Dreyton36:

Continuation from where I stopped , and for the haters , everything i typed here in the truth and nothing but the truth
,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
PART2
,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
AS I got home , I had so many thoughts in my head , I didn't really get home i just hanged around a closed shop near my house and bought a pack of white London from an aboki closeby , just they reason the whole money scene which she gave me
I no go lie aside from the money she gave me, the babe has a golden heart , sometimes we'll serve food to others and we'll eat the rest because we know she won't complain even if she doesn't get nothing that's how sweet she is , but because I broke like faded jeans , I no get any liver to approach her
And yeah I had her number , know how I got it ?
No be me collect her myself oo , she asked for mine so that she can always call my phone and explain to me what kind of food I'll serve her once we arrive,
The building is about 12 floor , for anyone who knows bayo kuku , to Gerald road in ikoyi you should know how tall the NNPC_NAPIMS building is

So as I was smoking my white London , suddenly I dropped a year, know why?
A neuropsychology is serving food to young girls who are in the oil firm, I go even turk in and wear tie join am
So my mind say make I call this babe , after all the next day na weekend
I dialled the number at first , I quickly cut am again , I dey imagine wetin I go tell her sef but I was already in love Sha
Mehn if u smoke correct new pack of white London so that much mentor moral must come
I call her again , she picked at once
I'll use different names here sorry (privacy)

Her: hello dave
Me: good evening Nelly
Her: you must've gone home , and hey you didn't serve my own apple today as usual she was just kidding cuz i ways est the apples im suppose to give her
Me: yeah as usual ____at this point I didn't know how to continue again I swear
Her: alright have a blessed day dear , or you wanna tell me something?
Me: nooooo I just wanted to thank you for today
Her: c'mon that's nothing just few $notes
Me: thank a lot
She called it bye

Alaye I just they vex for myself , my intention was to try to ask her out on a date small dollars don enter my brain , dollar they shark for pocket pass beer o

As I got into my room , I wasn't still satisfied about how I couldn't tell her my intention
I sent her a text message instead ,
It goes this way "hey Nelly , i was wondering if you'll like to have a rendezvous tomorrow"

Within 7mins she replied
Hers". Good idea , I'm really stressed out tho but I'll call you in the morning, goodnight

I no bother reply goodnight back again make e no be like say I too they forward

My guy that evening I run go boutique go arrange my normal round neck thick black polo , black they shine like Nigerian politician heart and confirm Vietnam jeab, if you know you know
I already get shoes yakpa cuz na shoes they chop my salary
That night I no fit sleep , i just they pray make day break , I just spend my time they watch YouTube videos of akpan and oduma

Day break, I surprised my street

Part 3 ,,,,
,,,,,,,,,,


Comment below if I should continue on how it went
Honestly there's no single lie here

following gan gan

khengxlei:

following gan gan

correct guy