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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by cococandy(f): 9:38am On May 12, 2020 |
OP please keep your two left legs where they are. I don’t even know why she still speaks to you. Forcefully collect your child ko 11 Likes |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 9:38am On May 12, 2020 |
Amanee:The first pregnancy came at the down I was down, I was having problems in school as I was about to be rusticated for leading a revolt and I'm having a bad time with my mum so the pregnancy news just caged me and I was powerless. Thanks for your input, God bless. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 9:40am On May 12, 2020 |
cococandy:I appreciate your inputs ma, thanks. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by cococandy(f): 9:42am On May 12, 2020 |
The lady is the person who needs advice in this case. Not you. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 9:49am On May 12, 2020 |
cococandy:I will be a very wicked fellow if I ruin her marriage, she's a very good woman so my intentions to claim the daughter will be mutual. I just don't want a situation whereby in the future the girl will think I abandon her. There was a time I traveled down south and I called her to meet but she plainly told me she can't that she's scared that we may be entangle sexually so I believe she's weak when it come to her setting her eyes on me despite assuring her nothing of such will happen as I'm in a commited relationship. So seeing her now is kind of complex. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by sanesta: 9:53am On May 12, 2020 |
Climatology100:What do you expect from the poor girl?? to wait for a guy that didn't give anything strong to hope on. I understand her actions as much as I understand the fact that she's ahead of you financially and you wanted to meet up. You didn't just take a prudent step pls, if you love her as you have claimed , don't spoil her marriage 8 Likes |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by mrblessed(m): 9:59am On May 12, 2020 |
What exactly are you scheming to reclaim? The crap of missing contact with her is sheer balderdash, because you knowing avoided her. In my opinion, I think the lady is very wise, since you don't seem to have a reasonable plan for her. It is very clear that the lady had studied you and was able to manage the situation properly. Just keep importuning her to reveal the paternity of the child to you, since your carefree attitude has placed you in a disadvantaged position. In any case, donating semen alone for the emergence of a child does not confer the role of a father to you. You didn't marry her, never involved during the duration of the pregnancy, so you have limited power to stake a claim now. In my culture, fathering a child goes beyond the donation of sperm. If anything, sperm is cheap. I mean very cheap. 20 Likes |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 10:09am On May 12, 2020 |
sanesta:Thanks I appreciate, just Erukaye101 has typed, I think it's 50-50 but with the advices here, I have resolve not to do anything forcefully, it will be mutual but I'm only scared in future the girl won't have the notion that I abandon her. Funny enough, she named her after my mother, this she told me during our numerous emotional calls. When the girl marked her 5th birthday, my ex called me that I should sent something to the girl, initially I want to send cash but she insisted that it must be a material thing that she will grow old to adore, so I sent her a neck chain and hand bangles with her name customized on it. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 10:12am On May 12, 2020 |
mrblessed:Thanks for your input sir, I appreciate. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 10:34am On May 12, 2020 |
Climatology100:You haven't answered the question yet, why writing down the date you had sex with a girl? what does it meant for? you're being taught by your dad or what? 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by crackkhaus: 10:37am On May 12, 2020 |
That man she's married to who has not done a DNA test in the past 5yrs, is actually the only stvpid person here. You have all the power at your disposal should you decide to cause problems in her marriage, and her innocent husband will be the only victim. As some of these men have decided to let puccy erode their sense of self-preservation, they will keep becoming fathers to children of other men. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 10:42am On May 12, 2020 |
cococandy:Exactly, don't know why she's still in touch with him. Abeg leave that lady to enjoy her marriage in peace and continue your jotting down skills. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by SweetCunt97(f): 10:44am On May 12, 2020 |
Climatology100:Mr Man kindly move on with your life. Why do u wanna spoil her home with ur jargon? Imagine! Force to reclaim her? Pls face ur life 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by FanOfMyself: 10:44am On May 12, 2020 |
Go for your daughter, you will be doing the right thing, don't let them judge you here as if they are perfect!! Most of them here have done worst than what you wrote up here. She's your seed and she will forever remain 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by veave(f): 10:51am On May 12, 2020 |
Even me sef dey speechless for this matter. Let me wait for others to come 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Nobody: 10:56am On May 12, 2020 |
Just let her be you’re ruining her peace .. always stay in touch but never go physically to claim the child you could visit or something but don’t claim the child .. Marry the one you have now and get a child for yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Genoa(m): 11:02am On May 12, 2020 |
Mr, You have to apply wisdom here. Firstly, you will have to do DNA without the knowledge of the man, don't do it forcefully please, the Husband must not know.(your Ex cooperation comes to play here) without her cooperation am afraid it won't be easy. Then, if the result came as expected, GO for your daughter. She's your fvcking kid(that's if the DNA says), go for her. You're not only doing the right thing for yourself, but the innocent husband (you're doing his a*s a favour) KEYWORDS : Do the DNA without the husband's knowledge. Use your common sense man. 4 Likes
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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by sisisioge: 11:03am On May 12, 2020 |
Hmmmm...you ditched her and she ditched you. Please leave her alone! Even if you are the donor sperm, you aren't the father. Whew! 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:04am On May 12, 2020 |
Oladayo12:Funny, whatever I write/wrote is my business and it doesn't mean it's about sex alone, I write virtually everything on a note as it's part of the lesson I learnt from my old man and it has worked and will continue to work for me. Lemme tell you few of the lessons: My old man often tell us the male child back then, even if you have attain the highest qualifications, learn a vocational work. When you're working as a salary earner, divide your salary into four parts for your own sake. A) Save B) Eat whatever you like with it, it's your money. C) Use it to buy good clothes/wears, you work for it. D) Use it to treat yourself by buying medicine to improve your body immune. I'm blessed to have listen and adhere to his advices as I never question his judgment. Ohhh, Oladayo? I think their is an adage in your beautiful dialect that says "Ohùn tí Àgbàlagbà rí lórí ijoko, tí ọmọde bá gùn igi ojú rẹ ó ní tó" Pardon my proverbs as I'm not that good in that dialect but nevertheless I appreciate your inputs. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:05am On May 12, 2020 |
sisisioge:Thanks, I appreciate ma. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:07am On May 12, 2020 |
Genoa:God bless you sir, I really appreciate. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:07am On May 12, 2020 |
paul1995:Thanks sir, I appreciate. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:08am On May 12, 2020 |
FanOfMyself:Hmmmm, thank you sir for your input, God bless. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:11am On May 12, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:Thanks maam for your input, I appreciate. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Harshreality: 11:11am On May 12, 2020 |
This doesn't sound like a case of paternity fraud to me. Sounds like her husband married her knowing she's a single mother. If it was she'd avoid anything to do with you at all. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:17am On May 12, 2020 |
Harshreality:Thank you for this, I know my ex very well, we've be together right from our innocent age. There was a time she called me around 10pm, I was shocked as I couldn't pick her calls so I called her back afternoon the second day as I told her she shouldn't call me at that wee hours because of herself and marriage. She told me I shouldn't worry about that, that she's free to call me anytime she like irrespective if her husband is aware or not. I think she's the one calling the shots in the union. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by ecolime(m): 11:27am On May 12, 2020 |
Climatology100:Looks like you are yet to get over the lady. I know this is pretty hard for you to do but you just have to move on bro. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by andyanders: 11:29am On May 12, 2020 |
Op, having gone through ur post, i deduced that ur action pushed the girl off balance after the first and 2nd pregnancy. Pls don't claim u love/d her herein as u've stated. If there was any atom of love, no matter her excusses, u would've kept her after the miscarriage. The lady found luv somewhere having known that u weren't ready for her after u had an unprotect sex with her, decided to settle with her new found luv. After getting to know she is married and posted the pix., of the baby, u now discovered the resemblance, you now want to claim the baby either by force or by any means. Op, knowing fully well that u knowingly knew the current status of this lady u claim u love/d, and u have discussed with her and she opened up, why not allow her be for God's sake. Do u know that ur action could lead to the death of this lady or both(mother and child)? Why not go and marry and get ur own child/ren and allow this woman be? This table u're shaking might end up destroying u. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Genoa(m): 11:31am On May 12, 2020 |
sisisioge:Trash.
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Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Oladayo12(m): 11:32am On May 12, 2020 |
[quote author=Climatology100 post=89461099] Funny, whatever I write/wrote is my business and it doesn't mean it's about sex alone, I write virtually everything on a note as it's part of the lesson I learnt from my old man and it has worked and will continue to work for me. Lemme tell you few of the lessons: My old man often tell us the male child back then, even if you have attain the highest qualifications, learn a vocational work. When you're working as a salary earner, divide your salary into four parts for your own sake. A) Save B) Eat whatever you like with it, it's your money. C) Use it to buy good clothes/wears, you work for it. D) Use it to treat yourself by buying medicine to improve your body immune. I'm blessed to have listen and adhere to his advices as I never question his t. Bro sincerely speaking i know your type. Anyway, Let me don't futher drag this issue too far, but i'm glad you've gotten what you want from jotting down the sex date. pls kindly let her be. Thanks. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:33am On May 12, 2020 |
ecolime:I move on bro, I only keep her at arm length because of the girl. Thanks bro for your input. |
Re: Should I Forcefully Take Possession Of My Daughter? by Climatology100: 11:37am On May 12, 2020 |
andyanders:I messed things up but I never leave her alone when the miscarriage happened, I stayed with her for some time. Death of mother and child? No No, that's too huge, God forbid bad thing. Thanks for your input, I appreciate. |
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