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Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Kaamisha: 3:42pm On May 12, 2020
merahki:
I consider you boring shaa, very. However that is not a crime. The crime is meanness. Which is what makes you dance madly as you crucify women.
What are their crimes? Marrying “bad” exciting men, smokers, hunks, rich, good lovers etc. Whenever these men stray and there is a problem as we see in threads, you swoop in (with discernible glee all over your posts), questioning the poster and their choices. Why you even opened a thread asking women to choose your super-boring type! Basically that’s what your thread was all about- inviting people to misery. When you don’t beef those women, you extend it to the single ones I mentioned last night.

I tell women to live first because they tend to put their all in marriages. Not a bad thing I guess, however the marriage should happen as late as possible in life in my books. If it happens early, then the lady had better be a total woman who owns her life and choices.
Imagine getting married at 23 with no personhood of your own, no autonomy, no life, no real knowledge, no money. And then going on to have 50- 60 years of that kind of mind-numbing, soul-sapping, joy-killing “marital bliss”? Especially when all around you woman are owning their lives? At the thought of that horror, why won’t one run mad and start hating her fellow women and opening very banal threads on Nairaland to lash out?
You are not even a complicated case to discern...

This is still not personal, just my observations about you.
Why on earth would you think I would wanna get personal with you? I saw the other post. Don’t do that. It is tacky and untrue and you know it too which makes it all even tackier. I don’t want to know anything about you offline. I am telling you what I noticed online.

I don’t have a need to be heard/understood and lazily can’t argue, so manage this one for today.
Lastly, people have loads of sex, fornicate silly without being married. They do this either for the healthy pleasure of living, for highs or for money. Every day. Many do this without guilt too.
People get married even when they cannot have, or don’t want children. Not everyone raises or will raise “godly” children. Not everyone wants children too. Find a way to deal with this truth that makes you want to throw things cheesy.
I forget the third absurd thing in that your quote or I would add a response to it.

God to me is accepting and good and loving. You make your own God so unappealing.
Chai!
Her envy and vile is the worst kind. It's masked. I prefer people who openly express their hostility. Cowards like her have different masks for their multifaceted forms of malice. Irony, sarcasm, cutting side remarks, even humor. You know these women who will laugh to your face and then do something behind your back to get to you. That's her kind. The worst. At the end of the day they will say how they are innocent hiding behind their Bible like we don't see her pathetic meanness. To get back to the topic, no fulfilled person acts like that, none.
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Romangalactic(m): 3:53pm On May 12, 2020
Kaamisha:
Her envy and vile is the worst kind. It's masked. I prefer people who openly express their hostility. Cowards like her have different masks for their multifaceted forms of malice. Irony, sarcasm, cutting side remarks, even humor. You know these women who will laugh to your face and then do something behind your back to get to you. That's her kind. The worst. At the end of the day they will say how they are innocent hiding behind their Bible like we don't see her pathetic meanness. To get back to the topic, no fulfilled person acts like that, none.
Now you're quoting yourself. cry May you find peace
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by KanwuliaExtra:
Kaamisha:
I could feel sorry for how you rubbed the bitter truth about her in her face but I remembered how she stands for responsibility. cheesy And since she has long known how people react to her below average IQ threads, I'd say she has brought it upon herself. grin
Amen! grin

Sorry for a STOLID/DEADPAN/CHIMERIC online-nonentity? shocked

Na juju? undecided Must we agree because his/her “jazz” is all powerful? Please, save your pity for others with humane attributes on and off NL.

You know what happens to people with “messiah-complexes”? They die like their “messiahs” ke!

I serve a “messiah” of caring and sharing, not one that engages in gender-based biased/endless castigations of people they feel superior to. . . . or overindulgence in unwarranted/useless self-sacrifices to build up a false sense of reality or campaign for online validation from like-minded theoretical delusionists. cheesy

I can’t wait for the next: “O-ye-ungodly-miserable-FEMINIIST-women-of-the-world” thread.

The day I will READ a thread “O-Ye-PSYCO-GODLY-CHAUVINISTIC-MISERABLE-ANTI-FEMINIST-MEN-of-the-world” thread, from this emotionally/spiritually-JADED ID I love to refer to as BUKA-T ehn? . . . . . . I will celebrate. His/her fellow women is always the main focus of his/her threads.


Poppycock!
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Kaamisha: 4:47pm On May 12, 2020
Romangalactic:
Now you're quoting yourself. cry May you find peace
After you. cheesy
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by emmaodet: 5:03pm On May 12, 2020
bukatyne:
I had to come back to this:

Telling women to chose men who have the least probability to stray is invitation to misery?

Or if a woman chooses a man with high probability to stray and he does, why is she surprised or asking for something different?

Good men are boring abi?

Redpillers actually read you girls well.

Which begs the question: what kind of lady prefers 'bad' men and calls good men boring? cheesy smiley


And you know what flies over your heads?

That a good husband with the least propensity for drama gives you the initiative to be diligent at work and creativeness to fulfill your destiny.
Thank you Bukky for this comment on bold and this is the main reason most good guys are turning to bad because being good is not encouraging nor are you motivated to be.
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Eketem: 7:10pm On May 12, 2020
Kaamisha:
Her envy and vile is the worst kind. It's masked. I prefer people who openly express their hostility. Cowards like her have different masks for their multifaceted forms of malice. Irony, sarcasm, cutting side remarks, even humor. You know these women who will laugh to your face and then do something behind your back to get to you. That's her kind. The worst. At the end of the day they will say how they are innocent hiding behind their Bible like we don't see her pathetic meanness. To get back to the topic, no fulfilled person acts like that, none.
NONE so true. She rubbed off on me the wrong way when she spoke so correspondingly to a young lady seeking a spouse then also came with a snide request for an update; when called out she started speaking in tongues and crying innocence. I didn't even know this was a trend till this topic.
You are right no fulfilled person acts like this, people fulfilled are judgement free towards others and their choices and understand that people will make mistakes hopefully learn and grow same way they did. Somebody who delights in making others feel less are dealing with their own issues which they hope no one sees or knows
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ladyGKilaBCrueD(f): 2:46pm On May 13, 2020
That bukatyne woman irritates me to the core and I hope she never gets to raise daughters with her sick mentality
What she's doing is male pandering, and I am happy so see some men are not buying her bullshit
Very vile woman who tries to cloak her vileness in religion
ednut1:
same person opened a thread to justify marital rape( thread was deleted by mod), believes women should not travel to canada single, encourages women to face only marriage and not develop themselves. I pity the person wey Marry this one and her kids. Tufiakwa
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 3:30pm On May 13, 2020
ThothHermes:
It's amazing. Absolutely amazing.

The truths contained in your topics continues to gnaw at them. Like oil, they try to pour water on it but it keeps coming to the surface of their consciousnesses.

Your thread is a constant reminder of their inadequacies, their failures if you like, so they continue to rail as if shouting at the sun will make it stop shining.

There is really nothing you can do about it. No matter how benign and well-intentioned your topics are, they'll always feel slighted.
It not you. It's them.

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off -- Gloria Steinhem

The problem here is that these ones have refused to get out of the piss off stage.

Sad. embarassed
Thanks smiley
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 3:34pm On May 13, 2020
emmaodet:
Thank you Bukky for this comment on bold and this is the main reason most good guys are turning to bad because being good is not encouraging nor are you motivated to be.
Broda Emma,

I disagree.

If a guy is really good, he will screen off damaged women and pick a good woman.
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 3:36pm On May 13, 2020
ladyGKilaBCrueD:
That bukatyne woman irritates me to the core and I hope she never gets to raise daughters with her sick mentality
What she's doing is male pandering, and I am happy so see some men are not buying her bullshit
Very vile woman who tries to cloak her vileness in religion
Your curse right back at you.

Amen.
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 3:40pm On May 13, 2020
crackkhaus:
What an elder sees sitting down, small pikin go climb iroko before e see am. tongue grin
smiley
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 3:40pm On May 13, 2020
I see some hidden posts, I wonder what they contain if some stupid ones are still up. undecided
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 3:49pm On May 13, 2020
Titi03:
You really are such a stand-up guy for sticking up for Buka.. I was put on detention due to the attention my "Biased Moderators" thread got grin If not, I would've jumped in here earlier...

[b]@bukatyne let this serve as a lesson to you. I think it's about time you leave this section completely or just be reading comments without contributing. [/b]All this negativity can't be good for your health. Those bullying you now think they're having the time of their lives but at the end of the day, this is a faceless forum and they've gained absolutely nothing by spending hours trolling you.

We all have to get offline every now and then and face the real world. You have no idea what demons some of these guys are fighting that pushes them online as a form of escape. Don't engage further please. Thanks..
Thank you very much Titi.

@Bold: The internet in general and NL/Family section in particular is wide enough for everyone to express their diverse opinions. My threads are not for them and they can keep barking. To stop creating threads when I feel like or have a message would be to let evil win and let one or two people miss out what would change their lives.

When I see the quality of people ranting, I can only feel pity.

From alternate monikers to people you think sane ranting they don't want to know me online to people boasting about open marriages.

Some others are pushing some and laughing offline while they do all the right things to make their homes and lives a smooth ride.

I am sure some of them would not give this same advice to their wards, some others are 'so mi bi ose da.'

Let then be.
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 3:57pm On May 13, 2020
crackkhaus:
Lol.. so they locked you up because of that thread.. lmao.. cheesy
God-complex toh bad.

Personally, I feel she should continue posting her opinions whenever she wants and however she wants. The last thing I want is for her give ratchets the pleasure of thinking they silenced her.
Maybe putting a caveat on her topics can help, but frustration doesn't really need an excuse to still expose itself.

The only thing is that she's too nice, kai.. grin Buka really has some solid principles sha, something I also admire about her cos no matter what...she just NEVER gets down and dirty.

But unlike her, I have no such patience for niceties especially among people I don't give two shíts about... I go drag and cut them down, still pick up the carcasses and tear into it again with my teeth RAW. cheesy

Later dem go say women are angels, women deserve to be respected, women are innocent and victims... Is it these ones on Nairaland? Tueh...
This is also the reason why I don't say anything when guys here are dragging & tearing them down bit by bit. Even the ones I know personally offline, once I see they are being ridiculed and massacred...I go just do like say I no even see wetin dey happen because they have also been the ones doing it to another person.
Hahahahaaha at 'I am too nice cheesy'

I don't have the time/empty life to chase a poster I claim not to like their 'ideologies' from thread to thread without provocation.

Even the threads with caveat still provokes them; 'this thread is for young ladies from 19 -22': 36 yr old will still comment feeling subbed.

If the cap fits, let them wear it.

It is not even an ideology thing: I wrote a thread on a husband like Christ and another one of fatherhood. If it was about ideology, they would have showed up there saying 'I now have sense' or 'I have seen the light' thingy. grin
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 4:00pm On May 13, 2020
What a thread! cheesy
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 4:01pm On May 13, 2020
ladyGKilaBCrueD:
It's not a curse, hunny, just facts.
You do not deserve daughters at all because they'd all end up with no self esteem and worth with their mommy's deranged teachings.
Heck you don't even deserve sons because you'll definitely raise them to be egoistic, entitled messes who'd definitely suffer from delusions of grandeur.
But I don't want anyone to say I'm wishing barrenness upon them.
Maybe intersex children would do.
This is harsh! Too harsh!


Live and let live biko!
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 4:03pm On May 13, 2020
@KanwuliaExtra:

I can understand why you think someone else must have a pedophilic husband or an ungodly one or whatever:

Not everyone have open marriages where each spouse sleeps around or other immoral defects and baggage they carry around.

Let they say 'you project on others what you are.'
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 4:10pm On May 13, 2020
And they said she doesn't fight back... grin cheesy. That's some punchline if you ask me! grin grin







This thread is getting more interesting : Paxie55/ Dande55 bring some popcorn! grin
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by KanwuliaExtra:
bukatyne:
@KanwuliaExtra:

I can understand why you think someone else must have a pedophilic husband or an ungodly one or whatever:

Not everyone have open marriages where each spouse sleeps around or other immoral defects and baggage they carry around.

Let they say 'you project on others what you are.'
grin cheesy grin cheesy grin cheesy
Soooooo ? This is what had been killing you slowly about my NL IDs? shocked
YOU SEE ME DEY HIDE? NA WHO ASK YA?
Still enjoying my open marriage o. TO FORSAKE ALL OTHERS WAS NEVER IN MY MARRIAGE CONTRACT. Unlike YOU HYPOCRITES! How won’t you be spreading misery all over NL and offline?

#J-O-L-O-S-Y- - - ! ! !#

If I were gay, you would have sent “spiritual assassins” to my doorstep fa!

My GOD is not the same as YOUR GOD OF SPIRITUAL LIES AND EMOTIONAL PRISONERS! Amen!!!! cheesy WE ARE FREE-SPIRITED, UNGODLY-BEINGS AND DO WHATEVER WE DAMN WELL PLEASE WITHOUT CONSEQUENCES. E DEY PAIN YOU? grin grin grin grin

Eh Wo? Na only me waka kam dis morning? grin
You don go pray for my mata for ya mountain-of-fiery-LIES-church last night? Or your “sojas” don gif you liver to “fight back”? wink YOUR NL parrots don taya to post for you? Chai! Chai! Chai!

Are you tired of that your nauseating “WOE IS ME! I AM BEING CRUCIFIED LIKE MY LORD” NL persona? C’mon, let your true “light” shine! grin

That my post to you was deleted, why bring it up again? Must have gotten to ya huhn? Bitter truths. wink

Is it because it is still on your thread(Kamisha was smart enough to save a “portion of it” , knowing that HEAVY PUNCHES DIRECTED AT YOU WOULD DISAPPEAR LIKE MAGIC KE! (The usual tricks of your NIZOORIALAND-NL, ever-baised MODS/SUPERMODS against NL non-AssskissLickers. grin). . . . You still felt the need to address it? AFTER THE POST HAD BEEN DELETED? grin WOW!

I did not state you have a pedophilic husband. I only likened your unrealistically-sanctimonious mentality to such a woman’s.

Do you know what an “analogy” means?

Please, look it up and learn to comprehend what you read. Your subconscious MEAN-SPIRITEDNESS is glaring for the whole world to see.

Keep exposing yourself! I am loving it! kiss

This is the post that was reported by one of your croonies.


HERE GOES. . . . A more palatable and revised version. wink

I repeat:

BUKATAYNE!!!!

Yup! You are a NL case-study.
Do you understand why?

1. You are more dangerous than the CORONA VIRUS.You can kill both body and soul slowly, while you watch with pride and celebrate with “your god” that you’ve done his will. grin

You are the kind of woman that will watch her peDOphilic husband molest ALL HER CHILDREN (both male and female combined) and accept her fate as “the MISERABLE will of HER pastor and god”! grin

2. Keeping that dysfunctional marriage intact with a SATANIC HUSBAND and DAMAGED “godly-chikdren” is always gonna be A priory. Women LIKE YOU would not want the world to shame them abi? cheesy

MARRIAGE IS ALWAYS A DO OR DIE AFFAIR WITH RELIGIOUS STRUGGLE LOVE!

Are we surprised we had MEN like JIM JONES that can only support and LOVE WOMEN like you on and offline? cheesy

NL is very DULL! When you show up to provide the necessary avenues to STUDY YOUR MINDSET, don’t be flattered. You are only an OVERLY-SANCTIMONIOUS-CYBER LAB-RAT or GUINEA-PIG used to examine the inner workings of a biased and prejudicial mind against ANY LIFESTYLE different from your “godly” one!

PEOPLE WILL BE EXPOSED AND LEARN TO ONLY MAKE THE KINDS OF CHOICES THEY SEE FIT, DESPITE YOUR LACK OF SYMPATHETIC EMOTIONAL SYSTEM! kiss

The consequences of INDIVIDUAL LIFESTYLE CHOICES is NOBODY’S BUSINESS. If they need help, you are NOT a therapist! They know where to go for help. Not on NL!

#TEAM UNGODLY OPEN MARRIAGE AND PROOOOOOUD#!!!!! 20 YEARS ++++++ AND STILL ROCKING AND PHOCKING UPANDAN!!!! cool cool coolWey ya own? tongue tongue tongue ABI NA HOLY GHOST YOU DEY MARRY? cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackkhaus: 4:19pm On May 13, 2020
bukatyne:
And I repeat:

Your curse right back at you.

You don't deserve daughters? So it be.
You don't deserve sons? So it be.

As you confess with your hands, so it will be unto you.

Amen.

Besides, aren't you a lesbian again?

I am wondering the kind of bitterness that would propel you to spew such curses to yourself.

Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth/hands speaketh.
Let her be, don't bite please...

When they start projecting negative thoughts on your marriage and life, that's how you know they are in serious pains.


Witchcraft 101. cheesy
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 4:25pm On May 13, 2020
emmaodet:
You have a point though.
It is like a girl saying I am becoming bad/sleeping around/multiple dating because there are no good guys anymore.
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(op): 4:27pm On May 13, 2020
crackkhaus:
Let her be, don't bite please...

When they start projecting negative thoughts on your marriage and life, that's how you know they are in serious pains.


Witchcraft 101. cheesy
Bite ke?

I just repackaged her own words back to her.
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by emmaodet: 4:32pm On May 13, 2020
bukatyne:
It is like a girl saying I am becoming bad/sleeping around/multiple dating because there are no good guys anymore.
Yes, i understand
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 4:35pm On May 13, 2020
I thought I was the only one with a friend who will never fully agree with your opinions or suggestions to your face but will go behind to do exactly what you advised or restate your opinions to other people offline.

It takes a lot of maturity dealing with such people and a lot of patience too. Lol.


#chewing popcorn. grin cheesy
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Dande55: 4:48pm On May 13, 2020
Ariza:
And they said she doesn't fight back... grin cheesy. That's some punchline if you ask me! grin grin







This thread is getting more interesting : Paxie55/ Dande55 bring some popcorn! grin
Awww. Thanks for the mention.
Lemme quickly read through grin
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 4:50pm On May 13, 2020
Dande55:
Awww. Thanks for the mention.
Lemme quickly read through grin
Babe, I don miss you ahswear! Didn't see anyone to laugh with since grin cheesy grin




Read through FAST! grin
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Genoa(m): 5:01pm On May 13, 2020
KanwuliaExtra:
grin cheesy grin cheesy grin cheesy
YOU SEE ME DEY HIDE?
Still enjoying my open marriage o. TO FORSAKE ALL OTHERS WAS NEVER IN MY MARRIAGE CONTRACT. Unlike YOU HYPOCRITES! How won’t you be spreading misery all over NL and offline.

If I were gay, you would have sent “spiritual assassins” to my doorstep fa!

My GOD is not the same as YOUR GOD OF SPIRITUAL LIES AND EMOTIONAL PRISONERS! Amen!!!! cheesy WE ARE FREE-SPIRITED AND DO WGATEVER WE DAMN WELL PLEASE WITHOUT CONSEQUENCES. E DEY PAIN YOU? grin grin grin grin

Eh Wo? Na only me waka kam dis morning? grin
You don go pray for my mata for ya mountain of fiery LIES church last night? Or your “sojas” don gif you liver to “fight back”? wink YOUR NL parrots don taya to post for you?

Are you tired of your “WOE IS ME! I AM BEING CRUCIFIED LIKE MY LORD” NL persona? C’mon, let your true “light” shine! grin

That my post to you was deleted?
Is it because it is still on your thread(Kamisha was smart enough to save a “portion of it”). . . you still feel the need to address it? grin

I did not state you have a pedophilic husband. I only likened your unrealistically-sanctimonious mentality to such women.

Do you know what an “analogy” means?

Please, look it up and learn to comprehend what you read. Your subconscious MEAN-SPIRITEDNESS is glaring for the whole world to see.

Keep exposing yourself! I am loving it! kiss

I repeat:





#TEAM UNGODLY OPEN MARRIAGE AND PROOOOOOUD#!!!!! 20 YEARS ++++++ AND STILL ROCKING AND PHOCKING UPANDAN!!!! cool cool coolWey ya own? tongue tongue tongue ABI NA HOLY GHOST YOU DEY MARRY? cheesy cheesy cheesy
Nonsense.


Shame.

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