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Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by cococandy(f): 11:58am On May 11, 2020 |
I agree with only some of the bold. Work can give fulfillment. There are different types of fulfillment. while work can fulfill some aspects of one’s being, the balance with family, social etc life can make up for the rest. And there was contradiction with the parts I quoted in the previous post above even though it was in response to someone else. But that’s by the way. my post was in part response to you as the OP of the thread (doesn’t mean that every bit of it was in disagreement) and also more general speaking to anyone who’s reading the thread. Readers often take posts as for or against. So it’s either women should focus on work or focus on marriage. And that’s all they are taking away. No room for balance. Remember there are other readers and contributors. bukatyne: 2 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 11:58am On May 11, 2020 |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 12:00pm On May 11, 2020 |
Bukatyne, you’ve to work on the way you present certain subjects. You always say things in a way that seems like you’re giving people directives. The fact that your traditional abi old school lifestyle is working for you doesn’t mean it’ll work for another individual and you’ve to stop bringing religion into things like this when you’re being schooled on how you should present your subjects because it’s not everyone here that is religious.(If you can’t do this,there are two things involved: create your threads on the religion section or add a special tag on the headline of your thread to make people know that the thread is meant for only religious folks.) 16 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 12:02pm On May 11, 2020 |
Kaamisha: I don't think such a discussion can be held on Nairaland, perhaps Quora. Then again what can be described as a happy marriage and successful career is subjective to some extent. Funny enough about a week or two, I got to know about this amazing woman, who was determined to suport her husband financially. She went from selling used clothes to making millions by investing. She had an amazing husband that supported her and great friends, who didn't make her feel like she had to choose between her goal an her marriage Her name is Grace Ofure and you can learn more about her, if you start watching the video from 15:51 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WW2VlyMAHhs 10 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by cococandy(f): 12:23pm On May 11, 2020 |
Kaamisha:I agree and it shouldn’t be. We can do both If you want to climb up high on the career ladder you will have to put a lot of time into building your career. The time you won't get to spend with your kids. Some jobs will take you around the world, hopping planes, living in hotels.I feel like it also depends on the job in question. Some jobs you can get to your goal without having to be away from your family that much. But I understand that choice is important here. When you listen to some women whose careers required them to work extra hours and possibly traveling, you will often hear how painful it was for them to leave their kids in the care of others, supportive husband or not, so the topic is worth having a discussion and as more women aim high and higher, many women will feel they have to choose.I agree. It will take some time though. We need to educate ourselves to stop feeling guilty about sometimes delegating the home front to husbands while we also strive like they are doing to have a fulfilling career life. We should offer support, seek solutions, not condemnation because it has been a long practice for men to have their career opportunities and wives who would have their backs at home, which led to financial inequality and many advantages for women. For women the situation is relatively new and still very difficult. I like your diplomatic approach though. Tell me about it. When I hear anyone argue about how women don’t contribute and I think of the ages of financial oppression that women have had to endure, anyone who thinks we aren’t doing well for how far we have come isn’t a truth seeker. But that’s another topic. |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 12:26pm On May 11, 2020 |
akaahs: The bold in a post I responded to someone else responds to you. bukatyne: |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:48pm On May 11, 2020 |
Kaamisha: 6 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 12:57pm On May 11, 2020 |
I meant one that doesn’t have the kanwulia name attached to the id/moniker That name don too commit @KanwuliaExtra 6 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 12:58pm On May 11, 2020 |
Kaamisha: This post is very laughable. With your superior sense of reasoning, you can't even decipher what the OP is talking about. Because you and most of the trolls read to response and not understand, you conjure all sorts in your head and respond. Where did you'all get the idea that this thread is marriage vs. work? 3 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 1:00pm On May 11, 2020 |
Plead:Lol... Trouble her no further, with time she will realize our points and see how useless it is to think everyone is her enemy. Iza very simple sturv 7 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 1:18pm On May 11, 2020 |
ThothHermes: It is amazing, innit? |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:18pm On May 11, 2020 |
Kuns84: What the F is your problem? Do you perhaps suffer from brain hemorrhage? You must be delusional, I'm sure. Just stop mentioning me unnecessarily. 4 Likes |
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