dom80:


I understand you bro. As it being she wasn't pregnant, it would have been a separate thing. Though, she has terminated the pregnancy three weeks ago

Another man sperm and abortion for another man

Highest betrayal

jonahhh:
Women will seek validation from other men once theyre sure you wont leave them... Women will love you and still have that one stubborn guy in their contact they play with which in most times ends up with random sex. If you leave your babe, trust me the next one might be worst...

You are right. She hasn't done that before and because her colleagues in her place of work have random guys that they play game with and she wants to join that click but she didn't know the field is not always green at the other side. She got the experience she needed and she got it in the hard way.

She has so many weakness which I have seen (level of thinking, somehow loose, lack self control, easily deceive, parental upbringing, level of exposure, I don't care attitude, etc) in her and may bring more problems if I marry her. I know her too well but she doesn't know herself and I'm trying to help her out so she wouldn't destroy her life. I have tried my best to let know her weakness but she doesn't see it as big deal. So, if she doesn't change her attitude after seeing a therapist, I will have to quit the relationship.

Hypocrite of the highest order. So you cheated ist and you have made yourself a saint by giving her rules and regulations? Its karma working its beautiful magic on you.

This union is heading for a disaster as both of you have cheated and dont value each other.

She slept with him more than twice.

This is the first time you know she cheated.

Just like men check out women, women check out men and fantasize about sleeping with them.

The ones who go on with the instinct to sleep with everyone they fantasize about are the problems we have.

Your girl can tell you she's playing a game. Well, if it's football and you commit a foul in the eighteen yard box, a penalty is awarded as part of the game depending on the gravity of the offence and a red card can be given, for example, the intentional offence committed by Suarez. If the penalty costs the opponent the game, the lessons would have been learnt. In other words, you can forgive a cheater, but never ever go back to a relationship you broke out from because of infidelity.

TheAfricaQueen:
Hypocrite of the highest order. So you cheated ist and you have made yourself a saint by giving her rules and regulations? Its karma working its beautiful magic on you.

This union is heading for a disaster as both of you have cheated and dont value each other.

I know I cheated on her but I never had extra affairs with those ladies. They are just fling and I pay them off.

I'm not a saint but I'm a man. It is preferable for a man to cheat even though it is bad than for woman (girlfriend/fiancée/wife) to cheat.

dom80:


I know I cheated on her but I never had extra affairs with those ladies. They are just fling and I pay them off.

I'm not a saint but I'm a man. It is preferable for a man to cheat even though it is bad than for woman (girlfriend/fiancée/wife) to cheat[b][/b].

Whether its a fling with an escort/prostitut£ or sex with your friends with benefits etc, cheating is cheating. Karma is glad your girlfriend cheated on you. Your relationship is doomed for failure.

Forgive her and always use your brain but trust is gone. Although she shouldn’t have done that from the start since you’re always there for her. Although it’s hard to forget but you can still give her second chance. I had a baby that cheated on me too and I forgave everything. And we good. Although she always feel insecure and never trust me because she know she messed up big time

dom80:
Hello Nairalanders,

I just want to know if anyone (particularly guys) has given her girlfriend a second chance when she cheated.

My fiancée that I intend to marry cheated behind my back two months ago. Though, I didn't catch her red handed but she confessed to me because of the mess she put herself into. According to her, She was trying to play game with someone she met two months ago just to get money from the the guy. At the process, she got carried away and had sex with the guy twice without protection. She confessed to me because she became pregnant and she knew I wasn't the one responsible for her pregnancy because I used protection all the time after our first experience. I was mad at her and I had to end the relationship in the presence of her parents. Though, she has terminated the pregnancy and was begging me to forgive her.

I forgave her three weeks ago so as to move on but it was so hard because I love her so much and I have nurture our relationship for three years. Before I forgave her, we both had one on one conversation because I wanted to know the reasons behind her cheating. All she said was to play game with the guy and got carried away by mistake. This is someone I provide for all I needs, care for her 100%, helped her parents with finance, go any length for her just to make her happy. I gave her money for upkeep every month and the money i give her every month is not up to the money she collected from the guy within those two month she messed around. In fact, She doesn't lack anything with me because she knows I'm not a thousandnaire and I also Bleep her well that she tells me how tired she was each time we had sex.

I gave her another chance because I love her so much and this is the first time she will ever cheat on me. I set rules (Do's and Don't) this time around I know no one is perfect and I have also cheated behind her back with several ladies (fling and call girls) in which she doesn't know about but I always used protection with these ladies back then.

Guys, can you give your girlfriend or fiancée another chance to prove herself right knowing fully well that trust has been broken?

I know guys are polygamous in nature and guys cheat for pleasure but a cheating girlfriend/fiancée/wife is unacceptable especially when you have the intention to marry her.

my first time to comment here on a romance section.my observations about this op is that he had already made up his mind to be with this said girl because of his love for her according to him even if everybody here should go against it.read careful the ones he replied are the ones that said what he wanted to hear and watch all the comments that goes against him,he never replied them....I think you guys are wasting your time in dishing an advice that seems irrelevant to the op.so op,continue with your choice....

Thuglife2020:
Forgive her and always use your brain but trust is gone. Although she shouldn’t have done that from the start since you’re always there for her. Although it’s hard to forget but you can still give her second chance. I had a baby that cheated on me too and I forgave everything. And we good. Although she always feel insecure and never trust me because she know she messed up big time

You are right bro. She shouldn't have done that from the start because I provide for all her need and she never lack anything in life. I gave her 100% attention. I told her that the trust has been broken by her and if she is serious about keeping the relationship me, she will need to proove to him that i can trust her back. That means she will need to be willing to cut off all contact with any guys disturbing her including the guy she cheated with, even if that includes quitting your work.

Though, I have forgiven her but its hard to forget. I didn't change for her. I still do all the things I use to do for her including the caring stuff and all that. I'm watching her to see if she has change and if she has, i will continue with the wedding preparation because I already have the traditional lists her dad gave me. I'm not rushing myself up for her. I'm taking my time.

This life no balance

dom80:


You are right bro. She shouldn't have done that from the start because I provide for all her need and she never lack anything in life. I gave her 100% attention. I told her that the trust has been broken by her and if she is serious about keeping the relationship me, she will need to proove to him that i can trust her back. That means she will need to be willing to cut off all contact with any guys disturbing her including the guy she cheated with, even if that includes quitting your work.

Though, I have forgiven her but its hard to forget. I didn't change for her. I still do all the things I use to do for her including the caring stuff and all that. I'm watching her to see if she has change and if she has, i will continue with the wedding preparation because I already have the traditional lists her dad gave me. I'm not rushing myself up for her. I'm taking my time.

Like I said before, I wouldn’t advice you to quit her. I’ve got dude who his girlfriend cheated on him and I’ve got brother who his girlfriend cheated on him as well and they never quit them after they’ve plea and realized their mistakes. When such happened to me, I never state any condition for my girlfriend.. she will be the one to cut communications with any guy disturbing her. You don’t have to tell her to change her contact.. don’t ask her to do anything .. just let her know it’s the last change and if she mess up again.. you’re done for good. It’s hard to quit and forget all the memories you guys have had together. She cheats, fine but let it slide and don’t use it to react bro. It’s hard to quit someone you love. But I”ll urge to give her second chance. Blessed!

dom80:


I know I cheated on her but I never had extra affairs with those ladies. They are just fling and I pay them off.

I'm not a saint but I'm a man. It is preferable for a man to cheat even though it is bad than for woman (girlfriend/fiancée/wife) to cheat.

Who the **** trains men like you? How can you be so hypocritical? Because you are a man u feel u can do whatever? And people wonder why men dont live as long as women and dont have the privilege of being as close to their kids as women.

You both messed up, theres no such thing as bigger and smaller. What you should do is also confess as she confessed to you or atleast promise to be a better man. I hope when you have daughters one day and a man treats her the way you have done you would also tell her that its how men are.