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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by faceland: 11:46pm On May 18, 2020
If he is taking drugs for 18 years and started in secondary school, it means he was 24 years old in secondary school.

He has underlining mental problem that the drugs helps him, you didn't save him then, you cannot save him now. You start by kicking him out and get police to beat the poop out of him if he shows up near your house (tough love).

Many people do drugs but they have a job and buy my own drugs (just like many governors, doctors and so on). So people like your brother are partly irresponsible. Where I am, 40% of police and 80% of soldier are on drugs, mechanic, bricklayer and many hard working people use different drugs and function (it is called maturity and knowing yourself/body).
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by stanliwise(m): 11:48pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.
Your brother needs to go the rehab.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by CodeTemplar: 11:48pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

Wofbi, Winners Chapel, let him try that.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by cannanland(m): 11:48pm On May 18, 2020
Hello Sir, if you believe that there is a God somewhere up there and there is nothing he cannot do. Please Call me here: 07011872797. And mind you, I won't ask you to send a dime, if i ask you for any money, you are free to stop talking to me, that is if you called anyway. I just wanna tell you some steps to do, which I believe the result will be positive. Your brother is the healed of the Lord.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by WeRblessed(f): 11:48pm On May 18, 2020
My friend's brother was an addict for over 25 years. None of psychiatric facilities in California could help him, so someone brought a suggestion that healed him completely. He's now five years clean of substance abuse. He has maintained one job for the past three years, move out of his parents basement and live on his own and pays his own Bills. He now has a serious Nigerian girlfriend. The solution is below!

Arrange with a medical doctor and plan for your brother to come for medical checkup. After the checkup, have them make up the result to show that most of his organs are damaged due to consistent abuse of chemical substances. Have them tell him that he has only three months to live. Have them tell him that there is no treatment at this time, that the only treatment is totally abstaining from drugs if not he will die. Trust me, your brother will change immediately. In fact, he will start sleeping in the church and speaking in tongues.

Drug addiction is not a joke. I am praying for you and your family and I believe that God will use your brother to deliver others hooked on drugs in jesus name Amen.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by stanliwise(m): 11:49pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt
please stop being so petty jare. To clear your ignorance take a stroll to the rehab and see drug addict worse than he is.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by star4ever: 11:49pm On May 18, 2020
merahki:



I hope the OP has noted this bolded point.

Noted with thanks

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by muffyt05: 11:50pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

Your comment is just so unbelievable, can you see how you're mocking God yourself?
As much as I believe that sometimes, parents actions rub off on their offsprings, which is by the way, an African thing, what about the guy's ways of life? Look, lemme not lie to you, his long years of addiction to substances is responsible for his predicaments and nothing to do with the parents. Have you considered if the guy mingled with real time smokers and substance abusers while in secondary school or in the Uni and became addicted? This matter of addiction, whether drugs or alcohol is a matter of self discipline and resort. Please,never blame anyone for your own misdeeds or wrong doings.
I'm sure the parents didn't give him his first drag, and as such, shouldn't be blamed for his problems. I drink well and puff once in a while, my parents are sure not responsible for this, whatever the outcome is, it's a matter of knowing when to stop or knowing your guage.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by usy309(m): 11:51pm On May 18, 2020
So sorry OP about his attitude...This is the real attitude of Cronic Drug addict...One; take away ur mun from him...if not for the Clsoure of almost all rehab Centre in Kaduna...I would have Recommend Malam Niga for him...but ask any Traditional medical expert...they have one Concoction, they will give him for like two weeks, he will persistently keep vomiting, it take all the rubbish of the drug from his blood...after that...he will never want to have a small of anything called Drug..am a testimony of many Victims...
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:51pm On May 18, 2020
humilitypays:
To cure an addiction you need to replace it with another addiction, but a lesser addiction. There are some youthful addiction he can be helped to develop passion for as a way of letting him quit the current drug addiction.


One of them is womanising or even gambling wink

That is also applicable to masturbation, to cure that addiction, the person need to replace it with another addiction to get their brain occupied with another exciting stuff during the time they fall back to their main addiction.

I need to be paid to continue shocked shocked


This is right
Substitution therapy is also used
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by faceland: 11:51pm On May 18, 2020
stanliwise:
Your brother needs to go the rehab.

Rehab is bullsht in Nigeria. He would network and they would talk about drugs 24/7... People who go to rehab are those who would sincerely soon overdose (die) so their family save them until they detox. Once they come out, they are getting high.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by stanliwise(m): 11:52pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
ur opinion though. I think it's u that something is wrong with. No parent bring up a child in a proper way and reap calamities. Do well and read the book of Proverbs. Also read the laws of karma
But at the end of the day, people have their choices. A man can go astray anytime... Don’t forget
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by amrichy(m): 11:53pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:



Not willing. All the efforts were forcefully made.
This appears to me to be where the main problem lies: as long as he is unwilling to get out of the habit, it will be hard to make him stop it. As soon as he's no longer under the influence of whatever is done to force him to stop the habit and is at liberty to do as he wishes, he will most probably relapse.
Further, because of the number of years he has been in the habit of taking hard drugs (18+ years!), it will be hard for any therapy to completely and permanently free him of the urge to take drugs. Hence when he is out of therapy and the urge to take drugs comes (it will surely come again), he will most likely give in and relapse (since he personally has little or no determination/willingness to stop).
For this reason, to make him stop permanently, there's need to make him genuinely and seriously willing or ready change. To do this, try to make him realize what he is losing as a result of drugs abuse (he is wasting away his one and only life!) and show him what he stands to gain if he stop.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by graciousolo(m): 11:54pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

You, your god and the 26 people that liked and shared your post are sick... Is too easy to twist the god narrative to suit stupid sentiments.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by stanliwise(m): 11:55pm On May 18, 2020
faceland:


Rehab is bullsht in Nigeria. He would network and they would talk about drugs 24/7... People who go to rehab are those who would sincerely soon overdose (die) so their family save them until they detox. Once they come out, they are getting high.
Yea true, if so he can go to a private rehab.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by efeski(m): 11:55pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

This is a very silly conclusion to arrive at

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by omoba2k2: 11:57pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

Let me advise from personal experience. My brother to had drug issues For my brother we took him to a rehab centre operated by RCCG in Lagos can't remember the name now i guess CADEB u can google it/ but the most important thing is change of environment after he is out, You can send him to an Anglican theological school with him knowing that a job placement and a life is guaranteed if he can pull through. It is not easy, my bro was chasing heroine so i don't know what urs is on.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by DrObum(m): 11:58pm On May 18, 2020
Ejenavi18:
He should be readmitted to a psychiatric hospital. I think he's suffering from a relapse since he has already been on admission before.
Afterwards he should be made to undergo rehabilitation at the Drug Abuse Treatment Education and Research(DATER) unit of the hospital.
If it's possible to change his environment after rehabilitation, do that as well.
Also, who are his close friends? Are they into drugs as well? If that's the case he has to stop being around such persons.
It takes a lot of effort for most people to overcome Mental and Behavioural Disorder (MBD) due to psychoactive substance abuse.
I have a friend who's into substance abuse just like your brother. Currently he's been readmitted again for the 3rd time since he suffered a relapse just last year, a promising young guy like that.
Hi, you must have trained in Uselu or thereabouts if you stay in Warri like your bio says.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by PeaceNexus(m): 11:58pm On May 18, 2020
Sorry about this. I also suggest that when he shows signs of improvement that you consider changing his environment as earlier suggested. It would go a long way in alienating him from his regular and known source of drug supply.
star4ever:



Most of his friends that started this lifestyle with him later abandoned drug abuse. All of them are now married and have education, families and means of livelihood.

As you recommended, we may need to change to another Psychiatric hospital. Please can you recommend any?


Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:59pm On May 18, 2020
This is heartbreaking kai! cry cry cry A change of environment would have been the best therapy. But if he’s not willing, there’s little or nothing you can do. I pray for him willpower to withdraw and quit completely.
Crack na big shit!

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by WeRblessed(f): 12:00am On May 19, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt


You should cover your face in shame right now. You are utterly out of line here. Do you know what drug addiction is? I'm glad that you may have kids one day, or already have one. How dare you put a blame on his parents? Did you know how painful it is after training a child they went the oposite direction? Have you also considered peer pressure? I'm so glad that Karma doesn't forget. He will definitely remember this your comment. People like you are the reason why Nigeria is totally backward. I pray for your children.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by linearity: 12:01am On May 19, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

Nonsense and despicable!

The Bible say, thou shall not bear false witness against thy Neigbor. You speak of what you don’t know and bear false witness to something above your pay grade, something it’s best to keep one’s mouth closed.

I guess Job’s mom and/or dad must have done terrible things for him to be afflicted.

Imagine some other ignorant religious people are liking the post, because of an off-placed Bible passage.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by doggedfighter(f): 12:02am On May 19, 2020
SILVERLINES:
I suggest there must have been a curse in your family, use my suggestion as a topic of your prayers after three months come back here and share your testimony.
Yinmu undecided
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Ejenavi18(f): 12:02am On May 19, 2020
DrObum:

Hi, you must have trained in Uselu or thereabouts if you stay in Warri like your bio says.
Yeah, I had my psychiatric experience at Uselu.
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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Bojack(m): 12:09am On May 19, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt
Shut your fücking mouth

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by omonnakoda: 12:10am On May 19, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt
If you have nothing helpful to say

Keep your stupid opinions in the cesspool you call a mind

You are not a human being
You even have the front to bring God into it.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by DrObum(m): 12:12am On May 19, 2020
Ejenavi18:

Yeah, I had my psychiatric experience at Uselu.
I see. Your knowledge of the system gave you away. You're a nurse I guess.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Semaj77(m): 12:13am On May 19, 2020
irunoko:
it is already in the Bible where it said I will visit the sins of the father's to the tenth generation.truth is always unpleasant

Your Bible was written by mad people and believed by equally insane people

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by olaboy33(m): 12:16am On May 19, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.


Let him stay in jail for one year.

He's going to adapt and during this period, regain his senses.

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