Ohizman73:
the woman never said anything bad.it would sound absurb to many this modern time.And moreever since it was not forced on by her by the family.What has been the families reaction ,at least they took part in his funeral ceremonies. there is a procedure in this regard concerning her fate.despite modern times and all you are the best relative in line.the family opinion matters alot ,most especially if they were in good relations with the man. you own it a responsibility to take care of the mans business interest till the children are of age and affairs of running the mans home. that is why conscience wise you visit the place out of goodwill. what part of nigeria are you from.what is the age of his only son.what age did ur uncle die.what is ur age and his wifes own.

words frm elder.Agba o ni tan lorile. May u live long

femi4:
That was Old testament, Christianity didn't start there

As Christians: Study Old testament to learn how they lived but study new testament to know how to live

bros you very funny ooo, so old testament is no longer valid at this point.

so why are our pastors still collecting tithes, is tithes inside new testament, was it not fr old testament it originate from.

everybody jst select whatever suit deir present condition and move on

JoshTheGreat:
Brotherly, you are married, concentrate on your family and it's progress, rather than bringing to your head...


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Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

Your uncle's brothers should be the ones not you,that's if at all.

No dulling o, there are so many people who renders such service temporary//permanent service, we have so many of them even here on this forum. if you can't do the job people plenty wey need am, enemyofprogress number1. even if she no fine self them go manage her like that

First of all, what are her stats - front and back, facial...

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

This is a matter of choice,a battle between faith and tradition. wisdom is profitable to direct.

Modesthy

Let the marriage bed be free of Fornication- Hebrews 13:4. What does that mean to you? Read the full verse and ask yourself what it means.

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

IVF option. Donate sperm via fertility clinic with your wife's consent.

My advice is that
1) i think you just a church goer, cos if you are a Christian, you wouldn't think of this, pls kindly read 1 Corinthians 7, it will help you.
2) people telling you to give her more kids, wouldn't be there to help you when troubles start, definitely there will be serious trouble.
3) if she wants more kids, she should go and abduct a child or children, they are looking for new homes
4) In this tym and Nigeria condition under buhari you want to start running two homes
5) only thing you are obligated is to train ur late uncle's son, by the way if you agree, what are the chances of her giving birth cos she's in her 40s and in Science, her chances are slim
6) How will your uncle feel inside his grave, a woman that you took as a mother is now your lover, forget tradition, even in tradition, if you were ur uncle's direct younger brother, who is older than the woman, it is a different story, but you are his nephew

promotervickky:
I have been noticing some activities here, most post that has been hitting front page are from accounts that has been opened within the week, last two days or today.

This one was opened today

Seun

I have noticed that too...just to draw traffic . The OP registered today and I've commented about this earlier. There are some monikers here who love posting fake love stories. Before i read or comment, I'd first look up their profile to know if they've posted something similar in the past...but truly, I know someone in my family who's in this guy's shoes. They had kids and all her children she had for the man are well-to-do today. The man is over 60 years old now

This is dicey.
First, her request was out of strong consideration and reflection. If your uncle was a man of substance, I think you should consider it with the consent of the family member.
If he is not, take responsibility of the Child he left behind and encourage the woman to find someone else.

this issue is heavy

[quote author=Modesthy post=89821126]I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, my dear i will speak as an igbo man, though i don't kwn wia u are from. By our tradition u commit no sin especial if yur immediate father is late and u ar d only man left with such capacity, afterall in igboland our fathers had children 4 their step mom, when d nids aris

i can help you as your distant cousin na

Sixfeetbelle:


If you must do this request, involve the elders, at least 3 older men in your family to discuss on this issue and get their acceptance. Tell them what she said, tell them you're interested and let them decide if you're the right man for the job or not.

If you jump over them and do this, you'll be committing a lot of atrocities. First of, her sleeping with a married man is wrong. Second, your child with her won't be seen as your uncle's, which should be the intent behind her request, but as your child and that is adultery; more like betrayal to your uncle.

Whatever you're being advised here must only be done after you get the go-ahead to impregnate her cause even in the olden days, a man was chosen by the elders to impregnate a widow to continue the family's lineage, he didn't do it of his own volition. That's tradition. Follow it.

also he must involve hiz wife in this
nice advice!

Ohizman73:


It is easier said,the moment she decides that you would be first person to cast a stone.IN Nigeria and Africa we are all aware of the stigma accorded the woman. but if a man loses his and the next minute he can marry without no hassles.

Oga, she should remarry. Make I give her picken begin scatter my own family? By the way, is there no a more elderly person in the family that can grant her wishfull wish? How come she only has a child with the uncle? @Op, you will have to start servicing that woman from time to time o. So oo, please don't do it.

SyndyB:
Why are you disturbing us when you already know its infidelity, are you looking for who will
ginger you to do the wrong thing? Nawa for you ooo. If you need advice then go and meet your wife at home. All I see is someone who had made-up his mind to live wrong then he goes around looking for who will tap him on the back and say "ride on".

He can impregnate the woman and not tell his wife

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

The only tin dat should deter u is d fact that u re married, if not den i dont see any sin in it.

Even in the Bible it was practised, u can ask JUDAH if u doubt me.....then what the heck

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

My brother, any child you have outside your matrimonial home will definitely cause you pain later in future. Refusal to accept those children as your own leads to abject poverty and many bad things in the future. The mystery behind what many people are suffering today is as a result of past mistakes or careless life of the past which can never be corrected again.

Flee to protect your future from complications that's is very devastating at old age.

You will not suffer at old age ooo. Amin

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

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I believe she has love for the family, that's why she proposed that to you(at least someone she has been with before the husband died).
I also believe that she is responsible type because most ladies don't even care rather roaming around sleeping with men having kids outside which will be a kind of shame to the family and keeps them talking about her action.
Bro, the best advise you can get, is from a few elders of your family.
Think about this 50:50..... consider her feelings, consider your uncle also consider yourself. Remember, nothing is new in this life .
Life is a movie, everyone busy playing his/her own character. No one has the right to state or judge what is right or wrong, the wise will only be busy playing that character that contributes to its history after him/her.
remember: lot's daughters slept with their father and begot him children by going against the law to retain their father's history.
I believe you are now a man (look things beyond the optical view ) never join the chorus of the audience .
Benferdy Nwafeenna: has spoken

HeightsKE:


Your uncle's brothers should be the ones not you,that's if at all.

It could be any male in the husband's family.

According to tradition the widow is give the option to choose any male she likes to impregnate her

tunary:
No dulling o, there are so many people who renders such service temporary//permanent service, we have so many of them even here on this forum. if you can't do the job people plenty wey need am, enemyofprogress number1. even if she no fine self them go manage her like that

if sneke dose,nt act like it should, little children will use it after fetching dry wood to tire it together....food of thought...

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

Check your family's tradition and seek advice from your elders. In Ijaw land(Bayelsa), it is customary for a younger man to inherit his late father/brother's wife but you also have the right to say no . If you say no, the woman has the right to look for husband outside the family. My dad rejected his late dad's wife, til the rejection she had no right to look for suitor outside the family. Few years ago, my uncle who is yet to marry also rejected his late elder brother's wife. It means these things are fading off.

kurlz:
Stay Faraway from her. Only relate with the son from afar. There are other and older men in the family she should approach them. What nonsense?

are the older men not probably married too?

This man say u want to chop your dead uncle's wife and stop with all these sermon.

Shameful man. Look at your reason.
What of those that have only one child?
She couldn't conceive when her husband was alive, now she is approaching menopause she will conceive.
All of a sudden u want to nyansh somebody u see as a mother figure.


U guys are shameless. And people are actually supporting this abomination?
Some qouted bible too.
Shame.

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

whichever way you choose to handle this issue eventually sir, her "having children" with you is a no-no!

If she wants to remarry, she should just do it!

BareFacedLies:


I could be any male in the husband's family.

According to tradition the widow is give the option to choose any male she likes to impregnate her

Which tradition are u guys talking about?
20th century or 21st?

BayMc:




whichever way you choose to handle this issue eventually sir, her "having children" with you is a no-no!

If she wants to remarry, she should just do it!

At least, somebody with sense.

What l read here wanna make me puke

In yoruba land, it is called opo susu (to inherit dead mans wife).

clintz:
In the Bible book of genesis 38 God kill Onan for refusing to impregnate his late brothers wife. Nigerian Christians and hypocrisy we select only what we think is right in the Bible.

We select the one that favor us

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

Story for the gods. You as the producer of this movie, it may be undeniable that you father the only male child before you leave their house and the woman wants you to finish the job you started