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My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by MoneyMindset(m): 10:44am On May 26, 2020
An African lady dating a Canadian man has expressed her dissatisfaction towards her boyfriend’s parents’ use of the word Nigga to describe her while spending the lockdown at their place.
In her post on Reddit, the lady from Kenya revealed that she has been dating the man for over a year and they made the decision to spend the lockdown in his hometown.
My boyfriend’s parent called me a Nigga – African lady dating Canadian
His parents, whom she described as being nice towards her initially, used the N word to describe and she has been shattered since then.
She wrote:
“I heard my boyfriend’s parents say something racist about me,” she began.
“My boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) have been dating for a year now. To give a bit more context, he’s white and 100% Canadian, and I was born in Kenya (moved to Canada when I was 1). I had never met his parents because they live 3 hours away from us and he’s not super close to them anyway.
”When lockdown started and both our jobs closed, he asked if I wanted to spend a few weeks with them, so I could meet them and visit his hometown. I said ‘’sure, sounds fun!’’
”We drove there on a Friday night and when my bf introduced me to his parents, they were super nice. We were talking, laughing, all that good stuff. When it was getting late, my bf and I decided to prepare for bed and went upstairs. When he was already in bed, he realized he forgot his charger downstairs and asked me if I could please go get it.
”When I was walking down the stairs, I heard his mother (still at the kitchen table) mention my name, so being noisy, I stopped and listen. They said I was nice and I was happy to hear that, but then his father said ‘’it’s a shame she’s a nigg*r though’’. His mother answered ‘’as long as he doesn’t marry her, it’s fine. And he won’t, he knows we would be disappointed’’. I kind of froze up, waited for them to change the subject, got my bf’s charger and went upstairs.
I didn’t know how to feel, and I still don’t. I’m lucky enough to have never dealt with this kind of racism, so I’m a bit lost on what to do. What his mother said implies my bf knows his parents are not happy with him being with me.
Is this why he’s waited so long to introduce them to me? And why didn’t he warn me that his parents don’t want him dating a black girl? Do I even talk to him about it? I don’t want to cause more drama, but at the same time, I’m mad. And also sad. I know we’re not there yet, but would his parent’s disapproval stop him from marrying me?
And if we have kids, will their grandparents hate them because they’re not white enough? I love my boyfriend so much and I know he loves me, but I don’t know what to do and how to go about this.”
The woman received an overwhelming number ofresponses offering her comfort and advice.
“It makes me stick to my stomach that this happened to you and I am so sorry you were even in this situation. Yes, you need to confront your boyfriend about this as soon as possible. While he very well might not share the same disgusting views his parents do, he 150 per cent has to know they’re like this.” One person said.
Another wrote:
“This is not okay at all and even more not ok if your SO knew that they felt this way. If he knew that they were racist (even if he doesn’t think of it that way), he knowingly put you into this situation and into harms way.”
Others argued the woman shouldn’t necessarily end her relationship, but should instead allow her boyfriend to confront his parents about their views.
“Wow first of all, I’m really sorry about his parents. That really is a shame. I think you should tell your BF about what happened and let him handle it. You didn’t do anything wrong, they’re just being super racist and unreasonable. I really hope they start to look past your race and instead realise the other amazing things you have to offer.” Another advised.

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by Enwhen(m): 10:46am On May 26, 2020
What is Nigga ??

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by Naija246: 10:48am On May 26, 2020
they made a mistake..it should have been 'negress' grin

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by SweetBuns(f): 10:49am On May 26, 2020
if you feel offended when the word "niqqa" is tagged unto you as a black man/woman, then you're not an OG African undecided

we the black people have used that word amongst ourselves so much that its now a word of unity and belonging, not one of insult and racist jabs.

go anywhere, you'll see people (esp guys) greeting themselves using the nigga word

Nigga, what's up na?

ma niqqa!!!! how you day??

so I don't see a concrete reason why you should be offended by this trivial issue. no be him parents go marry you.
get off your high horse and reason

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by BlueAir: 10:50am On May 26, 2020
The way this one dey talk grin she has concluded her white "catch" will sweep her off her feet in a white shiny armor on an imaginary wedding day not knowing the guy has his own agenda for a black slave pussy.. tsk tsk tsk..the easiest women to deceive about flowery interracial marriage are those that have never travelled abroad.. or worse those that claim they are from at least "average income" family background hian reality is race supremacy exists in majority of whites..some surpress it but never kill it



Hm deal deals with a white man and learn other sophisticated versions of "wayo" cheesy more reason I always laughed behind screen and don't say anything to low self esteem ladies here that chew #teaminterracialmarriage not knowing they dey do themselves

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by IceLip: 10:51am On May 26, 2020
SweetBuns:
if you feel offended when the word "niqqa" is tagged unto you as a black man/woman, then you're not an OG African undecided

we the black people have used that word amongst ourselves so much that its now a word of unity and belonging, not one of insult and racist jabs.

go anywhere, you'll see people (esp guys) greeting themselves using the nigga word

Nigga, what's up na?

ma niqqa!!!! how you day??

so I don't see a concrete reason why you should be offended by this trivial issue. no be him parents go marry you.
get off your high horse and reason
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by StrikeBack(m): 10:52am On May 26, 2020
Topics like this are highly unnecessary

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by BlueAir: 10:55am On May 26, 2020
Reality is too ugly for u grin.hm
StrikeBack:
Topics like this are highly unnecessary

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by Vyzz: 10:56am On May 26, 2020
grin
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by donbachi(m): 10:57am On May 26, 2020
And u still dey there...c'mon disboyfriend..ease the lockdown by ur sef and go back to ur place.
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by richeeyo(m): 11:11am On May 26, 2020
BlueAir:
The way this one dey talk grin she has concluded her white "catch" will sweep her off her feet in a white shiny armor on an imaginary wedding day not knowing the guy has his own agenda for a black slave pussy.. tsk tsk tsk..the easiest women to deceive about flowery interracial marriage are those that have never travelled abroad.. reality is race supremacy exists in majority of whites..some surpress it but never kill it



Hm deal deals with a white man and learn other sophisticated versions of "wayo" cheesy more reason I always laughed behind screen and don't say anything to low self esteem ladies here that chew #teaminterracialmarriage not knowing they dey do themselves
Can't laugh ooo
But you right
I see this ladies as Gold diggers
Like one for my street that year wa dey date Chinese contractors fixing our roads, this girl go just dey foam Nicki Minaj give boys ooo,
Road finish
Chinese vanish
P. ussy perish

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by MEGA4BILLION(m): 11:13am On May 26, 2020
What's up nigga...
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by sexylassie2(f): 11:17am On May 26, 2020
very bad, if i tell the boy and he doesn't defend me, i am off and gone from this type of relationship

anyway, interracial relationship is not for me.

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by BlueAir: 11:21am On May 26, 2020
Do naija ladies ever learn?
richeeyo:

Can't laugh ooo
But you right
I see this ladies as Gold diggers
Like one for my street that year wa dey date Chinese contractors fixing our roads, this girl go just dey foam Nicki Minaj give boys ooo,
Road finish
Chinese vanish
P. ussy perish

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by sexylassie2(f): 11:21am On May 26, 2020
SweetBuns:
if you feel offended when the word "niqqa" is tagged unto you as a black man/woman, then you're not an OG African undecided

we the black people have used that word amongst ourselves so much that its now a word of unity and belonging, not one of insult and racist jabs.

go anywhere, you'll see people (esp guys) greeting themselves using the nigga word

Nigga, what's up na?

ma niqqa!!!! how you day??

so I don't see a concrete reason why you should be offended by this trivial issue. no be him parents go marry you.
get off your high horse and reason

i disagree with you

how many women use nigger among themselves

no sensible black woman will be comfortable in that house or even with the boy

all they see in her is a nigger, what if the boy is just satifying a fetish

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by sexylassie2(f): 11:22am On May 26, 2020
richeeyo:

Can't laugh ooo
But you right
I see this ladies as Gold diggers
Like one for my street that year wa dey date Chinese contractors fixing our roads, this girl go just dey foam Nicki Minaj give boys ooo,
Road finish
Chinese vanish
P. ussy perish

how is she a gold digger for dating a white guy?
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by fayded(m): 11:23am On May 26, 2020
SweetBuns:
if you feel offended when the word "niqqa" is tagged unto you as a black man/woman, then you're not an OG African undecided

we the black people have used that word amongst ourselves so much that its now a word of unity and belonging, not one of insult and racist jabs.

go anywhere, you'll see people (esp guys) greeting themselves using the nigga word

Nigga, what's up na?

ma niqqa!!!! how you day??

so I don't see a concrete reason why you should be offended by this trivial issue. no be him parents go marry you.
get off your high horse and reason

It's different when a white calls u Nigga, trust me, it is.
I used to be like you, until I traveled out, and I was playing ball in the field,just normal Sunday football...so I collided with an opposition player and immediately I stood up and followed d ball, d other guy was still on d floor sha.. And d opposition coach yelled "the fvck you're still doing on d floor, ged'up and give dt Nigga what he deserves"
I was shocked buh I kept on playing sha. Buh dt statement sapped my confidence, it made me feel lesser than them.
There's a tone with which they say nigger.. And they don't say it like we do, they say it like niggers are lesser beings.. It hurts, really.
Well, we won d match 2-1 and after it all, I approached dt coach and said. If he ever calls me nigger again.. I'd track him to his house, kill him and date his daughter.em pikin fine sha
Lolz, I was 17yrs then. So I was a hothead.
He never apologized to me though, he just kept on looking at me

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by Naija246: 11:26am On May 26, 2020
cheesy
richeeyo:

Can't laugh ooo
But you right
I see this ladies as Gold diggers
Like one for my street that year wa dey date Chinese contractors fixing our roads, this girl go just dey foam Nicki Minaj give boys ooo,
Road finish
Chinese vanish
P. ussy perish

Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by sexylassie2(f): 11:26am On May 26, 2020
fayded:


It's different when a white calls u Nigga, trust me, it is.
I used to be like you, until I traveled out, and I was playing ball in the field,just normal Sunday football...so I collided with an opposition player and immediately I stood up and followed d ball, d other guy was still on d floor sha.. And d opposition coach yelled "the fvck you're still doing on d floor, ged'up and give dt Nigga what he deserves"
I was shocked buh I kept on playing sha. Buh dt statement sapped my confidence, it made me feel lesser than them.
There's a tone with which they say nigger.. And they don't say it like we do, they say it like niggers are lesser beings.. It hurts, really.
Well, we won d match 2-1 and after it all, I approached dt coach and said. If he ever calls me nigger again.. I'd track him to his house, kill him and date his daughter.em pikin fine sha
Lolz, I was 17yrs then. So I was a hothead.
He never apologized to me though, he just kept on looking at me


wow
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by richeeyo(m): 11:29am On May 26, 2020
sexylassie2:

how is she a gold digger for dating a white guy?
Too much expectations For her color bro If she was a Nigerian it would have been better Our girls dark skin are very lovely and attractive But Kenya That people dey black pass shadow
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by Naija246: 11:32am On May 26, 2020
You deserve a cold bottle of beer for this comment grin
No high value white male genuinely likes an African woman.

In most cases, these guys go into such relationships because they have a fetish for black pussy grin

Another reason why they do this is because they inately know that black women have low self esteem... meaning they will take whatever shit the white guy throws at them without question grin
BlueAir:
The way this one dey talk grin she has concluded her white "catch" will sweep her off her feet in a white shiny armor on an imaginary wedding day not knowing the guy has his own agenda for a black slave pussy.. tsk tsk tsk..the easiest women to deceive about flowery interracial marriage are those that have never travelled abroad.. or worse those that claim they are from at least "average income" family background hian reality is race supremacy exists in majority of whites..some surpress it but never kill it



Hm deal deals with a white man and learn other sophisticated versions of "wayo" cheesy more reason I always laughed behind screen and don't say anything to low self esteem ladies here that chew #teaminterracialmarriage not knowing they dey do themselves

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by sexylassie2(f): 11:34am On May 26, 2020
BlueAir:
The way this one dey talk grin she has concluded her white "catch" will sweep her off her feet in a white shiny armor on an imaginary wedding day not knowing the guy has his own agenda for a black slave pussy.. tsk tsk tsk..the easiest women to deceive about flowery interracial marriage are those that have never travelled abroad.. or worse those that claim they are from at least "average income" family background hian reality is race supremacy exists in majority of whites..some surpress it but never kill it



Hm deal deals with a white man and learn other sophisticated versions of "wayo" cheesy more reason I always laughed behind screen and don't say anything to low self esteem ladies here that chew #teaminterracialmarriage not knowing they dey do themselves

so black woman that marries a white man suffers from low esteem, how about a black man that marries a white granny?
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by BlueAir: 11:40am On May 26, 2020
Quoting me out of context and emotion. Womanly typical. Anyway I see women who believes white men are superior to black men(naija) mentally and other aspect
as LOW SELF ESTEEMED UNEXPOSED CREATURES,not knowing that a white man can highly and likely take advantage of ur misconception to deceive and outmaneuver u. Go on international blogs about travels and read how cheap African women are cheaply described,at least if u can't travel to have the experience.As for the men that married grannies,some comes with ulterior motives that has nothing little or nothing to do with self esteem, at worst,na the green ticket they want,at best,they are genuine for love.and if I see a picture of a guy that's willing to settle with a granny I'll know,and the one that wants to bounce,I'll know. Besides a white granny is a granny doesn't mean shes lost the ability to love better than some of u young bloodsuckers grin.. doesn't mean shes unsuitable to be fancied by some young men with some fetish. Myself as example I don't fancy grannies but I fancy robust,chocolate or dark age 50+women with round neat bodies or face. Has nothing to do with my sex esteem
sexylassie2:


so black woman that marries a white man suffers from low esteem, how about a black man that marries a white granny?
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by BlueAir: 11:46am On May 26, 2020
Uve spoken majority of the points.go to international blogs on travel and read alot of random comments been shared.
Naija246:
You deserve a cold bottle of beer for this comment grin
No high value white male genuinely likes an African woman.

In most cases, these guys go into such relationships because they have a fetish for black pussy grin

Another reason why they do this is because they inately know that black women have low self esteem... meaning they will take whatever shit the white guy throws at them without question grin

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by LegendaryLover(m): 11:55am On May 26, 2020
SweetBuns:
if you feel offended when the word "niqqa" is tagged unto you as a black man/woman, then you're not an OG African undecided

we the black people have used that word amongst ourselves so much that its now a word of unity and belonging, not one of insult and racist jabs.

go anywhere, you'll see people (esp guys) greeting themselves using the nigga word

Nigga, what's up na?

ma niqqa!!!! how you day??

so I don't see a concrete reason why you should be offended by this trivial issue. no be him parents go marry you.
get off your high horse and reason
Blacks can call themselves nigga, but a white pig dare not. It's sure going to end in exchange of punches. it's derogatory when comin from a white man.

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by Nobody: 11:59am On May 26, 2020
grin grin just pack and go. dere are nice looking kenya guys out dere
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by LegendaryLover(m): 12:09pm On May 26, 2020
Am i the only one that hate seeing our black women sucking & fvcking white dudes in porn movies? Even though i'm okay with a black dude smashing a white girl.
This is pvssy this black girl should be giving to her fellow blacks abroad to enjoy, but no, she's dashing a white boy. So pls bear ur cross urself when they insult u.



Black on black porn is the best. I super love it. It's my go-to mojo. Next for me is thick latin women on black dudes. Next, i can manage black man on white pvssay porn. Then lastly i just hate white porn or black woman on white dude.
I feel black woman on white dude porn is an insult & humiliation to my race.
Sorry, what is the topic of what we're discussing is again?

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Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by SweetBuns(f): 12:17pm On May 26, 2020
LegendaryLover:
am i the only one that hate seeing our black women sucking & fvcking white dudes in porn movies. Even though i'm okay with a black dude smashing a white girl.
This is pvssy this black girl should be giving to her fellow blacks abroad to enjoy, but no, she's dashing a white boy. So pls bear ur cross urself when they insult u.
Black on black porn is the best. But i can also manage black man on white pvssay porn. I just feel black woman on white dude porn is an insult & humiliation to my race.
Sorry, what is the topic of what i should be discussing is again?
your life is a contradiction
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by LegendaryLover(m): 12:24pm On May 26, 2020
SweetBuns:
your life is a contradiction
urs is a thing of pity
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by FManager(m): 1:05pm On May 26, 2020
SweetBuns:
if you feel offended when the word "niqqa" is tagged unto you as a black man/woman, then you're not an OG African undecided

we the black people have used that word amongst ourselves so much that its now a word of unity and belonging, not one of insult and racist jabs.

go anywhere, you'll see people (esp guys) greeting themselves using the nigga word

Nigga, what's up na?

ma niqqa!!!! how you day??

so I don't see a concrete reason why you should be offended by this trivial issue. no be him parents go marry you.
get off your high horse and reason

Woman the word used was nigger ( a racist slur word to describe a black man or monkey).

So until then Read well before posting
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by FManager(m): 1:07pm On May 26, 2020
LegendaryLover:

Blacks can call themselves nigga, but a white pig dare not. It's sure going to end in exchange of punches. it's derogatory when comin from a white man.

Once again nigga & nigger are two different things look up boi undecided
Re: My Boyfriend’s Parent Called Me A Nigga – African Lady Dating Canadian by FManager(m): 1:16pm On May 26, 2020
Naija246:
[s]You deserve a cold bottle of beer for this comment grin
No high value white male genuinely likes an African woman.

In most cases, these guys go into such relationships because they have a fetish for black pussy grin

Another reason why they do this is because they inately know that black women have low self esteem... meaning they will take whatever shit the white guy throws at them without question grin
[/s]


All what you wrote is utterly rubbish, since when does black women have low self esteem, unlike your set that find it easy to bash them.

Infact come here, don't make me pursue you angry bring that your useless mouth.

Ehnn Now let me see how you would talk trash again. tongue

Yeye dey smell

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