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I was young lover boy 😅, the current me is still laughing at this write up, but here is the update 5 years later

It became worse,
She stopped picking calls, and blamed it on so many reasons, one time she said "WhatsApp calls" Consume so much data even when I send credits and data

What broke me up was one day when I check my data usage and noticed an hour call on WhatsApp consumes less than 1mb

I asked her if she knows, she said "YES" but she doesn't know why she said these..

Fast forward, found out she had crush on a lecturer, worst of it — a lecturer in her department. (The same lecturer that teaches her)

Na man de do man what, caus this guy know me very well, from giving relationship advices to giving heads😭

She was always going to the guys place to cook, driving around in his car and crazy stuffs eventually happened before he travelled abroad.

I've actually forgiven this babe of cheating for like 3 times, caus I was a lover boy. A core believer of love 😅

But one particular day I asked her if she love the lecturer and she said "YES, but she loves me more" and I told her "I can tolerate every other thing but not loving another, I no de share love with person "

I broke up with her and played sad songs for like 2 months — just so I can heal 😅

It was that period I noticed another girl that has been a church friend, (we were very close but I had no intention before)

Slowly, I forgot about the earlier one. And just moved on. We still talk once in a while tho!

we were once very close and chart almost all the time, calls each other too frequently.

of recent our chart is now one sided, i am always the one igniting conversation, even forcing conversation to flow. most times she would be online and still ignore my messages.

one time we were chatting something important, in the middle of the hot gist she stopped replying (am the kind that ignores messages just to chart with this one girl).


I tried WhatsApp calling her and was told it was busy, waited for like 40minutes before she replied sorry that she was on a vid call, I asked if it was a male and she told me yes, I didn't stress it. oya na let's continue our charts and she has gone offline only to reply 9hrs later.

honestly I feel very disturbed because I really love this girl, she hardly chart, she hardly call, I'm always the one igniting conversations, I'm always the one calling...

when i told her about it, she cried (abi fake cry) on voice record to tell me she is sorry with no reason attached. I didn't stress it

please guys, how do I know if she has stopped loving me?? I love this girl ooh,

hard guy! hard guy! I don't know how I use fall like this

The signs are crystal clear! I advice you forget abt her and move on! If she truly notices your absent or wants you she will come for u!

There are many fishes in the river

she no longer they feel u again, that happened because u re the one putting all the effort in trying to to keep the relationship going.
Try give her space ,don't be the first to start up a conversation either via chat or calls, have the aboundant mentality babes they everywhere na.
Occupy yourself with other stuffs u love doing for fun and I tell u time go reach weh u no go even get time to they check the time e they take for babe to reply u.

This lady you're dying for is giving her attention to some other guy. You're wasting valuable time
trying to make her like you. Find someone else.

Someone that's chatting with you as if she's doing you a favour or it's a privilege. Abeg, quit.

o.p i know how this feels trust me, this was the exact pattern my ex used before we broke up 4days latter..
o.p am 98.99% sure she's already seeing someone else..

its sometimes like that okay! no matter who she is to you, the time you both spent, memories, sexual affair, they change in dah blink an eye..

you almost handed you balls to her, its not too late, o.p, start ignoring and ghosting her, drastically reduce your care for her asap because she's about to start manipulating and playing with your emotions so, they do this if they have lost interest in you.

even if you try to patch the relationship to make it work, its won't last 2months from NOW!

#dropMic

SimeonOTC:
o.p i know how this feels trust me, this was the exact pattern my ex used before we broke up 4days latter..
o.p am 98.99% sure she's already seeing someone else..

its sometimes like that okay! no matter who she is to you, the time you both spent, memories, sexual affair, they change in dah blink an eye..

you almost handed you balls to her, its not too late, o.p, start ignoring and ghosting her, drastically reduce your care for her asap because she's about to start manipulating and playing with your emotions so, they do this if they have lost interest in you.

even if you try to patch the relationship to make it work, its won't last 2months from NOW!

#dropMic

tears is rolling from my eyes by reading your post

no too reason am no matter how painful it is..jus move on n better ones go come around...just move on bro...las las we all go de alright

vanida6:

yeye

I am 100% sure shes not interested in you again,same thing happened to me and we finally broke up few days ago.
Move on bro

tellsblinks:
we were once very close and chart almost all the time, calls each other too frequently. surelyy we've had sexual relations as well.

of recent our chart is now one sided, i am always the one igniting conversation, even forcing conversation to flow. most times she would be online and still ignore my messages.

one time we were chatting something important, in the middle of the hot gist she stopped replying (am the kind that ignores messages just to chart with this one girl).


I tried WhatsApp calling her and was told it was busy, waited for like 40minutes before she replied sorry that she was on a vid call, I asked if it was a male and she told me yes, I didn't stress it. oya na let's continue our charts and she has gone offline only to reply 9hrs later.

honestly I feel very disturbed because I really love this girl, she hardly chart, she hardly call, I'm always the one igniting conversations, I'm always the one calling...

when i told her about it, she cried (abi fake cry) on voice record to tell me she is sorry with no reason attached. I didn't stress it


please guys, how do I know if she has stopped loving me?? I love this girl ooh,


hard guy! hard guy! I don't know how I use fall like this

She's is Unilorin?

tellsblinks:
tears is rolling from my eyes by reading your post

The hell?! Med o

Facing same issue like you, just that i don't give a ffuck bout her, if it takes her 5min to reply it will take me 10 minutes to reply her...bae was mad she indirectly broke up with me just after 3 weeks, she was posting bout people with pride on her status, as if she ain'td one who start playing... i snub her like she don't matter.....stop catching feelings...

This is why you go only 50% into relationships. The moment you feel bad vibes, move on.

Kayceehman:
The signs are crystal clear! I advice you forget abt her and move on! If she truly notices your absent or wants you she will come for u!

Hey, I'm in a situation such as this though mine isn't as complicated as the OP. There's this lady i asked out last year after 4 years of friendship. Initially, she said we shouldn't force a romantic relationship that we're okay (friends) just the way we are even though i had two separate opportunities to lay her but my body didn't respond to stimulus.
I obliged but kept on pushing despite the 756km between us .At some point, every of my efforts came back down at me with me dose of insults . I shrugged them off and moved on with my life . 7 months later, she's been doing all the calling, asking me why i severe communication with her . I'm so confused.

johnkey:
There are many fishes in the river

Some fishes could b poisonous. OP keep trying and pushing hard. Ladies love been seen as worthy. my guy disturb her like kilode, don't give up even if jealous girls insult u

OJURONGBE1:
Hey, I'm in a situation such as this though mine isn't as complicated as the OP. There's this lady i asked out last year after 4 years of friendship. Initially, she said we shouldn't force a romantic relationship that we're okay (friends) just the way we are even though i had two separate opportunities to lay her but my body didn't respond to stimulus.
I obliged but kept on pushing despite the 756km between us .At some point, every of my efforts came back down at me with me dose of insults . I shrugged them off and moved on with my life . 7 months later, she's been doing all the calling, asking me why i severe communication with her . I'm so confused.

Bro, she's using you for attention. Move on

Dump her ass ..

The way I laugh when hard guys fall in love bottle.

TRUTH IS BITTER. MOVE ON

johnkey:
There are many fishes in the river

listen to this advice

How’s a 2020 post making front page in 2025 ?

Tellsblinks come and give us an update how did you surmount the challenge lol and whereabouts the lady in question now ?

Rickjordan:
Facing same issue like you, just that i don't give a ffuck bout her, if it takes her 5min to reply it will take me 10 minutes to reply her...bae was mad she indirectly broke up with me just after 3 weeks, she was posting bout people with pride on her status, as if she ain'td one who start playing... i snub her like she don't matter.....stop catching feelings...

.

Too aware for his time sir 💯

tellsblinks:
we were once very close and chart almost all the time, calls each other too frequently.

of recent our chart is now one sided, i am always the one igniting conversation, even forcing conversation to flow. most times she would be online and still ignore my messages.

one time we were chatting something important, in the middle of the hot gist she stopped replying (am the kind that ignores messages just to chart with this one girl).


I tried WhatsApp calling her and was told it was busy, waited for like 40minutes before she replied sorry that she was on a vid call, I asked if it was a male and she told me yes, I didn't stress it. oya na let's continue our charts and she has gone offline only to reply 9hrs later.

honestly I feel very disturbed because I really love this girl, she hardly chart, she hardly call, I'm always the one igniting conversations, I'm always the one calling...

when i told her about it, she cried (abi fake cry) on voice record to tell me she is sorry with no reason attached. I didn't stress it


please guys, how do I know if she has stopped loving me?? I love this girl ooh,


hard guy! hard guy! I don't know how I use fall like this

My guy behave like a man, walk away with your dignity intact.

Never force anyone make you beg for their attention.

You have already sok her boóbie so why are you bothering yourself, move on to another girl