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dairykidd:
The truth be say if u no fit be ur babe bestie and lover omor no even reason am say na ur own oo... probably na just help una dey help una selves. She's suppose to enjoy ur company, be fvcking free around u, be able to say and do wtv in ur presence otherwise confirm ur position for the matter

Janeberryy:
We never saw, I never cheated or do anything with him. Let me let you continue your discussion sef.

dairykidd:
Lol... Jane relax. The discussion wasn't about u. Besides u never said he was a bestie. He was just waiting on the side to launch his attack on the golden opportunity. That discussion isn't about u

Janeberryy:
I feel raw(tender). Like an open wound and still running. Thanks

Janeberryy:
Thank God, it's like I'm in the middle and you guys are wearing a witch cape and talking over my head, while playing with your long fingers in a dark room.

Darkzayn:
sorry about that see that guy never meant well okay.

He was supposed to be a consoler to you but he chose to make use vulnerability

Darkzayn:
no fear we no talk about you sweetie

Janeberryy:
Yea, I played along too.. not entirely his fault. Thanku

Darkzayn:
have a wonderful day

Janeberryy:
Thank God, it's like I'm in the middle and you guys are wearing a witch cape and talking over my head, while playing with your long fingers in a dark room.

tesseract:
You want us to help you convince yourself that you breaking up with him is alright abi?

Ok, please break up with him and let us rest. SMH. Let me get this straight...

You were in a relationship, but you allowed some other dude to toast you very well and slowly you lost your emotional touch with your former boyfriend, so you left him.
You don't seem to know how the mind works.

You had been cheating emotionally and you're finally cheated physically, Now that you are double dating, you feel it's OK to ghost him, maybe he will forget about you.

Finally, you don't want him to leave you but you want to leave him you think you're smart, but all I see here is the most confused person ever. How old are you again?

You already tried your former boyfriend and judged him before us, now you want us to help you do is to validate your decision to mess this other relationship up right? Ok you have done well.

Please do what ever the hell you want to do.

I may have misunderstood your write up, because you are not quite expressive.

Agp19:
Once you are in a relationship and you are having second thought or an option, that's the end of the relationship, because whatever happened in that relationship no matter how little it is you will make big Mountain out of it even when it can be trash.

To be sincere you got the relationship to that toxic state because you had an option.

Newbielearner:
Your mind is having a certain feeling. It's feeling heavy and can't be free yet. Because the mind is tired. And now you want it to work.
The mind sees it as a continuation of the previous work. Even though this is a new person.

You need to tell that guy that both of you should be friends for now. Since he's pretty good in waiting (although I think somebody else is somewhere).

During this waiting period, chats should be online. One day both of you can choose to watch a movie. But never chat with him like it's a relationship.

Do casual things. Watch a movie where somewhere else would be with you guys. In about 3-5 months, your mind would be ready for an experience with him.

What you don't know is that whenever you're with someone, once you leave, you have left a part of you. The chain continues.

Be sure of this guy. So that you don't become a slayer.
Slayers start from either poverty or when you have become callous.

From your write up, I think you guys would be great if you take it really slow. It's difficult to find who you can build your life it these days. So explain it to him carefully before he gives up (if he hasn't created a backup like you did).

cezarman:
I really think communicating with someone like you would be stressful and complicated sha.

Blackpearlous:
I think you should just talk to him. Ghosting him is not mature.

Janeberryy:
This is like one of the weirdest thing I have experienced. Like someone can't wait to see him, next I can't talk or even met his eyes.

Thank you

Ishilove:
Girlie, you just broke up with you ex and jumped into another relationship? Why won't your head be messed up.

Take a break and be single for a while before dating again.

Janeberryy:
On a break now.. I need it.

Ishilove:
Girlie, you just broke up with you ex and jumped into another relationship? Why won't your head be messed up.

Take a break and be single for a while before dating again.

Darkzayn:
told her same she won't even focus all she will be seeing is the first in the second you grab

Ishilove:
I grab

Janeberryy:
I am planning on doing something but I want to double check if I am making the right decision.

I was in a relationship for 2years( in Feb it was two years).
- I broke up recently
- cheated on me twice
- have a hard time communicating with him.
- he lives in a dream(unrealistic goals like being president in 2023 and just earn A lil above 100k and he is young) I don't have a problem with being president but not in 2023 and I am evil because I don't believe it.
- has this bigger that life look but not as full as he claim to be. Publicly looks perfect and privately it's just mouth. I can't deal I like to be as I am. Grow before I blow, not blow to grow( get me?) (Gets him in trouble at times)

Part 2
I have been friends with someone else just when I met him and we have maintained the friendship since, when the guy above was messing up, he was there. I know his feelings towards me and I was mutual but I don't know how to double date and I can't cheat, so I told him to back off so I can fix my relationship ( we were having issues major onces and didn't want to leave I'm a sucker for commitment) [/color] I hope you are still reading, this is not a story I'm just trying to make it light. It even feels like a story as I'm typing because I have concealed my identity.[color=#000000]


Part 3.
This year my friend and I started talking again and I was already tired of my relationship, issues upon issues. Wasn't sexually attracted to him, I fake it all the time. Pretend to laugh at his jokes in public, I make faces when we chatting I can't air my views. Felt like I was in a cage. Spoke to my boyfriend then about it, no change.( Everyone thinks we are perfect).


Part 3b
So I was falling deep for my friend and he told me again how he felt this time I didn't push him away. He is not as rich as my bf but he was real and honest and I could be myself and trust him. So my boyfriend and I had another issue, so I walked away sharp sharp and told my friend I'm single then we started dating almost immediately. I think that's whr the problem began.


Part 4.

Then I was reminded constantly by my bf that I was a cheat before he saw our chat before I left, I cheated a wrong foundation (religious us)(still hidding my current relationship). Etc then I was always shy with my new boyfriend. I have not sense of humor around him again(only when we see, online I'm always chatty) I'm so not comfortable. This is the third time we are seeing, (today the third time) and it was the most boring outing I have every had in my entire life (because I do have strong feelings for him, I couldn't even look him in the eye, no conversation, it was so awkward)(even people I don't like I still enjoy myself because I pride myself in being free)(he even said he doesn't even know what we are doing).


Finally.
We spoke about it this evening how awkward I have been and he said he would get tired of trying and I feel I lost something. So before he breaks my heart because we have not spoken since and I don't plan on speaking to him for a while, I want to kukuma remove myself from the picture and let him stop trying and ghost him And let him go and start another relationship because I don't understand why my head will be thinking of being free with him and dying to see him and when I do I give the most uptight and awkward dates.


Please help me out, tried to make it funny so I can sleep tonight. Should I just walk away because I cant take it if he does.

Darkzayn:
still on this issue

Funkyswagzz:
Seat back a love urself for a bit. It will help u make the right decision.

Janeberryy:
Na, not confused again. Thank you