Mariangeles:
You're resentful towards your wife.

Please try to be more supportive of her both physically and emotionally, she and the baby need you now more than ever.

Thank You Sir
One may Even think you planned it
As you discovered the Love bw you two has reduced
Pls, grow up mehn

This is deep... God can do anything...


Anyway, it's good to go to 3 different labs at least before finalising one's Genotype.

thorpido:
In this day and age,you didn't know your genotype and your wife too didn't know?
No one that is up to 25yrs now shouldn't know his or her genotype.It's almost unforgivable now.She also thought she was pregnant and you couldn't go to a lab and just run a test to confirm kwa?
That being said,why didn't you stick with calling off the marriage when you found out.It was the best option then.....shame or no shame!
As it stands now,you need to. decide on what you want but as a baby is on the way,you have to prepare for the birth first.If you are lucky the child turns out with a genotype that is not SS,then you weigh your further options.
It's actually a 100% probability for EACH child conceived.It is a 25% chance for every four births.

These tests are expensive and if it turns out the child is SS,the ONLY option is ABORTION.

Abortion is not safe for a sickler.

Testing Your Baby for Sickle Cell During Pregnancy

Introduction
It is possible to test for the genes your baby has inherited.

There are two main ways of checking your baby for genetic problems while it is in the womb. These techniques are called amniocentesis and chorionic villus sampling (CVS). We explain how the tests are carried out, what sort of abnormalities can be picked up and what risks are involved.

We give general information only. If you want more detailed information about these tests or your personal circumstances do discuss the matter with your GP or hospital specialist.

Amniocentesis
What is amniocentesis?
The test involves placing a needle in to the womb through the woman’s abdomen (tummy) and obtaining a small sample of the fluid in which the baby floats (the amniotic fluid). Most women say that the test is not painful.

The amniocentesis test is usually carried out between 16 and 18 weeks of the pregnancy and can be done in an outpatients clinic without the need for an overnight hospital stay.

As part of the test an ultrasound scan is carried out to check whether twins are present and to see where the placenta and the baby are.

The fluid contains cells which have come from the baby and these cells are then grown in the laboratory so that genetic tests can be carried out on them.

What type of abnormalities can be detected?
Abnormalities caused by extra or missing chromosome material can be detected, the most common of which is Down’s Syndrome (trisomy 21), where babies have an extra chromosome 21 in every cell or their body.

Other chromosomal abnormalities can also be detected. The effects of all these conditions will be discussed in detail with the parents. Many of these chromosomal abnormalities lead to serious conditions and a termination of pregnancy may be one option for the parents to consider.

In some cases, other disorders caused by a single abnormal gene can be found. At present tests for these are usually carried out only when there is someone with the condition in the family of the couple is known to be at risk for a baby with a particular genetic disease, such as cystic fibrosis, sickle cell anaemia or Tay Sachs Disease.

The amniotic fluid itself is also tested to measure the level of a protein called alphafetoprotein (AFP). The level is high if a baby has spina bifida, and this test picks up 95% of babies with this disorder. A detailed ultrasound scan is then carried out to confirm the presence of spina bifida.

What are the risks of amniocentesis, and how reliable is it?
The amniocentesis test carries a small risk of causing a miscarriage, about 1 in 100, but other complications are very unusual.

The amniocentesis test is a very reliable way of examining the baby’s chromosomes, but in order to obtain results the cells must begin to grow in the laboratory. Occasionally this does not happen and a further sample may be needed.

When is the result available?
Within three to four weeks if an abnormal result is found and the couple decides to have the pregnancy terminated, this could be done at around 19-20 weeks of pregnancy.

Chorionic Villus Sampling (CVS)
What is chorionic villus sampling (CVS)?
The CVS test is carried out earlier then amniocentesis – at around the 9th or 10th week of pregnancy, and again it is an outpatient procedure. Rather than testing a sample of the fluid of the mother’s womb, this test take a very small amount of material from the developing placenta.

One way of doing the test is to place a thin tube through the cervix (neck of the womb) to obtain the sample. Most women say that this is only slightly uncomfortable.

Another method is similar to the amniocentesis test, and involves placing a needle in the womb and using an ultrasound scanner to guide it.

What type of abnormality can be detected with CVS?
The sample contains cells that are of the same genetic type as the baby and so can reveal the same sort of disorders that amniocentesis discovers. Similarly CVS can detect rare diseases caused by abnormal genes, but thesetests will only normally be done if there is a family link with a particular disorder. Because no amniotic fluid is obtained the test cannot be used to look for babies with spina bifida.

What are the risks of CVS, and how reliable is it?
The CVS test has a slightly higher chance of miscarriage than amniocentesis, but it has the advantage of being able to be done earlier in pregnancy.

It is a relatively new test and there is not so much information on reliability as with amniocentesis. There is a suggestion that the CVS test may give a confusing result in a small proportion of cases, maybe one in 100.

In such cases it may indicate an abnormality where none exists. Although there is usually additional information which clearly demonstrates that the baby will be abnormal, where doubt still exists it may be necessary for an amniocentesis test also to be carried out later in the pregnancy.

There is also a remote possibility – around 1 in 1000 cases – that a chromosome abnormality will not be detected.

When is the test result available?
Normally just one to two weeks after the test.

Other information
What about future pregnancies?
If a couple do decide to terminate their pregnancy after either an amniocentesis or a CVS test, this should not affect their fertility in future pregnancies. The couple may well wish to be referred to their genetic clinic to discuss the risk of an affected baby next time.

Rhesus Negative Mothers
If a mother’s blood group is rhesus negative, she should receive an injection after an amniocentesis or CVS to protect the present and future pregnancies.

Testing for the Type of Haemoglobin the Baby Has
Testing an unborn baby to see which type of haemoglobin it has can be done using either of these techniques although it is usually done by CVS because more cells can be collected. Later in pregnancy it can also be done by taking blood directly from the foetus. The cells that are obtained from all of these procedures can be tested directly for the presence of the sickle haemoglobin gene itself.

fieryy:
Op, YOU ARE TO BE BLAMED AS WELL!!!!

Did anyone force you to marry her? Why are you acting like you were a kid that was forced. It'd have been better, if you had ended things, instead of first getting her pregnant and now planning a divorce

You sef! Is it that you didn't read what op wrote or what? Isn't it obvious that the op was guilt tripped into going ahead with this marriage. Didn't you read where she threatened to either kill herself or the op if the marriage didn't hold? You think that wasn't force?

Ozioma49:
Don't you guys read?the guy is a government school teacher,how do you expect him to afford it?huh

That would be for the Op to decide
You don’t just look at someone and determine what’s is in his account

He is not even praying for the baby not to be SS. He is only interested in divorce. You are just a heartless man. And you will soon say what is really in your mind.
I have seen couples who had found it difficult to leave each other including the man o.
But you just want to run away maybe you have been looking for an escuse. You are wicked abeg!

ZeroShenanigan

He that is trusting in his heart is stupid said King Solomon. That is what your wife and others did and now this! AS and AS should never marry under any circumstance except they've forgone childbearing.

You're seething now because you're very apprehensive. If your child comes out AS, jump for joy, and stop childbearing.

I'm not s supporter of divorce. Marriage is for better for worse.

I am a Jehovah's Witness and I am a firm believer that we are only temporary residents in this system of things. That we await a new heaven and a new earth according to His promise and in this, righteousness is to dwell. (Read 2 Peter 3:13). So, there is a better world coming. Even if we don't achieve our hearts desire now, in the new earth or paradise, we shall.

I really don't know what to say. As a Witness, I am married for life to this woman based on Bible doctrines but we don't share the same beliefs. Majority of my fellow Witness brothers do no lose sleep when they are faced with childlessness. Of course, they will love to have children but know that childlessness is only temporary and that in paradise, they will have children in droves. We are encouraged to rejoice in that hope of paradise by the Bible and endure under tribulation since suffering is not in vain. Or is it?

Moses or Prophet Musa if you prefer said "70 years is all we have, 80 if we are strong. Yet, all they bring us is trouble and sorrow. Life is soon over and we are gone."(Psalms 90:10). Rather, let us keep our eyes fixed on the paradise where death, sickness, mourning, and outcry will be no more. Where we shall live forever. We will enter paradise if we do the will of the true God down to the end.

A bible prophet urged husbands "Continue loving your wives and do not be bitterly angry with them". (Colossians 3:19).

If you would like to know, please visit www.jw.org. Use the search button to ask questions about marriage, eternal life, and other issues. You can also request a private Bible study. It is free. It will presently be conducted online for health reasons due to the pandemic. To protect your health and theirs.

ZeroShenanigan:

Without checking your profile, I know this a female voice.
This is how majority of you always sound.
If I come come over here to seek for an advise during those period, people like you will ask me to go ahead without thinking of the implications.
Did you see me mention that I'm perfect? I'm a career also, AS. If I have known this earlier, I will insist on a relationship with only AA. Please, I can't stand any negative comments this moment as I'm a kind of guy that will never give a damn about your derailing opinion. I believe so much in God's will as well human personal endeavor to achieve whatever you desire. Gbogbo epe to ba she, o ma pada so ri e ni.
I bring out my story for others to learn ni. Only God knows what will happen later as I'm only contemplating divorce which I have not done yet. How many SS children have you helped to survive if you want people to continue breeding sickler?

I like this response, please don't allow anybody or lady stress you by the advice anymore. Many people expect one to act in a certain that's because they're not in your shoes.
But i would advice that, instead of avoiding your wife, try and bring her close, and stylishly bring up the issue of the pregnancy, ask her what if the child becomes SS, what's her plans? What if there is no money to handle the health issus of the child?. Just ask her to get her opinion, she may have her own plans towards the baby and she also needs you this time. If her response isn't productive as you'd think, then you can remind her of what she said when she was pressuring you to go ahead with the marriage and then divorce after then to also hear what she has to say. I think from there you'll be able to take the next step.
For now, just relax yourself, think of how you'll forge ahead with the initial plans you have if you had a family by God's grace the child would not be SS.

Hmmmm....

Timi pls pass me that chilled Goldberg from fridge abeg....


Sure u have messed up already, cos it's just like someone saw a naked flame and that person knows it vividly that by touching it one will get burnt but still went ahead to touch d flame and get burnt...


She doesn't want to be ashame cos friends, people she mst have invited for the wedding, but ready to bring a child into dis buhari time to come suffer and later will die.


She dnt care even if the whole kids become sickler just because she dnt want to be ashamed...

She lied that she thinks she pregnant b4 the wedding so to go ahead with the wedding

some of her people (sisters) convinced u to go ahead with the marriage even advised u both not to tell anyone about the genotype matter just becos they want her especially to get married....


it wasn't ur fault that u didn't knw ur genotype on time but u later know including she ur (wife) before the marriage, and u later get convinced to carry on with the wedding


As she said after the wedding both can go seperate ways all just to stay away from the shame... it's a lie she will not , bring divource matter and look at her face and see her reactions, u will be surprised


My question now is that if a sick children will come later in d marriage will they stand by u..
will they take responsibility unto say na their nieces/ nephews...?

ur wife, her sisters, and ur sisters are the ones that put u in dis mess


Even me sef i never knw my genotype oo

ZeroShenanigan:

Without checking your profile, I know this a female voice.
This is how majority of you always sound.
If I come come over here to seek for an advise during those period, people like you will ask me to go ahead without thinking of the implications.
Did you see me mention that I'm perfect? I'm a career also, AS. If I have known this earlier, I will insist on a relationship with only AA. Please, I can't stand any negative comments this moment as I'm a kind of guy that will never give a damn about your derailing opinion. I believe so much in God's will as well human personal endeavor to achieve whatever you desire. Gbogbo epe to ba she, o ma pada so ri e ni.
I bring out my story for others to learn ni. Only God knows what will happen later as I'm only contemplating divorce which I have not done yet. How many SS children have you helped to survive if you want people to continue breeding sickler?

I understand your dilemma.You bowed to pressure when you should have stuck to your decision.Ignore that lady,most women are like that.Never seek advice from women when you need to make a decision that requires deep and critical thinking;they are emotional beings and will never ever understand your point.Their comments here is a testament.

I pray that the child isn't SS.Remain firm bro.

My broda u don't have to divorce your wife, what u need now is prayer, since you have allowed people that will not be there to decide for.

Do u believe in miracles?

Stand by her side, let her deliver and see your child grow in safe and sound health, we plenty wey don cheat science before.

Ur love + attention + her prayers is all God needs to make things work

janvier27:
I thought there is now a test that can be done at a stage in pregnancy to determine the genotype of the foetus, and know what options are there before birth if it turns out to be SS.

Yes. But the test can only be done not earlier than 3 months I think. If the foetus is SS then they terminate it.

Blackdisciple:


Hmmmm....

Timi pls pass me that chilled Goldberg from fridge abeg....


Sure u have messed up already, cos it's just like someone saw a naked flame and that person knows it vividly that by touching it one will get burnt but still went ahead to touch d flame and get burnt...


She doesn't want to be ashame cos friends, people she mst have invited for the wedding, but ready to bring a child into dis buhari time to come suffer and later will die.


She dnt care even if the whole kids become sickler just because she dnt want to be ashamed...

She lied that she thinks she pregnant b4 the wedding so to go ahead with the wedding

some of her people (sisters) convinced u to go ahead with the marriage even advised u both not to tell anyone about the genotype matter just becos they want her especially to get married....


it wasn't ur fault that u didn't knw ur genotype on time but u later know including she ur (wife) before the marriage, and u later get convinced to carry on with the wedding


As she said after the wedding both can go seperate ways all just to stay away from the shame... it's a lie she will not , bring divource matter and look at her face and see her reactions, u will be surprised


My question now is that if a sick children will come later in d marriage will they stand by u..
will they take responsibility unto say na their nieces/ nephews...?

ur wife, her sisters, and ur sisters are the ones that put u in dis mess


Even me sef i never knw my genotype oo

U are not happy in d marriage likewise she..

my advice is that try to avoid a second child
for now , sure it's gonna be hard but have to wait a little may be 3years and watch , and about ur wife hmmmmm...keep on doing the way both of u were still courting keep normal, keep cool and pray to God, u dnt need divorce for now...

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

Whoever created human beings, gave us brains to think.........

Rather than think, we allow over spiritualism, do the thinking for us.......

Now katakata wan burst, you dey open thread....... Always learn to put the cart before the horse, in very important decision making processes...... When you have SS children, those very ignorant family members, would run 440 away from you and your sick child..........

Being undecisive isn't a good trait at all anyone should have...the deed has been done,and u both are expecting soon...give her d support she needs and b hopeful d child comes out AS.

ZeroShenanigan:

Who is this person na? You just reminds me of the reactions one my wife's sister gave then. Abeg, take things easy with your self, I'm not fighting you please. Even my wife now realized how risky it is for us having more children together and if we resolve to divorce, I think she is wouldn't mind. Will you help us with hospital bills when it happens? will you give us the moral and emotional support of seeing a child sick every time? Please spare me some space to allow for people who have good things to say. Thank you.

Ignore @KanwuliaExtra.Those who have been on Nairaland long enough know she is emotional,abusive and feign intelligence.

Ignore!

@OP; If that child turns out to be SS, he or she would never forgive you or your wife. How can you both be so cruel.

Yoighaman:
@OP; If that child turns out to be SS, he or she would never forgive you or your wife. How can you both be so cruel.

Ehhh... the child will not knw na cos no one will tell him...

except he will knw about it in biology class then he will come home to ask question that has answers

[Them no dey use shame chop poison, you would have call the wedding off when knowing fully well you guys were incompatible, all you can do now is to go for test to know if the child will be a as or not and you need to support your wife as well during this period, you guys can get over this stuff .

These people lack even emotional maturity. Not everyone should dig head into marriage at just anytime.

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@OP and others.
Why will the possibility of giving birth to a SS child make you unhappy and destroy your "marriage"? Many of the responses here are quite simplistic in my view. The fundamental question is why did you fall in love in the first place? Is this love the genuine love that is the only basis for a marriage in the sense of the laws of God? It is quite unfortunate that most of the marriages today are purely transactional, a business contract in which both parties are interested in what they will benefit materially from each other. It is no longer a surprise that the so called marriages collapse at the slightest appearance of a problem. Marriage should and must be a consummations of genuine, selfless love between a man and a woman, a love evidenced by perfect spiritual harmony and psychic compatibility between the couples. In such a genuine marriage, only the joy and happiness of the beloved is the motivation and in serving one another in love, each partners looses him or herself and paradoxically gains him or herself a million fold. In such a true marriage, hand in hand and with radiant joy, the couples will triumphantly face all the challenges of earthly life because their union is made in haven and thus consecrated by the power of God.

Screening for genetic disorders and medical checkups should be a part of health living. It is essential that all citizens should have access to these medical checkups from the time they are borne till they die, not just when they intend to marry or applying for jobs or visa. It is important that we should periodically know the state of our health. Such knowledge will help to prevent or at least mitigate the severity of an illness. But one needs well enlightened counsellors to help us navigate the results of the medical tests and make informed decisions. The results of a screening test should guide the decision but should not be the decision itself. If one takes the genotype test for an example, the individuals should know the physiological consequences of AA, AS and SS. The transmission genetics of the genotype tests should be explained as well as its limitations. Thus for instance, in theory, if there is a cross between two AS, their is 25%, 50% and 25% that a child from each pregnancy will be AA, AS or SS. However this is in theory as their are several genetic, epigenetic and environmental factors (many still unknown) that modulate this transmission genetics, such that the probability mentioned above may not follow. In addition, the threads of fate (so called karmic entanglements) in the tapestry of the couples involved play a significant role. Thus one pair of AS couples may have all their children as SS, another AS couple may have all their children as AA or AS and yet chideren from another couple may have varying genotypes.

Many have suggested IVF, pregenetic screening and abortion of foetus with SS genotype among others. Is it morally right to abort a baby because it has a genetic defect? My sensing is that any abortion except when it done to save the life of the mother is murder. We now have the technology to screen the entire genome of an individual for genetic defects as well as for genetic enhancement. Do we also start to abort babies that carry breast cancer genes like BRAC1 or genes associated with bipolar disorders, schizophrenia, dementia, susceptibility to many infectious diseases, etc. Until we optimize the technology that will enable us to correct these defects in utero in the embryos, then termination of the pregnancy is morally, ethically and spiritually wrong. Indeed, if our genomes are profiled, there is no one person that do not have some mutations that predispose him or her to a metabolic or infectious diseases. We as a society must consider the ethical, moral and spiritual implications of modern biotechnologies and its long term effects. While it is absolutely necessary for couples or any individual to know there genotype and the consequences of transmitting an unhealthy gene to their offspring, such a knowledge should not be the basis of the decision to marry or not to marry, divorce or stay in marriage, etc.

Every child, no matter the circumstances of his birth is a gift of God. However where a marriage is a business contract , then, such mundane things like genotype status, male offspring, offspring, social class, religion, etc are the basis of the false union and when a small wind blows, the union crumples. However a union bonded by genuine love will joyfully embrace all the challenges including giving birth to an SS child. The genuine love will not magically change the SS genotype to AA/AS or prevent the inevitable trauma of raising a child or children with sickle cell anemia but will guarantee the loving peace and joy for the children and their parents. But those who think that their love is genuine must make sure that it is really genuine and not that they are imagining it to be genuine. This is because if they imagined their love to be genuine where in reality it is not, the consequences of giving birth to a SS child or children will be catastrophic. Stay blessed.

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

First question, did you speak to a qualified medical practitioner about your issues and ask for solutions or at least to ensure you don't have a sickler kid
question two, why in the name of Ra will you want to have 2 to 3 more kids?
question three, do you love your wife and if you do, can't you love her even without the issue of kids or haven't you heard of some barrenish couples
How do you think your family will react to your decision and can you handle the backlash that may come because of it