Ishilove:

You may never know, your case may just be different.

Only losers live on luck

LadySarah:
Graduates and no medical tests done in yr 1?

I really hope it works out well for you.

He said he didn't take it seriously and forgot.

Probably the type that will tell you Covid 19 does not exist.

NO one is PERFECT! but I'm disappointed in you guys because you are educated yet you neglected one of the major things you should be looking at for before you go deep into a relationship. when I met my husband in my 100l in school, I remember we had a lot of fights because of genotype issue, he kept telling me he is AA but I needed a proof , I wasn't ready to go deep n fall flat faceinlove only to find outbwe dont match. so I took it up with him until he provided at least two test results previously carried out. NOTE: I also did the test when I entered school o, n I was okay but I still felt lemme check his own end to , now if he's AS it means I would have had to take the test again.

people should pay more attention, education should be an eye opener ! may God continue to help us all

King123456:


You are a childish man; an elderly baby and this your reply is a solid proof plus the number of times you had to blame your wife, her sisters and yours in your writeup. Go and grow up. I and my spouse are AS but we have agreed on going medical to conceive and of course be buoyant enough beforehand. Nobody is hating or blaming anybody because we made our decisions.

Lastly, I can tell your sisters pampered you all your life and now your legs can't carry you as a man now that you have to stand as a man. Your pregnant wife needs love and care. Go and learn to give her that.

If I could cancel my wedding even after printing my wedding cards because of genotype incompatibility just to avoid crisis after marriage and giving birth to a child who will suffer because of our errors, then everyone can do same. But for your case, she needs your love and support now more than ever, the deeds have been done already, pray fervently and await for what the future will produce

Qwertyjoan:
My experience: I discovered that we were AS while dating,because I know she will be my wife I prayed using relevant scriptures to back it up with my whole heart ,behold when she went for youth service, she ran another test it turn out to be AA,we have three healthy kids. So pray.

Fvck u scammer... ..you're looking for novice to prey on..maybe you worship devil

bjprodint:
Be prayerful,GOD changed my course mate's genotype from AS to AA.Now they have two healthy kids even expecting the third ine.her husband is AS.there is nothing GOD cannot do.

Wrong diagnosis.

busomma:
U don't hv to panic my brother. My best friend is AS & married AS as well. They have 3 children & none turned out to be SS. What u would've done is consult a doctor who can assist u & ur wife avoid having SS child. That was what my friend did. This is 21st century & medical sciences can do almost anything. I wish u best of luck.

You guys don't know what you're saying...your friend was only lucky of which not everyone will be lucky(anyway only losers depend on luck)

Secondly not everyone has 100,000K$ for bone marrow transplant...the best is to just avoid anything that will give rise to SS kid

betterpikinn:

You don't seem to be an intelligent person... Sorry to say.

So, both of you couldn't think that there are solutions out there to prevent you having ss sickler children and you call yourselves graduates. Smh

You don't know about pre-natal diagnosis
Pre implantation
IVF etc?

Don't let ignorance limit your happiness ..

Assuming he knows all this will you give him 100,000$ to do them...like knowledge is enough?

I have so much to say but I will focus on the present. You both are in for a long ride, kindly try connecting with each other by talking more often now. Divorce may not be the best option. Think about your reasons for a divorce carefully and also think about the consequences before embarking. Your love for her and the child can be renewed if you seek the necessary help you need. Check my profile for help

LilMissFavvy:
Your first child will not be a sickler, don't quit your marriage. Even if you have a sickler amongst the 4kids you plan to have in future, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I have seen two AS couples who have only AS kids, no sickler, be hopeful for the best. You are an educated person yet did not take genotype issues seriously

That's if he's lucky.. anyway only losers believe on luck

Damn...
Please, from your write-up I gathered that you are a teacher?!
Are you for real? I mean... This is shocking.

Just pray so that the beby will be AS, after that one pls don't try natural conception with her again. Seek medical advice if u want more kids n finally start loving ur wife again. What u are doing is not good oga.

Divorce shld not be an option

panmunium:
If I could cancel my wedding even after printing my wedding cards because of genotype incompatibility just to avoid crisis after marriage and giving birth to a child who will suffer because of our errors, then everyone can do same. But for your case, she needs your love and support now more than ever, the deeds have been done already, pray fervently and await for what the future will produce

Why did you wait to print card before canceling your wedding?

Gaggi:

A figment of you people's imagination. Genotype cannot be changed by prayers or anything else except science.
The reason Nigeria is still backward is because people swallow every B.S they hear.

If a genotype 'changed' it was because of faulty or misleading tests in the lab. Yes, labs have been known to make mistakes that is why people should always do the tests at least 3 times in different labs.

It's our foolishness in this part of the world that will make sickle cell not to be eradicated. If only people will stick to medical advise, the disease can be eradicated in a few decades. When you start peddling lies, then you are encouraging people to keep defying medical advice and hoping they can be foolish and end up praying for a cure or miracle, thereby keeping us in a perpetual cycle.

That you're not a believer doesn't negative the effect of spiritual transformation if God wishes it to happen. Numerous cases when divine intervention occurred where science efforts and trials have failed exist. What you don't believe will never come to you let alone of working for you.

For the wisdom of this world is foolishness before God. For it is written, “He is the one who catches the wise in their craftiness”;

It seems it's practically impossible to read comments on Nairaland without seeing people blaming anyone who comes to seek advice. The guy only came to solicit advice and not to answer questions of why did this and why did that for God's sake.
Anyways, I suggest you go closer to your wife at this crucial period of her life because this is the time she needs you most as her husband. You have no control over the situation anymore, you just need to intensify your prayers perhaps the child could come out to be AS.

janvier27:
I thought there is now a test that can be done at a stage in pregnancy to determine the genotype of the foetus, and know what options are there before birth if it turns out to be SS.

yes it is true and I will advise you to go do the test very fast.

You are a wicked man , I read carefully how u blamed everyone except yourself .

Don't let the devil of AS ruin ur happiness . In Dunamis church, God turns AS to AA everyday . What are u waiting for . Embrace the marriage and let God have his way in ur marriage and life .

There are marriages with worse problems thank AS wahala .
What if u divorce her and get married to an AA Woman whose mother turn to a witch and be eating ur children . Is that one not worse than AS ?
I see a new dawn in ur life and family if u can embrace God and love that woman unconditionally

bjprodint:
an not lying,it actually happened.i didnt believe it myself until she testified in church.God may actually give the op two kids only and they will both be AS.

I guess you don’t understand Genotype. It is blood related and no amount of prayer could change that from AS to AA or SS to AS. Stop lying. The only thing I can say in regards to your friend’s case is probably there was an error in her first test. Otherwise, “impossicant” is the name of such story.

Idiots full nairaland no be small.. what if his first and second born falls into the 25% ?? Some people are just daft tbh.. and I no blame una, if to say one of your brothers or your children is SS, you no go dey talk nonsense with confidence..


Not to give birth atall is better.. imagine yourself going to hospital every week on top meagre salary ?? .. abi shey na everyone go get money for sperm testing and bow marrow transplant stuffs?? OP, wait till she gives birth, if na ss, divorce your wife straight up.. if na as, no give birth again except u ready for unending expenses

Am a Christian ,normally we do look out and avoid such kind of marriage but yet some couples do go into marriage knowing fully well their genotype don’t match for each other...
My parents are both AS and gave birth to seven(7) children and am the 4th son... my mother insisted that she must have a female child... so they came, they our 6th and 7th, my two beautiful sisters.
None of us is sickler, in fact in our family we have only 2 AS ,at which i am 1. Yes am AS. My other siblings are AA..... it’s only but a miracle ... Gods gift to my family.
Having faith in God is not in absence of challenges but when you are facing one.
Divorce is not the answer but what ever you decide, do not regret it.... it’s only but life lessons.

Bro you make the highest mistake ever am a sickler and I must tell you it is the worst sickness ever ur child will grow hating the both of you

ZeroShenanigan:

Without checking your profile, I know this a female voice.
This is how majority of you always sound.
If I come come over here to seek for an advise during those period, people like you will ask me to go ahead without thinking of the implications.
Did you see me mention that I'm perfect? I'm a career also, AS. If I have known this earlier, I will insist on a relationship with only AA. Please, I can't stand any negative comments this moment as I'm a kind of guy that will never give a damn about your derailing opinion. I believe so much in God's will as well human personal endeavor to achieve whatever you desire. Gbogbo epe to ba she, o ma pada so ri e ni.
I bring out my story for others to learn ni. Only God knows what will happen later as I'm only contemplating divorce which I have not done yet. How many SS children have you helped to survive if you want people to continue breeding sickler?

Oga, what if you were married before you found out?? you are just looking for an excuse and you think you got one.
you guys should never have gotten married because having a SS child doesn't benefit the wife, husband, child or even the society, except the doctors. But why blame it all on her(otherwise why the resentment towards her) as if you were a neutral in this decision? you didn't check on time, it came late, might as well be after wedding. So you two should make decisions from here on what to do about it, not you recenting and blaming only the woman as if you are guiltless

The part that got me really pisses was when she threatened to kill herself... So she threatened u to marry her....marry is a very issue.. U need to prepare for it, listen to messages especially d. K olukoya messages, consult elders who lasted in their marriages.. The reason u married here is a wrong reason to get married... But if the foundation be destroyed, what can a righteous do? Well as a dear muslim brother i hope u dont result to divorce.. U gotta make it work.. Revive the marriage and bring back the relationship alive.. Who know the baby might be as or aa.
.

" Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments".

One thing I deduced from this your write up is that you are both Muslims and have been fornicating like other people you criticise.

Good thing you pointed that out.

You say you are no longer inlove with her as before because she got desperate and bla bla bla. You should have just put your foot down and moved on.

This marriage won't be the same again. No such thing as unconditional love...I keep telling people this.

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

OP, you are so naive that you took the biggest risk so far should I consider your narrative to be true.

I must blame you �% for not considering what your genotype and that of your wife are earlier as your relationship recorded milestones.

I must further blame you �% for going ahead to marry her and putting her in a family way without considering the implications of bringing in an SS child to your family.

You took so many things for granted even when you have the opportunities to turn the tide.

Please carry your cross jeje in good fate and look up to God for your miracle. Do not in any way blame your wife as far as this journey is concerned.

I rest my case!!!

Chinomonkey:

Assuming he knows all this will you give him 100,000$ to do them...like knowledge is enough?

Shut up!

Ignorance and stupid assumptions is what is limiting people like you in this life.
The simplest test PRE-NATAL DIAGNOSIS is not even up to 400k. Go to LUTH to find out.