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Rgade:
So 11 months wasn't enough to convince you she's made her decision?
You gotta ask yourself what you enjoy mehn.
Perhaps you're enjoying this cat and mouse game you're playing with her. Sometimes it's fun to keep chasing and chasing something seemingly out of reach; the girl keeps looking hotter and hotter everyday and you can't get enough of chasing and getting rejected, not even knowing if she'll agree one day.
I think that's a fetish or something.
If this what makes you happy,then keep shooting.
But if you're looking for a woman that will love you back and commit to a relationship with you, this chick clearly isn't her.

Disclaimer: what I just delivered should not be regarded as expert advice.

Your last paragraph tells everything about you

Lol

Carchoice:
11months? This OP don’t understand anything. Any lady tells me NO, I don’t mind. I’ll become her best friend. But she’ll want me and fvck me later.

She’s ahead of you already. Become her best friend. Start teasing her a lot.

“Is it because of that fine bobo that has Camry that is making you do this to me?”

She’ll say “which bro’s?”

Then tell her that fine bobo that stays in the next street after hers. She’ll deny knowing any bobo with Camry even if there’s one smashing her currently.

Another time send her the crying emoji and don’t say anything. She’ll ask what is it. Tell her you just went to buy rope to hang yourself because she has refused to date you but the rope is not long enough.

Now she’ll start laughing and stop being too serious with her chats.

Another time, write her that you saw a lady that looks exactly like her but you didn’t see her face, you only saw her from behind, the curves and shape is same as hers. That you wanted to go grab the lady from behind but she was standing with a man, you were not sure if it’s the fine bobo with Camry. Say you nor fit chop beating because the guy is very muscular and huge.

OP, that lady you are thinking she’s too serious might not really be too serious. Give her better lines or call to tease her always but not more than 2min call. You’ll see her looking out for your calls and chats. Na she go dey send you “hello” but when she starts sending you “hello”. It’s now your turn to start ignoring her chats. Las las, she’ll serve it hot on a platter of Gold with all styles you can think.

I know you just want to fvck her. Relationship my foot idiat!!!!

Bros I'd be honest with you. You're an abnormal disgrace to SIMP-hood. Simps aren't this foolish but yours is of a different archetype.

Kriximpecable:
Wow! Wonderful assertion you have there,"the right girl is one who likes me even when I'm stingy with her". I have a classmate then. This girl is so much obsessed with me,couple with the fact that I was very intelligent and the most intelligent guy in my class(among all the boys I mean). But I don't like her in return. She gave me all forms of green light then even call me her husband in the midst of her friends but I was just showing uninterested guy because I don't like her. She has ask me for money severally but I dont usually give it to her till the fact that she now started calling me stingy guy. Event till today when we communicate most times she still call me stingy guy. Would you say she likes me?

staying with someone that takes time to appreciate your love is what makes relationship a happy one. So it is best if we are with someone that when we do it. We don’t feel it.

Kriximpecable:
Nice one. You really learn Sha. But what do you mean by "SIMP" ,"AFC"?. I'm not too familiar with all these abbreviation

SIMP means a silly guy and AFC means Average frustrated chump/guy

This two words refer to guy that lack social skill and confidence when they are around women. So they instead behave unnecessarily nice to women so as to be accepted. But unlucky for them they are only accepted as friends.

Things will fall into place with time, one day at a time bro. "Don't come and kill yourself"

Where is Ubunja when you need him.

stanliwise:
SIMP means a silly guy and AFC means Average frustrated chump/guy

This two words refer to guy that lack social skill and confidence when they are around women. So they instead behave unnecessarily nice to women so as to be accepted. But unlucky for them they are only accepted as friends.

Now I get. So being unnecessary nice is harmful to us a guy? I think I get you

stanliwise:
staying with someone that takes time to appreciate your love is what makes relationship a happy one. So it is best if we are with someone that when we do it. We don’t feel it.

Sure bro. I doff my hat for your intellect

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Kriximpecable:
Now I get. So being unnecessary nice is harmful to us a guy? I think I get you

yeah just act nicely same way you do to anyone. The most important thing is that you ensure you don’t give a girl the impression that she deserves a favour because she is pretty or because you admire her. Infact the more pretty they look, the less amount of favour you start giving them.

themaestro08:
You are a first class simp( no offence man), your weakness is Clear for all to see What the hell is wrong with you?

Listen, we all have encounter such ladies - you love them but they don't. In this case, walk away and search elsewhere. You are making yourself look pathetic by being at the Mercy of this lady. Where is your self esteem? Have you no pide and self worth? Its time you get your act together.

Walk away - ladies are everywhere - all it takes is for you to make your intentions known.

Noted. Thanks bro

stanliwise:
yeah just act nicely same way you do to anyone. The most important thing is that you ensure you don’t give a girl the impression that she deserves a favour because she is pretty or because you admire her. Infact the more pretty they look, the less amount of favour you start giving them.

Word. Noted bro

DominusPrime:
Well said. The man that will get her might not even go through all this stress you are going through. Imagine, 11 months!!! Let me tell you something that will help your life. Build yourself up, make money and you will see that getting girls will become easier. The major thing blinding your eye is that stupid feeling you have. Once you get over it and see that the bigger you become the more control you have over your emotions you'll understand. I still think its stupidity for a young man who's still finding his feet to think his priority in life is getting a woman. Even if you get her now she will outgrow you in months cos women tend to grow faster than men until a certain age or stage before a man who has developed himself takes over.

everything you wrote here is so true... I'm more motivated... I needed to see this post now !!! Thanks

themaestro08:
Your last paragraph tells everything about you

The only thing that last paragraph tells about me is that I'm not an expert on relationship matters, which is true.
Anything else?

Rgade:
The only thing that last paragraph tells about me is that I'm not an expert on relationship matters, which is true.
Anything else?

Sorry you misunderstood me, my bad!

These is what I deduced from your initial post.

- You are humble
- you are smart
- you are authentic

tribalwarlord:
everything you wrote here is so true... I'm more motivated... I needed to see this post now !!! Thanks

You're a lady. See wetin ur fellow lady dey do me o. Don't you have any advice for guy man like me ni?

tribalwarlord:
everything you wrote here is so true... I'm more motivated... I needed to see this post now !!! Thanks

God bless you sir.

Kriximpecable:
There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..

Lol, you don't love her na.

You've called her "serious" and "boring" more than 10 times and you've admired that you're attracted to her because of her beauty 'like most of the other boys'. So what makes you stand out from the rest?

You just want to chop her punny then your eye will clear and you'll remember how boring she is and move on with your life.


Besides she's told you NO severally. Abeg leave her and move on. There are other willing fish in the sea.

themaestro08:
Sorry you misunderstood me, my bad!

These is what I deduced from your initial post.

- You are humble
- you are smart
- you are authentic

Wow, thank you.

Kriximpecable:
You're a lady. See wetin ur fellow lady dey do me o. Don't you have any advice for guy man like me ni?

lol... follow the other guy's advice... it was a master piece and one in a million advice... you shouldn't have waited that long !!!

Kriximpecable:
There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..

She isn't attracted to you, bro.

[quote author=Carchoice post=90465207]11months? This OP don’t understand anything. Any lady tells me NO, I don’t mind. I’ll become her best friend. But she’ll want me and fvck me later.

She’s ahead of you already. Become her best friend. Start teasing her a lot.

“Is it because of that fine bobo that has Camry that is making you do this to me?”

She’ll say “which bro’s?”

Then tell her that fine bobo that stays in the next street after hers. She’ll deny knowing any bobo with Camry even if there’s one smashing her currently.

Another time send her the crying emoji and don’t say anything. She’ll ask what is it. Tell her you just went to buy rope to hang yourself because she has refused to date you but the rope is not long enough.

Now she’ll start laughing and stop being too serious with her chats.

Another time, write her that you saw a lady that looks exactly like her but you didn’t see her face, you only saw her from behind, the curves and shape is same as hers. lmao.

Gaggi:
Kids!. If I was a girl, I'd block you for being dry and silly. You guys need to start mixing with intelligent girls who know what they want in life.
The lady doesn't want OP and any self respecting fellow will move on rather than preparing himself to be disgraced.

you are absolutely correct, what the Op is doing is islamabad things. Spits

Kriximpecable:
Lol. You're funny bro. Actually I don't see her everyday like that since we've graduated since December last year. The lady plainly told me that she doesn't have any boyfriend now. Now she doesn't have subscription on her phone I've been thinking to subscribe her phone for her do you think it's wise for me to do so? At least to show her I can at least take care of her as a man.

Your last line crack me up bro

see as dis one wan turn himslf to walking atm. Kai! Islamabad things.

Squillaci:
She isn't attracted to you, bro.

Or you mean to say I'm not attracted to her?

Kriximpecable:
Or you mean to say I'm not attracted to her?

Lol, no be you dey chyke am?

Squillaci:
Lol, no be you dey chyke am?

Na me o. But why did you say she isn't attracted to me?

She's not boring. She isn't interested.

Nothing personal.

You could still bang others 10X hotter. Just move on bro.

Kriximpecable:
It's not stupid for a young man to fall in love. Once you see love you'll know and let me ask you,have you ever been in love with a girl before?

Why are you asking for our guidance when you have already made up your mind? People who have experienced same in one way or the other are talking you are here trying to waste their precious time and efforts.
Continue chasing shadow, it will surely end in premium larger tear.

She isn't attracted to you, bro.

wassup bro