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My brother, this your matter na pidgin English go sweet to take shook mouth put.

Why you go allow this kind thing from the onset come reach this level of no return. E dey obvious say your wife go don show you some of these her okiri behavior before una marry come begin dey born small small shekele pikin dem but like most people, your mind been dey tell you say una go sleep wake up one day and she go turn to angel. If that kind thing even happen, you no go pick race without shoes?

My dear brother, the truth be say, you leave monkey hand too long inside plate of soup and e don dey resemble human being own.

Your wife be like fish wey dem don bend come roast wey be say you no fit stretch am make e no break, and if no be because of the pikin dem wey una don bring enter the world, na to just pack your things even if na just your few clothes for bag and waka far leave this kind woman because my mind dey tell me say she no fit change again.

E get one parable wey I dey always tell people. The parable na " e better say person no get wife for house than to get the one.wey go dey make you fear to go your house".

Sometimes you go dey some kind beer parlor, you go see man siddon alone with him suit and tie half-loosened dey cancel beer like say dem go soon ban am, come begin dey gaze into space for the most part, na dese kind women dey pursue dem oh. Ask people wey be shakademus, beer no dey sweet to drink alone.

My advice bros be say, as you reason the issue of moving out for sometime so, I support you.

Just waka comot small but make you still dey do your bit with the kids and your other responsibilities.

Na dese kind women dey forget knives inside their husbands body.

E dey too obvious say she no love you sha. Women no dey fit insult and disrespect men wey dem love anyhow like dis.

Hold tight bros, wetin dey hot must cool down one day.

A woman that's not working...just a house wife is who you still help with house chores?
Haba! You belittled yourself first before she helped in completing it.
Don't mistake me, it's kul to help your wife out with home chores, 'i love that kinda man' but not when she's sitting idly while you're hustling alone ...

My advice is: give her the space you intend to give her, and stop being soft, give yourself some damn respect and increase your self worth.

My beloved wife insults me in the presence of our kids. Mind you, I don't smoke, drink and womanize. Neither have I laid my hands on her or intend on laying my hands on her. This is a woman I help with house chores like sweeping, washing the bathroom and toilets and mobbing the house at my leisure time.




This is too emotional for me.
Well, I'm not surprised you're going through all these. You allowed a liability to be causing you unnecessary pains.

You don't smoke
You don't drink
You don't womanise.

Don't you think that's where your problem lies?

Even if you don't drink, hang around with friends that do, go to pubs, clubs, they serve soft drinks their too. There are some orientation that comes from such places. Don't die a Simp!!

Op before I say anything, have you investigated if your wife is seeing another man?

Oga
Take it easy o

Divoc:
Op before I say anything, have you investigated if your wife is seeing another man?

He said from day one till date, his wife is anything but a good housewife.

Dat doesn't mean she is seeing someone else. So if a wife is misbehaving she is seeing someone nawa


OP, hope you ain't expecting too much from your wife.which didn't allow you to see the good in her.
This story is one sided

Married Nairalanders, oya over to una.

Madam, I do not see anything wrong in helping your spouse when you have the time. I wasn't trained to leave everything to the woman to do Ma

vikkimimi:
A woman that's not working...just a house wife is who you still help with house chores?
Haba! You belittled yourself first before she helped in completing it.
Don't mistake me, it's kul to help your wife out with home chores, 'i love that kinda man' but not when she's sitting idly while you're hustling alone ...

My advice is: give her the space you intend to give her, and stop being soft, give yourself some damn respect and increase your self worth.

These is one major reason why many men do die young these days...my guy, don't opt for divorce yet. If you are bouyant enough, just move out of the house, stay with a friend or colleague, then watch her miss you for some days or months, she will eventually come to realize how important you are in her life. if she doesn't change after that, opt for a distance relationship with her but avoid divorce for the sake of your children. The mistake has already been done. it's for better for worst till death do you part.Thanks

Xj2020:
Madam, I do not see anything wrong in helping your spouse when you have the time. I wasn't trained to leave everything to the woman to do Ma

That's why you were where you were now.

Xj2020:
Madam, I do not see anything wrong in helping your spouse when you have the time. I wasn't trained to leave everything to the woman to do Ma

I hope you're trained in taming an over pampered one?

Xj2020:
Madam, I do not see anything wrong in helping your spouse when you have the time. I wasn't trained to leave everything to the woman to do Ma

these is your weakness and biggest problem in your home. You fail to realize your position as a man in the house. If my wife is a complete house wife, I will let her do all the house chores. My job will be to bath the children, on generator when there is no light, clean cob-webs from the house which is once in a while and so on. But sweeping, mopping, cooking are her job completely...so wake up chairman

Hian!!
Oga, are you sure you are really all you wrote here? abi we should wait to hear your wife's side first?

But if you really are all these then how did you miss it?

how did you not see a sign of who she really is from the beginning??

seems to me like you do everything right, then if that's the case what always leads to the insults? I have so many questions,

Surely you are not trying to tell us you married a psycho that just wakes up and insult you for no reason.

Whatever it is, she should never insult your parents or you how much more in the presence of your kids or anyone else
But Oga, tell us the full story and stop trying to look too good.

To marry sef de fear me now.. Me wey no like wahala. If any lady gives me trouble, one of us most leave the house for each other, life's too short abeg. The remaining years wey person get for this life na ontop trouble person go con spend am, ko jo rara...

If every bit of your post is truth and nothing but the truth, then you are on the right part.

Ensure minimum of 3 months without her and the kids. Reason being that she might want to use the kids to trap you, don't be soft hearted here.

Provide all the their needs by monetizing it.

Don't tell her your staying for 3 months, let her be expecting you everyday without seeing you.

Hopefully her senses will reset.

Am talking from experience and it really worked for me.

I can't believe you paid a ‘bride price’ for such a disrespectful, unsubmissive, toxic and financial burden! What were you doing during courtship??

Bro, there's nothing good about this woman.
How did you MISS all the red flags??

Don't ever try coping.
She'll kill you before your time.

For your peace of mind and sanity, divorce her!

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At this point, the separation is good however, it is time you insist she finds something to do and contribute to the family she is a part of. I believe one of the reasons she is acting is because she is idle and sees the world only from her lens.

Lastly, no one has a right to abuse anyone other than the one he/she has issues with as such, establish a boundary that makes her understand she shouldn't insult your parents. As for her mom, Oga, no one will ask her role in destroying your mariage and at this time, you may want to reduce the relationship between your mother-in-law and your family. Let your wife know she can talk to her mom as long as she wants but can't talk about you or the children to her.

You may not believe me, but if you move out of that house you won’t die. Seriously

It's okay for a man to help out with chores.

Don't listen to others saying it made you a simp or cost your manliness in her sight. That's a lie.

It is a man's responsibility to take care of his home; you did that financially and domestically.

She didn't appreciate that because she's toxic.
No man can lead or dominate a toxic woman.

Divorce is the only solution here.

Klass99:


I see absolutely nothing wrong with this move or course of action.

I cannot stand ill-mannered people and I won't encourage you, to continue to tolerate it because my own tolerance level is low.

Your wife must think money falls from trees or only comes through government jobs. I don't understand how any adult will intentionally refuse to do honest work to make money, even if it's just to braid hair.

No vex o, but let me ask you this annoying question I see when people bring their issues here Did you not know your wife was like this before you married her?

Let me jump on the train and continue with the annoying questions.
OP, are you an angel? What is your wife's side of the story?

What exactly do you want?

In terms of your decision, I will say that you are on the right track if that's what you wanted. at least for your sanity..

I was just wondering what you guys were doing during courtship though. Or was it marriage at first sight?

when you noticed from day one that she's not a good person, why in the name of whatever you hold sacred did u get married to her? Even if she was the only woman like in the days of Noah after the floods...what were you thinking

Liessss...

It is impossible, I repeat impossible, for a man who is 100% responsible for the finances of the house to be disrespected in this manner or any manner for that matter.

Fake story

Xj2020:
If you are good you are good, and if you are bad you are bad. You might hide your bad side for a while. However, it is only a matter of time before everything would come out to the open.

My story is that of a young chap that fell in love and got married to the women of his supposedly dream with kids. From day one till date, my beloved wife has been anything but a good housewife. She doesn't give me peace of mind. Always looking for ways to provoke me.

My wife isn't submissive. She is abusive and unappreciative of all I have done and have been doing for her and the children. This is in spite the fact that the financial burden of the house has been mine 100% from the beginning till date. This is a woman that does not want to do any kind of work if it is not government job. I have provided her with everything she asked for and even those things she didn't ask for. This woman has never lacked anything in my house till date.

My beloved wife insults me in the presence of our kids. Mind you, I don't smoke, drink and womanize. Neither have I laid my hands on her or intend on laying my hands on her. This is a woman I help with house chores like sweeping, washing the bathroom and toilets and mobbing the house at my leisure time.

This woman has taken sides against in the time past when I had misunderstanding with some persons outside. This woman isn't scared to insult my parents every time we have a misunderstanding. My mother-in-law isn't helping matter as she has continued to instigate her daughter against me.

I have finally made the decision to move out of the house for the now and see how things plays out. If things doesn't improve, then I would have no choice than to seek for divorce. Notwithstanding, the children would continue to be my responsibility.

Any matured advice would be highly appreciated from the house.

U want to move out haba what kind of a chicken hearted coward does that. Stay put and fight her to submission, she should be the one moving out not you.

A woman can only respect a strong man not some weakling that runs at the slightest provocation.

Ur biggest weapon for the fight is to deprive her of her needs, starve her of fund and be cold on her. Stop eating at home. Sometimes unfortunately the only route to peace is war. Don't go physical though except she goes physical on you

U earn respect most times even that of a wife it's not just given, u make her to submit to you.

DNT just walk away like some chicken

All I see here is the rant of a weak man

No offense

Marry a second wife and give preference to the second wife. But do not neglect your children with her.

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Ningen:
I can't believe you paid a ‘bride price’ for such a disrespectful, unsubmissive, toxic and financial burden! What were you doing during courtship??

Bro, there's nothing good about this woman.
How did you MISS all the red flags??

Don't ever try coping.
She'll kill you before your time.

For your peace of mind and sanity, divorce her!

Love make am miss red flags,,now flag don turn pink,him eye just Open

lastmessenger:
Marry a second wife and give preference to the second wife. But do not neglect your children with her.

U just want make he commit suicide,,,second wives will always complicate issues